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Are you lonely because you have/think you have a small penis? Do you live in the UK? A group of us on this site from all over the UK are like minded and are here to be supportive - please read on....

Sorry for such a stupid remark, but... as a woman, I cannot understand why all men don't avoid looking at other men in washrooms, in commun showers etc.! I once asked my husband if he doesn't find it outrageous (or at least weird) that there are no "little walls" between urinals (everywhere - now I know there are a few places where they are) and he told me that it doesn't matter because men just "don't look" (why would they?). And here I see that everyone complains about men "observing" him... It's sad...

But who is "innocent" and who not, according to you? And what gives you the proof that you - or and authority you decide to follow - are able to tell the difference? (For instance, you've already posted, on this forum, several comments that were considered as inadmissibly hateful by most, if not all, of us, which shows you at least the variety of human perception of (in)admissible and (in)acceptable behaviour and speech...) Yes, everything has its "negative side". This may be a consolation, I agree. But not a reason not to engage in friendships or other potentially fulfilling relationships.

Just a quick update while I have my Sunday morning coffee. I have been doing really well w my intention to lay off the beer. It has been fairly easy as I have not had a strong desire for it thank God. I joined a private FB group for non drinkers and that has helped reinforce my decision. So that part of my life has been going well but believe me plenty of other stuff has not but I am coping and sometimes that is the best you can hope for. Wishing everyone well.

I remember once when I was in cadets, we'd gone to this camp and everyone (about 15-20) lads all got into this giant army size row of showers, it was an actual nightmare. I'd pretty much made excuses anytime something like this had cropped up but I couldn't get out of it. So there, in front of what might as well have been a hundred naked lads I showered in my shorts. Another time, I took a shower on a different camp when I thought nobody was there and was seen naked about 5 seconds before the stupid shower warmed up, so there I am, at my absolute worst when two guys I know well walk in and both leave laughing. That was a particularly hard pill to swallow. Amazing how much something like this could fuck up my whole trip and yet I still put myself through it. The list seems almost endless, but I'm starting to see what it was all for. If I don't learn from these things then what are they for? It's not easy to forgive people when you feel so victimised and wronged, but nobody gets through this life without pain, so the best remedy is finding your own inner peace. I'm not Ghandi McBuddha by any stretch of the imagination, but I can have prolonged periods of peace in my life and it's always at my disposal if I take the time to centre myself. That's the best gift I've ever given myself, especially coming from so much pain and turmoil. So don't give up hope, keep going and occasionally look at that guy in the mirror as a brother in need not an enemy to be destroyed. ☮

That sounds really shit. Luckily I've never had that happen to me. I've had similar things happen with my actual friends, and on many occasions I did nothing. Kind of eats away at you but ultimately not worth the agro. Sometimes there's nothing we can do but try and put it behind us. Looking back it shows unbelievable weakness on their part that they'd make a friend feel so bad, but that's the testosterone driven world we live in I guess.

My firm belief is that by having a few friends who truly get this whole SPS thing is the secret to happiness. I watched a doumentary about a guy who kept being being ripped on by other guys and he said that it hurt more than women doing it. We have social needs, to be accepted and respected, we deserve these things. As such we are strong together and here for each other always.

I feel the exact same guys. I would love to have a like minded group of guys to chat to and give advice. As horrible as it is it's great to have friends who can help.

I'd like to make the same offer that looking made. I'm a lonely guy who has a small penis and anyone anywhere can feel free to message me. I'd love to make a friend/friends. I'm in my late 40's so if you're younger, maybe I've been through something that you haven't. Age/race/orientation makes no difference to me. I'd be happy to talk to you and I'm genuinely interested in helping other guys who have the same problem(s) that I do. Hope to hear from you.

Hi I used to live next to 27 year old virgin with Aspergers. Despite being incredibly attractive, he'd never been able to get sex his entire life. When he started hitting on me I found that unsurprising. He was so insulting I had no problem turning him down. Maybe you can learn from his mistakes. The biggest thing he did was fail to make women feel respected. He never told me he had affection for me, or thought I was beautiful, or wanted to be with me. Instead he whined endlessly about how sexually frustrated he was. I got the idea that he was desperate enough to fornicate with any warm, female body he could get his grubby paws on. As a result, I did not feel honored when he pursued me, and I was not the least bit tempted to give in. Women want to be desired, respected, wooed and cherished. They don't want to be picked up out of desperation. Here is my advice to you. 1) Don't pursue a woman unless you like her and respect her. Men with Aspergers can't get away with that, and its a good thing that they can't, because relationships without respect are always horrible. 2) When you pursue a woman, don't talk about being desperate, horny, or insecure. It will make you sound pathetic and not desirable. Even worse: talking about being desperate for ANYONE might make your lady friend question whether you sincerely like her as an individual. If you really do like her, it would be sad if you made her think otherwise. 3) Don't accidentally become a stalker. I realize that up to this point, I have emphasized that woman want to be desired. That is part of the reason why there is a market for romantic movies where heros display their love and passion by spontaneously showing up at their love's doorstep or participating in a high speed car chases. Unfortunately, in the real world, such behaviors lead to restraining orders, disorderly conduct and sexual harassment charges. The reason why actions have different results in the real world than they have in the movies is that, unlike in movies where love is always eventually returned, the real world has imperfection; Not all attention is welcome. Be mindful of this and get in the habit of asking women questions whenever you are in doubt. Ask for their number instead of finding it on your own. Agree with them about when and where you will meet. 4) Give complements and show appreciation. Let your lady friend know how beautiful she is, and how much you appreciate her as a person. Good luck.