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  1. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    "It's big enough to be on your mind" would be my response.
  2. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    And just to expand on this a tiny bit - it's not our fault. It's important to realize that life is often hard and that is completely independent of anything we have done. There is only so much we can even impact much less control.
  3. 3 points
    Alex Allman is a sex and relationship expert. He has thousands of regular male and female readers and is very well-respected in his field. He has written books, regular newsletters, and made many videos on these subjects. Alex is very honest and is dedicated to delivering the truth to everyone. A few years ago, he conducted a massive survey study on women's thoughts and attitudes towards penis size. He wanted to know whether size really matters to women and how much. This is the best, most accurate, conclusive, definitive, survey that has ever been done on this subject. Alex has the best data you just can't find anywhere else. What makes this so? First, over 2,000 women were surveyed. Nobody else has ever used such a large sample size. Second, he didn't just ask a yes or no as to whether or not size matters. He asked many specific, thorough, in-depth questions that no other survey has ever done before. I would encourage all men that have some penis size insecurities and all women that are curious about this very sensitive topic to please watch Alex Allman's excellent presentation video of the results of his excellent researched survey. I will provide the link below. It's about 9 minutes long. In the meantime, I will reveal many of the highlights: Does penis size matter? 65% of the women answered yes. Only 5% of the women that answered yes said it was a critical factor. The rest said it didn't matter at all. 20% of the women said some time in the past they had broken up with a man because his penis was too small. 17% of the women said some time in the past they had broken up with a man because his penis was too big. From the 65% of the women that said yes to penis size mattering, Alex wanted to know how important penis size was to them when compared to other personality and physical traits. He listed a total of 15 different factors and asked those women to rank them in order of importance. The results were that penis size came in dead last and was the least important to women when compared to all other factors/attributes. 60% of the women said too small was anything under 4 inches while 10% said it didn't matter at all. 50% of the women said anything over 8 inches was too big while 15% said it didn't matter at all. Only 2% of the women said there is no such thing as too big. The most popular penis size preference for women is 6 inches. The majority of the women said width is more important than length. Half of the women said good oral and finger skills can make up for a small penis. 80% of the women said they don't care what a man's penis looks like when it's flaccid (soft). 95% of the women said that hardness of the penis is more important than any particular size. 90% of the women said that a man lasting longer is more important than any particular size. To find out more, here is the link: https://www.revolutionarysex.com/the-motion-in-the-ocean-women-tell-the-truth-about-penis-size
  4. 3 points
    Hi Beth. I'm ok. Dealing w some house issues and I know you know about that. Just taking one day at a time and doing my best. I guess what I have learned is that unless you are multi-millionaire rich life is endless endless problems and if you are going to let that get in the way of your enjoyment you might as well do yourself and everyone else a favor and go live in a monastery or something.
  5. 3 points
    Klingsor

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    It’s little joys like that I live for. Usually once a month I buy a large pizza on Friday night with breadsticks, salad full works and a dr. Pepper and then watch a movie. It’s a welcome indulgence
  6. 3 points
    One the way home from work yesterday I was so tired and in need of some boost that I stopped at the local bakery and bought a pig-out box! Eclair, brownie, cream puff. It was delicious 😋
  7. 3 points
    When faced w life's difficulties I have found that the only things that help at all are: 1) getting rest and generally taking care of myself 2) what I call "higher level thinking" meaning not being emotional but rather being analytical and taking concentrated look at the facts and the options clustered around those facts and 3) just plain old hard motherfucking work. Sorry to be blunt but nothing else expresses it the way I want. It will get there. It takes what it takes but it will get there. Talking about the house and the financial situation mostly, along w life in general.
  8. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry you're feeling so down, Obsolete. 🙁This life thing can be challenging, I hear you. I don't have any simple answers, but I am here listening and I care. Depression can make everything feel dark and not possible. I think one of the points of therapy is to have a safe space to openly share feelings. True that therapy isn't for everyone, though. I think we each need to find what works best or helps us most, however that looks for each individual. It's good that you reached out here. I hope that expressing yourself helps. Take care of you.
  9. 3 points
    malign

    A Year Gap

    I think this is the longest gap there's ever been in this blog, which has been running since 2008. I guess nothing too surprising happened this past year: classes go on; it will soon be time for practicum, where the rubber meets the ... forehead of the client; I went back to work for the big-box grocery-slash-everything chain I worked for before ... All the usual anniversaries went by: my hospitalization, my ex filing a restraining order that began the end of our marriage, and so on, but they didn't carry very much weight this time. More prominent was the two year anniversary of my second marriage, which is much happier. I continue to make progress in my own therapy. And that might be part of the reason for the gap: I would like to postpone writing until I'm "done", whatever that means, until I think I can sound smart describing the humbling process of coming to terms with coping "skills" that I would rather change. What I found, mostly, is that my childhood was, in fact, kind of difficult, despite everyone involved doing their best and no major evil. My folks just had too much on their hands, having two baby boys in their 40's. As the first child, I did my best to relieve them of some of the burden, which simply isn't a child's job ... It made it very confusing about what I'm allowed to do, what I'm allowed to want, who I'm allowed to be. The limits seemed a good idea at the time. Now I have to reconcile the part that resents all that I thought I should give up with the part that thought that giving those things up was a good idea. And I do mean reconcile; there's a desire to "replace" the old manager part, but all that does is change which part is exiled. I have to find an argument to which they'll both agree for why they're stronger and better together. So. Still here, still reading, still hoping that people benefit. See y'all around.
  10. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Sunday morning, after breakfast and having tea and just relaxing a tiny bit before getting to some chores and thought I would post. Having some chronic difficulties w this house that I don't even want to go into. These APPs like Home Advisor, Thumbtack, etc are a joke. Most of the repairman are far away and none call you back. Get better results out of the Yellow Pages! Anyway times like this I remind myself that there are people fighting stage 4 brain, lung, breast, and colon cancer along w any number of other painful, chronic, life-threatening diseases and those folks would give anything to have home repairs be their biggest problem. It's the only thing that gives me perspective & peace. All we can do is our best and take one thing at a time. Hope everyone is doing well or at least reasonablely well.
  11. 3 points
    Small

    My so called life

    Hi @retr0john I'm glad I saw this post, i very nearly missed it. All things considered i am doing okay. I've had a lot of ups & downs recently but have mostly been focusing on work. I've managed to find myself in a position where i do most from home & only got to the office for meetings, and that suits me just fine. I just got home from my sister's house where i spent the afternoon with my niece. We hung out, talked, debated & she put some fish & chips in the oven. I've been teaching my nephew a little more boxing. He's 8 years old - not completely coordinated yet but he's a big boy. Looks like he could have a heavyweight type build! So far he manages to stay in his stance with decent technique. He hits like a mule too. It's mittwork so far with very light sparring. (I don't hit him - he gets to beat me up & practices defending the occasional shot) I'm glad you're getting back in shape again! Were you terribly out of shape? Do you set KM targets or are you walking more casually? I haven't walked regularly since last summer & I'm hoping to get that going in the spring! I rollerskate too and that is a better workout than it looks What are you planning to do at the gym? I'm happy to see you had the kids over & got to cook again. I've been rooting for you these past few months & it's good news. Do you have any more plans to get together with them? And have you got the appetite back to cook again? I don't cook myself so I appreciate a well prepared meal. I mostly boil rice & make a veg & meat stir fry for both lunch & dinner. For breakfast it's toast & scrambled eggs. (No drinking raw eggs for me) Thanks for posting John. I'm happy to hear from you & hope you keep seeing positive developments.
  12. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Dear uncle Vic

    There you go enjoy lol
  13. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Junes nearly over

    24th Monday - went out for bit shopping 25th Tuesday - went out for a tea and more shopping 26th Wednesday - stayed in for a rest 27th Thursday - went out for bit more shopping and life healing choices at 7:30pm 28th Friday - 9:30am probation
  14. 2 points
    jazz

    Sad Birthday

    Sound advice from Uncle Vic 😎 Just thought you could invite them to K Pop or English karaoke, your favourites, make sure they know they will have to pay their share - everyone would probably enjoy that and who knows, they may get the message 😃 The thing about groups is that there is a group mentality - everyone ends up going along even if some of them secretly can't stand Vietnamese karaoke, just to fit in with the herd. You just drew the short straw because you really could not fully understand the language, Alvin. Upsettingly, it ruined your special day - don't let it ruin this special summer.
  15. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Sad Birthday

    @Seo Alvin for what it's worth I would just take a break from these guys and invest energy in something productive. When they see you again they'll know that living well is the best revenge.
  16. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Junes nearly over

    I can't imagine what 9 would look like
  17. 2 points
    jazz

    Junes nearly over

    Well, we are having a nice couple of days - June weather has been quite cool - I don't mind really, roses look lovely 🌹
  18. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    17th - 21st of June

    Very good Dave. Glad you got paid. Happy first day of summer.
  19. 2 points
    Daveuk

    17th - 21st of June

    Monday - stayed in for a rest Tuesday - signed on at 11:30am Wednesday - humankind at 4:00PM Thursday - probation at 9:30am, met with PPU officer at 2:00pm Life healing choices at 7:30pm Friday went to get paid and shopping and put gas and electric on.
  20. 2 points
    My husband and I have been married for over 25 years, I am so glad that we found this forum. We both have felt so alone, with this secret problem. And now I can finally talk with people that have the same problem. Honestly I didn't know what it was called. The reason why we found it today was because I want help, first I went to penis envy and that was for women. And then I went to small man syndrome and that had nothing to do with the penis. Finally my husband typed in small penis syndrome. I read that letter that lead us to here. I only read a few notes, I was wondering if there were any women out there that sharing this problem with there spouses. In the beginning of our marriage, I really thought that my husband was being silly, yes his penis is small but I had seen smaller and had been with men that were smaller. Then the questions started. All about my past sexual relationships, the size of the penis, the length, fatness, the size when they were soft. The size of the testicles. At first I tried to help him and answer the best I could then, it got worse. The questions really disturbed me. I wondered if he was gay. I believed that he wasn't and I still do not think he is gay. But I was really worried. Then my husband would get really depressed. I didn't understand, I thought he is just kinky, after five years of our marriage I became a Christian, which made it more complicated. Because I felt so guilty for talking about other men in my life, or when my husband saw other men in the public bathroom. Even a few times he saw pre teens or early teens that were bigger then him. So I told him no more. And it got worse, he would go for a whole week with out talking to me. I felt so alone. I talked to my pastor, he to thought that I should not talk about this that if my husband wanted to leave me it was Biblically okay. Then I made the mistake of telling my husband that I told my Pastor, then he didn't want to go to church anymore, I didn't blame him, he felt like the pastor probably told other people and now every body knows. The isolation is so hard. I wish years ago I could have found this web site. Well we went to a women counselor. She felt that she couldn't help us. She felt that I had boundries issues, and that I had to deal with that. But she couldn't help my husband. Then years later because of problems with our marriage, my husband paid for a professional, she told him to get over it. I'm not kidding. Get over it. Wow that was a lot of help. So then I found a male therapist that has help male prisoners, he was on tv or something, he wanted to hypnotise him. We both didn't want that. Also my husband started using pumps, at first they were junk, then he bought more expensive ones. This truely changed his size temporary. A half inch in length and one and a half in girth. And thats not his best. Some times he gets bigger then that. I felt guilt from this because, I did find wonderful pleasure from the change in his size. Which I want to say that my husbands small penis has made him the best lover I've ever been with, he tries so hard to make up for his smallness. He was the first person I ever had an orgasim with and that was before the pump, but when I tell him that it still doesn;t help his emotional pain. So then my husband had surgery, we only had enough money for lengthenig. We couldn't afford to have fat added and the doctor said that would diminish eventually anyhow. That added about a quarter of an inch, I truely feel a difference, but you really can't see it. I have more to say but I've ran out of space. I will write more later, thanks for listening and any advice.
  21. 2 points
    Daveuk

    This week :)

    Monday: meeting at routes to work at 11:00am Tuesday: signed on at 11:00am and English assessment at 11:30am Wednesday: stayed in for rest Thursday: probation at 9:30am and CR at 7pm Friday Humankind at 1pm also at first stop went shopping this morning
  22. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    This week :)

    Outstanding. Hope Routes to Work is helping. Maybe you'll see Theresa May there ha ha. Oh that reminds me I watched Bride of Frankenstein last Saturday.
  23. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Top news from UK

    Both love island and the bachelor i do not watch now if you don't mind I be doing my weekly round up In my blog
  24. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Top news from UK

    I have heard that the after care team.in love island is absolute worst ever care. Where JK show least Jazza has reunited fathers, brothers helped addicts and does his best.
  25. 2 points
    This is a very significant survey because there are many really positive conclusions we can draw from it. The 20% of the women that admitted some time in the past she broke up with a man because his penis was too small was not the main reason for the break-up. On another video talking about the results of his survey, Alex said that women were unanimous in explaining that a man so insecure, obsessed, and constantly worrying about having a small penis is an impossible man to date. They said the overriding factor for breaking up with him was not because it was small but because he was an impossible human to deal with. So, it comes down to a man's attitude and confidence. As Alex said in the end, women want more than anything that a guy is not so wrapped up in his penis but is more focused on her and just enjoying being with her and getting pleasure from her. Even though 35% of the women said that penis size didn't matter to them at all is a minority, it is a very sizable minority (1 in 3 women). Also, if a man is between 4 and 5 inches, which is considered below average, since 60% of the women said that it is too small when it is under 4 inches while 10% said too small doesn't matter to them at all, that means at least 70% of the women (7 out of 10) would have no problem being with a man with a 4-5 inch penis. Also, even if you're a man below 4 inches or have a micropenis, still, 10% of the women (1 in 10) just wouldn't care how small it is. For those guys who are worried about encountering women who are size queens that make a guy having a large penis their number one priority, they are a very small minority of women. According to Alex's data, only less than 5% of women. So, size queens do exist but they're rare. Finally, the answer to the age old question "Does penis size matter to women" is somewhat complicated. In another video where Alex talks about the results to his survey, he learned, although the majority of the women said size matters, it hardly matters at all. Every single emotional, mental, physical, and personality trait was way more important than penis size for the majority of the women. So, although penis size may matter to them, it is at the bottom of a list of qualities that women are looking for in a man.
  26. 2 points
    Explicit photos are not allowed on the forum...it’s only a matter of time before a moderator gets involved. But before it’s deleted, that’s an average/normal dick for “relationships”. It’s normal for a sexual beta. It’s normal for a “provider”. It’s normal for making babies. It’s small for the hookup scene and casual sex encounters.
  27. 2 points
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry I don't have enough time these days, but I'd like to mention at least some things: There are as many women with relatively low intelligence as men, and it's improbable that they would seek a very intelligent man. So from the statistic point of view, intelligence shouldn't be a problem for finding a mate. Moreover, kindness is more important for a relationship - and much more precious for life in general... Sorry for mentioning Ricky Gervais's work again (it's only because I'm now in a "phase" when I watch many videos "with him", so it easily comes to my mind as a reference / example), but I also like this series as an explanation that kindness and friendliness are more important than intelligence, although it will never happen that everybody would agree (but intelligent people have "enemies", too!) : - BTW, also read some of the comments below the video - at least the first 3 (just below the description) I don't know what is your age (I'm curious but you don't have to mention it if you don't want to), but I suppose you should still have a chance to have a family: What do you think about finding a widow or a divorced woman with a child / children? Have you tried on-line dating sites (there you could search for women in such situations)...? Also, you mentioned not having friends. In my opinion, friends are more important than a partner / lover. And making new friends can be an important "intermediate step" between solitude and finding a partner. It necessitates efforts, but... so would both suffering in the status quo and planing a suicide - and the potential outcomes of the two kinds of efforts (living better / not changing or dying) would have such opposite values! Are there any opportunities to volunteer in the area where you live? That would be a great way to start, as it introduces you to new, kind, people as well as gives you a meaningful activity and shows you that you are able to be useful. In addition, you could (later?) try some other regular (free) activities where you could meet new people. BTW, it is very possible that your "academic" problems are mainly due to teaches that weren't competent enough to help you find your true abilities. It happens far too often. One nice example is Daniel Pennac, who'd been considered dumb and problematic by teachers but later was lucky and became a great teacher and writer - he resumes his views on schooling in this great book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12857101-school-blues?rating=2 I don't know if I "should" mention this , but I like this attitude. In general; why should one care about opinions of people who don't understand - and even don't try to understand...??? Even more if they are harsh, rude, make one's life even harder...!?! That's all from me for the moment. I hope very much that both of you will "stay with us" and gradually discover ways to feel much less miserable... Take care!
  28. 2 points
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    @Obsolete, I'm sorry you feel that way . You don't need to apologize. And I don't think nor feel I "wasted" my time or efforts. Even if you felt a bit better for a short time, it was worth it. Of course I'd love to see a big change in your perspective, for your sake, naturally, but I'm realistic... I also know sometimes (often?) just many small steps can lead to a significant change. Perhaps you're taking some of them now, by writing about your situation, feelings, and perspective and by reading our reactions; who knows? It is also possible that you "failed" according to criteria which don't truly matter. Perhaps your view of "success" is unnecessarily demanding. May I ask what have been your ambitions? Here is a text I'd recommend you (a depressive friend once mentioned the Kaizen way as it helps her a lot in her everyday life): https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/get-1-better-every-day-the-kaizen-way-to-self-improvement/ I would also recommend you to watch this Netflix series, but I know it's possible that you won't find access to it (at least so far - it will surely soon be available also elsewhere) : https://youtu.be/eIGGKSHMQOM You might at least read this review about it - perhaps it could feel at least a bit good reading about the topic (?): https://medium.com/@jennifersartorehulst/hope-is-everything-6b20d804ac17 Here is also something about it (the hero): It may be one of many alternatives to suicide - "just change your life / attitude as if it didn't matter anymore what others would think". It may be dangerous (if someone is / wants to be violent and this releases his aggressiveness), but in this case, it was only verbal "aggressiveness" / rudeness and it brought, eventually, an interesting lesson for the hero - he realized after some time how to use this new "superpower" in a rather positive way; not hurting "good people". Anyway, back to your post: From the way you've been expressing yourself here, it's obvious you are definitely not an idiot, and you're not just superficial and uncritical. But I think I know how you probably feel - I am educated and people think I'm relatively intelligent, but I've seen myself as "idiotic" most of my life. So yes; it's a matter of perception. I realized the difference between my definition of "idiocy" and the definition others have, is that I think I'm too "stupid" to live "wisely" / "as I'd like to". It's probably similar for you (?). But people who actually are morons don't realize they are morons. BTW, you wrote: Yet, just then you wrote a relatively complicated post in good English and it doesn't give the impression of you having "struggled" to write it - it's well-written, easily readable, it explains well your points. Isn't at least that a reason not to trust your self-perception? So, the problem is that you think you should have / would need more intelligence and better capacity of critical thought. May I ask why you consider it so important for your wellbeing? What is it that you miss, in practice? It's very easy to find many articles about "intelligent / smart people being unhappy / miserable", so... I doubt it that it's very relevant to overall life satisfaction. (some examples: https://www.learning-mind.com/fail-to-be-happy-intelligent/, https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/why-are-smart-people-so-miserable.html, https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/04/why-so-many-smart-people-arent-happy/479832/) Yes, I can see that this may pose many problems to you . But confidence is also something one can slowly build, systematically increase. Can you tell what makes you "non-self-confident"? I don't know your age, but as your parents are still alive, you're obviously not "near natural death". But that's not even important. There are people who become happy just in their old age. I don't know if they are numerous, but I know some. Staying alive may be seen as giving yourself the chance to experience "better days". Sadly, it's 'normal' to hate one's life and oneself when one is depressed and / or in a difficult social and emotional situation. But what do emotions like love and hate tell us? When we love something, we want more of it or want it more often, when we hate something, we either want to avoid it or change it. Avoiding is easier, even in case of one's life / oneself . The loss of interest is probably due mainly to depression (which is most often treatable and can go to remission). And making new friends is a challenge that would bring a new aim in your life and then also new benefits. Even making new acquaintances can be good for you - and that wouldn't be so hard. For instance, is there an opportunity for volunteering where you live? If yes, then that could bring you some purposeful activity as well as new friends. BTW; you do have some kind of friends: Us here!! This is something many suicidal people erroneously assume! Loosing a family member by suicide is very traumatic! Even when your family is not supportive. They would very probably live in never-ending remorses and self-blame! It's sad that they only show you their disappointment , but it's surely not the only thing they feel about you. Some people are very bad at expressing positive emotions and appreciation, unfortunately. And some are even bad at noticing the good things in others (often until they loose them - then they suddenly realize...). I suspect that the attitude of your family towards you is not as much a result of "who you are / how you life", but rather one of the causes why you've been so miserable. It's very hard to build confidence and succeed without supporting parents (at least in childhood)... I see that it may appear weird to someone who doesn't know a lot about it. "Just talking" doesn't sound appealing to everyone. But good psychotherapy is much more than "just talking". It's creating a healing relationship with another human being; a non-judgemental, understanding, and accepting professional who doesn't want anything from you except for your collaboration on your common effort to make your life better (for a fee, of course). Many studies have shown that it's the relationship that heals / make the biggest difference. But it can't make sense to someone who hasn't experienced it, because you cannot just imagine it. What's wrong about "whiny little teenagers"??? The point of places like this is that you can vent here as you please / need. Don't judge yourself for expressing your emotions and describing your problems. You might as well need to "get it out" (to feel a bit better??). Sorry to pose so many questions, but... I believe that if you consider such a huge decision, you might as well take enough time to think about all the aspects and answer all the raising questions and 'objections'... Take care!
  29. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    @Obsolete take some off if you can. If not just clear the decks as much as possible. Some days just being alive is all the challenge we need. I seem to recall things got better for awhile, you were working out and stuff. Not sure what happened after that.
  30. 2 points
    jazz

    What's the point?

    I've read many of your supportive comments on this forum, now you really need the support yourself because this is how depression is, it makes someone feel awful and completely self critical. When I was depressed it was unbelievable how many negative thoughts revolved around my head, it's a misery prism.
  31. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Week starting 18th - 22nd

    Monday 18th Went out to buy a couple of DVDs and shopping Tuesday 19th Went out to buy cola and a few food Wednesday 20th Stayed in and watched few DVDs Thursday 21st Had probation and CR came back at 10pm Friday 22nd Stayed in and s rest today.
  32. 2 points
    retr0john

    My so called life

    Small, it's interesting you say your nephew stances right but is a left paw. My oldest boy is right handed in everything, but when he played baseball he batted left, and wore his glove on his right hand and threw with his left. I guess it's whatever they learn and are comfortable with. I helped with kids starting out boxing, but when I was helping out I certainly wasn't an advanced coach or anything, I was just helping kids with the basics. Yes, I own my own guns. I have two .45s, a 9mm, a .357, a .25 and a couple .22s to plink with. I also have three long guns and an antique .36 caliber black powder rifle. My boys own 2 or three guns apiece. I do shoot for pleasure, but I also take my practice time very seriously. I take professional class time refresher training at least once a year and practice often. I firmly believe if a person isn't going to take gun ownership seriously, they have no business owning or carrying a firearm. I used to hunt, and took the boys occasionally. Among the things I taught the kids was that they never shoot and kill anything that they're not going to eat, and never take more than you can eat. Don't waste anything. Hunting isn't for pleasure, it's for putting food on the table. Oh well, time to jump down off my soap box. I envy you having tried pasties before. I'm definitely going to make that the first thing new that I try to cook. No, the gym I'm looking at doesn't have any type of boxing set up. It's more of a modern weight training place with treadmills, not an old, comfortable sparring gym like Sarges in Louisville. Heck, Sarge probably isn't there anymore. Take care Small. P.S. Hi Victim. I seen you were reading along. I hope your cutting down on the beer is still going well. Take care too!
  33. 2 points
    retr0john

    My so called life

    Small, it was great to see you had responded! It's good to get grounded again. I suppose it time to pull my big boy pants back on. I'm glad to see you've got into a place with your company that you like and are comfortable with. I have to admit I smiled when I read that part of your post. We could not be more polar opposite when it comes to work. I always enjoyed the actual hands on physical aspect of my job, and absolutely hated meetings with a passion. The few times I had to have a meeting in carpetland I was already in a foul mood before I walked through the front door. I think they considered me anti-social, but I got the job done so they put up with me. Different strokes for different folks. So you're teaching your nephew to box? Great! It sounds like it's going well with him! Maybe, if you're so inclined and have free time you might consider volunteering some time at a YMCA or P.A.A.L. to coach and mentor other kids? It sounds like you're a natural teacher. Just something to think about. I've started walking again. I used to take long walks, but not really for exercise. Just sharing time. I had the jump rope and training bag for cardio. Now I'm picking up the pace and getting my heart rate up. All of the kids kicked in and bought me a nice smart watch that 'talks' with my phone. The watch measures my heart rate and half a dozen other things. I think they worry a little about me over doing it. I really don't walk for distance, but I walk for a set amount of time, keeping my speed and steps up. Yeah, it's amazing how out of shape and how many pounds you gain in a years time. I'm eating better, more salads and less fast food. I'm living about 40 miles north of the old house. I'm still out in the country. It makes for pleasant walking. A nice couple bought the old place. I'm glad someone has it that can appreciate it, but I'll never go back. The kids and I do have one more thing planned. There's an indoor shooting range in Indianapolis. The boys are both proficient with guns, know how to handle them and be safe. A couple years ago I'd been bugging my daughter to at least learn about them, especially the safety aspects. Now that she's a teacher and on the job she's agreed to go to at least one hour of range time and learn how to check if a firearms loaded, how to safely unload and disable one and actually pick one up and shoot it. She has absolutely no interest in owning a gun and has never touched one. That's fine, but I want her to know safe handling and unloading so she can neutralize one she's come across. I haven't cooked something different or interesting for a long time. Chili, cheesy potato or bean soup, cornbread doesn't count. I could do those in my sleep. I watch too much TV. I was watching a travel show. The feller on it was hiking in England. (Lord, there's a lot of beautiful country side and sights there!) Anyway, he stopped at a small shop and bought a Pastie. It looked like a pie crust folded over with some kind of a super thick beef stew inside. Small chunks of meat with lots of veggies and a real thick gravy in a thick bread type crust. I was drooling. These were just sitting out on a shelf. The young lady in the shop wrapped it in a piece of wax paper where she said it would be fine until lunch. It looked delicious. Something like a beef potpie in a folded over crust. I'm intrigued, and I'm going to find a recipe and try to make one (or two or more). I like stir fry. It's hard to justify making a multi item, complex meal for just one, isn't it? I'll humbly make a confession, I love chicken flavored Ramen! I keep a case of 12 packs down in a cupboard and break one out for lunch. I know I'm not a starving collage student but I eat it because I really like it, not because I have to. Small, I hope your life stays on a track that you like. Sometimes easy and placid is refreshing vrs. having a crisis thrown at you every waking moment. Springs coming. I can't wait to just walk and enjoy watching the farmers planting and the flowers bloom. Take care!
  34. 2 points
    retr0john

    My so called life

    Hi Small. I hope you are doing well and in a good place in your life right now. I'm walking again, trying to get back into shape and thinking I might join a local gym this spring. You'd asked me in a different thread if I had cooked anything lately. I finally had all three kids over for just a family evening. It's been well over a year since I've seen them in a lighter social setting. I made a stock pot full of chili, and a big pan of scratch made cornbread. It must have hit the spot, there wasn't any leftovers for lunch the next day. We enjoyed a fire outside. I was just a bit wistful, but it was nice to have the kids all together in a lighter atmosphere. I hope everyone's doing well here. I think about all here I've grown to know and think well of you.
  35. 2 points
    IrmaJean

    Ranting on about women

    I think that people have different needs and wants and different feelings about relationships and attraction. I had a conversation with someone recently about how baffling it is to me that some people can find another person attractive at first glance. It doesn't work that way for me? I need to spend time with that person, get to know and recognize them and then they may, little by little, become more attractive to me. They were equally baffled by my experience as I was by theirs. I think we can learn from one another through open conversion and supportive listening.
  36. 2 points
    John's Know

    Ranting on about women

    I've always wondered what it is that separates the women that will accept a man who has a small penis and will love him and date him and even marry him from the women that want nothing to do with them. What is the personality trait that differentiates the two groups?
  37. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Week after bday

    1st March my birthday had a relaxing day. Brought new Halloween, Detroit Monday went out and brought two DVDS Molly's game and clue Tuesday went out to buy some cola Wednesday stayed in and tidyed up Thursday went to probation and CR Today stayed in and having a rest
  38. 2 points
    jazz

    Week after bday

    Your birthday is St. David's Day, perfect for a Dave ☺️
  39. 1 point
    sanesomeday

    Small Penis AND Gay?

    I'm wondering if anyone out there is a gay/bisexual male dealing with small penis syndrome? Most of the conversations out there are about difficulties of having relationships with females. I know that it is common to think that the "grass is greener," but I'm sure there are different challenges in dealing with small penis syndrome in relationships with other men. I'm interested to hear folks' thoughts.
  40. 1 point
    Seo Alvin

    Sad Birthday

    @Victimorthecrime I am in Vietnam, Ho Chi Minh City. My nationality is South Korean and Vietnamese.
  41. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    July 1st - 5th

    A solid start to 3rd Quarter
  42. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Dear uncle Vic

    Trust me, we've seen worse 😳
  43. 1 point
    jazz

    Sad Birthday

    Oh yes, group dares...😝
  44. 1 point
    jazz

    Sad Birthday

    I would like to read a 'Dear Uncle Vic' thread 💬 😊
  45. 1 point
    jazz

    5 years of spiraling insanity

    If you have no particular ties to where you are, do you think planning for a move to somewhere cooler and different would be a realistic option or not? I saw a clip on TV a while back where a sports star confronted unsuspecting internet trolls after inviting them to a fake press conference - of course they behaved completely differently in person and were highly embarrassed. The anonymity of the net leads to people behaving like jerks.
  46. 1 point
    Thanks for sharing your story. Your disadvantage from lack of experience is real but not hopeless. While i wasn't technically a virgin at 35, my experience up to that point was horribly meager and lousy. Divorce in my 40s gave me a chance to try again at finding both sex and a fulfilling relationship as a wiser person than I was when I'd married. Even though I'd been married for a long time and had kids, I felt like I truly lost my virginity only after that divorce, after 40 years of age. The first sex i had after divorce was in a no strings attached relationship for a few meetings with a woman I met through a dating site. I did not want to pursue anything serious with her and she was lonely too and OK with having some much needed fun. I met my current wife not.long after so I didn't go nuts playing the field. My concrete advice would be, when in a first time sex situation with someone and you're both nervous, use touch and massage to establish a sensitive and easy connection.
  47. 1 point
    Porn, I do believe, has tremendously amplified the importance of penis size in the minds of men, especially, but women too. Also, porn presents the image that only the outstanding, athletic sex performances featured for the camera are of any value. I was married for 5 years before I saw much porn because it wasn't available. I was very late maturing, had a passive personality and didn't date or have intercourse until I was a Sr. in College because I finally started drinking to deal with my shyness. If I had watched porn, from 12 years old or so, I probably never would have had a date. The main message of porn is that you are pathetic in sexual activity unless you are very well hung. Guys considerably larger than average come away from porn thinking they are too small for anything but "pity fucks." I have read that a large % of the guys on the various quick sex apps don't get any sex. A relatively small % of men do all the fucking, but almost all the women have sex if they want. All they have to do is say yes to what looks best. Men who are good looking in face, genitals and body and are assertive hook-up easily. There are relationship dating apps too, but, those people count as "not having sex" until they actually score a relationship. Maybe eventually a lot of the young men not having sex will get married. . . ?? Maybe not? Anyway, the increasing % of young men not having sex doesn't surprise me.
  48. 1 point
    MrEss

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    Micro-Penis I don't know if I have a Micro-penis, or I am only 'small'. Less than 2” flaccid and under 4” erect. Doesn't matter as I've been like this for over 80 years. If this helps just ONE person, then it's worth my time to write. No, this is not some bull-poop story. To start, I was around before WW-2 started, no TV and definitely no internet. A week ago I found (on this internet) a document that I wish I had available when I hit puberty. While Mr. Jefferson may have been correct ( in his context ) about endowment “... all men are created equal...”, he obviously had never been in a communal gym. Yeah, us guys are equal, but some guys are more equal that others. Disregarding Porn, size DOESN'T matter. At least not in a physical (operational) sense. But size (or rather lack of) can sure make a guy neurotic. I say 'doesn't matter' as my little guy pumped out multiple babys and as their mom even requested my 'little guy' from time to time he must have performed in fine fashion. But getting to that stage sure caused some anxiety on my part. I was still a virgin at age 25. Had done a lot 'touchy-feely' (we called it petting back then) but never had the courage for 'show me yours and I'll show you mine'. I'm sure that I missed out on a lot of 'dicky-dunkin' as some of these young ladies might well have been willing to garage my 'little-guy'. As I said – NEUROTIC. I forgot that I have fingers and a tongue also. My dad did tell me that 'there's a lid for every pot'. The only thing I did right was that I never gave up. At 25, I met a young lady – later my wife – who also had a hangup. As things progressed, we also shared our thoughts. While I was hung up on the 'little guy', she had concerns about her breasts. Yup, we were both concerned about size. At least we were at the 'show and tell' stage, although no penetration yet. Besides thinking that all guys wanted a girl with watermelon breasts, she was also apprehensive when she confided that she was not a virgin. I re-assured her about the breasts that 'anything more than a mouthful is a waste'. We solved the virginity issue by picking a first time (mine) when she had her period. My 'little guy' was then a red man, and we agreed that the issue would never again be an issue. So what if you'll never be a porn star! That's all an act, anyway. Get real, get a girl, get laid! If size matters to her – she's a throw-away. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, or as dad said,'there's a trolley around every corner'. Worrying about size is counter-productive. Do you fixate on dying? Of course not, it's a foregone conclusion that if you are concieved you are going to die, so why worry. Throw away that ruler, do you think the measurement will change? However, the right lady will make him grow. Happy Hunting !!! but Be Safe.
  49. 1 point
    lbaker

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    Wow! I'm going to have to watch the whole series of videos! I Don't really know yet, but the author seems to see little room for women in these male hierarchies he identifies! I find myself nodding yes at every point.
  50. 1 point
    curtailed

    Small Penis AND Gay?

    http://www.measurection.com has Lots of gay men. I think the site was originally founded for gay men.
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