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  1. 4 points
    Sea182018

    Small victory

    So I’m kind of new here, only a month or so and a couple posts but I’ve been a long time reader. To recap my stats are 5.75 length and 4.5 girth not small and I have no issues with length but My main concern has always been girth. Last night my wife and I had sex and I was feeling more aroused than usual before. We both were able to achieve orgasm ( her with the help of a vibrator which I don’t care) afterwards she said something I have never heard in my life. She said that I felt really thick this time. It made me feel great. After a minute my normal negative thoughts kicked in saying well if I was bigger she would feel that all the time but for once I was quickly able to remove those feelings and be positive that i received a rare compliment. Small victory but a lot more hard work ahead
  2. 4 points
    I hope 2018 has been good to you so far.
  3. 3 points
    ba51th

    me....

  4. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Hello to my weekend Peeps! Another Saturday, quickly vanishing. Cold here, 40 degrees but I am digging it. Sometimes the weekend is harder than the workweek because I have to think about what to do. Gonna try and get some things done but also relax. Not feeling too bad at the moment in terms of physically and emotionally so just gonna roll w that. Whats going on w everyone else?
  5. 3 points
    Considering I was the one who kind of launched this debate on the other thread I felt like I should chime in. By reading this forum I have educated myself and have realized that I am average by statistics but because of society I have felt tiny my entire life. It caused me to try everything to try and get bigger and nothing has worked. It has caused me to have confidence issues with even my own wife. The lack of confidence has also caused slight erection issues which have got better. Coming to this website and posting and reading has made me realize that I don’t belong on this website. My issues are not what you have to deal with. My issues are more of me getting over myself and realizing that having a 5.75/4.5 inch dick is not the end of the world or even close. Am I ever going to impress a girl when I drop my pants ? No, but with proper technique I can impress her other ways. But I am glad I came on this website because it showed me that I just need to get over it, but It also opened my eyes to the real struggles that some men (and women) have. I appreciate you all sharing your stories. I know it’s not much, but they changed my thinking and I hope and pray that in the upcoming years things like that supposed procedure on the other thread come true and that men can some day have procedures as common as women getting breast enhancements.
  6. 3 points
    malign

    Beer

    Lala, Not to take too much of Vic's thread, but ... Recognition is only one step. Other steps might include: valuing oneself enough to want something better, finding something that works better, and overcoming the fear that comes with replacing something that used to work. And there are probably other steps that might be person- or original-problem-specific.
  7. 3 points
    Sea182018

    Small victory

    I am really sorry if my post offended anyone. I actually almost didn’t post it, the reason I posted it is because this website has personally helped me, people like you lostboy and small. I realized that a lot of what I deal with is not actually size but mental, selfishness, greed, and insecurity. Maybe that why I was given what I have, which is basically average or slightly below so that I can work on the more important issues that I have. I can’t even begin to imagine what others feel like but I am also educating myself on that too, listening to your stories and the strength you have had to have to overcome the issues has made me better.
  8. 3 points
    Someone once said "the best way to cope w change is to have a hand in making it". I was feeling really stressed and upset earlier but am settling down now, having tea ☕️. I was putting to much pressure on myself to accomplish things. The last 6 weeks has been nothing but sickness (flu) and snow and I just need a break today although I did run errands and pay bills. There is some good news, I have been saving a bit of money, I have feeling pretty decent health-wise, things seem to be ok at work, my drinking is very much under control, I got new eye glasses & contacts, and I started taking a supplement called N-acetyl-cistine or NAC for short that purports to help w brain fog (among other things) and it could be placebo effect but I think I feel an improvement in my calmness and clarity. It's not expensive either.
  9. 3 points
    Sea182018

    Poll - Why are you here?

    I just went and re read a lot of the stories on here from the past couple years, some of them were people on this thread. My heart was breaking for some of the stories I read, people having thoughts of suicide, having no confidence, being rejected, made fun of, getting divorced. I’m glad I found this forum because I never really realized the true hell some people go through. My thoughts are with everyone. This can truly be awful I guess we never can tell technology is advancing rapidly and maybe one day we will get our miracle but until then we must take one day at a time and also help each other out
  10. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Beer

    Yesterday was Saturday and I am glad that I did not drink at all even though it was warm and I was tempted to. Today is Sunday and I have tomorrow off because my car needs work so I might treat myself to a few beers 🍻 tonight. There is something about Sunday that makes me really enjoy alcohol when I have Monday off.
  11. 2 points
    Sending you some strength and light.
  12. 2 points
    I usually work on the weekends, but they are early shifts and that is my preferred shift. I am sleeping late if I sleep through until 4-4:30 am. It's been cold and snowy at times here...still. Winter does not want to let go. Winter needs some zen. I am so ready for spring. Can't wait. For me, although I do enjoy company, I find that as I get older, I am comfortable with alone time too. I hope everyone has a good week.
  13. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Beer

    Only 5 minutes long w recent and scientific facts about alcohol
  14. 2 points
    Helpless_loner

    Bionic Dong

    I've read HORROR stories about DR Elist and his implants. You can try (the good doctor doesn't like bad reviews) to look for them....I've been considering the Hyaluronic acid injections or fat transfers to counter my lack of girth as neither are that invasive, however either of those two fade away after a while. Length wise, there's no procedure or product out of the ones I've searched that truly satisfy considering results vs risks. In terms of other options, I don't think jelqing is truly capable of ACTUALLY make you bigger, however I still believe it could lead to have better blood flow and thus erections, though. I'm kinda scared of the pump or extensors I and refuse even consider other methods. Come on science! You've been able to put a man on the moon, transplant hearts and yet you tell me you have not found a way to re-stimulate puberty again through pills or something in the hopes of "naturally" make a penis grow? Geez =(
  15. 2 points
    I am convinced that there must be something wrong with me. Some sort of mental or psychological disorder. Firstly, I’ll say that my memory is lacking severely. I can watch a movie and forgot a lot of it by the next day. I remember very few events from my childhood. Of those events I do remember, I don’t really remember anything in vivid detail. Everything is a blur to me. Family and friends usually speaks of events that had occurred in the past but I cannot remember any of it. My memory seems to really hinder my experience in school and my ability to learn, well, anything. Even things I’m really interest in. I’ve forgot everything I’ve learned through school. I struggle to remember the page I have just read (sometimes end up reading a page 3-4 times). I never really feel like I can focus. I can sit down to read a book in a house with complete silence, start reading and be completely distracted by my thoughts or anything else. Or I would fall asleep. Ill start thinking about anything and everything. It’s not a lack of motivation to learn or read and it’s not a lack of interest. The inability to focus carries over into many things other than reading books. I feel like I’m never focused in a conversation. I can be talking to someone one-on-one and I won’t even by listening to them. I’ll be drifting off into some other world. Staring at the wall, blindly saying “yeah.” Typically I cant recall the beginning of a conversation or what we are speaking of. Even when I put the effort into it and consciously try to focus, I find it extremely difficult. During conversations I stumble on words frequently or say the wrong words. Also, I have a hard time remembering the word I am trying to say. I struggle to thinking of the word I am saying. I have a lot of trouble conversing and I know other can tell to some degree. I struggled my entire life with speaking and didn’t develop the ability to talk until a later age. I’ll often just stop mid-sentence because I either lost my train of thought, drifted off into some other world or just can’t think of the right word. I feel that my cognitive abilities are lacking. I don’t know if I have ADHD, a learning disability or something else. I tried caffeine pills recently for the first time. The pills worked wonders (memory was much better during the few weeks, energy was good, concentration was good). The pills only worked for 2 weeks and then stopped working entirely. If I don’t use caffeine pills for an extended period of time (few weeks to a few months) then try them again, they will work for a few weeks then stop. Went to a doctor who prescribed Cipralex (Escitalopram). Best I felt in my life (memory, energy and concentration were amazing) at first but after 3 weeks the effects started to dissaper. Went back to having bad memory, low energy and poor concentration. Doctor tried to increase dosage but didn’t work and went back to feeling tired all the time and symptoms started to come back. The doctor then tried to put my on Sandoz Bupropion SR (antidepressant) but effects only worked a week then stopped. My mom has had the exact same issues her entire life. She does have thyroid but is using Synthroid to help with it. She’s complained to her doctor her entire life but never had been able to solve this issue. Other issues that run in my family are low blood sugar, higher cholesterol and arthritis. I have done a blood test and everything is normal. Iron is fine, thyroid is file and everything else good. See below for a summary by age. As a child - had a hard time concentrating, could never read a book and developed reading, writing and speaking skills much later than everyone else - difficulty reading and speaking - anxiety - very active child, loved playing sports and was always active - difficulty socializing excluding close friends - extremely poor memory - A lot of daydreaming – spent most of my childhood daydreaming -as the day progresses, my abilities became a lot worse. Teenager - hard time concentrating, struggled to read, write and speak. When I would write something, every sentence would have an error. Missed words or wrong word used. Could never write a complete, correct sentence. - slept a lot more and felt depressed (started losing hair) - Extremely poor memory – worst memory out of everyone I know - anxiety started getting worse. Have always avoided doing things that caused anxiety including speaking with a group of friends. Felt stupid during conversations because I couldn’t understand or recall past events. - hard time speaking and reading. When I tried to read my concentration span was very short - A lot of daydreaming - hard time thinking of the word im trying to say, difficulty putting sentences together -could never think at night (no memory, no ability to speak) – always tired at night Adult - hard time concentrating - feeling of depression when I am very tired - Energy level is very low mentally and when I am really tired I feel depressed - daydreaming all the time - in big group settings when i am required to talk, my anxiety gets really bad where i feel like i cannot talk - brain fog - difficulty talking some days (very bad some days) – cannot put simple sentences together like “Hi, how are you doing?” - difficulty reading, trying to read puts me to sleep - extremely poor memory – feel stupid all the time as a result of not being able to memorize past events (important events – ex. the date of birth of siblings/parents birthdays) - hard time thinking of the word im trying to say. Better in the morning but as the day progresses it becomes a lot worse - difficulty reading menu's - hard time understanding when I am speaking to someone one on one, tend to end up saying “yeah” but not absorbing anything - forgetful - when im writing sentences i make a lot of errors and one sentence can take me a few minutes even though very simple. - sometimes i feel dizzy all of sudden - energy just fades - hard time understanding - No retention -brain feels foggy
  16. 2 points
    Happy Easter Sunday, Happy Passover, to all who participate. Feeling much better today. Yesterday morning I was plagued by negative self talk "I'm a loser" that kind of stuff but today I have a better outlook. Nothing profound, just more "in the moment" looking at what I can do and not dwelling on what I can't affect right now. Also helping is that I am still hammering out a plan such as "if A happens I will do B" type of thing.
  17. 2 points
    YOTH

    Quit masturbation, how to do?

    This is one aspect of the forum I don't get, I love porn and a good wank every night. It's the one thing my body gives me for free. Although, I would say that there are certain Xvideos I've stopped visiting because they make me feel a bit seedy, but generally I see masturbation as the bodies natural way of relaxing itself. I can't go to sleep without doing it, it's like an anti depressant and a sleeping pill all in one. I think it's more important to give up the content that makes us feel bad rather than the act itself, but each to their own, we all deal with things differently. I just tend not to give myself a hard time over it (no pun). It's a human function that is there for a reason, but like anything it can become entangled with feeling of self worth, kind of like food and booze/drugs. Moderation had always been key for me. I have certain toys that I use when I have the house to myself, but why not? I've had all sorts of stuff, I just see it as a bit of fun. If I kill 100 people on a game it doesn't make me a killer, so why would I let porn define me permanently when it's just a bit of fun in the moment? To be fair, my tastes are quite tame. I like BBW BBC pawg stuff, so it's not exactly fringe porn, but I also enjoy a bit of gay stuff if the mood takes me, again, why not? No guilt, just good old masturbation. I know some guys are compulsive and go out looking for the real thing, but that isn't my bag. I hope you find some peace with it and quit if you feel guided to, but guilt is so useless, absolutely pointless.
  18. 2 points
    LostBoy

    Job fears

    Even though I wasn't asked, I'll give my "two cents" from the dark side (management) because that's what managers do, get involved even when we're not asked. I believe that all jobs can suck, or all can be great, depending on how each individual chooses to deal with the various challenges. In the end, the only person you can control is yourself. I work in a high stress, high activity, demanding, and thankless field but I work with a great group of people (not only those under me but my peers and senior management as well). We have a host of different personalities, beliefs, and opinions but I am of the mindset that most people want to do what's right. How we get to that answer may take different paths and we may not always agree but even when I think someone is dead wrong (or even when I sometimes think they are morons) I try to remind myself that they believe in their opinions as much as I believe in mine. At the end of the day I hold no grudges. I have been in knock down arguments with individuals but I don't take it personally and I don't allow hatred to dwell in me. I brush it off of my shoulder and move on. I truly believe that this is the only real way to keep from being miserable. I'll definitely sound like management with this next statement....our differences are what will enable success. Diversity of thought, work style, personality, and even our sociological background all goes into creating something greater than ourselves if we open our minds and allow it to do so. Even though most corporations seem to believe that diversity is all about skin color and gender (because that is the easiest way to define it), I believe diversity goes a lot deeper and regardless of race/sex we can be diverse in opinion and background. I'm now getting on a little bit of a soap box but bare with me. I could stick 10 middle aged white guys in a room and even though they have the same external skin pigmentation and share the same born gender this does not mean that they are not diverse. So, I'm fairly confident that I said a lot yet I didn't answer @Klingsor_the_Capon's question so this is yet another sign that I am management.
  19. 2 points
    I agree. At least half of all men (and probably more) think that they are small or smaller but this doesn't equal SPS. As I mentioned before, I believe SPS results in some form of handicap or mental impact. Personally, I am OCD about measuring, I have social anxiety because I feel like everyone around me knows how small i am, I refuse to let others see me nude (even doctors), I go through mental swings where I feel like Im not deserving of my wife due to my pathetic size, I get "hooked" on male pornography just to see what "real men" look like, and the list can go on and on. Maybe I don't really have SPS but it sure feels like I do.
  20. 2 points
    As another part of the reason this thread got posted, I feel like I should explain myself as well. For one, never ever would I want to offend anyone or try to make a plight for anyone. My issues are mental, 100%. Ever since the early part of my teenage years, I had assumed I was small. I never sought finding averages because I didn’t want to be disappointed. I am shorter height for a guy(5’6) so I assumed that meant having a small penis came along with it. My parents never gave us kids “the talk” but just gave us a letter saying there were books to go look at if we were to have any questions. I was a late bloomer to everything sexually. Masturbation, I didn’t start till I was 15, and that was by accident. I didn’t lose my virginity till 22. Had a blowjob at like 19 I think. From my sort of “gf” I guess you could say. After we broke up, she told a mutual friend of ours at the time that I was small. I’ve had numerous times that I was told I was small, just based on my height and without them even seeing my penis. So, even though I can read the tape measure, I still manifest in my head I’m not big enough. I’ve gone to therapy for it. I’ve tried talking about it with a couple friends and my current gf. I stopped with my gf cause she got annoyed of how obsessive I was about it always. This place I figured I could get things out cause maybe people would understand. And I’m sure you guys do get it. But maybe I don’t belong here. If I have caused anyone any discomfort it honestly wasn’t my intention. I know you are all trying to help one another and have talked with me as I have tried to fit in.
  21. 2 points
    Small

    Small victory

    Thank you for clarifying my position here. I wasn't offended by the thread or series of posts. I just found the brief exchange the OP shared with Griz warranted a decisive response & as usual i had to be the bad guy. i do understand that the desire for a larger penis can be persistent in some normal sized guys & it warrants attention. They have every right to air their troubles regarding it. Since most of the normal sized guys on here have taken the trouble to admit they are normal sized I simply wanted to return the favor & remind them that by doing this what they suffer from is not a 1) medical condition 2) a belief or 3) a delusion. It is in more shallow waters than that. I have no doubt that they are bothered by their size. I am not claiming otherwise. But i feel that in an attempt to welcome our counterparts with open arms we have muddied the well needed lines between us which add add perspective to our so called victories & defeats in everyday life. I remember years ago sps was frequently compared to anorexia by one particular member. That none of the sufferers were ever fat beyond following a certain poundage of weight loss. But because they believed they were fat, it fuelled a whole host of delusions which caused more erratic & continuous starvation than in normal obese women. This its in the mind not the body narrative was subsequently pushed here. However, a fundamental & obligatory requirement to anorexia or any body dismorphic disorder is a firm unwavering belief in that they are physically inadequate (regardless of the nominal range in which they fit). Therapy is acutely aimed to challenge this belief & this can take years, with poor success rates & high relapse rates. But the difference between the good people of this sub-forum & legitimate BDD sufferers is that in most cases they don't even believe they have a small penis, since they declare this matter occasionally. With no belief of a physical shortcoming how can there be a meaningful delusion? There can't. And with no delusion we are left with weak & fragmented notions that they just need to be bigger. Now, for anyone who does suffer from that, you have a home here. Clearly you can't be likened to people who are dandy with their genital formation. Anyway lostboy1, I hope I haven't waffled on here. I was just trying to stand up for you. I know you weren't being picked on but i did sense some frustration on your part which stems from this "equal misery" notion which is bullshit in my opinion. I am dearly sorry for hijacking the thread. Well done to the OP for feeling adequate with his wife.
  22. 2 points
    Small

    Small victory

    @lostboy1 If people with normal sized penises have a right to complain about their size complexes, you have a right to distinguish between an actual small penis and what is essentially a mental impairment on their part. I hope my comments aren't recieved harshly, but when I consider that the former group (just like the OP) candidly state they're not actually small - I'm sure I'm not pointing out anything unusual. People like you (& myself) have actual physical impairments and this is why normal sized sps sufferers will never, ever, under any circumstance experience what we do. It is apples & oranges. We are not in the same boat we're not even in the same lake. So you have every right to draw this distinction. Not to beat this to death but imagine a an average looking girl who feels ugly. It would be one thing if she truly believed it, but if she's able to candidly admit she's average looking then it isn't even a belief! & compare her to a genuinely ugly girl. Their lives & limitations would be completely different. They don't even have the same disorder. One's grievance is born of a genuine physical shortcoming whilst the other is probably displacing something else or wants to be "very" pretty. When you consider that she's actually able to admit she's "average looking" then it's curious as to how deeply rooted & widely spread her mental/emotional grief is. I'll give you a clue - not very. Again - I am not trying to say that even the average guys couldn't benefit from a little bit more cockage, but once they admit they are normal sized then I find it difficult to sympathise. That by definition isn't a delusion. It's not a belief. So it isn't deeply rooted. Thus it can't be widespread (mentally/emotionally). It's just a guy who wants more.
  23. 2 points
    LostBoy

    Small victory

    I know it's a mental thing but I wish I was as big as either of you. Compared to me, you're both huge. I'm really not trying to minimize your struggles because I know they're real. I just feel so inadequate I guess. Sorry, I shouldn't even have mentioned my feelings because this thread is about you. @Sea182018, I'm really glad you had a victory and hopefully it will continue for you.
  24. 2 points
    YOTH

    The Bathmate Diaries

    I'm back at it again, 3 days in. And again, I'll say, that without a doubt it gets you harder than a robot cock. It boosts your hard on strength by a lot, I love it for that alone. I'll keep posting for anyone interested. There's no point measuring length because of the drop off, but I'll measure girth to see if that improves.
  25. 2 points
    malign

    Beer

    I thought about 'liking' this, but I don't do social media, and it made me think about why. What I came up with is that a 'like' means you didn't feel like typing something more personal, like: Way to go! That last sentence contains enough for a whole book, and not just about recovery. Most of us are doing something we thought would help, or maybe even did help for a while, but in the long run, just adds another problem. Seeing that is the only way to get yourself to stop trying it.
  26. 2 points
    Hi Obsolete. I'm glad you like your new place. That has to feel good. I hope you continue to walk along a healing path. Thanks for checking in and sharing.
  27. 2 points
    Haha. I'm very familiar with this feeling. I finally left home in January and it's been good for me so far.
  28. 2 points
    I've argued both points. Was curious what the reaction would be if I said it wasn't a conspiracy. At the end of the day the why doesn't matter very much. It is what it is what it isn't what it is what it ain't. P.S. I once posted about 25 videos consisting of commercials, advertisements, etc. that I spent half a morning grabbing off YouTube and the Internet as proof of how pervasive it is, and my nemesis, RogerwotcherJ, debunked it saying it proved nothing. That you'll find what you search for. I'd love to see you debate him on this topic. P.P.S. This also demonstrates the total worthlessness of rational argument to prove anything. And statistics, especially statistics. Any fact can always be employed to produce a counter-argument. People are slaves to their beliefs.
  29. 1 point
    LostBoy

    me....

    \m/@_@\m/ Mental wounds not healiing Who and what's to blame I'm going off the rails on a crazy train... ... @ba51th, sorry for derailing your thread. I'll behave now...promise.
  30. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    me....

    Just ask Ozzy 😆
  31. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Hola Weekend Peeps! Hope everyone is doing well or at least ok. Warm day here going to 78 but major rain ☔️ tomorrow. I have things to do but am being lazy, drinking decaf and watching TV/radio/phone. Have plans to see a friend for a short bit later. Allergies are acting up and I am just not feeling energetic ATM so just going w the flow. Feel free to share or update what is going on w you if you care to.
  32. 1 point
    2thin2win

    Bionic Dong

    @helpless - I didn't think jelqing would work; probably the biggest skeptic ever. I read through the forums, PEGym and Thunders, and a lot of people were gaining and I couldn't imagine why so many would lie just to lie. It didn't make sense so i tried it. I've been doing it since about Jan 1 of this year. I was at 4.25" girth and now i'm approaching 4.7" girth, so in that respect I believe it's working. I almost fit regular condoms now as before they were really loose and now just a couple of wrinkles. My bathmate came in last Monday. From what I can tell so far is that it's a great novelty and feels good but it won't work for permanent gains and it may actually hinder gains. As with all pumps it blows up your dick but in the wrong way. (fluid build up). In my journey, fluid build-up hinders my gains. Jelqing and other manual PE exercises have a different effect when you're done. Also, from my experience, PE exercises did not give me a better erection but caused a little ED that cures after a couple days of not doing exercises. Extenders are scientifically proven to work and almost everyone gains length but you have to wear them for like 4-6 hours a day for six months. I would say try the jelqing and other exercises. Give it a fair shot for six months...can't hurt. I'm giving it a fair shot to end of 2018. If i can get to 5.0" girth, i'm happy. As far as time constraints, I'm a CFO of a big company, sit on two boards, have three crazy kids, wife, school, and still find time...it's kinda of enjoyable me time.
  33. 1 point
    LostBoy

    Job fears

    I agree with Victim on the apartment. That would drive me crazy and I would be actively looking for a different place to live. Also, if you have a college education and are a technical manager in your field, are you actively trying to find a job you might enjoy more? I'm of the mindset that if you're not happy with your current situation then do something different to try and improve it. If you're not willing to take that step then you can't expect things to get better.
  34. 1 point
    LostBoy

    Quit masturbation, how to do?

    When I was younger, I always felt guilty for masturbating. During my teenage years it was a never ending cycle of masturbation and self loathing mixed with guilt. As I got a little older (early 20's) the guilt subsided some but I would still go through episodes where when I watched something that I considered edgy (it was gay porn for me at that time) that it would make me feel horrible about myself. Now, I find myself masturbating much less than when I was younger (2-3x/day as a teen, 1-2x/day in my early 20's, 5x/week in my late 20's, and now I'm down to around 2x/week unless I'm traveling or alone). I also don't feel the same level of guilt as I did when I was younger. If masturbation is bothering you then you need to determine what about it makes you feel bad and try to address that piece. I think, as you get older, you will feel less guilty about doing it.
  35. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Job fears

    Staying as positive as reasonably possible, staying focused, and having things outside of work to look forward to are some other coping strategies. And if the situation is that bad - having an exit plan.
  36. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Beer

    One of the techniques I use when I am temped to drink is I ask myself "what's it going to do?". This always helps because I know the answer is "nothing good". I am sharing this just in case it helps you @LaLa or anyone else here. I also have occasional problems w overeating and consuming way too much coffee. Both are bad for me but not as bad as alcohol. Amother problem has reemerged: experiencing really negative thoughts from out of nowhere. Over the weekend and this morning too I found myself saying "I hate my life" and "I wish I could end it". I sometimes said it out loud. It's very frustrating because I don't really feel that way but sometimes my tension and anxiety boil over and it seems like these extreme statements act as a circuit breaker that snap me out of a downward spiral.
  37. 1 point
    LostBoy

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    I have a tendency to over plan. Spontaneity is definitely not a strong trait of mine and because I dedicate so much mental capacity to work, I rarely have time (really the energy more than time) for planning personal activities and if I don't plan them then they typically don't happen. I have probably only been on one real vacation in the past 10 years. We don't go to local events, concerts, theater, or really any thing else that requires forethought.
  38. 1 point
    Thank you very much Irma. It really does feel good and encouraging. I'm looking forward to more victories on this journey and will remain in touch. This place and the lovely members here supported me during my darkest days and I can't thank you guys enough. This place has a special place in my heart. Sorry if that sounds cheesy but I really do appreciate the support. Take care.
  39. 1 point
    He ok, still screaming/screeching for attention but just not as much. He started walking at 10 months and now at 11 months has mastered it, so lots of running around after him. We're all pretty tired and cranky from lack of decent sleep, but otherwise ok. I'm glad you're happy in your new flat, sounds nice. I'm on the verge of doing something substantial, I can feel it. But what will it be? Who knows? Tune in next week...😂
  40. 1 point
    IrmaJean

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    I hope all is okay with you, Vic. Best wishes.
  41. 1 point
    So far so good. I have been away from school for tutoring my sister for one month. Not only do I need to teach her, but do all kinds of chores. To me, it feels like the time has stopped after my suspension of schooling. Everything goes well and easy. However, it is the same easiness makes me rotten. I am just 21, and now I live like a housewife and old man. I wish I could go back to school ASAP.
  42. 1 point
    Sea182018

    I am happy 85 percent of the time

    Hello, as my post says I am succesful 85 percent of the time, it’s that 15 percent that leads me to websites like this. First off, hats off to all of you. No one but you understand what men go through on a daily basis and to have a place to vent is great. About me: I am not “small” I am 5.75 and 4.5 girth. My insecurity has always been my girth. The only person I want to please is my wife and I found a good one, she is not superficial. She has told me multiple times there is nothing wrong with my “equipment” but on the flip side, she can’t hardly ever achieve an orgasm without the help of a vibrator. For years and years I struggled with my own image of myself thinking I was small and some girls that were superficial made fun of me for my size. I tried everything , pumps, jelqs, pills until I realized that none of them truly worked. Having an awesome wife as I do made me realize that it’s ok, and I just have to be better in other areas to please her. As all of you know if you don’t have a big member you spend countless hours finding out how to get one or wishing you did. It literally can ruin your life. It makes you self conscious, jealous of everything, and sometimes controlling and narcissistic. I have overcome a lot of these but it is a life long daily struggle. These are things that I have noticed that make it hard for men to live today. Society has placed an emphasis on huge dicks. It’s in the movies, it’s on tv, it’s on billboards, hell I even saw size matters on a uhaul box the other day. Combine that with social media and you have daily constant reminders of how you are nothing if you don’t have a big one. It’s also hard to deal with women. Most will say that size doesn’t matter but they truly don’t understand what it means for a man to be less than average. I am lucky. I met a woman who loves me for who I am and even though I am way better than I was years ago I still have my weak moments. I have learned how to use my member to please her with positions that hit her spot. I used to be offended by vibrators but now I embrace them for her pleasure. I use my fingers which are smaller than my unit to give her the best orgasms she has had. Even with those positive things sometimes it is still hard. Let’s face it. For a woman, a big dick will always feel better than a small one, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure that out, size does matter, especially girth, and even with all the hard work and studying I do to please my wife how I can, there is still that one or two times a month where i am sure she just wants it hard with a member that fills her up and I can’t provide that for her. She has said comments like deeper and harder and I just can’t do it.... Sometimes we are called selfish but it’s not for us, it’s because we want to please them and feel we can’t sometimes. Guys who are well endowed have less pressure because they know they can do whatever they want and girls will come to them, we have to work 10 times harder and still fail. Anyways I’ve been a lurker to this site for a while and I had an episode recently that frustrated me Enough to post this so thanks for reading it. Some of the things that help me get through this are: i don’t watch porn anymore. I learned some good things from porn but those are professionals and just like pro athletes, I’m not as good as them so I don’t try anymore. I take vitamins, eat healthy and work out. I try to give my wife a sexy looking body that will turn her on. I listen to her. If she says there is noting wrong with me I believe her. Also if she says she needs a vibrator I don’t look at it as a knock on me , I look at it as just a way to help her achieve what she wants. Most importantly . I tell myself that god gave me this body for a reason, I don’t know why but he doesn’t make mistakes, so there is a reason I am who I am and I will live it to the fullest your posts have helped me and I hope that this one helps you.
  43. 1 point
    "Correlation is not causation" is a sentence I learned in college statistics and remains one of my favorite expressions. What it is that is "logical" depends on the goal. For example if I am painting a house and want to do a really good job what is logical to do will be vastly different than if I am painting and don't give a shit and just want to get paid and go home. I believe most misunderstandings arise from this, from people assuming the other person has the same goals as you.
  44. 1 point
    YOTH

    I am happy 85 percent of the time

    Now that'd be one impressive dick, tastes good and whistles jazz? Get it to whistle some Lil Mix and it might win the X-Factor. To think, my knob on tour. I'd end up getting coffees while my dick shags groupies in its trailer. Typical
  45. 1 point
    Sea182018

    Question for any woman lurking on here

    Thanks for the responses. Just something I’ve always wondered.
  46. 1 point
    LouisZ

    Am i the only one lurking right now?

    I used to be all messed up about my penis. Now I'm all messed up on internet sites about other people's penises.
  47. 1 point
    ba51th

    Serious personality. . ?

    @LaLa I'm just curious what people think of me, that's all @Klingsor Why don't rebrand yourself as high class elegant gentlemen? I think it suit us people with serious personality. Read literature of ettiquette of gentlemen, behave yourself, wear suits or formal wear. do it as humble/normal as you can, don't pressure yourself. Give the world the impression that we are: Serious people! Serious business! Serious work! We are not screwing around! Cool! Cooler!! Coolest!!! 😎 😱😱😱 I have this inspiration from sakamoto anime and daily life of highschool boys anime
  48. 1 point
    I was going to be a smartass and say "PDX, dude" but I see you're from the UK so you probably aren't familiar with what PDX means (actually, I bet a lot of Americans aren't, but then again a lot of Americans don't know shit if you know what I'm saying lol, although at least the bit in Alabama redeemed themselves a little last week). Anyways, PDX is a nickname (also the airport code) for Portland, OR in the Pacific Northwest. I'm about a 2 hour drive south of where that terrible train accident happened earlier today. If you want to get technical, I'm from Vancouver, WA but I just say Portland, OR because they border eachother (only a river called The Columbia separates the two cities and the two states) and because if I were to say Vancouver, people (especially Brits) would think Vancouver, B.C, and if I said Washington, people (especially Brits? maybe not so much on this one) would think Washington D.C. I know there's a t-shirt that says "Vancouver, not B.C., Washington, not D.C.". Anyways, which part of Brit land are you from? I am a bit of an Anglophile (if I spelled that correctly) myself.
  49. 1 point
    ba51th

    me....

    she said mother's love is equal to all her children... I think it's a lie... father, mother, have their own favorite child...
  50. 1 point
    Mjolnir07

    People spying on me.

    Filum I'm not a doctor, but I am delightfully insane (and handsome,) and I know what you're going through. I wouldn't tell you this if it weren't an echo of what my psychiatrist, a wonderfully bright and wise woman, told me when I first approached her with my head in my hands. She told me that few professionals and even fewer friends will let you know exactly what's going on with you in order to be sensitive to the impact of the devastation an honest and direct diagnosis will have upon you. I've been tracking your posts, Filum, and I sympathize with what ails you, but as I was once told myself I would be doing you no kindness by allowing you to believe that you don't have a mental illness. Most people here are tempted to extend a friendly hand of comfort, and they will, and they have, and they should, that it what this forum is for. It's not for people like me, a member of the community, to give an unprofessional diagnosis; however, Filum, you're exhibiting script, powerful symptoms of paranoid schizophrenia. You need to tell your mother what's going on inside your head, bro, because this will likely wreck your life and possibly others if you don't seek treatment. Help is out there, and believe it or not in this modern age there are all kinds of therapies and pharmaceuticals which can all but guarantee a happy, untroubled, and mostly symptom free life. You need it man, you really do. Take it from someone who's been there.
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