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A close friend of mine irl has a small penis too - and we have both discussed it at length. Although we're currently single there have been times when we've both been in relationships. The thought of discussing the matter as a pair of couples never even surfaced. It's just. No. Intimacy is one thing - but are you trying to get her to lose respect for you? I'm raising a valid point so don't accuse me of being negative. 

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I also find this public meeting talk to be extremely undermining of some of us. Have you guys bothered to notice that the sps forums have gone extremely quiet ever since? The majority of us value some level of anonymity and, and some of us have social anxieties. This thread has shit all over those people. 

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@Small It's definitely not for everybody, I get that, but you're lucky to have had a friend to talk to. I've definitely never had that, I only recently spoke to my gf about it, before that I suffered in silence. I know the idea went full on for a while there and maybe elements of the thread got carried away, but that's been addressed. But some of these guys want to meet or speak on the phone and I think if it's something some people want, then why not? It's not for everyone but it's not an all or nothing thing. I've missed you posting on here anyway, Jones kicked DC into another division and we haven't talked about it lol. But I honestly don't think the thread has shit on anyone, it's just a thread. And as for the gf issue, it's not really an issue. I've told her what I want to do and she supports me. And I don't think you're negative, you've always been a positive person to talk to. But this whole condition thrives in the shadows, we're just trying to trust eachother enough to break the divide and become friends. I'll be honest and say that bringing our partners is a bit daunting, but we're just feeling out what works, we could meet up just the guys. Whatever works. 

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@Small I agree about the partners, you're completely right. I just went with the flow without thinking how that'd make people feel. It should just be only the guys, it makes a lot more sense. It's not exactly practical anyway with finding  a babysitter etc. I hate that this thread has upset people, I was trying to move slowly and it got away from me, but I still believe it's not a bad thing. I'm just a normal guy, and I don't go on about SPS all day, it's just an option to go from forum strangers to friends with an element of trust that isn't guaranteed irl. 

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Hey just checked my emails - hmm yeah the bringing of partners wasn't supposed to cause upset - happy to revise this aspect, its just if I go to Manchester or wherever she will travel with me - the meet can be guys only. Like Yoth has said I don't talk/think about SDS stuff all the time but it has the power to bring my mood right down and I really don't want to waste my whole adult life looking for a mate like me - I want to skip ahead to days where I feel comfortable with a group...and I believe this may be the way.

So tomorrow I will get the spare sim and share the number - although it makes me nervous as hell - I want to try.

For anyone reading this who feels alienated/hurt/spited - please trust I am not like that, this whole thing was always supposed to be positive. 

the initial posts were supposed to get people's attention and although I am clumsy when I write - I know this is something worth investing into, so here is me trying be clearer...

We live in a society that is supposed to thrive on diversity and equal opportunities, but this something we are not afforded. We are shamed by both genders, told by media we are lesser specimens and this causes a lifetime of internal hurt. I know the weight of this burden will always be with me and all of you, but we don't need to carry it alone. If you feel more comfortable with the privacy of never meeting that's fine, I still want to be your friend and for those that do want to meet - I think we should at least try.

Speak soon.

Paul

 

 

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That was spooky :) I hope you have all had a good week, mine has been abit shite with work and some SP comments which I didn't appreciate.

What didn't help was I have been trying to locate old family photos to see how everyone has changed, although I am only 30 I look at the college pictures and it just seems like forever ago. There was one where I was standing apart from the study group and I think I just felt a complete sense of not belonging there. 

I have spoken to a few people by phone which has been good - if anyone wants to talk this Sunday please PM me and we can figure out a time. 

Take care brothers.

 

 

 

 

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