Strawberrypam

Are you currently married right now? It sounds like you are remorseful of things you did in your past but do you have urges to touch small children now? Im sure english is not your first language and your story was a little bit hard to follow. If you feel so guilty and might have inappropriate thoughts about children I would suggest going to a therapist. Even if you are just full of remorse you might still need to go see a therapist. I hope you don't feel embarrassed to go to therapy. Its good to seek for help, its good to try to fix yourself, so don't feel ashamed or bad to see a therapist. What you did in your past was not good but as long as you don't do it again you will be fine. Try going to a therapist and tell them everything that is bothering you and be honest.

Neither sound like a good choice to be honest. THe ex husband sounds a bit selfish and inconsiderate. And the new guy sounds selfish too. Has the ex-husband showed you through actions that he has changed? That he can be trusted? That he really regrets what he did? Actions speak louder than words. Him hitting on your mom was pretty messed up. What kind of person does that? Then the new guy seems to be just stringing you along. Thats pretty messed up too. If he was really serious about your relationship he would have left at least. Does his soon to be ex-wife know about you? If she doesn't he might be the type of guy that likes to get his cake and eat it too. My advice would be to let both of them go and work on just being alone for a while. Give yourself some time to work on yourself and not care about either of those men. If either really loves you they will give you your space and wait for you. In a relationship you should be happy and full of confidence, that person who compliment you. These men don't sound like they bring you a happy relationship. I don't really know the whole situation but i think you being alone would be best and let them both go.

"the mouse that roared" lol that was pretty funny and kinda mean. i been with all kinds of men, of all shapes and sizes… and the best lovers were smaller. Also i know a lot of very attractive women who prefer smaller than bigger. to me its the motion of the ocean not the size.

i don't think he is ready to settle down. And based on what you said he probably is still doing the same things. You shouldn't feel this way with the man you wanna marry. You should feel happy and at ease that he is the one for you. If something in you tells you there is something wrong then maybe you should listen to that instinct. Based on my experience if a man really wants to be with you he will make it super obvious and you will be happy with him there shouldn't be any guessing or doubts. I am sure he has other good qualities but maybe he is not the right guy for you not saying he is a bad guy but not the one for you. in a healthy relationship there should be love, respect and trust in each other.

thank you for your response. I have tried to talk to him but it seemed to make him pretty uncomfortable. Maybe I should just try to rape him every night lol. I guess maybe I should just take things into my own hands and be more aggressive...maybe he will follow by example. ;-)

I would try therapy and see how it goes. I am sure a therapist would know what to say and how to help you. Since you are attracted to males I say maybe try dating young men, I guess 18 or around that age. Here in the USA there are plenty of gay older males that usually date very young men, like a 40 something year old with a 18-21 year old young man. I always wonder if a person that is attracted to children can compensate by dating a young adult that looks very young almost child like... Would this help you or would you be attracted to a person that looks very very young?

Hello i am new here too. The way you look at yourself is not good. Everybody has issues about their own body, and people always tend to think the grass is greener on the other side. You need to learn to love yourself and be happy with yourself. And size really isn't an issue. Actually the men I been with that were bigger were the worst in sex and it hurts too. I guess they think just cause its big they don't have to do anything. Its not very hard to please a woman and you are young you still got a lot of banging in your future. Women love foreplay, making out, bite here, nibble there, lick this, lick that, groping her breast and butt, oral sex to get her to cum then start humping her. and if you don't feel like you are pleasing a woman just ask her what she likes, I am sure she will tell you. Its pretty cruel how your sisters and mother talked about men i guess it was just girl talk. I heard lots of women talk about penis size and most don't really like them big, it hurts and you can't really enjoy it unless she's a masochist and has psychological issues but thats another issue. I suggest get a girlfriend and experiment with her. Try to be open sexually. Try different things and see how she responds. Sex is way better when you actually love that person. ITs good that you care about your appearance but be happy too and try to love who you are. Most women find confidence super attractive (thats why you sometimes see fat ugly guys with good looking women). Sex is not about penis size or breast size etc its about feeling comfortable, enjoying it and learning new experiences.

if u gave ur gf orgasm why do u doubt urself so much? Obviously you are good at sex most men regardless of their penis size are pretty bad at sex. I had men with different sizes and different ethnic groups and its really not about the size its about how sensual you are and foreplay. If you have or had a gf and she enjoyed having sex with you why didn't you just go with the flow and enjoy it too? it seems that you are thinking about it too much and ruining the experience. does a woman's breast size matter to you so much that you couldn't enjoy sex with her if she was flat chested? Im guessing most men don't care and still enjoy sex regardless of her breast size but there are some that won't have intercourse unless the woman has a certain breast size. I say enjoy sex and it seems like you know what you are doing so just go for it. IF someone judges you over the size of your genitals obvious that person is an ahole and doesn't deserve love. My fiancee has a small one but best sex i ever had and love to do it with him. Unfortunately his insecurities are not letting him be too intimate with me and are ruining things sexually. Dont let that happen to you be happy and enjoy what you have.

Hello. I am new here. My fiancee is pretty shy when it comes to sex. He wont let me see him naked. I think its due to the size of his penis, its small (i guess cause he wont let me see it). But i love having sex with him, i can do him everyday and i am willing to do all kinds of sexual things with him too but he just isn't willing. i am pretty open sexually, more than the average person. We have been together for 10 months, I am pregnant and we are engaged so im pretty sure he knows i love him a lot and i do try to say things like how i find him attractive, dirty talk, i tell him i wish we could have sex everyday etc... He is actually really good at sex and I just wish he wasn't so shy. As soon as we have sex he lays on his stomach, gets dressed quickly, won't let me touch his penis, won't let me give him blow jobs, won't stand naked around me. I am trying to be patient but I don't know what else I can do to make him more at ease. i try not to talk about it too much but its not getting any better. I try to initiate sex but most of the time he just says later. When I first moved in we had sex everyday but he broke a rib and had to stop but since then its been like once a week which i usually initiate. It was like this before i got pregnant so i don't think it due to me being pregnant. i am a pretty attractive female and before the belly had a pretty nice body. I just would like some advice from men to see what i can do to make him more open... I dont know what to do. Sometimes i think he's shyness is due to his body image too (he has a little bit of a spare tire but nothing bad). Or maybe its his body and the size of his penis that make him shy. i like the fact that he is shy but i wish he wasn't shy around me and be comfortable enough to be more sexually open with me especially since we are going to be married. what can i do to make him more open?