Popular Post Cece.dedesl Posted March 21, 2013 Popular Post Report Share Posted March 21, 2013 My dad was recently diagnosed with Advanced Prostate Cancer. Complete shock... My dad is in better shape at 65 than I am. He isn't the best communicator. I'm trying to get a grasp on the emotional effects for a vibrant man going thru radiation and hormone therapy. (He refused surgery). Anyone here been thru this personally or had experience with a loved one going thru this? Just looking for some insight on the emotional side. I've read all the medical stuff. Worried about his mental state at this point. Thanks ClaklySek, jorrissicky, nesthetawoony and 47 others 50 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lana73 Posted March 21, 2013 Report Share Posted March 21, 2013 Hi Cece d,I am so sorry about your dad. I lived with someone who had cancer and went through radiation and chemotherapy. It was very tough for everyone. I think that if your dad is a fighter ( which sounds like he is), the whole process would probably feel like a bump on a road. Chemotherapy can be very exhausting though. Just be there for him. I don't know how far you guys live from each other, but maybe spending some quality time between treatments would be very uplifting for him.I hope he gets well soon.Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted March 21, 2013 Report Share Posted March 21, 2013 I’m sorry that your father is ill, Cece. My mom had cancer too and was also very guarded with her feelings. I agree with Lana to be there for him as much as you are able to. Ask him what he needs and if you can help. I would also suggest expressing your appreciation and love for him. I never did that with my mom and I still deeply regret it. It’s also important to be mindful of your needs during this. Reach out and ask for support from friends and family. Hopefully you can lean on each other through this.I wish your father wellness and healing.Take care, Cece. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cece.dedesl Posted March 21, 2013 Author Report Share Posted March 21, 2013 Thanks guys... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cece.dedesl Posted April 18, 2013 Author Report Share Posted April 18, 2013 4 weeks into therapy and I call every week. He calls me back when he's knows I'm working and won't return my calls when I'm able to talk. I feel like I am being excluded. I am beyond hurt, this experience has made me realize just how removed I am from my dad's life. I guess I kinda knew it but this reinforces it. I left my dad at 15 and moved in with my mom. We haven't been close since. I guess advanced cancer can't even change it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted April 18, 2013 Report Share Posted April 18, 2013 That sounds very painful, Cece. I'm sorry you feel like you are being excluded. You are offering your support to him, and doing what you can. Do you have family and friends there to support you? I hope so. Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smallstar Posted June 12, 2013 Report Share Posted June 12, 2013 Be glad you can't see it , it's a horrible experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 12, 2013 Report Share Posted July 12, 2013 Make it a point to go see him... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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