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  2. Daveuk

    Favorite Movie?

    See you have the three legends there I have seen susperia, carnival of souls and hammer ones
  3. Victimorthecrime

    Favorite Movie?

    I like horror especially the old Dracula, Frankenstein, Wolfman and other stuff from that era. Suspiria, Castle freak, Carnival of souls, Silence of the Lambs 1&2, Mr. Sardonicus, all the old Hammer films w Christopher Lee and Peter Cushing, also Vincent Price. Ever seen any of those?
  4. IrmaJean

    Mark

    A friendship like this can stay with us in some ways, even after loss I think. The interactions and memories will always be in our hearts. I also shared a friendship that I valued with another forum member here. We had plans to meet, but unfortunately he died before that could ever happen. You just never know where you might encounter a kindred spirit. My advice would be to not wait, don't wait to make an in person connection if that's what you both want. It's so true, the time is short. I am grateful for the friendships I have shared here. I'm glad that you and Tom met and shared friendship.
  5. Yesterday
  6. YOTH

    Mark

    It is tragic, but if I could go back in time and avoid making contact to save the pain, I wouldn't. Like with most people his mental state was six of one, half a dozen of the other. I think the sps just adds the extra weight that can break the camel's back. Made me take stock and tell some family that I love them. The time is short
  7. Oh, sorry (I was assuming just based on statistics), I see. But I'm sure you can google similar info for the UK. (I don't have time to do it now...)
  8. LaLa

    Mark

    You're not soppy, nor a git! And I totally agree with you that it "should" happen more often (not that we could force anyone, of course ). I'm glad you posted what you posted - I hope it can be an inspiration for some. (We usually don't mention on the forum having made friends here - perhaps it's a shame!) I'm particularly glad that you recommend it, as it shows you're not "bitter" about the experience because of its tragic end (sorry for mentioning it but you surely think of it anyway ).
  9. YOTH

    Tom...a real person

    @IrmaJean I actually started some new medication very recently and it's thrown my centre off to the side. On the one hand it's worse, on the other a little better. I had a vision today, or more of a feeling of him happy and with Jesus. I felt that if he was so close to my heart Tom would bump into him eventually. Now he can go and do something without the fear. Or for you atheists out there, he has evaporated into the eternal abyss, which although it sounds terrifying is what we parents dream of when we collapse at the end of the day lol.
  10. Thanks anyway. But am not in Us or a state am in UK England
  11. YOTH

    Mark

    @LaLa That makes me happy, I'm glad that it happens 💙 I'm just being a soppy git. Perspective and all that jazz, you know how it is.
  12. Daveuk

    Favorite Movie?

    I am horror fanatic mine is Nightmare on elm street. But I do like some non horror films which are Home alone Airplane Dracula dead and loving it
  13. LaLa

    I was a bit unsure

    I'm glad you like the experience of being a member of this forum . I hope that after some time, you'll take advantage of it to open up more and perhaps discuss more your life, your options to get better (or you haven't suffered from being "different"?...), to never be tempted to do something illegal and/or harmful again, ... I know it's difficult, but perhaps it can be useful to try... Take care!
  14. It seems the conditions depend on the state you're living in. I've found this, for instance: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_offender_registries_in_the_United_States#Exclusion_zones http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/jurisprudence/2014/08/sex_offender_registry_laws_by_state_mapped.html Does it answer your questions?
  15. Daveuk

    I was a bit unsure

    Posting on here but just after 3 days I have had helpful advice and pleasant members talk to me. I am really glad I found this site and signed up
  16. I have just have some unanswered Questions I don't know the answers to. Maybe someone can answer them ? Q1. Now am.on the register will it mean I will no longer be allowed in town. This is where I go to my local drop in centre and my bank for my money ? Q2. If it should go in the papers should I be what's the word uneasy about leaving my flat ?
  17. LaLa

    Mark

    Just a kind of "P.S.": There are more of us who have made ("off-forum") friends here, so I can only second this recommendation.
  18. IrmaJean

    Tom...a real person

    Grief works like that for me too. Waves of emotions, sometimes when you least expect them and not something you can always control. One thing that helped me during those waves of sadness, yearning, and pain was to try not to fight the feelings. As hard as that is, just to sit with them and let them flow. Breathe, listen to your needs, acknowledge the feelings, and they eventually ease up...until they show up again. Try to sit with yourself and be with yourself through it, if you can. It really sucks, it does... I'm sorry you're going through this.
  19. peter

    Tom...a real person

    I am really pleased you took the time to get to know tom he was asking for friends i said i would be his friend but he never took my offer up but i am pleased he took your friendship upso he had some one to talk to and pass his promblems on to or share with.. You are a great lad Yoht And you do not talk shit as you care about people.
  20. YOTH

    Tom...a real person

    I just miss him, it's coming in waves
  21. YOTH

    Mark

    I know this isn't going to resonate with everyone if anyone. But the relationship I had with Tom was built off the foundation that this forum provided. We took weeks vetting eachother to make sure we could trust one another, but after this period of awkwardness we had the best friendship I've ever had. If you are on here regularly and you have a friendship that hasn't left the forum, I implore you to take the next step. I never regretted it for one second. If you're in the same country or even if you're not, just make contact with eachother. I think you know who you can trust on here by now, take the time to listen to their voice or see their face. I needed him more than I can comprehend and I'll be forever grateful that I was able to call him a friend. You all know me, I talk an equal amount of shit and sense if I'm lucky, but it was a feeling I've never had before and probably a feeling I'll never have again. You'd be surprised where a conversation goes when this issue is already understood. ☮
  22. Daveuk

    Good books

    Have to say I like Roald Dahl. Specially like his series Tales of the unexpected. And few of the films of his books .Matilda, James and the giant peach,
  23. LaLa

    Good books

    I wonder then, @YOTH, if you'd like the musical Matilda! https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=matilda+musical+ Some examples:
  24. LaLa

    Tom...a real person

    It's natural that you feel "messed up" (but you surely know that)... I think all you can "do with yourself" is to try to take care. Yes, it includes allowing yourself to be sad (and angry and any other emotion that comes naturally to you in this situation), but perhaps you might try a strategy that I've heard of from some people: Choosing a particular time each day (some 30 min) to focus on your grief (being alone, crying or talking to yourself or writing about it etc.). They say it can help with the rest of the day - when you sort of "compartmentalize" like this. It doesn't mean you won't ever be sad at other times, but the most intense emotions could be avoided. It is also recommended to "keep your routine up" and do simple things for yourself. Here are some recommendations, perhaps you'll find some inspiration there: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/dealing-with-grief-and-loss/#how-to-cope-with-grief-and-loss https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/coping-with-grief-and-loss.htm#yourself I know it may seem absurd to "follow a guide" when grieving (as it's such a personal and emotional issue that "guides" may sound useless), but... I think the recommendations come from many experiences and may be truly useful... Last few days, I've been thinking about sharing here some info about the causes of suicides. I'm not sure if it can be helpful to someone grieving and / or questioning "why that happened", but I'm finally going to try: The main "message" is that we, as "observers" (= including friends and family), cannot predict suicide based on behaviour and mental illness and that suicidality is better considered as a type of mental illness of its own, not as a usual part of depression. Some people have predispositions to it and those can be only revealed by detailed medical and biochemical examination, not so much (at least so far) by "psychological observation". So, when you ask yourself "why did he do it?", part of the response is "because of his biological settings". It doesn't make it any less tragic, obviously, but it helps to elucidate part of the mystery / part of "the incomprehensible". Here are some short excerpts about it (and their sources):
  25. Daveuk

    Rocky horror

    Any fans here of RHPS ? One of my absolute favourite musicals
  26. Daveuk

    Test Topic

    "walks in. Interesting. Walks ouf"
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