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  1. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    "It's big enough to be on your mind" would be my response.
  2. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    And just to expand on this a tiny bit - it's not our fault. It's important to realize that life is often hard and that is completely independent of anything we have done. There is only so much we can even impact much less control.
  3. 3 points
    Klingpeach

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    It’s little joys like that I live for. Usually once a month I buy a large pizza on Friday night with breadsticks, salad full works and a dr. Pepper and then watch a movie. It’s a welcome indulgence
  4. 3 points
    One the way home from work yesterday I was so tired and in need of some boost that I stopped at the local bakery and bought a pig-out box! Eclair, brownie, cream puff. It was delicious 😋
  5. 3 points
    When faced w life's difficulties I have found that the only things that help at all are: 1) getting rest and generally taking care of myself 2) what I call "higher level thinking" meaning not being emotional but rather being analytical and taking concentrated look at the facts and the options clustered around those facts and 3) just plain old hard motherfucking work. Sorry to be blunt but nothing else expresses it the way I want. It will get there. It takes what it takes but it will get there. Talking about the house and the financial situation mostly, along w life in general.
  6. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry you're feeling so down, Obsolete. 🙁This life thing can be challenging, I hear you. I don't have any simple answers, but I am here listening and I care. Depression can make everything feel dark and not possible. I think one of the points of therapy is to have a safe space to openly share feelings. True that therapy isn't for everyone, though. I think we each need to find what works best or helps us most, however that looks for each individual. It's good that you reached out here. I hope that expressing yourself helps. Take care of you.
  7. 2 points
    Do it the way people did it before there was such a thing as the internet and dating apps. The problem is people all want to date above them. Guys all want to date the prettiest, slimmest girls and women want the cute, athletic guys. The hardest thing to do when looking for a mate is staying in your lane.
  8. 2 points
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry I don't have enough time these days, but I'd like to mention at least some things: There are as many women with relatively low intelligence as men, and it's improbable that they would seek a very intelligent man. So from the statistic point of view, intelligence shouldn't be a problem for finding a mate. Moreover, kindness is more important for a relationship - and much more precious for life in general... Sorry for mentioning Ricky Gervais's work again (it's only because I'm now in a "phase" when I watch many videos "with him", so it easily comes to my mind as a reference / example), but I also like this series as an explanation that kindness and friendliness are more important than intelligence, although it will never happen that everybody would agree (but intelligent people have "enemies", too!) : - BTW, also read some of the comments below the video - at least the first 3 (just below the description) I don't know what is your age (I'm curious but you don't have to mention it if you don't want to), but I suppose you should still have a chance to have a family: What do you think about finding a widow or a divorced woman with a child / children? Have you tried on-line dating sites (there you could search for women in such situations)...? Also, you mentioned not having friends. In my opinion, friends are more important than a partner / lover. And making new friends can be an important "intermediate step" between solitude and finding a partner. It necessitates efforts, but... so would both suffering in the status quo and planing a suicide - and the potential outcomes of the two kinds of efforts (living better / not changing or dying) would have such opposite values! Are there any opportunities to volunteer in the area where you live? That would be a great way to start, as it introduces you to new, kind, people as well as gives you a meaningful activity and shows you that you are able to be useful. In addition, you could (later?) try some other regular (free) activities where you could meet new people. BTW, it is very possible that your "academic" problems are mainly due to teaches that weren't competent enough to help you find your true abilities. It happens far too often. One nice example is Daniel Pennac, who'd been considered dumb and problematic by teachers but later was lucky and became a great teacher and writer - he resumes his views on schooling in this great book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12857101-school-blues?rating=2 I don't know if I "should" mention this , but I like this attitude. In general; why should one care about opinions of people who don't understand - and even don't try to understand...??? Even more if they are harsh, rude, make one's life even harder...!?! That's all from me for the moment. I hope very much that both of you will "stay with us" and gradually discover ways to feel much less miserable... Take care!
  9. 2 points
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    @Obsolete, I'm sorry you feel that way . You don't need to apologize. And I don't think nor feel I "wasted" my time or efforts. Even if you felt a bit better for a short time, it was worth it. Of course I'd love to see a big change in your perspective, for your sake, naturally, but I'm realistic... I also know sometimes (often?) just many small steps can lead to a significant change. Perhaps you're taking some of them now, by writing about your situation, feelings, and perspective and by reading our reactions; who knows? It is also possible that you "failed" according to criteria which don't truly matter. Perhaps your view of "success" is unnecessarily demanding. May I ask what have been your ambitions? Here is a text I'd recommend you (a depressive friend once mentioned the Kaizen way as it helps her a lot in her everyday life): https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/get-1-better-every-day-the-kaizen-way-to-self-improvement/ I would also recommend you to watch this Netflix series, but I know it's possible that you won't find access to it (at least so far - it will surely soon be available also elsewhere) : https://youtu.be/eIGGKSHMQOM You might at least read this review about it - perhaps it could feel at least a bit good reading about the topic (?): https://medium.com/@jennifersartorehulst/hope-is-everything-6b20d804ac17 Here is also something about it (the hero): It may be one of many alternatives to suicide - "just change your life / attitude as if it didn't matter anymore what others would think". It may be dangerous (if someone is / wants to be violent and this releases his aggressiveness), but in this case, it was only verbal "aggressiveness" / rudeness and it brought, eventually, an interesting lesson for the hero - he realized after some time how to use this new "superpower" in a rather positive way; not hurting "good people". Anyway, back to your post: From the way you've been expressing yourself here, it's obvious you are definitely not an idiot, and you're not just superficial and uncritical. But I think I know how you probably feel - I am educated and people think I'm relatively intelligent, but I've seen myself as "idiotic" most of my life. So yes; it's a matter of perception. I realized the difference between my definition of "idiocy" and the definition others have, is that I think I'm too "stupid" to live "wisely" / "as I'd like to". It's probably similar for you (?). But people who actually are morons don't realize they are morons. BTW, you wrote: Yet, just then you wrote a relatively complicated post in good English and it doesn't give the impression of you having "struggled" to write it - it's well-written, easily readable, it explains well your points. Isn't at least that a reason not to trust your self-perception? So, the problem is that you think you should have / would need more intelligence and better capacity of critical thought. May I ask why you consider it so important for your wellbeing? What is it that you miss, in practice? It's very easy to find many articles about "intelligent / smart people being unhappy / miserable", so... I doubt it that it's very relevant to overall life satisfaction. (some examples: https://www.learning-mind.com/fail-to-be-happy-intelligent/, https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/why-are-smart-people-so-miserable.html, https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/04/why-so-many-smart-people-arent-happy/479832/) Yes, I can see that this may pose many problems to you . But confidence is also something one can slowly build, systematically increase. Can you tell what makes you "non-self-confident"? I don't know your age, but as your parents are still alive, you're obviously not "near natural death". But that's not even important. There are people who become happy just in their old age. I don't know if they are numerous, but I know some. Staying alive may be seen as giving yourself the chance to experience "better days". Sadly, it's 'normal' to hate one's life and oneself when one is depressed and / or in a difficult social and emotional situation. But what do emotions like love and hate tell us? When we love something, we want more of it or want it more often, when we hate something, we either want to avoid it or change it. Avoiding is easier, even in case of one's life / oneself . The loss of interest is probably due mainly to depression (which is most often treatable and can go to remission). And making new friends is a challenge that would bring a new aim in your life and then also new benefits. Even making new acquaintances can be good for you - and that wouldn't be so hard. For instance, is there an opportunity for volunteering where you live? If yes, then that could bring you some purposeful activity as well as new friends. BTW; you do have some kind of friends: Us here!! This is something many suicidal people erroneously assume! Loosing a family member by suicide is very traumatic! Even when your family is not supportive. They would very probably live in never-ending remorses and self-blame! It's sad that they only show you their disappointment , but it's surely not the only thing they feel about you. Some people are very bad at expressing positive emotions and appreciation, unfortunately. And some are even bad at noticing the good things in others (often until they loose them - then they suddenly realize...). I suspect that the attitude of your family towards you is not as much a result of "who you are / how you life", but rather one of the causes why you've been so miserable. It's very hard to build confidence and succeed without supporting parents (at least in childhood)... I see that it may appear weird to someone who doesn't know a lot about it. "Just talking" doesn't sound appealing to everyone. But good psychotherapy is much more than "just talking". It's creating a healing relationship with another human being; a non-judgemental, understanding, and accepting professional who doesn't want anything from you except for your collaboration on your common effort to make your life better (for a fee, of course). Many studies have shown that it's the relationship that heals / make the biggest difference. But it can't make sense to someone who hasn't experienced it, because you cannot just imagine it. What's wrong about "whiny little teenagers"??? The point of places like this is that you can vent here as you please / need. Don't judge yourself for expressing your emotions and describing your problems. You might as well need to "get it out" (to feel a bit better??). Sorry to pose so many questions, but... I believe that if you consider such a huge decision, you might as well take enough time to think about all the aspects and answer all the raising questions and 'objections'... Take care!
  10. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    @Obsolete take some off if you can. If not just clear the decks as much as possible. Some days just being alive is all the challenge we need. I seem to recall things got better for awhile, you were working out and stuff. Not sure what happened after that.
  11. 2 points
    jazz

    What's the point?

    I've read many of your supportive comments on this forum, now you really need the support yourself because this is how depression is, it makes someone feel awful and completely self critical. When I was depressed it was unbelievable how many negative thoughts revolved around my head, it's a misery prism.
  12. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Week starting 18th - 22nd

    Monday 18th Went out to buy a couple of DVDs and shopping Tuesday 19th Went out to buy cola and a few food Wednesday 20th Stayed in and watched few DVDs Thursday 21st Had probation and CR came back at 10pm Friday 22nd Stayed in and s rest today.
  13. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Quiz 4 mixed bag

    Mix of Film, TV and Easter 1. What film was a remake of a gene wilder musical ? 2. What 90s TV series about witches returned in a revival ? 3. At Easter who hides the eggs ? 4. Traditionally what is not allowed to be eating on good Friday ? 5. What film was about a cowboy who was selling drugs to make people better ? 6. In keeping up appearances what was the name of hynciths two sisters ? 7. In Friends who says "Oh my god" ,? 8. Who fights the forces of evil in Sunnydale ? 9. What egg always has chocolate and a surprise ? 10. After Easter what holiday falls on Monday ?
  14. 1 point
    TheDane

    females views etc (Trigger Warning!)

    Two things. 1.The statistics about the average being around 5.5 arent true. 2.That big guy harem you are speaking about is today's society. where 20% of the(big penis) male population is having sex with 80% of the sexually active female population.
  15. 1 point
    jazz

    Quiz 2 scrambled chocolate

    1. Cadbury creme 2. Twix 3. maltesers 4. m&ms 5. double decker 6. mars bar 7. snickers 8. ? 9. lion bars 10. skittles
  16. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Quiz 2 scrambled chocolate

    Unscramble to get the answers 1. Dream bury ecc 2. wit X 3. steel ams 4. Smm 5. becked rouled 6. Arms bra 7. crinkess 8. Host blue coat tonc 9. Labs iron 10. Titles Sk
  17. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Week starting 15th - 19th

    Sorry no blog Quiz time 10 Easter Questions ( 10 today 10 tomorrow 10 Easter Sunday 10 Easter Monday ) 1. What is the Greek word for easter ? 2. What is the Friday before Easter called ? 3. What is the western and eastern date for easter ? 4. What day does Easter generally fall on ? 5. What is the film called about the Easter Bunnies son ? 6. What is the object of hunting eggs ? 7. What is the Sunday called before Easter ? 8. Why is Passover called Passover ? 9. Why is easter celebrating ? 10. Name 5 types of easter eggs ?
  18. 1 point
    jazz

    Week starting 15th - 19th

    1. Pascha 2. Good Friday 3. ? 4. Sunday 5. The Hoppit 6. To pig out on chocolate 7. Palm Sunday 8. Because Death passed over the Hebrew houses 9. It's Jesus, but also preceded by pagan festivals. 10. Buttons, Dairy Milk, Maltesers, Twirl, Crunchie
  19. 1 point
    jazz

    Good Friday and easter Monday

    Yippee 🙂 Another chance for some v random guesses
  20. 1 point
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    How have you been doing, @Obsolete? I hope we'll hear from you soon...
  21. 1 point
    No wonder there's been such a rise in the incel culture. I'm on Whisper and I see so many guys posting about being in their mid-20s and virgins not by their own choosing. Feminist empowerment has had significant implications. In the 1800s nobody was allowed to talk about penis size or sexual prowess, and women took what they were given. Now they're the arbiters who choose, and it's exacerbating natural selection.
  22. 1 point
    jazz

    I do see what you mean nlh , it's just sometimes the head goes into overdrive - part of it is what the media creates in people's head's as well, endless stories of do this, be that and images to go with it.
  23. 1 point
    the_anonymous_one

    I have felt like a piece of shit all day because of the way I spoke. We all have EQUAL value. There's a reason the human race fought against slavery and there is a reason why we must fight against any other prejudice as well. I am NOT a bad person. The question keeps occurring over and over again with no resolution. Does size matter? The answer is it matters but what matters more is money. What matters in the end is love, compassion, and good humour. So don't be in such a shitty state as you are. Grab yourselves before it's too late. There's too much at stake here. Lives DO matter. Trust me, earn a new skill get a good job make a lot of money and women will be begging to take you to bed. Don't be in such a shitty state as you. I cannot see it happening before my very eyes. I cannot stand by and watch. I have struggled with the same complex as you guys for a number of years though I do not pretend to know what it is like for you folks in particular. I want to say that you can have a better life. All common sense says so. You are not choosing to have a better life. We are all tied to one another. What hurts one person hurts all people. I will not hurt you and I will not hurt myself. Isn't that the very point of this forum. To avoid self harm. Let's not forget that. Come on guys, have a beer and pour your heart out. We're here for each other. I do not have a good size. I do not question why I do not have it. I just accept it. I get my kicks from other stuff be it music, computers what not. Why should it be different for you folks. You are if anything above my IQ level. Use your brain for crying out loud. Stop thinking that it all ends with the dick.
  24. 1 point
    I am around six inches and it's not the length that worries me. It's the girth. It's the same with the OP.
  25. 1 point
    John's Know

    You said " The comments are just wonderful to read. " which I'm sure you sarcastically meant the comments were bad but I only see 11 comments and most were just pointing out the guy was an asshole for stabbing his fiance. As much as I agree that ridiculing a man for his small penis is reprehensible, killing someone over it is a bit extreme. So I see no problem with the comments. The one comment from a woman saying something about "the frail male ego" was the only one I had a problem with but women pull that shit all the time whether it's about penis size or any other time men have a genuine grievance. Many women believe they are the only ones that can play the victim card. If there are other comments I didn't see then maybe you can point them out to me. You said something in your second post about the article being linked to Infowars but you provided no link to that and I'd rather not have to go to Infowars to find it. I can only be subjected to so much stupid as I have a low tolerance for it.
  26. 1 point
    Monday went out shopping at Saintsbury's Tuesday went drop in for cup of tea Wednesday Stopped in for tidy up Thursday. Probation at 9;30am 7;00pm CR Friday stayed in and a rest
  27. 1 point
    Studies have shown that on most dating sites the best looking 20% of the men get the attention of about 80% of the women. Men aren't quite as shallow their numbers are more like 60/40. Even then you have to take into account a good portion of men are only looking for a hook up so they will let looks slide to some degree.
  28. 1 point
    Of course you don't deserve any shaming. It's the same as with all people who are different in a "not cool" (/ not appreciated by the majority) way. Do disabled deserve to be shamed or bullied, for instance? People who shame or bully others are just idiots and / or need some psychological help themselves to get over their own issues which make them behave like jerks...
  29. 1 point
    I don't doubt that there is plenty of both penis insecurity & harassment out there and probably more than before but I just don't think that explains the change in the relationship trend. The problem w the internet is that whatever it is that plagues your mind (body issues, race, gender, aliens, paganism, careers, veganism) you'll find endless material about it so that it will seem like that answers everything. Regarding the article about guys having less sex the answers it offers - 'partnering up' later in life and the recession/economy is way off the mark. Those are total non-factors. If those things mattered the ghetto would have a zero birth rate. The answer is: the internet! 😳 shocked face. Women can find who they really want. That's about 20% of the guys. The women that the 20% don't want are just choosing to remain single rather than settle. Just my opinion.
  30. 1 point
    No but the awareness of it certainly has, which probably makes women more discriminating about it (gay men always were): https://www.cbsnews.com/news/marco-rubio-goes-after-donald-trumps-small-hands/ https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2018/10/stormy-daniels-kimmel-sarah-paulson-trump-book-full-disclosure https://news.yahoo.com/andrew-yang-talks-identity-campaign-225414757.html (The “emasculation” he references is explicitly penis size, although - bizarrely for the huffington post - the article is intentionally vague.) And it’s only going to get worse. 2020 promises to be the year of the penis in American politics. People who subscribe to left-right political dynamics always fail to take into account that the pendulum swings, much like the dicks with which everyone is obsessed. Which brings me back to what I’ve repeatedly said, sexual prowess and phallus obsession are the only things that bridge both ends of the political spectrum - it’s the one thing valued by both radical feminism and toxic masculinity. Read the typical comments in the radical sewers of the internets. Phallus worship will be the state religion. No hyperbole here. I thought of writing a long post about this in verse like Nostradamus but decided not too. I might write an e-book and try to make some shekels so I can afford to pay attractive young couples to produce sex shows for me in a luxurious atmosphere.
  31. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Clocks go forward

    Don't forget we lose a hours sleep
  32. 1 point
    Daveuk

    This week near end of month

    Monday went out to buy two colas Tuesday Signed on at 11:30am Wednesday stayed in and day to myself Thursday safe guarding at 11:00am and CR at 7pm Friday Probation at 9:30am and then had tea at firststop and got money and shopping at 11am
  33. 1 point
    Obsolete

    What's the point?

    @LaLaThanks for the reading and viewing material I will be sure to check it all out.
  34. 1 point
    Obsolete

    What's the point?

    More than anything I wanted to be a father and husband. That dream began at a very early age. Career wise I was never really clear on what I wanted. All I knew was I wanted a small family and do whatever it took to maintain a happy home. That dream is all but dead now. I guess intelligence is just one of those things that are better to have than not. It's no fun walking around feeling like an idiot and it makes for better job and mate prospects. I noticed at a very early age that women place high value on intelligence when it comes to choosing a long term mate. I was aware even then that I was not particularly very bright compared to my peers. I struggled academically and socially so I began distancing myself with the idea that I would work on my intelligence, and once comfortable with my cognitive abilities, return to mingle again. I never got to the point of being comfortable with my thinking abilities and so over time I've concluded that I'm simply not suitable for a mate. I don't want to burden anyone with my foolishness. What woman wants a dumb man to marry and start a family with, and what child would be proud to have a dull father? It's best and fair that I remove myself from the mating game. •Lack of intelligence. •Lack of education. •No charm. •Small penis and I'm a short man. I really appreciate that. It's ok. I don't mind the questions. It's just that you're so kind and positive I wish I had better/more positive responses. I appreciate your efforts.
  35. 1 point
    Dot

    memory & blackouts

    Hi All, I'm the wife of someone with bipolar disorder looking for information on blackouts. Recently, my husband weaned himself off of medication, and for two days in a row, he didn't remember conversations that I'd had with him or that my mother had with him. When I mentioned said conversation, he said, "We never talked about that," and looked at me like I was completely making something up to screw with him. Prior to his psychotic episode (which led to diagnosis), this would happen all the time, and he basically convinced me I was crazy and I was making things up. It was a mess, it was terrifying, it destroyed my self-esteem, and I'm terrified that it's going to happen again. Are the people in your life making this up to take advantage of you? Probably not. I wanted to add this because everyone seems to be telling you that your loved ones are messing with you, and as a partner to someone with mental illness, I wanted to offer the opinion that they love you and they're concerned for you and that the diagnosis itself is probably connecting the dots for them. Also, it likely got worse before they started noticing it, so it became hard to ignore. Now, will folks take advantage of your diagnosis in terms of custody and childcare and whatnot? Who knows. I just wanted to let you know what it was like for someone on the other end.
  36. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    Hope things turn around Obsolete. I know what you mean about life. It's weird, sometimes you have to hope things get better and sometimes you have to accept how they are. Making that call is not always easy.
  37. 1 point
    jazz

    What's the point?

    Sorry you are having a tough time Obsolete and feel this way. The world needs you ⭐
  38. 1 point
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry you're feeling suicidal. How long the feeling has been there? Is there something specific that triggered / increased it today? I see that you don't think it's probable that things will get better for you. But testimonies from people who have survived a suicide attempt show that life can bring also unexpected changes for better and people are grateful for having survived to be able to experience them. Could you, for now, try to write more about how you feel, to vent? Could you, perhaps, even try to search for some other reasons to stay alive than just the fear of hell? Are there, for instance, some people (or pets?) important for you who would miss you? Are there some things that you can still enjoy, despite the negative aspects of your life? Have you already tried all the possible therapies? ... Take care! I hope you'll stay with us...
  39. 1 point
    malign

    A Year Gap

    I think this is the longest gap there's ever been in this blog, which has been running since 2008. I guess nothing too surprising happened this past year: classes go on; it will soon be time for practicum, where the rubber meets the ... forehead of the client; I went back to work for the big-box grocery-slash-everything chain I worked for before ... All the usual anniversaries went by: my hospitalization, my ex filing a restraining order that began the end of our marriage, and so on, but they didn't carry very much weight this time. More prominent was the two year anniversary of my second marriage, which is much happier. I continue to make progress in my own therapy. And that might be part of the reason for the gap: I would like to postpone writing until I'm "done", whatever that means, until I think I can sound smart describing the humbling process of coming to terms with coping "skills" that I would rather change. What I found, mostly, is that my childhood was, in fact, kind of difficult, despite everyone involved doing their best and no major evil. My folks just had too much on their hands, having two baby boys in their 40's. As the first child, I did my best to relieve them of some of the burden, which simply isn't a child's job ... It made it very confusing about what I'm allowed to do, what I'm allowed to want, who I'm allowed to be. The limits seemed a good idea at the time. Now I have to reconcile the part that resents all that I thought I should give up with the part that thought that giving those things up was a good idea. And I do mean reconcile; there's a desire to "replace" the old manager part, but all that does is change which part is exiled. I have to find an argument to which they'll both agree for why they're stronger and better together. So. Still here, still reading, still hoping that people benefit. See y'all around.
  40. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Thanks Jazz! Slowly but surely there is some progress being made. I'm not hard to please. So long as progress is being made I am happy. Other than that things are fine. I always feel a bit better physically this time of year as we get into Spring. Hope all is well w you.
  41. 1 point
    Obsolete

    “Finally, A New Emoji...”

    Good to see you gentlemen and ladies still looking out for each other. Hope you're all doing well. Kling, take care of yourself mate.
  42. 1 point
    That is the most ridiculous BS I've ever seen. We're supposed to believe that average size in Denmark is almost 8 inches? Of course it is LOL. The fact that the average Danish penis is 7.6" on the first graph and only 6.26" on the second tells you all you need to know.
  43. 1 point
    TheDane

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    Women today want men who are honest, rich, intelligent, tall, humorous, romantic, eksotic, erotic, energetic, good looking, itellectual, empathic, good fathers, adaptable, bold, brave, confident, considerate, funny, friendly, adventurous, dedicated, creative , emotional , helpful.........etc. Oh.... but if he has a big penis they are lenient on those demands. On the other hand, if has a small penis. He could have all the afforementioned characteristics. to no avail. I am sure there are some readers both male and female who now solipsistically thinks. "Hey I am not like that", or "my GF is not like that" . hence to that there is no truth to this theory. And I need to defend women from this outlandish idea.
  44. 1 point
    RonaldU

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    @Victimorthecrime I get your point, but the effects of it are also debateable You can claim, in general professional community does, that size (and specially small size changes like 1") doesn't have any physical effect on pleasure. You can agree or disagree, but is debateable, no data supports that size matters either appart from a % on women's oppinion. Same thing goes for b). It's debateable whether you have the sensibility inside your body to perceive such size change. There are more factors than size, that's why not all girls care or like same sizes. Maths are maths, and 25% increase it's 25% increase. But what that means in intercourse is not maths.
  45. 1 point
    RonaldU

    Thy Enemy.....Small Penis

    Well, in %, as this are (in general, not talking about penises) small figures, yes, it's a pretty big increase. But if you think about it in inches or cm, it's almost nothing, many people won't be able to tell if an object is closer to 4" or 5"
  46. 1 point
    TheDane

    Ranting on about women

    There is that black girl in one of the videos who claims: " they say that short penises should be allowed to have sex. I dont think so. I need at least 7 inches...." I would like to say a few things about her, but I'll refrain sinking to her level. If size is so important to women I can't blame them for prefering bigger ones......Then I just dont want to hear about things like intimacy, emotions, personality. Since according to the girls in the videos, this comes second or third.
  47. 1 point
    IrmaJean

    Ranting on about women

    I have never had such a conversation either; nor would I. I believe that when someone shares their vulnerability, this is something I would always want to respect and honor. I have shared my thoughts here many times over the years. My personal feelings about sex have little to do with the actual physical aspect and much more to do with the emotional connection. The act is a gift of sharing self with another. Physical intimacy would be about the gift of recognizing a person in this sense and the unfolding of that. My personal feelings, for whatever they are worth.. I have heard women make general type of rude jokes that I have found offensive. One time I told a co worker that they probably didn't realize how painful this could be for some men. Otherwise I would not associate with people who talked about others in this way.
  48. 1 point
    So I just posted this into the new forum section but I feel that it should be here... So I’m 31 years old and recently got married. I had been happily married for 7 months now and apart from financial struggles and my issue we are really happy with each other. My problem is that I keep thinking about how unhappy I’m about his penies’ size. I mean I knew it and really thought I could deal with it and adjust like I have, but I keep having dreams about exes or just wishing it was what I really like. He is great in bed, a very pleasant lover and in fact the second man that I can actually orgasm with. I feel ashamed to even feel this way because he is been a blessing to me. He is aware to some sort that he wasn’t my type and that I prefer a larger size but he was willing to show me he was enough and indeed he has but I still feel that I missed what I used to like. He even bought toys and things to try to please me. He tried an extender but I felt uncomfortable because I felt as if I was having sex with someone else. Just to give you a little more info. I was exposed to porn at an very early age so that set the bar kind of high for me, and since i started experimenting with sex I always prefer thick and 7-8 inches, 6 was tops for me in terms of how low i was willing to go. At some point when I wasn’t this mature it was a total deal breaker for me. I’m a big and thick girl and having a man with a big size was just like common sense to me. But once things got serious I decided to choose happiness and love over looks and size. That’s how I convinced myself. I felt guilty letting him go just for his size. In fact I did broke up with him about 3 times for the same issue but we will go back and try again and things would get easier. My husbands hides inside of him completely when Is not erected, which freaks me out, and with an erection is 3 - 4 tops in good days. It’s not thick but not thin either is fine. What would be your advise? Should I seek profesional help? Thanks for your time.
  49. 1 point
    Resolute

    females views etc (Trigger Warning!)

    @LouisZ next time just ask her and her friends: "how do saggy old chicks like you have the balls to wear bathing suits in public?".
  50. 1 point
    Mark

    MentalHelp.net's Self-Help Book link

    All, At GingerSnap's request, I'm posting a link to our free online self-help book, titled "Psychological Self-Tools". This is a 150+ page resource that provides an overview of psychologically oriented self-help strategies for managing mental health and illness issues. It's been a part of the MentalHelp.net website for many years now, and is a well loved and well utilized resource which I encourage you to take a look at. Psychological Self-Tools - Online Self-Help Book The book is divided into chapters which I will link just below: Chapter 1 - Self-help: What is it? Chapter 2 - Understanding the Nature of your Problem Chapter 3 - Overview of Bio-Psycho-Social Theories Chapter 4 - Meeting Basic Needs Chapter 5 - Changing Behavior and Thought Chapter 6 - Changing Your Mood Chapter 7 - Changing Your Knowledge Chapter 8 - Changing Your Relationships Chapter 9 - Changing Your Identity and Motivation Chapter 10 - Your Unique Self-Help Plan Chapter 11 - Specific Problems Chapter 12 - Dependency Hope this is helpful! Mark
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