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  1. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    "It's big enough to be on your mind" would be my response.
  2. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    And just to expand on this a tiny bit - it's not our fault. It's important to realize that life is often hard and that is completely independent of anything we have done. There is only so much we can even impact much less control.
  3. 3 points
    Klingpeach

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    It’s little joys like that I live for. Usually once a month I buy a large pizza on Friday night with breadsticks, salad full works and a dr. Pepper and then watch a movie. It’s a welcome indulgence
  4. 3 points
    One the way home from work yesterday I was so tired and in need of some boost that I stopped at the local bakery and bought a pig-out box! Eclair, brownie, cream puff. It was delicious 😋
  5. 3 points
    When faced w life's difficulties I have found that the only things that help at all are: 1) getting rest and generally taking care of myself 2) what I call "higher level thinking" meaning not being emotional but rather being analytical and taking concentrated look at the facts and the options clustered around those facts and 3) just plain old hard motherfucking work. Sorry to be blunt but nothing else expresses it the way I want. It will get there. It takes what it takes but it will get there. Talking about the house and the financial situation mostly, along w life in general.
  6. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry you're feeling so down, Obsolete. 🙁This life thing can be challenging, I hear you. I don't have any simple answers, but I am here listening and I care. Depression can make everything feel dark and not possible. I think one of the points of therapy is to have a safe space to openly share feelings. True that therapy isn't for everyone, though. I think we each need to find what works best or helps us most, however that looks for each individual. It's good that you reached out here. I hope that expressing yourself helps. Take care of you.
  7. 3 points
    malign

    A Year Gap

    I think this is the longest gap there's ever been in this blog, which has been running since 2008. I guess nothing too surprising happened this past year: classes go on; it will soon be time for practicum, where the rubber meets the ... forehead of the client; I went back to work for the big-box grocery-slash-everything chain I worked for before ... All the usual anniversaries went by: my hospitalization, my ex filing a restraining order that began the end of our marriage, and so on, but they didn't carry very much weight this time. More prominent was the two year anniversary of my second marriage, which is much happier. I continue to make progress in my own therapy. And that might be part of the reason for the gap: I would like to postpone writing until I'm "done", whatever that means, until I think I can sound smart describing the humbling process of coming to terms with coping "skills" that I would rather change. What I found, mostly, is that my childhood was, in fact, kind of difficult, despite everyone involved doing their best and no major evil. My folks just had too much on their hands, having two baby boys in their 40's. As the first child, I did my best to relieve them of some of the burden, which simply isn't a child's job ... It made it very confusing about what I'm allowed to do, what I'm allowed to want, who I'm allowed to be. The limits seemed a good idea at the time. Now I have to reconcile the part that resents all that I thought I should give up with the part that thought that giving those things up was a good idea. And I do mean reconcile; there's a desire to "replace" the old manager part, but all that does is change which part is exiled. I have to find an argument to which they'll both agree for why they're stronger and better together. So. Still here, still reading, still hoping that people benefit. See y'all around.
  8. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Sunday morning, after breakfast and having tea and just relaxing a tiny bit before getting to some chores and thought I would post. Having some chronic difficulties w this house that I don't even want to go into. These APPs like Home Advisor, Thumbtack, etc are a joke. Most of the repairman are far away and none call you back. Get better results out of the Yellow Pages! Anyway times like this I remind myself that there are people fighting stage 4 brain, lung, breast, and colon cancer along w any number of other painful, chronic, life-threatening diseases and those folks would give anything to have home repairs be their biggest problem. It's the only thing that gives me perspective & peace. All we can do is our best and take one thing at a time. Hope everyone is doing well or at least reasonablely well.
  9. 3 points
    Small

    My so called life

    Hi @retr0john I'm glad I saw this post, i very nearly missed it. All things considered i am doing okay. I've had a lot of ups & downs recently but have mostly been focusing on work. I've managed to find myself in a position where i do most from home & only got to the office for meetings, and that suits me just fine. I just got home from my sister's house where i spent the afternoon with my niece. We hung out, talked, debated & she put some fish & chips in the oven. I've been teaching my nephew a little more boxing. He's 8 years old - not completely coordinated yet but he's a big boy. Looks like he could have a heavyweight type build! So far he manages to stay in his stance with decent technique. He hits like a mule too. It's mittwork so far with very light sparring. (I don't hit him - he gets to beat me up & practices defending the occasional shot) I'm glad you're getting back in shape again! Were you terribly out of shape? Do you set KM targets or are you walking more casually? I haven't walked regularly since last summer & I'm hoping to get that going in the spring! I rollerskate too and that is a better workout than it looks What are you planning to do at the gym? I'm happy to see you had the kids over & got to cook again. I've been rooting for you these past few months & it's good news. Do you have any more plans to get together with them? And have you got the appetite back to cook again? I don't cook myself so I appreciate a well prepared meal. I mostly boil rice & make a veg & meat stir fry for both lunch & dinner. For breakfast it's toast & scrambled eggs. (No drinking raw eggs for me) Thanks for posting John. I'm happy to hear from you & hope you keep seeing positive developments.
  10. 2 points
    Do it the way people did it before there was such a thing as the internet and dating apps. The problem is people all want to date above them. Guys all want to date the prettiest, slimmest girls and women want the cute, athletic guys. The hardest thing to do when looking for a mate is staying in your lane.
  11. 2 points
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry I don't have enough time these days, but I'd like to mention at least some things: There are as many women with relatively low intelligence as men, and it's improbable that they would seek a very intelligent man. So from the statistic point of view, intelligence shouldn't be a problem for finding a mate. Moreover, kindness is more important for a relationship - and much more precious for life in general... Sorry for mentioning Ricky Gervais's work again (it's only because I'm now in a "phase" when I watch many videos "with him", so it easily comes to my mind as a reference / example), but I also like this series as an explanation that kindness and friendliness are more important than intelligence, although it will never happen that everybody would agree (but intelligent people have "enemies", too!) : - BTW, also read some of the comments below the video - at least the first 3 (just below the description) I don't know what is your age (I'm curious but you don't have to mention it if you don't want to), but I suppose you should still have a chance to have a family: What do you think about finding a widow or a divorced woman with a child / children? Have you tried on-line dating sites (there you could search for women in such situations)...? Also, you mentioned not having friends. In my opinion, friends are more important than a partner / lover. And making new friends can be an important "intermediate step" between solitude and finding a partner. It necessitates efforts, but... so would both suffering in the status quo and planing a suicide - and the potential outcomes of the two kinds of efforts (living better / not changing or dying) would have such opposite values! Are there any opportunities to volunteer in the area where you live? That would be a great way to start, as it introduces you to new, kind, people as well as gives you a meaningful activity and shows you that you are able to be useful. In addition, you could (later?) try some other regular (free) activities where you could meet new people. BTW, it is very possible that your "academic" problems are mainly due to teaches that weren't competent enough to help you find your true abilities. It happens far too often. One nice example is Daniel Pennac, who'd been considered dumb and problematic by teachers but later was lucky and became a great teacher and writer - he resumes his views on schooling in this great book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12857101-school-blues?rating=2 I don't know if I "should" mention this , but I like this attitude. In general; why should one care about opinions of people who don't understand - and even don't try to understand...??? Even more if they are harsh, rude, make one's life even harder...!?! That's all from me for the moment. I hope very much that both of you will "stay with us" and gradually discover ways to feel much less miserable... Take care!
  12. 2 points
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    @Obsolete, I'm sorry you feel that way . You don't need to apologize. And I don't think nor feel I "wasted" my time or efforts. Even if you felt a bit better for a short time, it was worth it. Of course I'd love to see a big change in your perspective, for your sake, naturally, but I'm realistic... I also know sometimes (often?) just many small steps can lead to a significant change. Perhaps you're taking some of them now, by writing about your situation, feelings, and perspective and by reading our reactions; who knows? It is also possible that you "failed" according to criteria which don't truly matter. Perhaps your view of "success" is unnecessarily demanding. May I ask what have been your ambitions? Here is a text I'd recommend you (a depressive friend once mentioned the Kaizen way as it helps her a lot in her everyday life): https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/get-1-better-every-day-the-kaizen-way-to-self-improvement/ I would also recommend you to watch this Netflix series, but I know it's possible that you won't find access to it (at least so far - it will surely soon be available also elsewhere) : https://youtu.be/eIGGKSHMQOM You might at least read this review about it - perhaps it could feel at least a bit good reading about the topic (?): https://medium.com/@jennifersartorehulst/hope-is-everything-6b20d804ac17 Here is also something about it (the hero): It may be one of many alternatives to suicide - "just change your life / attitude as if it didn't matter anymore what others would think". It may be dangerous (if someone is / wants to be violent and this releases his aggressiveness), but in this case, it was only verbal "aggressiveness" / rudeness and it brought, eventually, an interesting lesson for the hero - he realized after some time how to use this new "superpower" in a rather positive way; not hurting "good people". Anyway, back to your post: From the way you've been expressing yourself here, it's obvious you are definitely not an idiot, and you're not just superficial and uncritical. But I think I know how you probably feel - I am educated and people think I'm relatively intelligent, but I've seen myself as "idiotic" most of my life. So yes; it's a matter of perception. I realized the difference between my definition of "idiocy" and the definition others have, is that I think I'm too "stupid" to live "wisely" / "as I'd like to". It's probably similar for you (?). But people who actually are morons don't realize they are morons. BTW, you wrote: Yet, just then you wrote a relatively complicated post in good English and it doesn't give the impression of you having "struggled" to write it - it's well-written, easily readable, it explains well your points. Isn't at least that a reason not to trust your self-perception? So, the problem is that you think you should have / would need more intelligence and better capacity of critical thought. May I ask why you consider it so important for your wellbeing? What is it that you miss, in practice? It's very easy to find many articles about "intelligent / smart people being unhappy / miserable", so... I doubt it that it's very relevant to overall life satisfaction. (some examples: https://www.learning-mind.com/fail-to-be-happy-intelligent/, https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/why-are-smart-people-so-miserable.html, https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/04/why-so-many-smart-people-arent-happy/479832/) Yes, I can see that this may pose many problems to you . But confidence is also something one can slowly build, systematically increase. Can you tell what makes you "non-self-confident"? I don't know your age, but as your parents are still alive, you're obviously not "near natural death". But that's not even important. There are people who become happy just in their old age. I don't know if they are numerous, but I know some. Staying alive may be seen as giving yourself the chance to experience "better days". Sadly, it's 'normal' to hate one's life and oneself when one is depressed and / or in a difficult social and emotional situation. But what do emotions like love and hate tell us? When we love something, we want more of it or want it more often, when we hate something, we either want to avoid it or change it. Avoiding is easier, even in case of one's life / oneself . The loss of interest is probably due mainly to depression (which is most often treatable and can go to remission). And making new friends is a challenge that would bring a new aim in your life and then also new benefits. Even making new acquaintances can be good for you - and that wouldn't be so hard. For instance, is there an opportunity for volunteering where you live? If yes, then that could bring you some purposeful activity as well as new friends. BTW; you do have some kind of friends: Us here!! This is something many suicidal people erroneously assume! Loosing a family member by suicide is very traumatic! Even when your family is not supportive. They would very probably live in never-ending remorses and self-blame! It's sad that they only show you their disappointment , but it's surely not the only thing they feel about you. Some people are very bad at expressing positive emotions and appreciation, unfortunately. And some are even bad at noticing the good things in others (often until they loose them - then they suddenly realize...). I suspect that the attitude of your family towards you is not as much a result of "who you are / how you life", but rather one of the causes why you've been so miserable. It's very hard to build confidence and succeed without supporting parents (at least in childhood)... I see that it may appear weird to someone who doesn't know a lot about it. "Just talking" doesn't sound appealing to everyone. But good psychotherapy is much more than "just talking". It's creating a healing relationship with another human being; a non-judgemental, understanding, and accepting professional who doesn't want anything from you except for your collaboration on your common effort to make your life better (for a fee, of course). Many studies have shown that it's the relationship that heals / make the biggest difference. But it can't make sense to someone who hasn't experienced it, because you cannot just imagine it. What's wrong about "whiny little teenagers"??? The point of places like this is that you can vent here as you please / need. Don't judge yourself for expressing your emotions and describing your problems. You might as well need to "get it out" (to feel a bit better??). Sorry to pose so many questions, but... I believe that if you consider such a huge decision, you might as well take enough time to think about all the aspects and answer all the raising questions and 'objections'... Take care!
  13. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    @Obsolete take some off if you can. If not just clear the decks as much as possible. Some days just being alive is all the challenge we need. I seem to recall things got better for awhile, you were working out and stuff. Not sure what happened after that.
  14. 2 points
    jazz

    What's the point?

    I've read many of your supportive comments on this forum, now you really need the support yourself because this is how depression is, it makes someone feel awful and completely self critical. When I was depressed it was unbelievable how many negative thoughts revolved around my head, it's a misery prism.
  15. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Week starting 18th - 22nd

    Monday 18th Went out to buy a couple of DVDs and shopping Tuesday 19th Went out to buy cola and a few food Wednesday 20th Stayed in and watched few DVDs Thursday 21st Had probation and CR came back at 10pm Friday 22nd Stayed in and s rest today.
  16. 2 points
    retr0john

    My so called life

    Small, it's interesting you say your nephew stances right but is a left paw. My oldest boy is right handed in everything, but when he played baseball he batted left, and wore his glove on his right hand and threw with his left. I guess it's whatever they learn and are comfortable with. I helped with kids starting out boxing, but when I was helping out I certainly wasn't an advanced coach or anything, I was just helping kids with the basics. Yes, I own my own guns. I have two .45s, a 9mm, a .357, a .25 and a couple .22s to plink with. I also have three long guns and an antique .36 caliber black powder rifle. My boys own 2 or three guns apiece. I do shoot for pleasure, but I also take my practice time very seriously. I take professional class time refresher training at least once a year and practice often. I firmly believe if a person isn't going to take gun ownership seriously, they have no business owning or carrying a firearm. I used to hunt, and took the boys occasionally. Among the things I taught the kids was that they never shoot and kill anything that they're not going to eat, and never take more than you can eat. Don't waste anything. Hunting isn't for pleasure, it's for putting food on the table. Oh well, time to jump down off my soap box. I envy you having tried pasties before. I'm definitely going to make that the first thing new that I try to cook. No, the gym I'm looking at doesn't have any type of boxing set up. It's more of a modern weight training place with treadmills, not an old, comfortable sparring gym like Sarges in Louisville. Heck, Sarge probably isn't there anymore. Take care Small. P.S. Hi Victim. I seen you were reading along. I hope your cutting down on the beer is still going well. Take care too!
  17. 2 points
    retr0john

    My so called life

    Small, it was great to see you had responded! It's good to get grounded again. I suppose it time to pull my big boy pants back on. I'm glad to see you've got into a place with your company that you like and are comfortable with. I have to admit I smiled when I read that part of your post. We could not be more polar opposite when it comes to work. I always enjoyed the actual hands on physical aspect of my job, and absolutely hated meetings with a passion. The few times I had to have a meeting in carpetland I was already in a foul mood before I walked through the front door. I think they considered me anti-social, but I got the job done so they put up with me. Different strokes for different folks. So you're teaching your nephew to box? Great! It sounds like it's going well with him! Maybe, if you're so inclined and have free time you might consider volunteering some time at a YMCA or P.A.A.L. to coach and mentor other kids? It sounds like you're a natural teacher. Just something to think about. I've started walking again. I used to take long walks, but not really for exercise. Just sharing time. I had the jump rope and training bag for cardio. Now I'm picking up the pace and getting my heart rate up. All of the kids kicked in and bought me a nice smart watch that 'talks' with my phone. The watch measures my heart rate and half a dozen other things. I think they worry a little about me over doing it. I really don't walk for distance, but I walk for a set amount of time, keeping my speed and steps up. Yeah, it's amazing how out of shape and how many pounds you gain in a years time. I'm eating better, more salads and less fast food. I'm living about 40 miles north of the old house. I'm still out in the country. It makes for pleasant walking. A nice couple bought the old place. I'm glad someone has it that can appreciate it, but I'll never go back. The kids and I do have one more thing planned. There's an indoor shooting range in Indianapolis. The boys are both proficient with guns, know how to handle them and be safe. A couple years ago I'd been bugging my daughter to at least learn about them, especially the safety aspects. Now that she's a teacher and on the job she's agreed to go to at least one hour of range time and learn how to check if a firearms loaded, how to safely unload and disable one and actually pick one up and shoot it. She has absolutely no interest in owning a gun and has never touched one. That's fine, but I want her to know safe handling and unloading so she can neutralize one she's come across. I haven't cooked something different or interesting for a long time. Chili, cheesy potato or bean soup, cornbread doesn't count. I could do those in my sleep. I watch too much TV. I was watching a travel show. The feller on it was hiking in England. (Lord, there's a lot of beautiful country side and sights there!) Anyway, he stopped at a small shop and bought a Pastie. It looked like a pie crust folded over with some kind of a super thick beef stew inside. Small chunks of meat with lots of veggies and a real thick gravy in a thick bread type crust. I was drooling. These were just sitting out on a shelf. The young lady in the shop wrapped it in a piece of wax paper where she said it would be fine until lunch. It looked delicious. Something like a beef potpie in a folded over crust. I'm intrigued, and I'm going to find a recipe and try to make one (or two or more). I like stir fry. It's hard to justify making a multi item, complex meal for just one, isn't it? I'll humbly make a confession, I love chicken flavored Ramen! I keep a case of 12 packs down in a cupboard and break one out for lunch. I know I'm not a starving collage student but I eat it because I really like it, not because I have to. Small, I hope your life stays on a track that you like. Sometimes easy and placid is refreshing vrs. having a crisis thrown at you every waking moment. Springs coming. I can't wait to just walk and enjoy watching the farmers planting and the flowers bloom. Take care!
  18. 2 points
    retr0john

    My so called life

    Hi Small. I hope you are doing well and in a good place in your life right now. I'm walking again, trying to get back into shape and thinking I might join a local gym this spring. You'd asked me in a different thread if I had cooked anything lately. I finally had all three kids over for just a family evening. It's been well over a year since I've seen them in a lighter social setting. I made a stock pot full of chili, and a big pan of scratch made cornbread. It must have hit the spot, there wasn't any leftovers for lunch the next day. We enjoyed a fire outside. I was just a bit wistful, but it was nice to have the kids all together in a lighter atmosphere. I hope everyone's doing well here. I think about all here I've grown to know and think well of you.
  19. 2 points
    IrmaJean

    Ranting on about women

    I think that people have different needs and wants and different feelings about relationships and attraction. I had a conversation with someone recently about how baffling it is to me that some people can find another person attractive at first glance. It doesn't work that way for me? I need to spend time with that person, get to know and recognize them and then they may, little by little, become more attractive to me. They were equally baffled by my experience as I was by theirs. I think we can learn from one another through open conversion and supportive listening.
  20. 2 points
    John's Know

    Ranting on about women

    I've always wondered what it is that separates the women that will accept a man who has a small penis and will love him and date him and even marry him from the women that want nothing to do with them. What is the personality trait that differentiates the two groups?
  21. 2 points
    lbaker

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    I did it through the small penis support site measurection.com and some other internet groups that have disappeared. However, there aren't any women there any longer. Trying to help guys with small dicks or guys who think they have small dicks is pretty discouraging for women because we are resistant to change. Most women can stand the effort to help only a short time before throwing-up their hands. Also, a lot of small dick and sps sufferers would call the women liars when they said they could get off on a small penis as well as large. I immediately learned not to accuse them of lying so I could get close and learn a lot about their experiences. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that most of us small dick guys are naturally NOT AS MASCULINE and aggressive as we would need to be to cope with the handicap of a small dick. Duh! big dick guys are likely to be the ones more masculine and more aggressive by nature. The women would always bring-up some small dick guy they ran into that was very aggressive and how much fun they had with him. Ultimately, they were saying "why can't you be like him?" Most of the time a small dick correlates to lower masculinity. I know it does with me. I couldn't assert myself worth a dang in school, work, or in the peer group unless I was drinking. Why would I think I could do it in sex either?
  22. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Week after bday

    1st March my birthday had a relaxing day. Brought new Halloween, Detroit Monday went out and brought two DVDS Molly's game and clue Tuesday went out to buy some cola Wednesday stayed in and tidyed up Thursday went to probation and CR Today stayed in and having a rest
  23. 2 points
    jazz

    Week after bday

    Your birthday is St. David's Day, perfect for a Dave ☺️
  24. 1 point
    I think you are correct!
  25. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Quiz 1 answers

    Final quiz jazz you got 8/10 In total you got 28/40 1. Charlie And the chocolate factory 5. Dallas buyers club
  26. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Quiz 1 answers

    Quiz 3 answers 4/10 1. Curse of la lorano 2. Bedazzled 3. Lost in apace 4. Jennifer aniston 5. Shrek 8. Conspiracy theory
  27. 1 point
    jazz

    Good Friday and easter Monday

    Yippee 🙂 Another chance for some v random guesses
  28. 1 point
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    How have you been doing, @Obsolete? I hope we'll hear from you soon...
  29. 1 point
    Daveuk

    April and easter month

    Monday went for a drink of tea at first stop Tuesday went for another tea and signed on at 16:15PM Wednesday stayed in and tidy up Thursday went to probation had new probation officer and CR meeting Friday had a tea and put money on gas and electric and brought shopping.
  30. 1 point
    John's Know

    You said " The comments are just wonderful to read. " which I'm sure you sarcastically meant the comments were bad but I only see 11 comments and most were just pointing out the guy was an asshole for stabbing his fiance. As much as I agree that ridiculing a man for his small penis is reprehensible, killing someone over it is a bit extreme. So I see no problem with the comments. The one comment from a woman saying something about "the frail male ego" was the only one I had a problem with but women pull that shit all the time whether it's about penis size or any other time men have a genuine grievance. Many women believe they are the only ones that can play the victim card. If there are other comments I didn't see then maybe you can point them out to me. You said something in your second post about the article being linked to Infowars but you provided no link to that and I'd rather not have to go to Infowars to find it. I can only be subjected to so much stupid as I have a low tolerance for it.
  31. 1 point
    Of course you don't deserve any shaming. It's the same as with all people who are different in a "not cool" (/ not appreciated by the majority) way. Do disabled deserve to be shamed or bullied, for instance? People who shame or bully others are just idiots and / or need some psychological help themselves to get over their own issues which make them behave like jerks...
  32. 1 point
    Don't go for a girl friend. Define yourself as wanting marriage and children and having interests compatible with home life and family man. With luck you might find a woman tired of the sex game, or never in it for some reason, and ready to settle down and settle for you. This is just a hypothesis. Basically, that is how it was when I married though dating apps were not the rage then.
  33. 1 point
    Daveuk

    This week near end of month

    Monday went out to buy two colas Tuesday Signed on at 11:30am Wednesday stayed in and day to myself Thursday safe guarding at 11:00am and CR at 7pm Friday Probation at 9:30am and then had tea at firststop and got money and shopping at 11am
  34. 1 point
    Obsolete

    What's the point?

    More than anything I wanted to be a father and husband. That dream began at a very early age. Career wise I was never really clear on what I wanted. All I knew was I wanted a small family and do whatever it took to maintain a happy home. That dream is all but dead now. I guess intelligence is just one of those things that are better to have than not. It's no fun walking around feeling like an idiot and it makes for better job and mate prospects. I noticed at a very early age that women place high value on intelligence when it comes to choosing a long term mate. I was aware even then that I was not particularly very bright compared to my peers. I struggled academically and socially so I began distancing myself with the idea that I would work on my intelligence, and once comfortable with my cognitive abilities, return to mingle again. I never got to the point of being comfortable with my thinking abilities and so over time I've concluded that I'm simply not suitable for a mate. I don't want to burden anyone with my foolishness. What woman wants a dumb man to marry and start a family with, and what child would be proud to have a dull father? It's best and fair that I remove myself from the mating game. •Lack of intelligence. •Lack of education. •No charm. •Small penis and I'm a short man. I really appreciate that. It's ok. I don't mind the questions. It's just that you're so kind and positive I wish I had better/more positive responses. I appreciate your efforts.
  35. 1 point
    Small

    My so called life

    @retr0john Slight elaboration on his boxing - When we first started he had a mean right hook, for some reason he was able to get his bodyweight behind it right off the bat and we have since developed it. At that stage he wasn't able to hold his stance even on the pads - and ended up standing square on and crossing his feet etc. Over the last year I have got him to work on his stance and technique a little. Once he got that down, I noticed that his straight improved considerably! He is actually a lefty so should be in southpaw - but he is more comfortable in the orthodox stance so we do it that way. His speed isn't the best - and he is still learning to be coordinated. I suppose the latter just comes with practice. He's just recently started to get comfortable with punches coming back at him without going into a shell. It isn't pleasant to take full on shots from him now his technique is better. They HURT! In our last sparring session I actually had to tell him to go easy on that.I just put up a guard, stand in range and roll with the punches best I can. I wouldn't mind stepping into a boxing ring again and sparring so long as it is light work. Anyway - enjoy your sunday.
  36. 1 point
    smallguy

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    I'm having a hard time grasping the nature of gammas according to the video. Maybe because the concept strikes too close to home! Omegas seem to be similar to or share chacteristics with what others have called INCELS: involuntary celibates. Interesting the Vox Day (the video maker) or whatever his name is doesn't speak explicitly about penis size, but his alpha cartoon and some movie outtakes, slyly refer to penis size. Also, he doesn't seem to yet delve into how some alphas are good and responsible while others are evil and exploitive.
  37. 1 point
    smallguy

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    Correct! I wasn't offended by the Hitler reference though it is silly.
  38. 1 point
    divorced

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    I suppose some of the women are a bit disappointed if they are used to large, but they like the status of being with an alpha! Penis size is not the definition of an alpha. I'm very impressed with those videos also.
  39. 1 point
    lbaker

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    Wow! I'm going to have to watch the whole series of videos! I Don't really know yet, but the author seems to see little room for women in these male hierarchies he identifies! I find myself nodding yes at every point.
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    divorced

    Ranting on about women

    I understand since English isn't your first language that you must have misinterpreted what I said. I don't blame you for disliking women who enjoy putting men down about their penises. It is very shameful behavior regardless if it stems from being abused by men or just sadism! I dislike women like that myself. I would like to hear why you are so sure you are "being dumped all the time due to a small penis." How do you know it's not in your mind? I never thought of my husband, for instance, as being on the small side. I've had good sex with obvious small guys, but he compulsively misinterprets good sex between us in a negative way. He thinks I secretly hunger for a big penis like I've admitted I've had in the past. I'd like to hear some details of your experiences. Feel free to private post to me if you would feel more comfortable. I've been leary of posting anything specific about my husband because I fear he might come to this forum! I'm actually here because my current husband has small penis syndrome. He hid it from me with bravado for years before and after marriage! There were signs, but I guess I was too anxious to avoid the stereotypical male characteristics so I let everything pass. I planned to start a thread about it to see what people think I should do about my husband. So far, I am just trying to read some of the threads to get an idea of what small penis syndrome is all about.
  41. 1 point
    divorced

    Ranting on about women

    We can only be knowledgeable about some of the women we happen to know!
  42. 1 point
    divorced

    How bad is a 4.7 penis?

    Believe it or not my focus has always been having sex with the guy, not his penis. I've certainly never measured any. I've been to bed with guys who would only stick out an inch from my hand I guess, 4 to 4.5" I remember thinking some were great guys and others jerks. Exactly how good the sex was, I don't really recall in most cases. That wasn't my main interest. I was looking for a mate. Only seldom with any guy would I have what is called a "big O", but I always had multiple clitoral orgasms unless the guy was a jerk or orgasmed way too soon. I'm sure I was hot and orgasmic with some of the smaller guys. I do remember one guy who had a short penis insisting on pushing my legs way back over my head so he could "get deep." I definitely had a major orgasm as a result. Unfortunately, he was one of the ones that turned-out to be a jerk. A kiss and tell type I mentioned before in another thread. I was really hurt when guys who I'd been intimate with and thought I had got close to talked about me to others as a whore and slut, laughing and bragging about what "they got me to do."
  43. 1 point
    Obsolete

    “Finally, A New Emoji...”

    Good to see you gentlemen and ladies still looking out for each other. Hope you're all doing well. Kling, take care of yourself mate.
  44. 1 point
    That is the most ridiculous BS I've ever seen. We're supposed to believe that average size in Denmark is almost 8 inches? Of course it is LOL. The fact that the average Danish penis is 7.6" on the first graph and only 6.26" on the second tells you all you need to know.
  45. 1 point
    LaLa

    Ranting on about women

    So you'd want me to read minds of people I don't know, instead???
  46. 1 point
    So I just posted this into the new forum section but I feel that it should be here... So I’m 31 years old and recently got married. I had been happily married for 7 months now and apart from financial struggles and my issue we are really happy with each other. My problem is that I keep thinking about how unhappy I’m about his penies’ size. I mean I knew it and really thought I could deal with it and adjust like I have, but I keep having dreams about exes or just wishing it was what I really like. He is great in bed, a very pleasant lover and in fact the second man that I can actually orgasm with. I feel ashamed to even feel this way because he is been a blessing to me. He is aware to some sort that he wasn’t my type and that I prefer a larger size but he was willing to show me he was enough and indeed he has but I still feel that I missed what I used to like. He even bought toys and things to try to please me. He tried an extender but I felt uncomfortable because I felt as if I was having sex with someone else. Just to give you a little more info. I was exposed to porn at an very early age so that set the bar kind of high for me, and since i started experimenting with sex I always prefer thick and 7-8 inches, 6 was tops for me in terms of how low i was willing to go. At some point when I wasn’t this mature it was a total deal breaker for me. I’m a big and thick girl and having a man with a big size was just like common sense to me. But once things got serious I decided to choose happiness and love over looks and size. That’s how I convinced myself. I felt guilty letting him go just for his size. In fact I did broke up with him about 3 times for the same issue but we will go back and try again and things would get easier. My husbands hides inside of him completely when Is not erected, which freaks me out, and with an erection is 3 - 4 tops in good days. It’s not thick but not thin either is fine. What would be your advise? Should I seek profesional help? Thanks for your time.
  47. 1 point
    lbaker

    Adult Imaginary Friend

    I would tend to think the Psychic has done you a terrible disservice. Ben is a part of you and performs OR TRYS TO PERFORM a function that the rest of you cannot perform or has difficulty performing. In my opinion, you should think about and try doing for yourself some of the things Ben does or suggests, but in a more reasonable well thought-out manner. For instance, perhaps you don't standup for yourself as well as you should. Maybe you could start by speaking-up for yourself more. You can take Ben's advice, but insist that you take the intent of the advice with necessary alterations for safety and reasonableness. Feel free to accept Ben's help, but argue for more prudent actions. Insist that Ben be more patient. See what he says in response to your criticism. Ben is part of you, so you don't have to worry about losing him. He might merge better into you so he becomes a line of thought instead of being so dramatically "a person." We all have discussions with ourselves and parts of ourselves. I used to have a terrible internal critic, though I didn't think it was a person. Finally, I became aware I was repeating unfair criticisms from my mother and so, argued for more reasonable criticism. Having sex with him could be intense, but how could it be anything but masturbation? Unless I'm missing something, wouldn't Ben be a considerate lover? Why would the psychic suggest he wants to rape you? Seems like the psychic was planting fear in you. Disreputable thing to do. Ben, even if too emotional, is trying, I gather, to help. Ben, might be what the psychiatrist Jung called the animus. He might be your archetype of what a man should be. According to Jung women have a "male" animus and men have a female "anima" inside them. Power works both ways in sex / possession works both ways. For some reason, probably traumatic life difficulties, your animus perhaps has become more conscious than usual. Try talking to him like he is part of you. See if you can insist that he be more reasonable and stop getting you in trouble. Agree with and try to implement his valid criticisms, but insist he be more careful, considerate and reasonable. Argue stongly for yourself against Ben if he goes beyond trying to help you toward condemnation or suggesting you hurt yourself. Insist that he be your friend. You have a lot of power over him. You might try instructing Ben on how to help you when you start to have anxiety attacks. You might point-out to him that upping his criticisms during an anxiety provoking situation makes things worse. Ask him to help you handle situations instead of criticizing. Maybe he can help you remember what to do in difficult situations. If he can't help tell him he needs to be quiet! It is unfair and an over-reaction if Ben said you were raped because you were a slut. Perhaps you should be more careful in judging people before being alone with them, but that is just an estimate. Clever, cunning criminals might fool anyone.
  48. 1 point
    The surgeries I've seen turn your penis into ground meat or they cause ED if not more serious problems. There is no surgery on the market, today, that will correct a small penis safely. I've often wondered why this is the case since they seem to be able to fix everything else with plastic surgery but for whatever reason it is not currently possible with a penis. I oppose any surgery this risky with questionable benefits at best.
  49. 1 point
    Resolute

    females views etc (Trigger Warning!)

    @LouisZ next time just ask her and her friends: "how do saggy old chicks like you have the balls to wear bathing suits in public?".
  50. 1 point
    Thanks Mark, here is some more material which I am currently reading through and found it very simple to read and really useful - http://gladeanamcmahon.com/freeresources.shtml Mark, I shall surely go through your self-help material as well. Thank You
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