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  2. I do think our forum can be like virtual group therapy. Every interaction, even the uncomfortable ones, can teach something, I think. How we respond to others can help us learn about ourselves. I have to remind myself that it's impossible to know the motivations of others. I also have to remind myself that people won't always interact with me in a way that I need or want them to. I do think that most people who come here don't stay... It's difficult to know why or why they stopped by and decided to post. I could speculate but only the OP knows for sure. (Talking to myself here too) Lostboy, I think you're a great contributor to the site. I enjoy reading your calm and insightful, supportive posts. I get triggered sometimes too and/or have a strong response to some posts or posters at times. Why do you think this kind of post elicits such a response for you? Does it feel diminishing of your experience? I hope not. Maybe you're right about the OP, maybe not, maybe we will never know. Either way, I'm sorry the post was frustrating and upsetting to you.
  3. Today
  4. @lostboy1 - looks like he was with the Russians too.
  5. I really hate to admit that I was right regarding the OP's rapid disappearance but apparently I called this one. This is what frustrates me about posts like this. Someone joins the forum and their first post is them bragging about curing cancer, or SPS in our case. They offer no context to who they are, what struggles they have been through, how they learned to deal with it, or anything even resembling being constructive. Just that they have solved the world's problems and we need to drink the Kool-Aid. If I am off base here please let me know, but as I mentioned before I see a mental health forum, like this, as more of a virtual group therapy session. Maybe I'm looking at this site the wrong way but it frustrates me when these "hand grenade" posters swoop in and drop a bomb of a post like the OP did here. Sorry, off my soapbox now.
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  7. Can't laugh

    Hello and welcome! I wonder: Have you already read this and if yes, what do you think about the reactions that forum member received - do they apply to you and how would you reply to them? Take care!
  8. Can't laugh

    At 13, hormones can really cause havoc with your emotions and moods. It's great that you are recognizing this because most people don't. Being aware that this is occurring and trying to find ways out of that mood are a few ways to improve. The hormones will continue to impact you for several more years and during that time I saw permanent changes in my personality.
  9. Can't laugh

    I can't laugh at the usual things I laugh at anymore. Am I just depressed or is something else going on? The only time I laugh are on rare occasions. And im 13, so does that have to do with it?
  10. New Here, but Longtime Struggler

    @itsSmaller I can tell you that anyone is welcome here. The people here have welcomed me in here and I’m a good size. I struggle with thinking I’m small and inadequate. Even though I know I’m good enough. If that makes any sense.
  11. Girl of My Dreams

    So, when I was married, my buddy and I used to go for wing Wednesday every week. We had been going for a while and then he mentioned that a friend of his was coming with us, which I said fine, it ended up being a really good looking girl. And because I had a wife, I didn’t care and just talked to her normally. We got along great. We talked mostly instant of her and then buddy. The next day at work, he said that she had told him that if I didn’t have a wife that she would totally go on a date with me. She loved how normal I was. I tell that story because could it have been that subconsciously you knew you have a great girl with you right now, so therefore you could actually be yourself around her? I had never been good with chicks that I had liked before, but because I wasn’t thinking about trying to impress her, I didn’t care.
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  13. Girl of My Dreams

    @cqbrenner - it's a dilemma. If your linguistic skills are such that you could get a read on the new girl's size preferences through conversation that would be ideal.
  14. Girl of My Dreams

    This is a risk regardless of your cock size so you have to decide if it's a risk worth taking. She could end up not liking you for 1,000 other reasons aside from your dick. You have a known and an unknown and you're decision is based on a physical feeling of lust (prettier, has a better body, etc...) for the unknown since it sounds like you really just started talking to her. I'm just on the outside looking in but it almost sounds like you're basing your feelings about this new girl on her physical attributes while hoping she doesn't judge you on yours. Again, just my impression from the cheap seats.
  15. Girl of My Dreams

    I am 2" soft and just under 4" hard.
  16. I've possibly already posted this, but it's always good to repeat...
  17. Girl of My Dreams

    @cqbrenner oh ok. Sounds like you really like the new girl. I suppose you could roll the dice so long as you are mindful of the risk. There have been guys here 6" and think they are so small so depending on just what your actual size is, it may be less risky than you think. Let us know what you decide and how it turns out.
  18. Girl of My Dreams

    There has been strong hints that she wants to date me. I am not 100% certain, but some of the things she says or the way she acts around me leads me to believe that she would like to date if I wasn't with my current gf. But I get what your are saying, my size is the only thing holding me back and it sucks.
  19. Girl of My Dreams

    Just because she is talking to you does not mean she wants to be your girlfriend. And even if she does then there is the size issue. I would stick w the first gal but that's easy for me to say. Good luck 🍀
  20. Girl of My Dreams

    Just mention penis size to the girl of your dreams. Tell her about a friend who is a lovely guy, he's dating a model but he's self conscious about his size. She says how big, you say 3 inches and see how she reacts. You'll know sharpish whether she's worth the leap of faith. I've had these thoughts before, but it's only outside beauty that I'm attracted to anymore (there are limits obviously) it's the fact that they've accepted me for who I am, it'd be a crying shame not to return the favour accepting her physical shortcomings.
  21. New Here, but Longtime Struggler

    @itsSmaller I know what you're saying, it's daft that there's a cut off point for suffering over size issues, but anyone is welcome here. I think, if you're in pain because of this and looking for a place to feel at home, this is the place. There are sub-sub-sub genres of SPS, but there are no cornered markets on pain and suffering. On a happier note, where are you from roughly, USA?

    Welcome to the community, Precious. Are you able to listen to your needs and care for yourself through these distressful times? When in self destruct mode (I have been there), it can be easy to abandon yourself. Deep breathing helps me to center myself. I try to slow my responses down, sit with myself, and be present. . Anything that frees the mind could be helpful. Everyone is different though, I think, and your needs might be different. Jazz has some good suggestions with exercise and art/creativity. I also agree with Vic that the combination of medication and therapy might also be helpful. Has anything been helpful to you in the past? I hope you feel better, Precious.
  23. Girl of My Dreams

    I am really having a tough time with this and I thought i should reach out for advice. So I have been dating my current gf for a little over a year. She knows about my small size and it has never been an issue for her. I am grateful that she didn't mind that I am small and at first, I was so happy to have finally found someone. To be completely honest, she is a great girl, but there are many things that I feel like I am not completely attracted to her. Apart of me feels like I am settling and it's not a good feeling to have. Now I feel like I am being the shallow one even though I have dated so many shallow girls that made fun of my size. This sucks and I feel horrible. Apart of me feels like I can do better, but then I remind myself that I am under 3 inches and I can't probably do better. And that is on my mind a lot. So to continue on. A girl that I have had a crush on for a really long time, we recently started to talk. I am not cheating on my gf and I will never do that. But apart of me keeps thinking that I have a great choice with this girl if I were to break up with my gf and pursue this girl. But then I think that this girl might not like my size. The heart break of ending my current relationship to get into another one where she may have an issue with my size will break me. But at the same time, why can't I go after the girl of my dreams? Why can't I have what every other guy that has a normal size penis get? Why can't I be that happy? Sorry I am probably rambling on now. I just don't know what to do. Thank you all for your time.
  24. New Here, but Longtime Struggler

    Thanks YOTH, and thank you too PDX. I don't want to cause other people frustration. I really am struggling and going through pain. My non bone-pressed is 5 on a really good day, and my semi erections are smaller after the peyronies injury. YOTH, I told her about my injury. She didn't say much. Once when I mentioned it in bed after sex she asked, "how did it happen again"? Other than that she never commented when I told the story. She just listened. I think the relationship is done, but we never called it anything special. We partied together at 6 parties last year and got closer and closer till we had a fling last year. I couldn't get fully hard, but enough to penetrate. She came with oral before trying intercourse. These past two weekends were dinner dates, then sleeping over at my place. I've built a small house that I haven't completed and it is messier than it should be. I think that factored in.....and she probably had another interesting opportunity open up with someone else around Valentines Day. That day is treacherous! I really would like to be a part of the community here. I walk on eggshells at r/smalldickproblems because it isn't a syndrome inclusive community.

    Hello precious. 'Doing' rather than thinking may help? When I had anxiety that was the way I coped, activities like walking, very simple creative stuff, joining a mental health support group, trying to read self help books. It's really difficult I know, but may help change your thoughts even if only for a little while at first. Interesting that you feel bad about yourself, but chose the forum name 'precious', because of course you are, even if you don't think so right now.

    Have you seen a psychiatrist? Medication helps some people. In my humble opinion counseling alone rarely helps someone w the depth of trouble you describe. Both together can. Best wishes and good luck to you. Call your health insurance company for doctor names near you.
  27. Self deprecating fantasies

    I went to a clothing optional open air spa a few years ago and chose to take the spa treatments fully nude (this is the first time that anyone other than my significant other has seen me nude in years and this includes doctors). Fortunately for me it was not very crowded but the masseuses (2) plus the owner (all younger females) saw me laying there on my back, fully exposed, with all my shrinkage for several hours. I was a nervous wreck the entire time and I have no doubt that at times, due to the cool breeze, that I had an "innie" no matter how much I concentrated on keeping my turtle from going into hiding. As I was preparing to leave I gave the masseuses a nice tip but it felt (based on their smiles) like they couldn't wait for me to leave to discuss what they just saw. It may have all been in my mind but I could just picture them snickering and talking to each other, after I left, about the tiny penis they just saw on a fully grown man. I think it was a turn on to think about this but it was definitely different than a "normal" turn on. I'd probably do it again.

    Hi just reaching out to any one here that has anxiety to the point it is ruining my life right now i have no self confidence and feel i will loose my partner soon as i cannot control how it is making me feel , i feel he is often looking at others with a view to bin me as my mental health is so bad, i feel ugly fat and unattractive i cannot change my negative thoughts and im waiting on counselling but im in limbo right now , i am afraid to tell him what i feel i see him doing and some time i wonder is it because i am expecting it , i could go on for ever some tips on how to cope with the gut wrenching anxiety would be so greatful, all i do when i am alone is cry over it , my love for him is so strong yet i am in self destruct mode
  29. I’m usually fairly decent at staying hard after I’ve finished, and i didn’t notice with the ring on, but I have only had it on twice and wasn’t looking for that. Probably will notice now though lol. It hasn’t helped in the performance part for me, I’ve still finished within mins. First time, we hadn’t had sex in a very long time so I wasn’t too surprised. But last time I lasted a decent amount of time.
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