DatDude90

I don't think I could ever be at ease mentally. I'll always have doubts, at least that's what I anticipate. Especially if it's from someone who I'm emotionally involved with, there's the bias of their love to make me question their encouraging words. Looking at the big picture in regards to a relationship, I know it's silly. But idk, even overall, I don't feel that I meet anyone's standards

Well this is an old post lol, been a while since I posted here. But reading your experience of just the mechanics of sex, makes me me think about how my experience will go. I'm also 5'5", maybe a quarter of an inch more, penis is 5inches. I really need to consider how things will go, you say you have no room for back and forth motion, I can't imagine I will have much luck either in that regard.

Exactly what I think when women say "it's his you use it". I mean, if you're indeed able to wiggle around and hit at different angles, is that necessarily a good thing? Meanwhile a bigger guy can get every spot with basic in and out penetration.

I fear for my future sons (assuming I have any). I don't want them to deal with this feeling. A life with your masculinity and sexual self worth constantly being doubted, questioned, and ridiculed, is one I don't wish upon anyone. ... except my worst enemies of course, because it's indeed that fuckin bad.

Exactly. Funny when this is discussed, girls always say "I'd rather have a skilled average/smaller one, than a big one who can't fuck" So the big fella has to be awful for me to be the preference huh? Well that's encouraging.... Whenever they come to the defense of smaller guys, it's always the big guy who is assumed to lack skill in the hypothetical scenario

I disregard those phrases completely.

The tone of that passage is too up beat to be legit. Because outside of some embarrassment for being dependent on your lady, you seem to be having a grand ol' time. But, whether you're real or a troll. Your words are appreciated, at least momentarily.

I was not aware that. Thanks for the enlightenment

For length, I've only measured how much I think goes in during sex, so I think BP is irrelevant. For girth, I've always just measured the thickest part.

I'm with you on that. If I could just not care about sex, that would be fantastic. Luckily, I'm really into playing basketball,watching sports, and sports video games. When I'm playing basketball, watching basketball, or just keeping up with the stats on the app, for those moments, my sps doesn't exist (along with the many negative thoughts and insecurities I have). Hell, for those moments, I might as well not even have a penis. The happiness, passion, energy, and pure joy I get out of watching and playing sports, will most likely be better than anything I will ever experience sexually. And if that's the case, then I'm completely fine with it.

As far as I know it is. Or was.

I've seen enough porn to know that this is only partially true. Depending on the male talents they are able to cast, they will go for the handsome stud with a size that leans a bit towards average, over the less attractive guy with a larger one. But if they can get an actor with both, they sign him up in a heart beat. I noticed this during my streak of watching porn made by "Passion hd". The guy would either be handsome with a large penis, or handsome with what appeared to be an inch or two above average (6-7 inches) They may have incorporated some things to appeal to male audience since I last watched. But I'm sure there's plenty of scenes to be found that follow this trend

I'd be too embarrassed to bring it up to a therapist.

I'd love to be 9.5x6.5 Seems like a bit much, but if I'm able to choose only once, I'm leaving no room for regret.

I've read about positions to help get the most out of a smaller size. Haven't tested any, but I'm skeptical. One thing they never really touch on, is how they work with women of different sizes. For example- I doubt that laying flat position would be an option if the girl is bigger in the butt and thighs. I've heard doggy can also possibly be ineffective with a chunkier gal.

Unfortunately, I enjoy porn too much to give it up. Even thought I know it would probably help my apparently skewed view of my size.

That's what I was thinking. Mine is 2-3 inches flaccid, depending on other factors. But I've never been afraid of public restrooms. Just shows the psychological effect SPS has, definitely take a toll and can psych you out. I've never been one to care about my flaccid size at all. But,I did have one occasion where it looked damn near 1-1.5 inches. Now I don't own a ruler, so that may be an exaggerated estimation due to shock, but I'm positive it was, at the most, BARELY reaching the 2 inch mark. Don't know how, it was brought to my attention when I took a piss after a long walk (I'm in Arizona, it was at least 95 degrees). So I was amazed at the shrinkage despite the weather. Not gonna lie though, it was tough to look at. Just the fact that it was capable of that kind of shrinkage hurt a little.

You make valid points, and I'm sure we all understand what you're saying. Your encouragement is appreciated by the way. But, being sensually attentive and getting your partner relaxed can only do so much. At some point, the physical stimulation has to be up to par, and there's levels of stimulation that 4-3 inches or less simply can't provide (or at least won't cut it amongst the majority of women)

I never believed those things worked. If they did, there would be no such thing as a small, or even average size dick. I'm pretty sure it only works for some people. Just like certain diets only work for certain people. I would get one, but I'm afraid of the potential damage. All that stretching can't be good for your dick. But I guess that says something about my situation. Because I can see a guy who had like 2-3 inches say "You know what? Fuck it"

I don't blame anyone for having a preference, it just sucks when you really think about the reality of it. "There is more to life than dick size" Despite the obvious truth in this, it's something I have to constantly remind myself of.

Absolutely, he'd be getting a ridiculous amount of sex.

I agree that it helps to be at least moderately attractive when you're packing. But at the same time, I've heard about guys who weren't great looking, get laid strictly based on their size. It's just a matter of finding that "we want giant dicks" group to get associated with. There's plenty of women who would fuck a below average looking guy who's hung, just to use as a sex toy

You ever get sucked into reading about size preferences? And read a bunch of stuff about all the benefits of a larger size, and all the things a bigger size is able to do? You know it will just kill whatever self esteem you have, but you read anyway. Well, I just finished making my way through the wringer. I don't know why I did it, I knew what the result would be. But anyway. Just thought I'd share with whoever gave a shit.

I'm not as happy as I could be if I had 2-4 more inches. But my size surprisingly doesn't effect my social life and how I interact with people. Actually, if you met me, I'd be that last person you thought had size insecurities. I thankfully am a sports fanatic, so that keeps my mind off of it, especially recently because of the NBA playoffs. My feeling of inadequacy only surfaces when I'm alone and/or have too much time to think.

Well, look at any average penis size statistic, regardless of the source. That's when you know you're in the clear, when you're above the stats of even the most unreliable sources