Sammy

If I was actually angry with her over the situation then I wouldn't still be with her so that was really only the first few days and you can't trust yourself to make clear decisions in a situation like that so I waited and thought it over and decided leaving would hurt more than staying. As we look into things more I'm thinking the first time was a dissociated situation but not quite the alternative person so something more like what you go through. I do believe she wasn't in complete control so that didn't really help. Then you add in an outside push and everything turns sour. Creating the perfect mix that still makes my head spin.

She isn't having Post-pardom depression any more our baby is 2 now (yes she waited two years to tell me "grrrr", Or is it she couldn't remember for two years?). So seeing the Doctor for different meddication isn't really usfull at this time. She is more willing now to not have any more kids because of our bickkering over the last two years on how her mood was at the end of the pregnancy because I just don't want to see her like that again. As far as Me wakeing up sooner I'm still not sure but I know stress has a big factor on that because if you go to bed with somthing on your mind your dreams will fill with them. So who knows really. I thought she just had post pardom dippression possibly even Postpartum psychosis definitly not Dissociative Disorder. That Diagnosis is recent and isn't confermed yet she just started seeing the theripist for mental help 3 weeks ago. So she wasn't using it as an excuse just more of an if it helps to understand why. She knows she screwed up and was totaly understanding if I was going to leave her over this. I totaly agree Trusting again isn't easy and won't ever be quite as much as it was before. No matter how she trys or what she does.

I wouldn't call this stressfull for me but it sure is for her. And I do talk with her, a lot after all she was one of my friends for 5 years before we got together. Just thinking about it I met her 16 years ago in middle school. After her Therapist appointment yesterday she was telling me about the tests she had taken the week before and they came up negative for Dissociative Disorder. But any memorys she talks with him about from years before just yells the tests were wrong. I guess the hardest part for me is I never saw this coming. Mostly because she dosn't seem to have any personality switch around me and never has. Even years ago now when we look back (hignd sight is always 20/20) I remember her telling me that I was the only person she didn't have to be someone else around. So I'm just not seeing anything that I can do different to help her.

Thanks for your reply. I have done lots of reading on the matter but I still don't understand it. Mostly because she dosn't seem to do it when I'm around. But when you start asking friends and family members. she has times that she just dosn't remember stuff she should. She does have a few possible trauma times in her childhood that include times with her Father, Sister, and the family firends/childhood babysitter. The other one I could see having any bearing on trauma would be shortly after we got to gether she got pregnant. We had our little girl in high school and placed her for adoption. The Therapist isn't fully done with the diagnosis yet but every time she sees him he is more sure of it. So who knows where that will go. I was wanting to talk to him in a while to see what he thinks and what I should do.

My wife is in the middle of beeing diagnosed with Dissociative Disorder (The modern day Multiple Personality Disorder) and I still don't fully understand it. Any advice or stories on how someone with that has been around you would help.

I have been thinking of seeing a therapist or something, so thanks for the push on a different opinion on that matter the other thing I was thinking of doing was talking to the Doctor about an anti- Depressant. My wife is seeing the therapist for the 4th time tomorrow and I will have her ask some general questions on if he thinks I should see him or a different type of mental help. As far as trauma goes her father went to court over molesting her older sister at 3 when she was 2 so who knows if anything actually happened. Another issue she told me about was when she was 5 or 6 playing with the family friends and/or childhood babysitter she remembers playing something a little more than “Doctor” if you get what I mean. She was also telling me today about some misleading trust stories about her half-sister from her father’s first marriage that still to this day claims he molested her as well. We had her on a 50mg dose of some anti-depressant before she had the baby and bumped it to 100mg after he was born. It didn’t seem to help much or just made it worse. That depends on the night. Tonight Yes! I went into work extra and came home early. So I Have a while to unwind, that is when I found this site and time to reply without beeing disturbed. Or just my normal nurdy stuff I like to do. I have my wife watching the kids during the day or the older two are at school. Part of my sleeping problem is I work almost a true graveyard shift (4pm to 4:30am) so sleeping all morning is normal but like last night I crashed about 2am and was awake at 8am. This is a normal thing on my days off for the last few weeks. Where before I was sleeping in until 10am most of My days off and now I'm awake by Noon on the days I work If I get to sleep before 6 am if not I'm awake until 8 or 9 and still only get 5 to 6 hours of sleep. So thanks for your help and advise I will be looking forward to more from anyone even if it is just a story of how they cope with their spouce and there dissociative disorder.

I need some Help with my Depression after my wife cheated on me a second time. The biggest part of what I am feeling is wrong is how I’m sleeping I haven’t really gotten much sleep or quality sleep when I do from when she told me 4 weeks ago. I guess it is because my mind is still running over what options I have. But to a little history of what my marriage has come to at this point. My 10 year anniversary is coming this Friday so that added to an emotional point already. We placed our first child for adoption in high school back in 2002 and worked our way to getting married the spring after school ended still caring for each other after being friends for the 6 years before that. We had our oldest son 10 months later and to me a happy couple. But as our son starting doing things on his own my wife had mild depression kick in and mixed with young couple doubts this guy flurted with her at work and she ended up following him home. She came to me about this and I thought it was a mistake with everything else. But she had the balls to tell me she screwed up so I do believe people can learn from their mistakes so I gave her a second chance. That was nuts the first time. 3 months later she got pregnant with our second son and life was moving on I thought she was doing better. So we were happy until her postpartum depression kicked in with our fourth son just before our 8 year anniversary. She got into a crazy way of life and I was concerned of her cheating again but she assured me she wasn’t so watching her email and texts I thought I was sure she wasn’t. Until A few weeks ago when she was all sad and depressed again when she told me she had cheated on me again while she was crazy from her postpartum depression. I was mad, disappointed, frustrated, pissed, happy, hated, and every other emotion for a few days. I mean I have never wanted to hit her and I almost did (what a bad thing for me and my respect for women). The Ice breaker is when I caught her crying about how she was afraid to loose me over her mistake that she can’t quite make out in her head. So we decided to send her for some mental help. After the second appointment with the therapist she was telling me he was thinking she has dissociative disorder (the modern term for multiple personality disorder). This complicates things on the woman I love. Because “my wife” would have never cheated on me again. But her alter ego was more than willing. Or at least that is how I am being told I’m not so sure I believe it. So with all that I now am depressed and I’m not sleeping well if at all to go with that general mood of bla…. Now any help on how to deal with my mood would be helpful.