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  1. the only place i can go in my spare time is gym. i love to work out. in a week i usually go there 2-3 times. i go the the gym to have a better shape, but i still try to make a new friend here. the men in my gym are nice. they were kind and easy going. but somehow i don't feel comfortable with them. i would rather to keep the distance of my relationship between them. this is a matter of economy social status. they have a very good economy situation. i can tell by their rides, their gadget, and their own testimony. thats why i am feeling less confident and choose to maintain my relationship as an acquaintance. so, how about the women? there are some girls in my gym. i found some of them are attractive. the problem is they don't go to workout regularly. and of course they are wealthier than me, which makes me not confident. i always afraid to say hello at them. because if i do, i want to have a further relationship with her. i am sure she wants to be with a man who can afford to live together and make her happy. which i think i can't. because i don't have a job yet. the next year when i have a job and make my own income do you think i will able to cure my lack of confident ? or this is a mental illness which i can not go through without a force from myself? thanks for your opinion. i always want to be a success guy in my career. i want to live steady and wealthy (at least i am not depending on my parents or anybody else). so i study hard and work hard in my college to find a better job. but the problem is i am having difficulties to approach a girl. i know that my social economy status is not the one to blame. thats why i am so confused with myself, and always feel lonely.
  2. thank you IrmaJean i agree about "just being ourselves is a beautiful thing". sometimes my unconscious mind says to me "don't you think you are awesome? you really are!" so i always think what's wrong with me. i always feel down whenever i realize my live is not good enough because i don't have a girlfriend. i have a "hunter" type friend. so this friend of mine likes to go to a party, where many people gather to dance and of course get drunk. of course he have a lot of friends, both female and male. he is a "hunter" because he likes to go out and approach a random woman. whenever he finds an attractive woman, he will immediately came near her, say hello, then go on a light conversation for 5-10 minutes, then ask for her number, and then nicely leave. the next day he will text and call her. if the woman's response is nice, he will continue the relationship at least they become friends, or maybe a lover. if the woman's response is 'no good', he will just delete the number and don't mind at all. from what he told me, he usually gets 2-3 female targets each month. not one of them last long, the relationship is always a short term. he never has a girlfriend that last over 3 months, which i think it is very short. 2 things i can get from this friend : 1. it is a good way to have fun while we still at our 20s. 2. point 1 is not right, because this is not what i really want. i do disagree the mindset of hunting a girl is a good way to enjoy this life. what's the point in getting so many female friends but most of them is a short term? isn't it better to have a relationship with a few girls but with a deeper story and bond? sorry i talk too much, i was just giving my opinion which always bother me. will be very nice if you could share some of your thoughts too. hello LaLa thanks for the articles. i found it helpful. sometimes i think my problem is about courage, and at the other times i think it is about my surroundings. my majority in my college is male. 93% of the students are males, the rest are females. i always blame this situation. i know it is clearly very possible to find a girl at the outside. my mindset needs to be changed. to approach a random girl and say hello is not my way. because it is just not my way. but i won't see any chance to have a girlfriend, if i just stay here. is this the only option i have? to reach the world, and go approach a random girl?
  3. i am glad to read your reply.. you asked me about the gifts i have ? i don't even know if i have them. i always try to be the best at everything i do every time i failed, it hurts me a lot fortunately i always find a reason to not quitting at giving my best shot, still i got hurt when failed i don't know what i like about myself i know many of my weakness and my lacks, but i am not sure about what i like about myself what do you mean by interact with women? am i supposed to randomly say hello to a woman? so i can make chances to have a girlfriend? that is not easy, because there are risks maybe i will get rejected, and it will make me hurt a lot which means i will have less courage to move on i don't know how it works, but maybe for a man and a woman to love each other is a miracle and so this world is full of miracles, yet i am not a part of that miracles.. thank you for your advice
  4. hello everyone i am 22 years old man (boy) i go to college everyday i have routine which is very boring i go to a gym 2 times a week the problem is "i never had a girlfriend since i was born" it makes my life suck.. i always feel lonely and full of emptiness. i have a lot of friends, but only a few is female. i don't know why i don't have any confidence in myself i always afraid to start a relationship with a girl.because i think i am not good enough this matter wont affect my study, but it feels worse than being a hurt when we have been hurt, we feel pain, but mine is different. i only feel emptiness this emptiness makes me feel that i am a failure as a man. i have a lot of things to blame : 1. my economy condition is bad 2. i am not tall enough 3. i am not handsome all of the things i said above is just an excuse for me.. the main thing is that i don't have any channel. so i cant start a relationship with a woman i also dont have a courage to find a woman, because i am a low profile man does anybody have a word to help me make my life better ??? thankyou for reading my post sorry for my bad english
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