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OK I don't know if this is a good choice but I will tell him everything on my mind. It's that I am only 14, I am not ready to take care of someone depressed. I care about him, but I can't take care of him. I can't help him, but he still thinks I can. I need to explain to him that I just can't live my own life anymore because of the constant worrying I have because of him. I really need help this is eating me from the inside. It can't go on like this, if it did it would end badly anyway. I am scared this will shock him and he will do something drastic, but I am just slowly starting to get depressed as well from all this. This is actually kind of my fault because I made it seem I could take care of him and help him. I wish I knew that I couldn't

Well thankfully he feels better for now. I dont know why, I dont know how but he is better which is good. Now I feel like I am bothering you but I want to ask one last question. How to convince him to seek more help? Because I know this will come back one day and I will probably be back here. There are more things that bug me but this feeling will pass I just feel bad because of him. Thank you for your help

Probably refused instantly. I dont know about his family. His grandparents seem to not even care he lives with them, his father is always away and his mother lives in a different town and I think she has depression as well. Thats why I think I am the only person that is there for him. My mom said that I should take a break, and she's correct. I just can't take care of someone depressed at my age. I really want to convince him to go to his psychiatrist and tell her everything, or try physiotherapy but I don't know how to convince him. Yes I am writing to him for the past hour but this is really taking a toll on my mental health. Should I visit a psychologist too? Because I haven't been truly happy for a long time now. I think this is all happening because he lacks care from his parents. I am just speculating really I know nearly nothing about how the human mind works

Yes it seems like he will just cut all ties with me and be alone. I dont know what will happen. I cant convince him to change his mind. According to him I only cause him pain. I can't help him anymore. He refuses help and the only help he wants is me dating him. So I guess it really is over

This is very bad. He just thinks I don't care about him. I thought he was better. He is only worse and worse. I think it's going to be over soon

Oops sorry for that reply I dont really know how to use the Quote on phones. I wanted to say thank you for your replies things are a bit better now. He only feels "empty" which is still bad, but I guess he isnt suicidal for now. Now answering your question, yes he does use antidepressants. BTW I wanted to ask what exactly is psychotherapy? I am sorry to ask I just want to know what it is and if it helps. I am feeling better too but I am still scared he will start feeling bad again. I have one way to make him better. Play a specific video game with him and my sister(She lead me to this forum, you probably saw her posts her name is Tina and she has Anxiety) but because of maturita (finals) she cant play. I dont know why but it helps. I linked the sites about the attraction to him but he doesnt want to talk about it. Thank you again for your help

I have never felt this bad. It just feels like his depression will never end. That I wont be able to enjoy any day in my life anymore. And my girlfriend means everyhting to me. Making her feel bad just made this worse for me

This is a long story and a very personal one. So I will start with my friend. He felt terrible for a long time and three months ago I convinced him to go to a psychiatrist. Until these days he was feeling better. But three days in the past two weeks he just really wanted to kill himself. And today is the worst day of them all (for me atleast). Well he said something I didnt expect. He said that he loves me (he is bisexual. His parents are divorced, he lives with his grandparents and I am his only friend. He says that I am the reason he is still alive.) And he is very desperate for sex so he said to me that he would like to have sex with me. This is where it begins to get wierd. He feels terrible because he doesnt want to be like that, and he thinks I am wierded out by him now. Which is true but not that much. He want to stop talking to me because from what I understood, he doesnt want to be just friends and staying like this is hurting him. But I am scared becuase he said I am the only thing keeping him alive, and if I cant prevent his suicide, what will? I am so tired of this I am starting to hate him. I dont want to ,but i really dont want to constantly feel scared for him (this is really selfish of me, but I just cant take care of other people. I am only 14 years old its just too much for me) I told all this to my girlfriend and she is scared that he will try to have sex with me. I understand her because I am scared of the same thing too. But now I just feel terrible. I dont know what to do to help him, and I made my girlfriend very sad. I really need some advice I have no idea what to do anymore. Ask anything if you need to