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  1. 4 points
    Obsolete

    I hope you guys are doing well.

    Hey Vic. I'm glad you're ok. I'm doing just fine myself. I'm no longer hating on myself and wishing I never existed. I'm taking a lot better care of myself these days. I'm nowhere near where I want to be though. There will always be things that bother me, things I can't change but hey, I believe it was you who used to say this often - "it is what it is"-.
  2. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    What Music Do You Listen To?

    I think enjoying music of the past can be a reflection of what we connected with growing up. It's nostalgic. Listening to the oldies reminds me of that period of time in my life. As far as preferences go, possibly personality plays some role. Not surprisingly, I prefer soft and soothing music, though I enjoy many genres. So perhaps it's not so much that we haven't grown up, but rather that we enjoy reflecting on memories of happier or simpler times?
  3. 2 points
    RonaldU

    Self worth/confidence with a small penis

    @RazeU We do not only have similar nicknames, we do have similar feelings. I think the way to go is not to try to like your penis, but give it the importance it has in you and no more. It's an organ, not everything. Yes, you had bad luck on that, but a person, and life, is much more than that. You are not a small penis, you have a small penis. Great figures in history had big, average, small penises, we don't know because it's not relevant. It's not all. I'm not denying it's important for self steem, I suffer the same as you going out of the shower, but that can't be all and make you feel worthless because your penis is not participating in most things you achieve in life. I sucks, but it's a part of you and your life, not everything.
  4. 2 points
    YOTH

    I want to overcome my anziety

    Hi, welcome. Little penis tiara lol, I wear that sometimes 😂. It might be time to move on from thoughts of winning your wife back, those thoughts are painful. But it's not an bad thing to move on. I truly believe we have soul mates out there who'll be willing to accept us as we are. And you do deserve a partner, we all do. We have so much to offer. Happy and contented lesbians can go without a penis, so it's not the only tool on the belt, although it does feel that way sometimes. How is your relationship with your kids, do you get to see them often? That would hurt me most I think.
  5. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    whining thread

    Klingsor I hope you read this. I want to express my deepest condolences to you. I have lost much in my life. It's so painful. You will never get a chance to express your love to them or anything else ever again. Horrible. I truely wish the very best for everyone here. You folks take time out of your day to comfort complete strangers and it is a blessing.
  6. 2 points
    Small

    wife of husband with small penis

    I would like to state on record that I am in no way, shape or form affiliated with @MrsSmall
  7. 2 points
    Small

    Just here for anyone for SDS.

    @YOTH @lookingforafriend That's a shame. It sounded as though the social was a done deal. I know that most sps guys aren't up for getting together, but that isn't a reason for you two to miss out. How it was received by the no-goers should be irrelevant and must not ruin it for the SDA! Go, guys. You owe it to yourselves.
  8. 2 points
    It could be that the message you are sending out is attracting women who are not really interested in anything long term. Or it could be the randomness of chemistry when you meet in person. There was a research study in the newspaper the other day that found that when couples who matched up on dating apps based on their profiles met for the first time speed dating, there was zero correlation between the match and whether they would 'click' in real life.
  9. 2 points
    jazz

    Back again with a whole new set of issues.

    Getting attention is not necessarily the same as finding a relationship (if that is what you want) though. The other guys you see may be offering something different, different qualities are attractive to different women. I do think that luck/fate/timing have a role to play as well, you just have to keep trying to put yourself in a range of situations where you could meet someone not just online.
  10. 2 points
    Hahaha. Jazzy Jeff. Good one.
  11. 2 points
    Take care of yourselves.?
  12. 2 points
    YOTH

    I hope you guys are doing well.

    I'm really glad you're still going strong. Can't avoid the odd hiccup, but that's where the rubber meets the road I guess. I think it was Lao Tzu who said "Every great journey starts with one step". It was either him or DJ Jazzy Jeff, can't remember which. I'm doing ok, feel a lot better actually, just letting it flow. Thanks for asking. Take it easy 😀👍
  13. 1 point
    smallstar

    A success story

    I bet he uses again. It's impossible to forget. I don't believe anyone stays clean forever. Not to mention it's just everywhere. At my work I swear almost every employee is on sub or selling sub. They don't even try to hide it. Life just sucks and people want to feel better. I can't blame them. And then people work so hard to get and stay clean and for what, you just die in the end either way. Some people have impossible situations and will never be able to have a real life. My life is impossible. It's like I just knotted everything up so bad that I'll be dead before I can undo enough knots to actually have a life. My life is actually so pathetic that my parents have already planned out new babysitters for me once they die. That's really encouraging. That's how much faith they have in me.
  14. 1 point
    lostboy1

    To measure or not to measure

    Hi YOTH, I'm small on both sides of the equation but I could see how being small flaccid and average erect would be somewhat difficult to deal with since most people in casual situations will see the flaccid size and make assumptions or impressions from that.
  15. 1 point
    Just curious to see how your current measurements compare to your "dream fantasy" measurements. I myself am 4.7 erect with a 4.5 girth. But when iam flaccid I'm barley 1 inch! If I could have it my way I would be 3 inches flaccid and 6.7 erect. To gain exactly 2 inches bigger than iam now, both flaccid and erect would be freaken awesome! Btw, what do you guys think about my current measurement of 4.7? Is that like "OMG" freakishly small or just plain old small? Some feed back would be interesting. Thanks guys!
  16. 1 point
    I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to preserve the best bits of a culture, doesn't seem racist to me, it's your tribe and you care about it. Harmony is one of the most important things though, sometimes other cultures can influence in an interesting/good way, sometimes not - this applies to Western culture and it's influence as well - but life features change and change takes time to get used to.
  17. 1 point
    Klingsor

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    My thoughts exactly. There were still such things as apprenticeships up until the era you are talking about, which was a far better system. Perhaps I would've had a better life in a different time and place, or at least one suited better suited to my nature. Who knows. Sorry for going off topic. It just got me thinking about my life. I hope everyone else has some success with their plans or whatever they are doing to find a bit of peace or happiness.
  18. 1 point
    Klingsor

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    On a daily basis, I guess I'm trying to put this shit behind me. I'm starting another new job and doing everything personally possible to keep it. I'm trying to be more optimistic, confident and stop worrying so much. I'm also planning on taking a trip to the beach. The last true vacation I had was over 15 years ago, and it was to the beach. It was the only time I've been to the sea, and it was very enjoyable. So that is what I'm planning for and looking forward to now.
  19. 1 point
    IrmaJean

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    I could say the same for myself. I took liberal arts in college because I didn't know what else to do at the time. If I could do over, I would major in psychology/counseling. If I were to offer any advice for planning, it would be to always be aware of the possibility of unwanted change. It can happen at any time. Klingsor, Small, and Vic, I wish all of you the best.
  20. 1 point
    RazeU

    Self worth/confidence with a small penis

    Hello all and thanks for reading. I have read for hours and hours from dozens of forums on the topic of this post and have come to the realization that there's no good answer. So I guess maybe this is just for conversation or venting. But here goes. I am a 31 year old man. Mostly happily married. My wife is beautiful, crazy smart, and super successful. In fact she's a 28 year old nurse practitioner. We have 2 beautiful daughters ages 2 and 4. I have a good job, as good as can be had in our area with no college. Sounds like a good life doesn't it? You'd be wrong if you said yes. It all means nothing to me. Because I sincerely hate myself. You see, I have a small penis. Sounds childish right? I feel the same. But it doesn't invalidate the emotion. For specifics I'm roughly 1 inch to nonexistent flaccid and 4ish inches on a good day when erect. Measuring is honestly too depressing so those are estimates. My wife seems to enjoy our sex life and says it is amazing. She seems to have many orgasms from all activities, even my pitiful penile penetration. She says my size is obviously perfect for her. But in my mind I can't make myself believe I can satisfy her. She's got to be acting? Pretending? Lying to me and maybe even herself for the good of the marriage? Dark thoughts there. Despite what should be a very happy life, I hate myself. Cannot judge myself based on any other criteria. Cannot believe it even if someone says something good about me, pertaining to any area of life. And it's getting worse and time goes by. Part of the problem might be that I know there is no hope to fix the problem. I'm stuck with it. And will be judged by that by society forever. A society that says a man is supposed to be a man, yet whose physical embodiment of manhood is something completely out of the control of the individual man. I mean... show me one male protagonist from any media outlet that's fat or implied to have a small penis lol. This issue runs sooo much deeper than what I see in most posts on the issue, which are solely worried about the sexual aspect. It goes all the way back to the primal, base male psyche. I feel worthless. I have no motivation to try to achieve more with life because no matter what I achieve, this issue will still be staring at me when I get out of every shower I ever take. I've no desire for social interaction because even if I never see a buddy's penis, I will always resent him because I know I don't measure up. So tell me, I've exhausted all information I can find. I've accepted the facts. Physically there is nothing to be done. What else can I do? Acceptance is the only option I see... but I've already freely accepted and admitted the problem. I, Chris, have a tiny penis. It feels like the only thing left to accept is that I will feel this miserable, hate myself this much, forever. Please tell me there are ways to deal with this that I have missed? Please help me...
  21. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Hey Small feel free to speak about anything anytime. Thanks for commiserating w me about our acedemic choices. So long as I have my health I believe I will be alright so all good. Lots of people regret their earlier choices. Sad but true. Bizzarely our system almost seems set up for that to happen. I had two pieces of advice to give people it would be 1) look down the road and 2) you can never be something you're not so don't waste time trying. Instead work within yourself.
  22. 1 point
    Small

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    @Victimorthecrime I don't plan very well either. I suppose you just have to keep doing what you're doing, it's got you this far. Like you, I am at constant odds with the poor life choices I made when young. Especially in regards to academia. I think about it regularly, and it brings down my mood for hours at a time. That regret and longing is so acute in the first few moments I need a timeout from what I'm doing until the initial mourning period passes. Anyway, sorry to go on about myself there. Glad to hear that 2017 sounds relatively safe for you. I'm hoping that 2018 brings you stability too.
  23. 1 point
    RonaldU

    Grower's SPS / Flaccid size only SPS

    I've been checking in google and it's curioua because when people in our circumstances talks about the flaccid size issue there are two kinds of answers: - If your erect is fine why you care - I don't believe you grow that much Well I think we care because other's seem to judge becauae of it. If everyone wasn't assuming I have a micropenis because of my flaccid size I wouldn't care. Second... I think is mostly related to guys that grow less and are average. They don't want to think we are around same size starting from so tiny flaccid, they want to assume they are bigger.
  24. 1 point
    Klingsor

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    How's your life going, victim? Job still ok? I don't have any planning tips other than to say it's hard to plan in this day and age, things happen so fast outside of our control.
  25. 1 point
    YOTH

    Diet/Gym/Health/Sanity

    We all wear masks, metaphorically speaking 🎭 lol. I'm in full DeNiro mode. DeNiro in Meet The Fockers tho, I'll have to work up to DeNiro Deerhunter/Godfather.
  26. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Diet/Gym/Health/Sanity

    You really have to put on a front to survive a job. Be an actor. It's the only way.
  27. 1 point
    I know what you mean about letting it stop you pursuing opportunities, I am by most standards a very bright person but I dumb myself down to avoid too much responsibility or drawing too much attention. I throw words into my speech such as 'do you know what I mean', 'it was like' etc. I feel that having piece bigger than a thumb would help me get further in life! As a non loaded question, would you go out more if you had a few mates with the same small P worries/anxiety?? Are you based in the UK? - personally I am looking for chaps with the same worries to be friends with - if we are equal in that respect I don't have to worry about it becoming an issue or being bombarded with abuse which always seems to happen with every other male friend.. What games do you play? I like plenty of FPS on PS4
  28. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Please help me im losing my mind

    Take a break Scruf. Give yourself a break. Treat yourself to some good things you've been holding back on. We get one shot at this thing called life. I hope you'll give yourself a chance. My thoughts and hopes are with you.
  29. 1 point
    Small

    My so called life

    Hello, It's Monday night, and I am taking a break from doing some work I had to catch up on. Earlier I made myself a meal - throwing 2 waffles, 4 fish fingers, 2 eggs and 2 pieces of toast on the pan. All washed down with 2 cups of tea. During my break I decided to browse the forum - happy to see that @IrmaJean locked Resolute's thread as promised. I won't go into how I'm dealing with that whole situation, for some reason, I really don't want to talk about it. Well I'm lonely, and I haven't posted an update in a while so figured I might as well give it a go. I hope everyone is doing reasonably well, and feel free to post their situations on here if they want to. Health My memory still sucks. I have old memories that come back to me from time to time, but generally speaking I can be pretty forgetful. Storing new memories usually end up vague too. Other than that, my brain seems to be operating optimally. I feel fine otherwise. Work I used to think that it wasn't in my nature to devote myself to my job but it seems I was wrong. I spend most of my time working, and I tend to take a great deal of pride in it these days. I should have some wonderful or devastating developments by the end of the year so there's that. I have also started working on a fiction novel recently. I actually showed the first 3 chapters to Resolute very shortly before his passing & he was a little disturbed by it. So yay me. Mood I am generally still glum and melancholic. I have developed a sort of spite over the past few months that I didn't have recently, which when put into the concoction of other shit - makes me no fun. Living within myself I am an introverted mess of all sorts of negative emotions, even though the developments in my life have been mostly positive. Overall I'm 31 now so I'm not young anymore. I have knuckled down on the important things in my life, a decade late, so I am at a disadvantage. I like my job & hopefully I will get to keep doing it. My life feels a lot like being in a small shack inside a huge storm. War is around the corner - seeping in through the cracks in the walls. I don't know how it will go or where I'll end up. But god willing I will manage. Thanks for taking an interest.
  30. 1 point
    YOTH

    Diet/Gym/Health/Sanity

    Had a bit of a meltdown the other day due to an anxiety attack. Haven't had an attack like that for a long time, but I now feel calm after the storm. It feels good to flip out every now and again, gets it out of your system to an extent. Haven't exercised again for a while but I'll get around to it, maybe. I'm losing weight, that much I'm sure of, it might slow but it's steady. The baby is a lot calmer now as well, he's not as cranky, I think he's found his groove bless him. Anyway, that's my update if you will, I'll just keep on keeping on.
  31. 1 point
    IrmaJean

    whining thread

    I think all of us tried to help Resolute, but his decision to take his life was outside of our control. I have questioned myself as well and wondered what I could or might have done differently. For me, during loss, I find that I often need some time to accept what I know to be true I think because the truth is so painful and frightening. Rationally there is awareness that there was nothing any of us could have done to change the outcome...but some part of me still wishes that we could have helped and things might have been different. It's difficult to accept such loss. It's difficult to accept such powerlessness. But here we are, sadly. I hope that sharing here is helpful. It does help me.. I had a good friend who was suicidal at times. I think we do help by standing by and being there, by caring, by being ourselves, by being a friend. We can't fix or change things, but we can stand with a person. You were a friend to Resolute. I hope you won't underestimate what you have to offer, Klingcorn.
  32. 1 point
    lookingforafriend

    Just here for anyone for SDS.

    I am 100% sure about YOTH, I took a leap of faith by sharing my number and Im glad I did. Its been very liberating having another bloke to share this with. If other people are interested in talking on the phone I will always make time for them. As far as meeting is concerned - I hope it will happen. I think the logical steps are telephone, whatsapp, video chat then a meet. But it requires some trust, for most of us - I am sure this difficult to do but its worth pursuing. Yoths question 'when will this become an issue?' is an integral part of seeking each other out - I suffer with so many daily worries like will people notice my clothes look strange (the way my crotch looks), am I saying/doing something that gives me away etc. And so called friends just deciding to pisstake about size when this actually is a daily misery. What we have in common is we DONT attack other men about their privates. That is our starting place, however our friendships develop this wont ever be an issue.
  33. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Well it's Labor Day 2017 and I had a week off from work. Thankfully I do have a little more time I can take before the year is out. Definitely will take a few days off around Halloween 🎃 that is a tradition. Right now I have zero ability to plan or look ahead and am trying to ignite that skill. I guess I will start small by reviewing my fall & winter 'to do' list and gently move forward from there. As always if anyone has any motivation or plannning tips that they themselves actually use I would be interested in that.
  34. 1 point
    peter

    Just here for anyone for SDS.

    I think its a good idea dont be put down. We all think in different ways one will say its a bad idea and another a good idea. Keep you chin up mate and say strong.
  35. 1 point
    lookingforafriend

    Just here for anyone for SDS.

    Thanks YOTH - I will stay in touch with those who I have started conversations with and continue to use the site. I don't feel so alone when I talk to you guys. Maybe when I can find the right words to express myself I will try again - but the stress of causing anyone to feel bad I cant deal with. Everyone who looks to this site for a friend can count on me always.
  36. 1 point
    lookingforafriend

    Just here for anyone for SDS.

    After much time to contemplate how this has been received - I think that the social idea was really badly conceived and communicated - I apologise as I guess I assumed others wanted something similar. I have been suffering with nervous tension and insomnia ever since 2015 - I keep saying things wrong and regretting this. I am going to wipe my posts and try to focus on joining other discussions without making this suggestion.. You all have my support and time whenever you need.
  37. 1 point
    I think that's a very fair point. That being said, some of us are relatively young and enjoy music that was made before we were born more than music that has come out since.
  38. 1 point
    I really enjoyed this post, you really paint a picture and I couldn't stop reading it. It felt more like a chapter of a book rather than a post. Now go live chapter two and write it out, and make it exciting. I'm expecting a big turn around and a happy ending, don't let me down. 😋
  39. 1 point
    Hello, welcome back! What a good news! It's really great that you've been able to overcome all the hatred. It's a lifelong struggle for most of us to try/learn to be more tolerant and understanding; it's probably never "a finished task" as one never knows what can happen and trigger some old or even new prejudices, automatic unfair reactions etc. But what you've already accomplished sounds like a very big step forward. Uncertainty is almost always hurtful and easily triggers obsessive over-thinking . I see that you'd love to know what's happened and what your prospects are. There is only one advise that occurred to me: Reading your descriptions of what "happened with" your relationship with that girl, I was a bit surprised that you didn't seem to consider helping her somehow. In difficult situations, most people often appreciate have a friend to be supportive. But they often don't want to show it, because they don't want to seem needy, to feel like a burden, and because they have the prejudice that it would be somehow off-putting (as it sometimes is to some people, unfortunately ). So... when you just accept her "having a break", it seems to me (and this doesn't have to apply to her, of course! She can have different expectations, needs, and opinions) that you're only interested in a "romantic" and sexual relationship and don't feel either willing or ready to be also a good friend who tries to be supportive and helpful and find ways how to alleviate the distress she's going through. Of course she isn't interested in "dating" in such circumstances, but are you sure she wouldn't appreciate "someone" to "lend her his ear" or "provide a shoulder to cry" (metaphorically or literally?)? I know that idealization comes with infatuation, but... it occurred to me that perhaps some different perspective could be at least a bit helpful - not to dissuade you from trying to build a loving relationship with her, just to... make you think also in other ways and perhaps realize some helpful insights (??). Here are two videos that come to mind in this context: Good luck!
  40. 1 point
    LaLa

    Recommended readings

    Nicely put. My first reaction was laughter, although it's so sad . I really don't think it's generally true about friends, but... I cannot close my eyes before the fact that many people apparently behave like that. I suppose in many cases, it's because they don't know what to do; probably nobody had been there for them when they needed it, so they don't know how to be there for someone else. We sometimes fear we'll do more harm so we do nothing (like when people withdraw from someone bereaved) ... BTW, it reminded me of this part of the documentary I posted here yesterday: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/outintheopen/man-up-1.4205118/stoic-warrior-mentality-is-ill-suited-to-military-service-says-corporal-1.4205773
  41. 1 point
    YOTH

    I hope you guys are doing well.

    How are you doing? How's everything going with the diet/exercise?
  42. 1 point
    Abcdefg

    I Think I'm A Pedophile.

    Hi Dr Pepper, You should report the image board to this link: https://www.cybertip.ca/app/en/report. Take care
  43. 1 point
    Small

    Just here for anyone for SDS.

    A close friend of mine irl has a small penis too - and we have both discussed it at length. Although we're currently single there have been times when we've both been in relationships. The thought of discussing the matter as a pair of couples never even surfaced. It's just. No. Intimacy is one thing - but are you trying to get her to lose respect for you? I'm raising a valid point so don't accuse me of being negative.
  44. 1 point
    lookingforafriend

    Just PM me fellow SPS guys.

    Please PM me brothers. I have a plan - we will get through this together. SPS will unite us - we are strong together.
  45. 1 point
    IrmaJean

    How to accept yourself

    Welcome to our community. It's great that you want to accept yourself. That's important for all of us, I think. I hear you that this can be a challenge. I hope that if you do decide to share your feelings with your family that they are supportive. I'm glad you reached out today. I hope you find some positive support here. Take care, Bjarne.
  46. 1 point
    Helpless_loner

    Helpless Loner....

    I thank you for allowing me to just "talk" about it. It helps me to cope with this situation.
  47. 1 point
    YOTH

    Helpless Loner....

    I know how you're feeling, I've felt like that myself and there's no question, it's a living nightmare. My family thought I was gay for most of my teens and early 20's, I dunno, I think it helped them with the confusion of me never having a girlfriend. It's also a let off for us, especially if we don't deny or confirm it, saves embarrassing questions. I'd love to lie and say my life went from shit to golden, but having a small cock (and in my case balls too) can feel like a flu that won't budge and it has many ups and downs. You can do the things everyone else does but you mainly feel like crap on the inside, but it can get better. It feels like a cruel fate sometimes, but it isn't without its benefits. It wrenches our eyes open to the way the world works and you get to peek behind the curtain of suffering long before you're old and inferm. This place isn't perfect, but we belong here for now and our only choice is going within our going without. The suicide route is always an option that rears its ugly head, but it's an option for pretty much anyone who doesn't see a way out. And if we're truthful, it's healing we want, not escape. And if cock be the man, then all men are cocks. But we're so much more than that. Our cock defines us in the worlds judgemental eyes, but it doesn't have to define us in our minds. There are women out there who will love us despite our size (I wouldn't have belived that either, until it happened) even tho most of them wouldn't admit to not being shallow in public as they suffer the same stigma as anyone else. Don't give up on yourself HL, give yourself a chance to be unburdened. I've said this to a few people on here and I wouldn't say it unless I could tell you from first hand experience that it works. Get your own back! Look at the man in the mirror, fist bump him and remember why he's unhappy. He's unhappy because he's got nobody...so give him somebody. If you don't love yourself, you're fucked regardless of your cock size. When you've truly given up on yourself your options are few, but there's a world of possibilities out there if you let yourself see them. You're not helpless and you're not a loser, you're just a guy who's going through some shit. There's more of us in the same boat than any of us could imagine, so we need to look out for eachother. Keep posting HL, we're here if you need us ☮❤☮
  48. 1 point
    I stand against penis enlargement surgery Signed: Small
  49. 1 point
    Resolute

    My so called life

    i'm not a fan of underworld, but she really is smoking hot.
  50. 1 point
    MrsSmall

    wife of husband with small penis

    I'm not denying that my husbands quarter of inch brought more pleasure, it would be great if he could add an inch or two, but he can't . I'm am so glad that he has been able to use the pump, stretcher and levetra to increase his size. Even using the pump in the bath tub gave him even better results. He has had surgery on his back several times and so have I we are so glad that we can still have sex, it has become increasingly difficult because of pain and our age. I haven't read your story yet, I hope you have someone to love and except you. Time goes by so fast, and some day we will all be to old to enjoy sex. Thankyou for writing me.
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