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  1. 4 points
    Klingsor

    Forum Poll

    I call mine Limp Bizkit.
  2. 4 points
    Klingsor

    Being grateful

    I hope everyone here is able to find something they can be grateful for, whether it's health or family or something else. I'm grateful to this community for allowing me a place to let off steam regularly. I don't return to work until next Monday and I'm supremely grateful for that.
  3. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    I have never been very handy (to say the least) so anytime I do anything I feel proud. I managed to insulate a drafty window. Three years ago this window was so drafty that it caused a heating pipe to freeze and break shutting down the heat to the entire house and I froze my ass off. Since then I had an electric heater next to the pipe which stopped it from freezing so now I can turn it lower and save money. I wore goggles, a face mask and latex gloves the way the Flex Seal can instructed so proud that I had the good sense to do that. Now that I have confidence I can proceed to other protects w the Flex Seal. And various other small projects around the house.
  4. 4 points
    Klingsor

    Here Comes the Rollercoaster

    Yes that's work. Glorious, liberating, self-actualizing work. Where the weakest and least suited to it are forced to endure the harassment of coworkers behaving like hyenas around a dying animal just to put bread on their plate, all in the name of progress and community. Where "jobs, jobs, jobs" are the pinnacle of human civilization and achievement. I would gladly do without cell phones, social media, computers, automobiles, washing machines, and wipe my ass with corn cobs if it meant I didn't have to go to a fucking job every day. We live in the most brutal period of human history. Wage slavery is slavery. Choice is an illusion. Instead of whips and chains you've got a labyrinthine network of tax codes, beauracrats, and federal and local cops armed with warrants who throw you in jail with brutes to be ass raped, beat, tortured and humiliated for not giving Uncle Sugar and "society" your fair share.
  5. 4 points
    Lodz

    Small Penis 12 Step Group?

    It seems to make sense to me. Nothing I can do can relieve this suffering. When I put a little faith into it, and tell myself, I'll be fine if I just stop obsessing, I feel relieved. I have been in a 12-step program in the past and probably still should be. But I was never able to share my darkest secret and belief. I never felt safe sharing it, like I do here. But this is just a website. We can't see each other's faces. We can't give hugs. We can't see each other's tears and feel the warmth directly that way. Text is so cold, even at its sweetest. I wish there were a meeting I could go to for this and vent. But when I've googled it, all I've found is a joke site that just makes fun of our affliction, and one actual group (not a 12 step, just a support group) in New York City. But the stigma is so heavy that I don't think anyone would show up, except in giant metropolis' like NYC. It is the nature of this condition to be scared. To hide. To isolate. But we are here. We are breaking our isolation and bonding if only a little. If there were an in-person support group like this in your area, would you go?
  6. 4 points
    I keep hearing everyone speak of their size her and it seems this may be a problem of the mind and not always size. Please don't take my comment wrong but what I'm saying is the guys saying 5 or 5 1/2 inches are having the same thoughts about size that I do. I'm barely a little over 4 inches on a good day. It appears we all feel the same even though we're different sizes. This forum is very interesting. I'm really learning about how this affects myself and others.
  7. 4 points
    YOTH

    Small Penis 12 Step Group?

    I've thought of setting one up tbh, but as you say, who would go. We end up in the doctors reeling off the effects of SPS but never being honest with the cause. I'm depressed (pills) I'm anxious (pills) I can't work with this on top of the stress of working (get on with it). I'm suicidal (counselling) but I've done that, never told them why I was there. I'd dig through the back yard of my psyche pulling up skeletons from my childhood but avoid the corpse I'm living in. I'm really motivated to do something for all of us, but what? How can I help? I can't! I'm so wrapped up in my own misery and anxiety and depression that I couldn't help without a small loan of a million dollars. I don't know the answer. I'm not in a good place at the moment, I'm weaker than ever and acting stronger than I have for 10 years, I'm blagging and faking my life and I'm so tired. Mentally, physically, emotionally. I'm a husk of a thing.
  8. 3 points
    lostboy1

    Being grateful

    I'm grateful for this community, as well. It has been very nice to openly talk about these painful topics that have been bottled up inside me. I'm also very thankful for my family and my health. Overall, I am a fortunate person.
  9. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Forum Poll

    @Jesse believed in bone press and he was the SPS GOAT but that said in my humble view adding more than 1/2" from BP falsifies the measurement. @YOTH - personally I could care less about my flaccid state. I mean if it was so small that I could not pee standing up that would upset me but other than I am fine w any size. Just my 2 cents. Also YOTH regarding studies of average size - knowing the average value without knowing the median value skewers the data. Goddamn I'm fucking smart 😝😏🤡
  10. 3 points
    Emed, I would recommend start working out and taking fighting lessons, if your genetics allow it. Learn how to put a guy on the ground with minimum exertion to embarrass him in front of his friends, and then learn how to beat the living fuck out of him. If you have a temper, learn to channel it with proper control because it can give you an edge. Uncontrolled anger can land you in jail - 99% of these guys are toothless tigers who hide behind their big fucking mouths and high school witticism. For the ones that don't, you'll have the skills to meet them anytime, anywhere. Ignore the stupid women.
  11. 3 points
    YOTH

    SPS Article (SPS Community Contribution)

    Peno-centric is good, but I would have went with Knobsessed myself.
  12. 3 points
    Lodz

    Forum Poll

    "I don't technically have a micropenis..." Let me see if that line works next time I'm at a bar. 😀
  13. 3 points
    Small

    Am i the only one lurking right now?

    @Victimorthecrime I've also noticed that positive & happy people rarely admit a problem while it's an actual problem. It seems to be completey omitted from their (public) self narrative until they are attempting to or successfully addressing it. It's always brought up in the past tense with the affirming stipulation "now I'm sorting it out". That rings alarm bells for me. Positivity doesn't seem to be all that loyal to the truth.
  14. 3 points
    Maybe life just is what it is (for everyone) and it's our expectations that are the problem. To illustrate, if you are hungry I don't have to convince you to eat. If you are tired I don't have to convince you to sleep. But ever notice how happy, positive upbeat people constantly have to pitch the idea that life is good. Look at any TV commercial or listen to anyone who is bragging about their life. There is a desperation there that says "please believe it so that I will too". If life were good no one would have to sell you on it. You would already know.
  15. 3 points
    Anyone else think the forum would benefit from a live chat? That'd be pretty awesome.
  16. 3 points
    @Helpless_loner I'm also small, thin, and ejaculate prematurely. I don't have the papules but if I remember correctly I am smaller than you and thinner than you. I'm not bragging about this or minimizing your pain. I'm just making sure you realize that you are not alone here and are with friends that have similar issues. My comments about my "perfect" penis was to make light of my situation. I do think I have a cute dick but I'm biased. If anyone else saw it the first question would be "where's it at?". I think that finding something you like about yourself or your penis is the first step to feeling somewhat better about the situation. There has to be something... even if it's only one little thing that you like. Take that positive and ride it as far as possible because it's a lot easier to be negative than positive. Just some advise from someone who has been dealing with this for many years. If you read my recent posts then you will see that I have not perfected it because I have had a rough couple of weeks but I'm trying to dig myself out of this "funk" and I would recommend the same for you.
  17. 3 points
    Klingsor

    Embarrased in Front of My Wife

    Sorry you're feeling blue, lostboy. I don't know what to say to help other than I understand. It seems most of us live double lives, constantly putting up a front to wives, girlfriends, family, coworkers, friends, and even strangers. It gets so goddamn exhausting. Hope you feel better soon.
  18. 3 points
    lostboy1

    Here Comes the Rollercoaster

    I'm not really looking for empathy or problem solving but I felt I needed to talk "out loud". Today has been a rough day for me and I'm really not completely sure why. My wife has went to stay with her parents for a few weeks and so maybe some of it is me missing her or some of it may be my paranoia that she may be seeing "old friends" while she's away. I have no reason to be thinking this but every so often it creeps into my head like a leech sucking out all logic. Some of my thoughts likely stem from past Facebook conversations of hers, that I have read, that talk of her old boyfriend's "size" and his skill with cunnilingus as well as the fact that apparently he is still "hot". To my knowledge she has never actually cheated on me and the conversations that I have read are most likely "girl talk" but this doesn't stop the paranoia that grows inside of me. I even dreamed last night that she was with him while she was in town. Most of this stems from my SPS, I believe, because even though I have learned the right techniques to bring her to orgasm I have to believe, down deep, that she would really like a romantic and sensual orgasm versus a mechanical one. I hate it when I feel this way and normally when it starts I continue to spiral to a point where I'm drinking my pain away and becoming obsessed with masturbation and porn. It's so strange that things can go well for months and even in some cases years without this feeling creeping in and then in the blink of an eye it hits me. Normally, I can offer support, logic, and reason to those around me but day's like today all I can offer is darkness and pain. There is no logic in my head right now and that just doesn't fit with my "normal" personality. I will overcome this, as I have done many times in the past, but for now I feel as if I have nothing and that I'm not worthy of my wife and that I couldn't really blame her if she did seek out others who could satisfy her needs. I know all of this is in my head but that means little at this point as I am well aware that it is just a feeling and not reality.
  19. 3 points
    Hello Tom, Welcome to the forum. I'm not sure how you measured (bone pressed at the top with a ruler is the proper way). I'm 3.5" bone pressed and about 2.5" non-bone pressed so I may be larger than you but not by much. I say all of this to tell you that it is possible to have a fulfilling sex life with a small penis. A lot depends on the woman and what she enjoys. I have dated at least one woman who I was able to bring to orgasm through penetration but most required "extra effort" on my part through oral, toys, and such. The key to good sex when you have a small penis, at least for me, is to make it all about the woman. I am married and my wife needs me to use toys and oral for her to have an orgasm. I've learned over the years what she likes and have continued to improve my skills. She now has multiple orgasms and is "satisfied" before I even penetrate. like I said, make it all about her and she will appreciate and you can enjoy it as well.
  20. 3 points
    Abethe246 - I am many years older than you so trust me when I say this - if this is the worse thing you do in your life you are a saint. You didn't break any laws, you didn't hurt anyone. The world of fantasy is up for grabs. Just because you fantasize about something does not necessarily mean you want it to happen. I go through the same thing as you. I have regrets and beat the hell out of myself. And yet I know I have done much more good than bad and have never really hurt anyone.
  21. 3 points
    Klingsor

    Here Comes the Rollercoaster

    I think you'd do much better to simply ignore her while she's gone. If there's one thing I've learned, women hate insecure men. As paradoxical as sounds, she will miss you more if you act like you don't care than by texting her and showing that you do. It comes across as needy. If she begins to think you're having a ball without her there, she'll come back ASAP.
  22. 3 points
    YOTH

    SPS Celebrity List (Motivation)

    @RonaldU "But you are doing something you don't like others doing to you." I'm lost here, what did I do exactly? In a positive tone and good mood of course. I'm just adding one of the greatest footballers who ever lived to the list. And yes, I'm doing what others have done me, that's the point. I thought we were compiling a small penis list for the government so we can be tagged and tracked 24/7
  23. 3 points
    Small

    SPS Celebrity List (Motivation)

    Keep "succeeding" as opposed to what? Giving up their million dollar salaries to go live in the woods? It's easy to live with a small penis when you have looks, money & fame to soften the blow. So why congratulate them? They should be congratulating you. But they don't give a fuck about you & you're singing their praises.
  24. 3 points
    Not sure how many locker rooms you've been in, but 3.3 is a fine flaccid size. Bigger than most i think. Some of us have nonexistent flaccid. I did for most of the morning. Then i went to the restroom and had to press the skin in around it to get it to peek out so i could pee properly. Then i ate lunch and it retracted inside me again. Your issues are psychological. Only a very few hardcore size queens would reject you based on your size. But when you wallow in insecurity, that doesn't matter. You have already set yourself up for failure. For you, it's a "the only thing we have to fear is fear itself" kinda deal. Hopefully you realize that soon. Come to terms with the fact that you have an AVERAGE size penis. Perfectly acceptable to 95%+ of women. But the way you beat yourself up about it is unattractive to women. Even if they don't know what it's about, they can sense that vibe that a guy is not happy or confident. That is what you need to work on. And I don't want to belittle your problem. Having a bigger penis than some of us doesn't mean you have a lesser problem. There are 300 lb people who love their bodies and are happy, and 200 lb people who hate themselves for being overweight. It's in our minds as much if not more than in our bodies.
  25. 3 points
    The first encounter with the mother of my kids was harrowing, I juiced the whole time (Cialis) and I'm glad I did. I was terrified because it was the first time I'd ever had sex without being drunk aka the first time I'd ever had sex I'd remember in the morning. Luckily we'd kind of fallen in love prior to sex so it wasn't a total deal breaker (although on the pills every encounter was successful), she's later said that she wouldn't have cared if I'd had a micropenis, that it wasn't important. But she's an absolute a gem, very rare, but these women are out there. It's probably 1 in 1000, just glad I found her. You just have to put yourself out there and trust you'll find eachother. I can't say you won't kiss a few judgemental frogs, but that's life, it's a numbers game.
  26. 3 points
    For where you're at right now, hookups doesn't sound like an option. You need to feel safe. Strangers can't give you that. I think trust is the key. You need to trust someone enough to face your fear and be naked with her. Size is not important to all women. You will find one. Mature women are attracted to someone who can be honest and vulnerable, and face his fears. If she sees you, because you let her see you, as you are, flaws, fears, and all, she will feel special to be the one you decided to face your fear with. And allow yourself to fail. Make sure she is ready to allow you to fail too. Your first swing in the majors won't be a homerun. Can't get hard, cum too quick... If you're anything like me, those things will happen if you're afraid of them happening. But if I give myself permission to not perform, I can relax and enjoy it, and fun sex tends to give me a strong healthy boner. Funny hiw that works. Oh, and mine is damn near 2 inches shorter than yours @Helpless_loner. So there's that going for ya 😊
  27. 3 points
    Female opinion/input weighing in here...first and foremost, I need to first say that EVERY VAGINA IS DIFFERENT, as are the women (and their preferences) attached to said vaginas. .Johnw, I can understand why you 'had a meltdown' over your size, because you say you have experienced mockery and ridicule. In the interest of blunt honesty, I say fuck (figuratively, of course) the assholes you are hanging out with, because they ARE NOT your friends if they continue to do this while knowing it is bothersome to you. Speak up and let them know this behavior is unacceptable, and if it continues then you need to find better friends because these guys are just mean and hurtful assholes. You deserve to be treated with compassion and respect. That right there will be the first step in improving your overall happiness. (I'm hoping that these people just made an offhand joke about your size once, you laughed it off in an attempt to not let them know it really bothered you, and now they think its OK because they've not been told differently.) Now moving on... Yep, dick size matters in sex. AND so do A FUCKING LOT of other things. Not gonna patronize you and say "use your hands, mouth, etc...(but those ARE great, just saying, lol) But in my handful of partners, the one I stuck with and married WAS NOT the biggest I had been with, he was the one who took the time to learn ME. Honestly, for me (and I know I'm not the only one) big dicks aren't all that. Powerhouse 8000, I can understand your plight too. Huge cocks can feel like a battering ram on a sensitive vagina. It hurts, and that's not enjoyable for either partner. The thing is, you gotta find the right girl for you and YOUR unique dick. Wanna know what women LOVE during sex/foreplay? A guy who will ASK and LISTEN TO what they like and feels good. And I don't mean shit like "Does my cock feel good, baby?" during the middle of sex. Corny, and definitely not a turn-on for me or most girls I know. (And yes, we discuss this, just like guys discuss girls. Its just a fact of life.) ASK HER where she is most sensitive. Pay attention to her reactions. Watch for her eyes suddenly rolling back, her mouth dropping open unexpectedly, or her hips lifting off the bed. These are great nonverbal clues that she's feeling good and you're bringing her pleasure. Move that dick around and try different stuff. Lots of women will not speak up and simply fake it or lie because they are too worried that if they say something they will hurt your feelings/ego. Because honestly, we know this is a VERY touchy subject for men, ESPECIALLY those who already feel inadequate. Let her know that you are willing to listen, experiment, and learn what gets her off. Because THAT is what will keep her satisfied and coming back for more. Some girls like doggy style because the penis rubs along the back wall upon entry, and also leaves the clit open for finger stimulation at the same time. Some like reverse cowgirl for the same reason. My preference (and honestly, the ONLY way I can orgasm during penetration sex) is to be on top, forward or reverse. You ever notice how when a chick rides you, she will swivel her hips? That's no accident, guys. Not only does it give a woman a sense of empowerment to be on top, but it also allows her to control where the friction goes and how intense it is. Because here's a little known secret... Lots of women don't even know how to get their own orgasm during penetration sex. But if they're on top, and something feels good, they WILL keep doing it until they cum. Vaginas are sensitive!! Sometimes, it will feel awesome until the friction gets too intense, then it just becomes uncomfortable. Letting her be on top allows her to change tactics if that happens. You on top/in control... Notsomuch. And you telling her when shes making you feel good will spur her on too. Something else... Some of my most intense orgasms have occurred during what my husband refers to as me "tip fucking" or "head fucking" him. Taking only his head/very tip in, sooo slowly, then bringing it out just as slow and dragging it up to my clit, then again slowly back in, just the very tip. FUCKING LOVE that shit. I will come hard and fast every. single. time. So length is not as big of a deal as guys think, if the movement is on point. (This particular technique is great for big OR small issues, BUT because the head of the penis is generally more sensitive it can be more difficult to maintain stamina/hold back orgasm for the man). Think about it... If she cums when you finger her, then as long as your dick is close to the same size as your finger it IS doable (with practice and trial and error). Ever hear the phrase "Its not the size of the wave, its the motion of the ocean"? NOT A LIE. Another fuckawesome thing is to penetrate her as far as you can, and then both partners alternately (or simultaneouasly) squeeze the genital muscles... without moving in or out. This feels SO GOOD, because there is the constant internal pressure combined with intermittent pleasure pulses when squeezing. I personally think it to be almost painfully enjoyable to see how long you can both stand this particular locked position, before your bodies start to wiggle for friction without your consent... And trust me, you WILL start to wiggle. Try having a friendly contest too see who can stay still and pulse the longest, and who caves and starts moving first. It's even more difficult for me to stay still if my husband is kissing my lips gently with his tongue, (almost simulating eating my pussy, but on my mouth.) Or sucking/pinching my nipples while we are locked still. Mouth lips and pussy lips have connected nerves, just like nipples and pussy lips. Thats why "making out" turns a girl on. And don't forget that some women NEED clitoral stimulation to orgasm. No matter how big/small/thick you are, it won't matter if you ignore her clit. And some women have a clit so sensitive that if you barely touch it during sex it hurts like a painful stabbing. Learn HER body and pleasure points. Consider vibrators...a lot have a ring of rotating ball bearings at the 5"-6" point. That's because the vagina is super sensitive at the opening, and not as much all the way deep inside. And most vaginas average 5"-6" deep before you hit the cervical wall, which can be painful for some girls. Rotate and/or wiggle your hips at full penetration to stimulate that opening. COMMUNICATE with each other, people are not mind-readers!! All that being said, If you're too embarrassed or insecure to ask and then accept/alter if something isn't feeling good for her, then your sex life isn't going to improve no matter what until you get past that. Hope this insight was at least minimally helpful. If not, hopefully it was at least a little entertaining, lol.
  28. 3 points
    I have a wish that there would less stigma about suicide, that there could be more open dialogue about it with the hope for less judgment and more understanding. Maybe if we learned and listened, we could help one another more. Human beings have a tendency to push away discussion that is uncomfortable, I think, and may distance themselves from this by making judgments. I don't know that any of us are immune from potential depression or the effects of it. It's still heartbreaking (and hard to believe) to know we lost a forum family member, Resolute, to suicide. :'( He is remembered and missed here. @DontWannaLiveNoMore, you reached out here and I hope you find the community to be a source of support. We all need support at times, I think. I hope things look brighter for you in the future. Take care of yourself.
  29. 2 points
    Lodz

    Forum Poll

    3 3/4 inch nails
  30. 2 points
    Hello All, I month or two ago there was a journalist who was asking around on here requesting some input into a small penis syndrome article she was writing. I think several people on this site might have contributed and I just happened upon the article, today, so I thought I would share the link. It's aimed at trying to help those with SPS, especially younger people. https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/kz33mn/small-penis-dating
  31. 2 points
    You feel like this is all over? Huh?! this is only the beginning my men!! If they could do it...why not us? George Washington Napoleon Bonaparte Arnold Schwarzenegger Shia LaBeouf Daniel Radcliffe Tom Cruise Howard Stern Johnny Knoxville Tom Arnold Ricky Gervais Alexander The Great Daniel Craig Eminem Ashton Kutcher Enrique Iglesias Marcus Pollio Vitruvius The Dude (Fictional) Jude Law Brad Pitt Nick Lachey Mick Jagger John Mayer Brad Garrett Oliver Hudson Ken Jeong Roger Mathews
  32. 2 points
    Small

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    @YOTH Sorry to hear it mate. I hope things work out for you. I get to do most of my work from home & i don't know how people are able to spend 40 hours or so a week at a cubicle, desk, lab etc. Especially in a harsh atmosphere.
  33. 2 points
    Yes it does sound worthy of pursuit. I have wicked mood swings. It's alarming at times, it really is.
  34. 2 points
    lostboy1

    Forum Poll

    @Small I didn't subscribe to this to begin with either but the more I thought about it the more it depends on what you are trying to "prove". If you are studying the visual implications of penis size then bone pressed means nothing and you should focus on non-bone pressed. if you are trying to understand what "gets inside" the woman during sex then bone pressed is valid. When you are having sex and pressing pelvic bone to pelvic bone then the fat pad displaces and "walla" you have the reason behind bone pressed. Me for one, while I'm worried about the "window dressing" I tend to me more fixated on the functionality and bone pressed is what I typically rely on for comparisons. Bone pressed also tells what the "real" length is. I understand the "abs beneath the belly" comment but let's use that analogy to prove what I'm saying. I've met many very strong men that do not have six packs. Their stomach muscles are much stronger than the "gym boys" but their abs don't show because they have fat over them. It doesn't mean the muscle isn't there and it doesn't mean that their muscle is weaker than the 6-pack guys. Same concept regarding bone pressed.
  35. 2 points
    @Powerhouse8000 - that sounds like a good job to me. Hopefully over time you could move into something less physical such as supervising or whatever. @lostboy1 - btw I pro-business. A lot of these corporations have become crony capitalist, deriving their revenue from government contracts. They pay us to act like we are doing something so that they can act like they are overseeing something but it is all inane administrative performance art. It is a lot like counting and categorizing turds 💩 instead of cleaning them up. Interstingly enough I currently work on one large account and it is in Texas. I talk to people from Texas all day and I must say - very nice folks.
  36. 2 points
    I agree @lostboy1 what a man does for a living is hugely important. I think PH8 does manual labor. Lifting and moving, that sort of thing. If I am wrong set me straight. I do customer service and admin work for a corporation. It's ok but they constantly have layoffs and I live in fear of that. What I need to do is prepare and not just be frightened dip-shit. To be fair I have been preparing by spending less, not drinking very often & drinking less when I do, and improving my diet. The plan is that if I do get the boot to use the time on unemployment to take some courses. If I could do over again I would choose something w more security and more money.
  37. 2 points
    To me, the "alpha males" have always been the big tall well endowed athletic types. But i guess in this society, we are all conditioned to envy others and belittle ourselves. I'd be happy if only i were __________. Envy is one of my biggest flaws.
  38. 2 points
    I here ya. I sometimes get stuck in thought loop too. Life's ain't easy.
  39. 2 points
    Small

    Diet/Gym/Health/Sanity

    I have issues being around society, so outdoor or gym exercise is off limits. I'm extremely introverted & have reclusive habits. When I'm not working I spend most of my time in bed reflecting. I stare at my body for hours, and examine the contours. My family are social but I find myself unable to attend their shindigs. At one point I managed to spend 2 years in bed, only getting up to eat & use the bathroom. My brother tried to have me sectioned in a psychiatric hospital but that didn't work out. I spent some time in hospital for other other issues though. That was rough. I do have my insecurities but I'm not fearful of people. They just piss me off. I love isolation. I'd love being sectioned if it was solitary but they'd probably force me to socialise and that's hell. Anyway, yeah. So I don't get out much & can't do traditional exercise. So an exercise bike in front of the tv to get my blood flowing & a light sweat. I'm not into heavy exercise. I sleep a lot too. It's my favorite thing ever. I'd take sleep over any wakeful activity. Health is a wonderful thing. So is beauty & youth. I suppose the 3 are intrinsically connected. You strike me as a lad. That's nice. So strange how so many different people are brought together over our sps issues.
  40. 2 points
    YOTH

    Embarrased in Front of My Wife

    Have you tried a sleeve? My gf hated it personally, but your wife mightn't. It can be cut to size and it adds an extra few inches, it also uses suction so it's stable, it'd potentially add a bit of excitement. I know what you're saying, as a mate of mine used to say 'no girl gets turned on for a bullet'. There is no solution, there is no physical fix. You'll never be that 'big' guy and that's just that. You have a wife and you're lucky. I still say what I've always said, tell her how you feel. You have to be honest with her, make her listen. I wish I lived near you, It's hell going through this alone.
  41. 2 points
    lostboy1

    [Deleted]

    I'll be honest that I do not understand this entire post but it's likely because I'm very logically minded and do not have much of an artistic/philosophical bone in my body. What do I enjoy? I love the outdoors: Hunting, fishing, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, camping... This is my "church". I feel closer to God and more at peace in the outdoors than anywhere else. I could easily be a hermit or mountain man living in the woods and off the land. This would be my utopia. My wife seems to have different ideas of the definition of paradise.
  42. 2 points
    Klingsor

    The Bathmate Diaries

    My Bathmate finally arrived. Any good tips for a noob? I'm anxious to see my dick with some extra girth, even temporarily.
  43. 2 points
    YOTH

    Here Comes the Rollercoaster

    @lostboy1 I'm wondering whether she was trying to not add to your concern? Maybe if you made it clear how it affects you on a daily basis regardless of whether she acknowledges it as a real problem, she might be more open to constructive dialogue. You can't just suffer in silence because she once compared it to height, she's your wife. I don't see the point of a significant other it your emotions and feelings aren't considered significant. It's a case of making her aware of how you feel day to day so she can try and be aware of how much support you need, even if that's saying she misses you sexually when she's not, we all say stuff to make others feel loved even when we're not feeling it ourselves at that moment. If I've learned anything about women it's that they know very little about what we're thinking, and like with most people, they just don't see what we think is blatantly obvious to anyone who glances in our direction. I say try it again when she gets home. I go a bit peculiar when she's at her mother's with the kids, it's all wanking off and eating shit and drinking anything alcoholic, but that's just boredom and a drastic routine shift. Just as I'm starting to settle in to the new regime, they come back 😂
  44. 2 points
    99.99% of women are incapable of comprehending or even conceptualizing this issue. Expecting pity from them or trying to explain it is useless. You may as well try to explain the basis for a litter box to a cat.
  45. 2 points
    LaLa

    My parents

    Hello, Seo, welcome! I'm sorry you're going through such difficult time . It's good that you're reaching out and communicating about what's going on and how it makes you feel. If it feels at least a bit helpful / relieving, I hope you'll stay in contact and will share your concerns and news. I'm afraid you won't like my point of view. But it's not based on my subjective feelings or personal values but on what I know psychologists usually (if not always) say / advise to children (even grown-up children): It's not your role to interfere in your parents' relationship. It's natural that you wish (even feel the need) to help, but what they do will always be their decision (and based on many things you even don't know about), not a result of your efforts. If you don't accept this fact, you'll be probably blaming yourself for "not doing enough to improve the situation" - and that would be much worse that "just" being sad that they don't get along well, fight, and even break up for some time. None of us (including you and your dad) can know why your mom made that decision, how she feels nor when and how she'll change her mind. It doesn't seem probable that just the situation you described was "The reason" - it was probably "the last drop that spilled the cup". Or it was a trigger for something she was hiding inside for a long time. To leave one's kids is a huge decision and... subjectively, I don't consider it very probable that she would decide never to return. That's why I imagine / suppose she just needs some time for her own, to "chill out", to think things through, ... Perhaps she's punishing her husband by this, who knows (but she's certainly not purposely punishing you!). In any case, don't panic and try not to think that you need to come up with a solution. Give her some time and try to focus on some things you can do to make your home better - I mean help your dad with some of the work mom use to do at home etc., try to be there for your brother and dad, so that you all feel some togetherness, support each other emotionally in these difficult times. For instance, your brother might suffer from some irrational feeling of guilt - that mom is gone "because of him" - you may help him to overcome it. And your dad feels upset and alone and perhaps even ashamed in front of you, so you may show him you love him more that usually. May I ask you what precisely your mom said to you and your dad on the phone? Did she say why she won't come back? And do you know where she is? It's possible that she might need some psychological help / counselling. Is it available where you live? Would your parents have the possibility to go to marriage counselling? Are you in contact with some of her close family (her parents, sisters or brothers)? If yes, perhaps some of them will be able to get in contact with her and help her to process the problems she experiences and then persuade her to come back home. (?) Personally, I would give her a few days and then think of something to do. But it's not your role; the conflict and the problems are between your parents, it's their role to work it out. I'm also curious how old you are - if you don't mind revealing it. Take care and... the best of luck to you - so that mom returns soon and will work on amelioration of the relationship with your dad...
  46. 2 points
    lostboy1

    Small Penis 12 Step Group?

    Most psychological support groups are championed by a therapist or psychologist from what I've seen. I'm sure there are active support groups in most large cities for body dysmorphia and SPS is a form of BD. I just can't see going to a BD support group though because I will likely be the only person there with SPS. I would prefer a group that is specifically for SPS but as @Lodz indicated, there are only a small number of members on here that are active and this is a global forum so finding 6+ people in my area who would be willing to discuss openly is highly unlikely.
  47. 2 points
    Lodz

    The Piece (of mind)

    This conversation is great, and the idea is inspiring and empowering. It kind of reminds me of how some bigger women have claimed their own space and done things to build their confidence and control their destiny. I feel like society has done to us as it has done to them. Only they have the advantage of having their "imperfection" be extremely visible, and of immediately knowing who else has similar stories and issues. We might feel comfortable in our secrecy at times, but it isolates us.
  48. 2 points
    YOTH

    Chat

    We're no better. I'm starting to resent customers in the bar. I can deal with one off piss heads getting loud and obnoxious, it's the every day customers who want everything from you NOW for £7.50 an hour. I feel like smashing them over the head with every drink I pour for the fuckers 😂. "Er, excuuuuse me, is this change right, I gave you a 10 and you've given me £3.30, shouldn't it be £3.42?" Oh, sorry, I've only got 40 people ordering drinks at once, here let me stop what I'm doing and find your life changing and reality altering 12p before the world ends and your head falls off. "But I get a discount" did you mention it beforehand or wait til it's put it through the till? "Disgraceful service, let me pull down your pants and speak to your arsehole" 😤😤😤
  49. 2 points
    Lodz

    Beer

    I used to love drinking. Since having kids, that changed dramatically. Nowadays i usually start to feel sick after half a drink, before i've caught even a microbuzz. Thank god for cannabis. 😀
  50. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Beer

    I have almost no desire to drink. I no longer enjoy how it makes me feel. Interstingly after years of heavy coffee ☕️ consumption i this week switched to tea! I drink black tea w no cream and no sugar. Loving it. Absolutely loving it.
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