toulouse_lautrec

I haven't had sex with my gf in about 1.5 years. I started having erection/sex drive problems, bad depression about life, and I'm simply not attracted to her anymore. My sex drive has been almost nothing since I got overweight (5'5" 200 lbs, in shape I was 5'5" and 145) with a sedentary lifestyle. Stretch marks on my stomach. At some point my sex drive just "stopped". So I have more problems than just my small penis size. Even if my drive comes back after getting in shape, it's still embarrassing for me to have sex with such a small penis, smaller than 97%+ of men.

Maybe I'm not quite 5" in girth. Maybe a bit less. I can't measure properly because I have no sex drives and struggle to even maintain an erection. But when I lost 15 lbs my sex drive started to come back and I can stay harder a bit longer. I still have about 30 lbs to go. If that doesn't fix my problem I'm going to the doctor. But anyway, 4.25" hard, maybe 4.5" when it's more erect is nothing to be proud of or happy about, even if I am close to 5" in girth, which is probably less because I'm probably not measuring properly. And I don't agree that 4.25" is enough, because it's obvious women feel more with a larger and thicker penis, especially in different positions. There is just no hope.

What I'm saying is that sex for the guy doesn't feel that good either if he's got a small penis. It's never felt that great to me. It's gotta feel better for a guy who is bigger because the vagina is tighter to him and there's more room to stroke. For a guy with a small penis, there isn't room to do much of anything and without girth it doesn't even feel that great anyway.

You're not helping Jean, please stop responding. Thank you.

We are essentially worthless, but it is still better and more enjoyable to have a larger penis, to be closer to average, to be taller, more handsome, etc. There are people out there enjoying things even though life is meaningless. To have to live my only life as a 5'5" man with 4.25" penis is too sad to be believed. I'd rather be dead, honestly.

As time goes on I don't see any reason to really live on. I don't want to live as a 5'5" man. I don't want to live as a man with a 4.25" erect penis. 98% of men have a larger one. Most girls I sleep with will have had larger than I have, by an inch, two, or three inches. So what's the point? It's embarrassing. My last so called GF had like ten guys and I has the second smallest she's ever had. It sucks. Also I am tired of being short and seeing couples where the guy is 4 to 6 inches taller than the female. I see it everywhere. The girl is my height but the guy she's with is 4 to 6 inches taller, if not more. I am just sick of it all. Plus I am not attractive. I am ugly and I still have acne in my 30's, acne scars, and I'm still overweight after juice fasting for like 40 days. 5'5" and 180 lbs. I only lost 15 lbs. I hate my genetics. These things are enough to make me not want to live anymore. I don't know what else to say. My mom said don't let other people get you down, don't compare yourself to others, and all this other worthless advice. It is not other people getting me down. It is me. I honestly hate being my height and honestly hate my penis size. I wish she never had me. She should have been smart enough not to have me. She's 4'11" and my dad was like 5'7". She should have realized what could possibly happen. But I guess she had a terrible life too and the only way her life would be worth living would be to have a kid to take care of. Well thanks mom. Now I'm 35, single, and living a miserable life. I can't help but blame her and attack her verbally every time I talk to her. I have nothing nice to say anymore to anybody. I even hate and cut off my niece because she met and had kids with some really stupid jock type guy who she thinks is "so hot" yet he's one of the dumbest people ever. Oh, but he's 6 foot tall and he's good looking so it doesn't matter if he's some idiot. It upset my mom that I cut my niece off, but I flat out told her that I hate all women who are the same... looking for the taller, attractive guys with big dicks. So family or not, I had to cut her off because she represents the kind of women who have made my life miserable. I don't even associate with her or her kids. I don't even care about them. I could work 10x as hard as someone else, but still be the single one with no success of any kind, passed over for dates because of my looks and height, and if I were lucky enough to convince a girl to go out with me (which is rare) if we would have sex I would be one of the smallest she's ever had, especially since women are more promiscuous today. It would last awhile, but then she'd move on because I'm no kind of catch at all. I'm like a man child. So I'm doomed on all counts. My mom says relationships and sex aren't everything. But she takes great pride in her grandkids and would have little else to do or contribute if not for having my brother and me, my brother having kids, and my niece having kids. So obviously she's just trying to make me feel better. My mom says well be happy you can see or have two legs. But I told her it's ridiculous if in order to feel good about myself I have to compare myself to some crippled person. I'm tired of stupid people. I can't believe this is the life I get to live. I can't believe this was the hand I was dealt. I'll never be able to live the life I want to live. My dating pool is so much smaller than a normal person. Most people have a few issues. They're ugly but have a large penis. They're attractive but have a small penis. They're tall but they're ugly. Me, I have all these problems. Short. Small penis. Ugly. Acne. Overweight. Terrible family. It just goes on and on and on and on. Everyone I argue this to gets tired of hearing about it anyway. My mom is tired of it. People I talk to online get tired of it. People say they want the truth but when you hit them in the face with the truth or true feelings they don't want to hear it or deal with it. Just be confident! Just try harder! Just be happy with what you do have! Screw that. I tried it. I worked hard for a long time trying to fix my life, improve myself, and feel good. But you know what? Nothing ever really changed. I just worked 10x as hard to "almost" be a normal person. It makes me sick. My niece's dumb jock husband may be stupid, but at least he got married and had kids with little to no effort. You see, that's why I'm so angry. I worked hard and all those doors appear closed to me, but other people are accepted so easily. No woman has ever really been attracted to me. It didn't matter if I was confident or not. Now I'm just rambling, so I'll stop. I've said what I wanted to say and I'm prepared for Jean to just say "can you change the way you think about this". No, I can't.

All I know is that there isn't anything good about having a small penis. Now that women are taller, some bigger as well, you need all the length you can get to enjoy every position and have room to spread out. That's my opinion based on observations and my own sexual history.

I might try a penis extender. Or I just might kill myself first. It's getting worse now in 2012, men are getting bigger and whenever I'm with a woman it's a definite she's had much bigger than 4.25 inches. 95% of men have a penis 5 to 8 inches in length. There are more men with a 7.5 inch penis than with a 4.5 inch one.

I've had a lot of one night stands in my life. I couldn't meet women in reality so I met them online, back in the late 90s and early 00s. Once I met them, I could convince them to hang with me for a bit and could get some action from them and have a decent time. BUT... nothing great ever came from it. After one or two times they wouldn't want to see me, or would make comments that I wasn't really their type so don't get used to this, or would leave me shortly thereafter for someone taller. Being short, ugly, and having a small penis, I tried everything I possibly could to meet someone in any way I could. The only ones interested in seeing me more were those women who had more problems than me -- grossly obese, uglier than me. I could never really convince any half decent looking woman or a woman with a semi decent life to stick around.

My ex could tell the difference, she told me one or two guys were a half inch or more bigger. I'd give away one of my fingers for an extra half inch.

Hey, I not only have a small penis, but I'm short (5'5") and I'm ugly too! 3 for 3. Do you think that's why I've been an outcast all my life and have struggled to get women interested in me?

What about terminal cancer? Do you see a solution that fits?

AP... I like watching porn occasionally. I couldn't get a date in my teens and 20's, didn't visit prostitutes, was a social outcast, and needed some reason for my sexual feelings. Even the more average sized guys in a few porn videos are bigger than me, not just the 7 inch guys. Some older porn videos I used to watch on BETA or VHS had more average sized guys and I never saw one that was as small as mine. The smallest I guess was Ed Powers, but he's probably around 5 inches or a bit more and that's bigger than mine too.

And you guys know that I am also upset about my 5'5" height. I guess I should be thankful that I'm short and have a small penis instead of being tall with a small penis. But... when I get rich I plan on having limb lengthening surgery to increase my height 3 to 4 inches. It costs about $80,000 to break my bones and insert a rod then let the bone grow over it. A guy went from 5'6" to 6'2" doing this. But my issue is that if I get taller, my penis will look even smaller. So I feel trapped. Do you understand my pain about this?

It does dictate my life, unfortunately, since I always think about it and I'm interested in numbers and statistics. My last girlfriend said of the 12-15 guys she's been with, I was like 4th in size. But when I started listing the guys she's been with, all ten I mentioned were bigger than me, so she may have been just trying to make me feel better. She said my penis was "average" or just a "whisp below clinical studies." Nothing she said made me feel any better though. As I listed the guys she told me she was with, she would say how much bigger they were than me... "a half inch, an inch, an inch and a half, two inches." And that even her first boyfriend was bigger than me when he was just 16. That kind of stuff just bothers me. She also mentioned that a guy she was with was also concerned about his size and didn't think he was big enough. I asked if he was bigger than me, and she said he was, by like a half inch or more. So that enraged me more, that even someone with a half inch more than me is worried about his size. So where does that leave me, if he's bigger than me anyway? I don't think I can be with any girl now, because both reality and stats suggest that there's a 90% chance any guy she's with was bigger than I am. My ex confirmed it, that all these guys were bigger. And that stats confirm it, since I'm at the far end of the small size bell curve, that 98%+ of men are larger. Oh but so great, I'm within the bell curve, so I'm 'small average'. You know, they make those bell curve charts to convince men that are like 5.5 inches that they're average. But it's the opposite for me since I'm like 4 inches. it confirms that I'm not average, and makes me want to kill myself even more. I always found that ironic, that those charts are meant to make guys feel better but it makes me feel worse since I am smaller than 98% of men.