Calla

As a woman I'm with IrmaJean and I'm sorry you guys have met some lame women!! Life experience has taught me many things and a man is a man regardless of anything else and if you fit together then you fit. I know my words dont mean anything but just thought I'd chip in.

Ah I see. Sorry I missed the previous explanation. I can understand not wanting to be indentifiable. Obviously Calla is not my real name But I have a beautiful painting of one and wanted to identify myself with something beautiful for once. I love riddles, they are very good for the mind but I will not attempt the anagram to protect your identity Its not disturbing, although I do suffer a certain amount of paranoia so figure it's best to ask out right

Do you mind if I ask you about your name now that makes me think of it. It's a strange name given it's meaning.

The most a have ever cried is over the death of our dog when I was 20, we had him since i was 5 and he was as much a member of my family as anyone else! The stories that always make me cry are about dolphins (not good as pets though especially in a flat) But you read about them, eg when I man was thrown overboard and the dolphins surrounded him in shark infested waters etc. how much is exaggarated for dramatic effect is another matter but it is truly amazing. There was a story of a whale recently who saved a woman diver. I hope they are true because I just think it's wonderful. Beautiful animals and apparently very healing too. So long and thanks for all the fish haha!

Oh my! Maybe they can savage then!! Thats a classic situation of the coward becoming the bully I'd say! Get in first before the bigger dogs eat him!! I shouldn't laugh but it was quite funny, bless him!! I'm thinkin maybe the dog from Gingersnaps post suits my personality!! We'd get on great as we share a similar temperment!! It is the house training that worries me most. Not the mess I can cope with that , just the whole process but I need to read up more. I helped with my parents dogs so I have a bit of an idea. I've had days where I feel so bad but I know my fish need cleaning and I force myself to do it....even though a simple task is a struggle. But as you say something needs you to do something so you have to do it. As I said I've done a bit of dog training with my parents dogs...just the usual stuff. But I will read up more. I would LOVE a sheep dog which you can train to quite a high standard, I would really enjoy that. But obviously that isn't a dog for a flat!! I would never abuse an animal. When I was reading about some of the dogs in local shelters I was crying my eyes out!! Animal abuse stories really upset me. I don't how people can do those things. I will definitely take a look at the site. Thanks guys,

Isn't he the cutest!! Thank you Gingersnap. I did the questionaire....there are a few little dogs which might be suitable. When I first saw housebreaking I thought that I might get a dog that robs from other people!! Shows I need to learn a bit more about dogs!! haha I can't get the national geo channel but I will see what I can find on the net. As Rosebud said shelters might be a good place. Because I do a bit of volunteer dog walking sometimes at a shelter and they sometimes have tiny ones. But they also do a kind of "trial period" and house checks. So they can say if they thing a flat would be suitable and if it's a disaster they take the dog back and no blame is placed! Alhthough I also recognise you have to be a bit careful with rescue dogs. not sure you can be savaged by a chihuahua though!! Maybe a shar pei as it may sympathise about my wrinkle phobia!? And I love the idea of walking a guinea pig! What do you call a furry animal that can't stop smiling? A grinny pig!! (sorry couldn't help myself!)

Oh I'm so pleased people have said that!! I worried everyone would say no!! I have lots of places I can go for long walks...or short walks if it's a little dog with little legs!! I feel it would give me more purpose and take the focus of worrying about myself. I have been researching dogs suitable for flats and found Pom A Poos!! Oh they are gorgeous....I've changed my signature just to show one!! I feel more happy everytime I look at the pic!! Thats silly isn't it!!??

Just wondered if anyone had any thoughts. I am thinking of getting a dog or a cat as I truly believe this would be a help to me. It would be slightly unpractical as I live in a flat. But I think the distraction of caring for something else and going out for walks would be so beneficial. Does that sound stupid?

Oh yeah....I actually did the thing I am afraid of doing!! Good point and maybe a small step there!! I don't know about other people but all my issues come (unfortunately) with some bad anger issues. And sometimes they come out at the wrong time in the wrong place and to the wrong people. So I guess thats another issue for this site. But yes I vote for a new start today

I see what you are saying...but just in case (in my paranoid mind!) this has anything to do with something that happened with me earlier.....Its very difficult here. With earlier I felt I couldn't say anything as this may start a "war" so I "emigrated" to the blogs. As it happened this pointed out a misunderstanding. But if I had actually voiced this concern directly would it have evoked a defensive reply or sorted the situation....it's a risk I didn't want to take....or worse a "what are you talking about you paranoid idiot!?" This forum, after all, is for people with various issues including paranoia, low self esteem, anger issues. I'm not saying you're not right because you are....we should all be here to help each other and move forward. But I am guilty of many a misunderstanding and I mostly blame not hearing a tone of voice or intonation combined with low self esteem. But I hope we can all live and learn

I found that very interesting to/ So thank you for taking the time to tell us about it. For those of us who are too scared at the moment to get help it's really nice to read about it and understand more. So yes I hope you do continue to blog

Hi there. I find it always helps to write it all down and get it "out there" so I hope it goes some way to making you feel better. Break ups are so difficult. And for some of us they hurt right to the core. Some people move on easily and don't understand. But I'm sure that it will get better. Maybe slowly but take each day at a time.

Haha, that reminds me of a letter I read in a magazine today. A little girl went screaming to her Mum, "Mummy come quickly a spider has fainted" So when she asked where the girl replied "under Daddy's shoe"...bless.

Music is so powerful! I feel it has saved me on many occasion. A friend of mine had a brother going through a difficult time and she said she couldn't understand why he kept listening to such depressing music. But I could understand, sometimes it can actually be uplifting. "You are not alone" by Michael Jackson Most songs by Daughtry "Lost" By Michael Bublé I could go on all night!!