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  2. Klingsor

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    You're exactly right victim. The only thing I'll say about the current "culture war" is that I sincerely hope every rich fat pig and limousine liberal who went to private school and never had to hold a real job and deal with the endless daily bullshit or mix with the proles gets strung up by their balls and shot. The Middle Ages provided monasteries as a refuge for people like me, losers who couldn't deal with the world or succeed. Now you MUST be part of the world so that the rest of society can get its ego boost and provide context for fucking and eating and being merry like hogs.
  3. Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Hey Klingsor hope you are ok. It's surprising to me all the accounts guys have given of having penis size discussed in the workplace. I have never experienced this. BUT like everything it comes at a cost. The company I am at is an HR police state where the slightest perceived misstep will trigger a call to HR. Personal conversations have to be in barely audible hushed tones because you never know who is going to say they overheard something offensive. So pick your poison: public dick shaming or the Stasi. But regardless work is hard enough without having to endure that bullshit. If you object in anyway you will be ostracized so just laugh it off and roll w it. Sometimes you can use the cloak of humor to punch back. I recall many years ago this guy was always busting on gays and one day I piped and said "I don't know, Pete. It seems to be one your mind quite a bit". I said it w an exaggerated tone and a big dumb grin that telegraphed "obviously I am joking" but the message was sent and he cooled it.
  4. Klingsor

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Has anyone else realized that homosexuality as a political fulcrum functions the same way as the abortion/suicide debate? If a guy is unable to attract women, his only purpose in life is to act as a benchmark for all the "normal dudes" and be a punchline. Same as losers in life who would be much happier aborted or euthanized. So we scream for right to life and make "God hates fags" posters postulating homosexuality as the root of all destruction. All so we can laugh at the mentally retarded, the socially awkward, the involuntary celibate, the gay guy who finds women unattractive for whatever reason. It isn't enough to simply have their cake, they have to eat it too and make unlucky people feel like complete shit. I listened to 4 MALE coworkers make jokes for 10 minutes yesterday about penis size. Not women, men. It was a sausage party and all they discussed were sausages. All married, all fathers. Except me. I have to stand there and just smile and pretend. But being gay is not an option. You have to be straight so we can feel like real men because you can't get pussy because my dick is bigger than yours. Just like you have to be born so we can laugh and say, "I'm glad I'm not *THAT* guy, HAHAHA. Mm, abortion -- VERY BAD. EVIL." There's no point posting about this in the SPS forum. I'll be given a hundred reasons why I'm wrong or that I should ignore it.
  5. Last week
  6. 2thin2win

    Anyone had any bathmate/jelqing results?

    i gained about .5" girth and .5" length. most all of it was at the seven week mark. it's slowed down a lot now. i got the BM and think it hinders the progress so i stopped using it. i'll go until the end of 2018 and hopefully reach 5" girth which is my goal, then i'll just do maintenance. this last .25" inch girth gain is gonna be tough.
  7. lifelongvirgin

    How do I convince myself I'm fine?

    Electroshock therapy. or find things to do that occupy your mind on things other than your penis.
  8. lifelongvirgin

    Addicted to SPH

    Interesting life. At least you've had physical interactions with actual human beings.
  9. I'm twice your age and in the same position and I'm not nearly as small as you. I gave up on life. I'm just waiting for it to end. You have my sympathies.
  10. lifelongvirgin

    Your typical vent about penis size

    Obviously porn has warped your sense of what is normal when it comes to penis size. Of course it does the same thing to a lot of girls too. Maybe get some counseling if you can.
  11. lloydbaker

    Your typical vent about penis size

    No, you are above average. I would suspect you have other issues that you unconsciously project on you penis. Perhaps you are not as "masculine" as you would like? Maybe you are shy? Maybe you are not as assertive as you think you should be. ...... etc. Just guessing. Maybe your hormones are off the mark so you feel inadequate. Perhaps worry about your penis is more "comfortable" than your real problems.
  12. Victimorthecrime

    Your typical vent about penis size

    @RonaldU exactly right. 14cm is 5.5" of girth per Mr. Google. Folks are free to interpret that data point as they like.
  13. Do you realize you are average on length and above average on girth?
  14. InLuvWspsMAN

    Self worth/confidence with a small penis

    FYI - Most women don't orgasm through penetration. Or orgasm at all. Hands can do what no penis can do alone. Get some skills. Oral in the mix is great too. Toys are excellent source for multiple stimulation. Vagina is like a flute. You have to learn to play it. Use many fingers and movements at the same time in many different areas (clit, g-spot and anal). Vagina is much more complicated than a penis. No one really talks about that. Maybe that's the information you should be exchanging or focusing on. Penis alone is not enough regardless of the size for most girls. Technically we can orgasm from three different areas. THREE. Clit, G-spot and anal (A-spot). It's a buffet. Choose your main course. Master it. It's funny that most women stil have trouble reaching their orgasm. Something is missing here. Think about it. Lack of information? Penis in general is fun and funny topic from an early age in boys' lives, for men and women our sex acts like an antenna that responds to the environment around us. The whole size thing is simply not everything. I am sorry about all the bad jokes people throw other thinking they are funny and the massive amount of confusing pornography. Someone needs to stop that. Completely insensible and unfair to men and women. Those things only magnify unnecessary discomfort for everyone. Throw it out the window. If you want some links on legitimate educational sexual info techniques lmk (hard to find too - sadly)
  15. LaLa

    My moms touch disgusts me

    Hi, Petri, welcome! As you probably expect, we cannot tell you why you feel the way you do (and I'm not even sure it can be once totally explained - but perhaps yes, if you really tried to understand it in psychotherapy). But I can at least let you know that it's not something "bad" that you should be ashamed of and/or feel angry about, reproaching to yourself that you're "not normal" or "bad" (I don't know if you do, but you seem at least quite concerned about the issue, so I'm afraid you might have similar feelings and judgements due to it). You haven't mentioned your age, but I imagine you're a teenager (?). As you know, adolescence is a time when kids become more and more "distant from" or even "opposed to" their parents and it can manifest itself in many ways. The reason kids like parents' touch is inborn, as is the fact that they start "loosing interest in it" as they grow up. It doesn't mean everybody starts disliking being touched, but it may happen - temporarily or perhaps even "forever". There are many kids who dislike a lot most physical contact with distant family members, so as parents "become more distant" as kids grow up, I think an analogous / similar dislike may develop. But as I said, it may be temporary, like the rebellious,, angry phase of growing up is. So I don't think you should be worried about this problem you described. Having said that, I also think it's good that you shared it and want to communicate about it - that's always the best way to face problems (not hiding them and trying to cope alone). I also think that if it continues to bother you, if you continue to feel bad about it, you may talk about it with your therapist and/or psychiatrist (as you take psychiatric medication, I suppose you see at least a psychiatrist sometimes). Despite it being one of possible normal parts of adolescence, it may also be somehow related to (/exacerbated by) some of your mental problems, so perhaps that's a reason why mentioning it to your doctor / therapist would make sense. BTW, regarding the dislike many kids have for hugging, kissing etc. family members, psychologists recommend never to force them to do it because it may be harmful - it's important to respect kid's boundaries and to let them to define them (the boundaries). (Here are some articles about the subject: https://www.today.com/parents/why-give-grandma-kiss-can-be-bad-kids-t104703 and https://www.today.com/parents/why-it-s-never-ok-parents-force-kids-hug-adults-t118863) As you're no longer a kid, you may (if you prefer so) force yourself to accept hugs etc. from your mom, because you can probably "handle your dislike" better than a kid would, but there's still no reason why you should "beat yourself up" because of feeling guilty or weird. Good luck and keep posting!
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  17. RonaldU

    Hard Talk

    But why are you so sure you had a problem? Maybe the problem was you realized one day you were not big?
  18. so, my mom just came in my room to wake me up, and she laid next to me awhile and our backs were touching. Not only was i annoyed but disgusted by this, i'd say to an extreme. I kept screaming "GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GO AWAY" in my head and twitching/shuffling my feet until she left.I just think it's weird because i'm ok with my friends and girlfriend touching me, why not her? I also can't stand most things she does, singing in the car, the choices she makes, ect. I also tend to snap at her and be agitated by her more than others. My mom has never done anything too bad to me but i mean, i did grow up in an unstable environment because my dad was an alcoholic/schizophrenic and sometimes i'd blame her for staying with him. But i'm over that now and don't see how that would affect me now (in this way).I do not want to be disgusted by my mother, i don't think she deserves that. (note: iv'e noticed this is more intense when i'm off my medicine, i take vyvanase, setraline and apriprazole) oh, and i just remembered i used to have this problem with my grandpa too I didn't like sleeping in the same bed or sitting in his lap or brushing shoulders or anything as a kid (and im pretty sure it only stopped because he died).Honestly i don't think i'd be comfortable with any family member touching me except for maybe a hug but if it was my partner or friend i think i'd be ok with it.
  19. Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    It's Saturday again so welcome to the weekend people. I have discovered that I really am not good at planning in the sense of making specific plans. Having specific time-sensitive plans stresses me out. I am ok w a general flexible outline, one w lots of caveats because for me "doing" is key. Whatever plan I have must be subordinate to the action that I take because I am only going to do what I am going to do, I am not going to do what I am not going to do and what is going to happen is what is going to happen. The plan is that if I get laid off from my job I will spend a few months getting my house fixed up and ready for sale. I would walk away w the cash, rent the cheapest safe apartment I can find and find another job. Maybe.
  20. Victimorthecrime

    What I learned in EST

    No matter what you do life only turns out the way it turns out. If you look back over your life you will see life has always turned out the way it did and never any other way - no matter what you did. When I found out that nothing I had ever done had made a difference in my life, I was sad for a week. And on the other side of the realization that there was nothing I could do to force life to work came the realization that it worked perfectly. A thing is perfect when it is the way it is. When it is not the way it is then it is flawed. Life is always the way it is hence perfect. It did not work the way I wanted it to, it worked the way it worked and only that way. I just needed to get my fingers out of the machinery. What you need to do in order to get life to do what it is doing is nothing. Nothing is the most simple and hence most difficult notion to grasp. To do nothing means to do exactly what you are doing. Nothing more, nothing less. Werner Erhard
  21. My NBP is 4.7 and my BP is 6.4, I know my BP size is fine and I just need to lose weight but I can't accept that and convince myself a lot that I just have a small dick, think I'm pathetic, not a man etc all the usual shit but then I think about my BP again and I'm like no I'm fine I'm just fat then I think again how small my NBP is and I'm like no you're small then feel shit again, this is every day and it's getting overwhelming at this point I'll just be sat here listening to music feeling happy as can be, then the thought of my dick will pop into my head, sometimes I just imagine I've already lost the weight and it makes me feel so fucking happy, then other times I just think of my dick how it is now and it just ruins my mood and I kinda alternate between them rapidly Does anyone do anything similar or have any advice on how to combat the thoughts or help convince myself my size is fine I just need to lose weight because I honestly don't know whether to say I have a small dick or not at this point and it's a very important thing to me not just for sexual reasons but for feeling better about myself and my masculinity knowing I'm not less than or more undesirable than another man
  22. lloydbaker

    Hard Talk

    There's a bunch of people here who are average, but obsessed about being small. Being average is just a minor handicap. I'm actually small bone pressed never more than 4.5" (11.43) During my sexually active years I never measured and thought I was a grower and probably ave. at 6" (15.24) I may not have ever fucked if I knew my measurement. Or, I would have stuck with one of my wives. I always felt something was wrong and would gravitate to oral. I got very promiscous trying to deny my lack of sexual proficiency......blaming it on the woman and therefore looking for another woman.
  23. therebetruth

    What do you guys feel the actual average is?

    A large penis does however lead to increased confidence, something people with SP and SPS greatly lack, I agree a big dick won't get you laid, but it definitely helps, I figure the number of men who have been rejected for being too small GREATLY outweighs the number of men who have been rejected for being too big
  24. Powerhouse8000

    What do you guys feel the actual average is?

    No idea. But one of the most important facts to remember is this: a large penis is NOT the great thing it's cracked up to be because many women find a large penis to be extremely painful. An average or below average sized penis is not going to cause a woman that kind of pain. It's not going to make her bleed and rush off to the toilet midway through sex. A large penis DOES NOT equal happiness or sexual satisfaction, and it WILL NOT get you laid.
  25. therebetruth

    Penis Size Measurments

    Yep, SPS will get ya, I feel it affects obese guys more than your average guy just because fat guys haven't seen their dick at it's full potential and there's some kind of disassociation going on where they know the size is there, but since they can't see or use it they also can't accept it Hell I'm obese and I've even seen my dick grow after losing weight but I still can't fucking believe I can get near my BP size for various reasons, it's a pain in the ass to say the least
  26. RonaldU

    Penis Size Measurments

    You aren't small. That of course doesn't mean you can't have SPS.
  27. RonaldU

    Hard Talk

    rmp you are perfectly average
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