Guest Generic Posted October 4, 2015 Report Share Posted October 4, 2015 An article from Psychology Today that focuses on becoming the changw you want to be. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/extreme-fear/201303/how-real-life-change-happens Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted October 4, 2015 Report Share Posted October 4, 2015 Interesting. Seems like sound advice to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 You know what my best advice to anyone would be? Find what works for YOU. What works for you may not be what works for me. For example I know a lot of guys get motivated by a lot of Rah-rah stuff but that absolutely does not work for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mts Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 I wonder if part of the "physic vampires" (that we all encountered) ability to process fear differently and more easily is due to their ability to act so well as to believe their own performance.It's something I've witnessed time and time again. Their effortless character assimilation; or the brash self-assurance; both loud and unconcerned for normal social ettiquite.Sometimes I wonder if there is something to be learned from this; and as the article mentioned "acting", but wouldn't actors all be confident in this case? Or perhaps the ones who aren't just didn't apply it to their lives.I notice in society often people appear to be acting. TooOld4This 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 I notice in society often people appear to be acting.skynight will certainly love this statement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mts Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 Aren't we all actors, just copies of various personalities of others, shaped differently by our temperament and beliefs... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 Aren't we all actors, just copies of various personalities of others, shaped differently by our temperament and beliefs...there seems to be some sort of contradiction there, mts. "copies" can't be "shaped differently" than the original(s).i don't believe that anyone is a copy of anyone else, in the least bit. some people do imitate others, however, but they're still very different than those whom they mimic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TooOld4This Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 I think i agree with what mts posted, and it's kind of depressing.I never really got to the point of accepting myself or being confident; what i eventually did was, i became better at concealing my self-hatred and better at looking like i was confident. I became better at being a phony.I think it's a testament to how messed-up our culture is; that a cheerful fake façade is respected more than honest vulnerability. mts 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 this, i agree with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mts Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 I didn't mean to say we are the same as any other one person; but that our personality is made up of other people. I think we copy others, whether consciously or not, and are the unique mix of our genes, learned behaviours from others, and temperament and beliefs, which reorder our expression. I mean to say that every action and expression is a combination of many different influences, copied - and expanded or limited, and that's what I meant by shaped. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 it is impossible for anyone to have completely unique habits or behavior. it's a sociological inevitability that there be similarities, specially over time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mts Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 I guess my perspective comes from not ever knowing who I was. Still don't.Sorry to take this so far off topic. I enjoyed the article, CD. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 I guess my perspective comes from not ever knowing who I was. Still don't.i don't know who/what the hell i'm supposed to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Generic Posted October 5, 2015 Report Share Posted October 5, 2015 I dont think normal people put too much thought into their personalities, really. And if they ever take the time to think about it, dubito, ergo cogito, ergo sum.Or whatever... lol! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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