rachel Posted April 8, 2014 Report Share Posted April 8, 2014 Hi I came here to seek help for a problem that is plaguing me for two years. I love a girl (my best friend) two years ago, and she knows. But she does not feel the same for me, she loves me but only as a friend. I understand it, but I can not stand to live like this. I know I can not live If I see her dating someone. She is a lovely girl, and I know many boys want her. And it drives me crazy. I do not want to suffer anymore, it makes me sick. But if I "abandon" her, any idiot who approach her, she will end up creating links. What do I do? Bispemisoff and Drersoriovami 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted April 9, 2014 Report Share Posted April 9, 2014 I'm sorry this situation is bringing up painful feelings for you, Rachel. If your friend does not share your feelings, there really isn't anything you can do to change how she feels. I understand this can be difficult to cope with and it hurts. We can only control our part of any relationship. If it feels too painful for you to continue a platonic friendship with her, maybe it would be best to let her go and focus on your needs? How can you take care of yourself through this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel Posted April 9, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 9, 2014 Yesterday, I let her go, but I don't know if I made the right thing. I only know that my heart is totally broken I had a beautiful dream with her last night, and when I woke up and saw that was just a dream, the pain I felt it's the most horrible thing I have ever felt in my life. I still am feeling this pain. I want to die, but can't do this. I'm such a fool. My life is gone with her. "maybe it would be best to let her go and focus on your needs?" And if she is all I need? I don't have anyone, she was the only one. I don't care for anything in this world, only her. What do I do now? I can't live with this pain ((((((((((( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted April 10, 2014 Report Share Posted April 10, 2014 I'm sorry you're hurting so much. I struggle a lot myself with loss. I hear you that this is painful and difficult.I don't care for anything in this world, only her. What do I do now? I can't live with this painCan you care for yourself? Are you able to see the good things your friendship brought out in you? I understand that it may feel unbearable at this point in time. Grieving can be a very bumpy road. It's okay to allow all of your feelings. Be very gentle with yourself, if you can, and keep expressing yourself, if it helps. Sending care to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
everyonematters Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 Dear Rachel....how are you doing? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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