thank you IrmaJean i agree about "just being ourselves is a beautiful thing". sometimes my unconscious mind says to me "don't you think you are awesome? you really are!" so i always think what's wrong with me. i always feel down whenever i realize my live is not good enough because i don't have a girlfriend. i have a "hunter" type friend. so this friend of mine likes to go to a party, where many people gather to dance and of course get drunk. of course he have a lot of friends, both female and male. he is a "hunter" because he likes to go out and approach a random woman. whenever he finds an attractive woman, he will immediately came near her, say hello, then go on a light conversation for 5-10 minutes, then ask for her number, and then nicely leave. the next day he will text and call her. if the woman's response is nice, he will continue the relationship at least they become friends, or maybe a lover. if the woman's response is 'no good', he will just delete the number and don't mind at all. from what he told me, he usually gets 2-3 female targets each month. not one of them last long, the relationship is always a short term. he never has a girlfriend that last over 3 months, which i think it is very short. 2 things i can get from this friend : 1. it is a good way to have fun while we still at our 20s. 2. point 1 is not right, because this is not what i really want. i do disagree the mindset of hunting a girl is a good way to enjoy this life. what's the point in getting so many female friends but most of them is a short term? isn't it better to have a relationship with a few girls but with a deeper story and bond? sorry i talk too much, i was just giving my opinion which always bother me. will be very nice if you could share some of your thoughts too. hello LaLa thanks for the articles. i found it helpful. sometimes i think my problem is about courage, and at the other times i think it is about my surroundings. my majority in my college is male. 93% of the students are males, the rest are females. i always blame this situation. i know it is clearly very possible to find a girl at the outside. my mindset needs to be changed. to approach a random girl and say hello is not my way. because it is just not my way. but i won't see any chance to have a girlfriend, if i just stay here. is this the only option i have? to reach the world, and go approach a random girl?