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  1. 4 points
    Small

    whining thread

    It's 2 years tomorrow that we lost our friend Resolute. RIP We miss you.
  2. 3 points
    Daveuk

    My attempt at homemade potato salad

    Behold my 3rd attempt
  3. 2 points
    Klingsor

    whining thread

  4. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    Two weeks I been moving into a bedsit like place ( Fully staffed and safe ) not sure if I would be able to get net back on but will try but if in two weeks you don't see my updated blog you now know why David
  5. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    Hi all really enjoying my new place have my old one for a lil while longer still have no internet there
  6. 2 points
    jazz

    The power of negative thinking?

    Yes, there is also the idea about decision making that Susan Jeffers wrote about in her book 'Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway' = "Don't protect, correct." It's just knowing when to correct and getting on with it that can be difficult! http://greystoneglobal.com/dont-protect-correct-your-strategic-planning/
  7. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    Some photos of the new place
  8. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    Update: Be moving the bigger stuff to new place this Thursday afternoon at 2pm
  9. 2 points
    IrmaJean

    The power of negative thinking?

    I think there is good information in that video. Positive thinking does help me at times, but I think Jazz is right about balance. I would call myself an optimistic realist. And that works for me, but might not work best for others. Situations are always evolving too, there are adjustments to make and that might also include adjustments to what helps and what doesn't. There is always more to learn, when we are open to it, I think. Open-mindedness, actually, may very well be what helps me personally the most. I am very interested in psychology as well and read whenever I can.
  10. 2 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Dear uncle Vic

    Yes we will miss but hopefully not for long
  11. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Dear uncle Vic

    Dear uncle Vic Will those miss my Quirkiness comments and blogs and me ?
  12. 2 points
    jazz

    The power of negative thinking?

    I quite like reading the latest research in positive psychology. Balance seems key to me - a lot of what gets worried about never happens. Also doing stuff that is enjoyable can be v helpful rather than 'just' saying lots of cheerful mantras.
  13. 2 points
    Harry Truman said "if you are going through Hell keep going"
  14. 2 points
    jazz

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Reminds of learning piano as a child - my teacher would say "don't worry about any mistakes when performing, just keep going." Life is often like that, keep going and hope for the best.
  15. 2 points
    Ok so the problem I had w the house was that back in February i suddenly had water on my floor. My house has no basement so the floor is a concrete slab. A water pipe in that slab burst. It was as much fun as it sounds and costly too. Here is what I learned: get a second opinion always. The 1st plumber was an idiot who completely misdiagnosed the problem. I paid the price in time (vacation time), money and misery. The other thing I learned: keep a clear & open mind when things go wrong. I defaulted into catastrophic thinking and that didn't help. Lastly what I learned is that everyday there is some fuck up problem. It might be your body, you job, your house, your car, your phone, people in your life etc.. If you let that ruin your life you might as well give up now - go drink, declare bankruptcy, go on welfare etc because that's just how it is. You have to live you life and enjoy your life in spite of it, in defiance of it.
  16. 2 points
    Daveuk

    My attempt at homemade potato salad

    I am going to attempt a 3rd try hmmmmm
  17. 2 points
    I do like potato salad ๐Ÿฅ”
  18. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Hi All MSC pals :)

  19. 1 point
    jazz

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    Thought you wrote 'it would be more honey', Vic ๐Ÿ˜„
  20. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    ADD & OCPD together

    @Ladichy that sounds like a lot to deal with on a daily basis. I am not a clinical person so I wonโ€™t even pretend to know what to do. I will say this: if it was me I would just try everything under the sun until I found something that works. Dietary changes, exercise, psychiatry, therapy, among other things would be on the list. Good luck!
  21. 1 point
    If you have, say, a five incher, then you should definitely find a way to overcome your fears and pursue normal relationships. Smaller than that, it may get more complicated and difficult, but there are guys here with truly small size and have done alright. I am around 5" and my fear was the issue for years. I didn't have sex until I was closer to 30.
  22. 1 point
    NewHere

    Hi

    HI, I am new here. Born and raised in Europe, female, currently in the USA. Hobbies: gardening, reading, traveling
  23. 1 point
    LaLa

    My MIL

    Hello and welcome! I'm sorry you've got to deal with such a terrible person . It's good you've finally started trying to get some help / support for yourself (by writing here), even though I would have recommended it much sooner; perhaps part of the troubles might have been avoided. But I'm not blaming you, I'm just sorry you had to live thought (mainly) those awful 5 weeks with her. You haven't mentioned your husband's relationship to her, nor how he perceives this situation - her behaviour towards you and how it's been affecting you. How would you describe his perceptions, preferences, and opinions in this context? I just hope he's fully on your side and will help you with the changes you need. Although the so far worst experiences (those 5 weeks) are already a past, she's still hurting you too much and I would definitely suggest you to protect yourself from further harm and even, if possible, to get (professional) help for the damage already done. This is why I'd suggest psychotherapy (or counselling). You might be able to achieve it on your own, but good professional help would be very useful. My opinion is that you should cut any contacts with her to a minimum (or zero, if possible). Perhaps arrange, with your husband, his phone-calls (with her) to take place only when you're not home (/'around'). And here are some articles that might help you with figuring out your own answers to your questions: https://turnerpsychologycalgary.com/toxic-relationships-with-family-members-when-to-quit-counselling-articles/ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/heres-how-to-deal-with-toxic-family-members https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-handle-a-toxic-family-member https://psychcentral.com/blog/whats-a-toxic-person-how-do-you-deal-with-one/ Take care and good luck!
  24. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    That's cool. Ask around to see if your phone can connect to Wifi because you won't need to use data minutes. That's what I do at Starbucks or the library or wherever I can switch to Wifi mode. You can get to this site on a public computer at a library too. Good luck keep us posted.
  25. 1 point
    jazz

    The power of negative thinking?

    I have some books on psychology e.g. tips from happiness research, I like the wellbeing and psychology section in a bookshop. Also read Psychology Today, yes. Some interesting articles but some subjects do crop up on there over and over - like how to deal with narcissists (surely there can't be that many narcissists in the world!) There is a writer on there called Marty Nemko - I like his writing style and practical advice. He writes about careers but also life tips/observations from years helping clients.
  26. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    Not sure I have found I can get two ยฃ5 E vouchers for the phone and buy two data packs to give me 300 data allowance
  27. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    The power of negative thinking?

    Do you just search on the internet or subscribe to psychology today or something similar? I find psychology interesting and followed psychology today on FB but dropped after too many male bashing articles.
  28. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Hi All MSC pals :)

    I had to google bedsit. Interesting. Good luck w it.
  29. 1 point
    YOTH

    My Friend Tom

    I'm ok, I've done a lot of forgiveness work, a few times over. I don't want the rest of the year to be a focus on what went wrong. He was worth more than grief and mourning, so I'm trying to remember them both exactly how they were before. I just really don't want another guy to feel like he has nobody and do something permanent because of sps.
  30. 1 point
    lbaker

    Small Penis Success Stories

    5 x 5 is nothing to write home about, but it's not really small either. A guy has to date and marry in "his league." There are a lot of women out there, they can't all be with a guy with a big dick even if that is what they want.
  31. 1 point
    When I finally started to date late in college, I used mental denial in combination with alcohol. Somehow, I used to convince myself I was "about 6" though I never measured. I almost never socialized or had sex without drinking. I'm not advocating this. Drinking creating its own set of problems! "Denial" was like walking on a narrow mountain footpath at the edge of ledge with a 1000 foot drop-off. Seems to me it should be possible to have a realistic estimate of ones handicap and act accordingly. I think it is important not to over or under-estimate ones penile handicap. Learning to take the negative opinions of others, especially men, in stride wouldn't hurt either. But I don't get a repeat.
  32. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Dear uncle Vic

    Hmmm...so long as the potatoes aren't too mushy I like any potato salad so I'll have to say nothing! As for individual taste I like black pepper, onion, grated cheese on mine. Not a big celery guy but I can deal. Not a bacon bits guy. What seasonings do you like? ๐Ÿค”
  33. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Dear uncle Vic

    Yes it does, more than it should, but what I have seen is that people that have other skills, carry themselves w confidence and do what they can to look their best can overcome it.
  34. 1 point
    jazz

    Dear uncle Vic

    Dear Uncle Vic, Does appearance matter? Regards, Boris
  35. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Dear uncle Vic

    There a joke with that Q. What do you get if you get houmous with a side of veg ? A. Houmouside
  36. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Dear uncle Vic

    I have not done the 3rd attempt yet might need smaller potatoes
  37. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Dear uncle Vic

    Okay change the subject
  38. 1 point
    Ok, i get you on the model photo. I think guys do mostly notice this and make unspoken comparisons. This is torture with SPS. It does not plague me so much now the way it once did, but i do sometimes feel that nagging dark cloud when a big bulge is there. On the other hand, i have noticed that a lot of guys really don't have much going on there. I'm thankfully not as obsessed these days. I know how much the feeling sucks...but it's understandable.
  39. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Dear uncle Vic

    Yeah I get on a roll sometimes ๐Ÿ˜€
  40. 1 point
    Me too. I just buy it from the store and add chopped onion. I love potatoes period. I even add them to chili! So Dee-rish-ous
  41. 1 point
    Victimorthecrime

    Dear uncle Vic

    Good question. The problem I run into is that even w people that I largely agree with we will eventually run across an issue where we disagree and it stirs anger. So on balance I would say it's not a good idea but at the same time acknowledging that it's going to happen. At the very least one needs to know when to bail if things get heated. What do you think? Do you discuss politics w friends/family and if so how does it turn out?
  42. 1 point
    jazz

    Dear uncle Vic

    Dear Uncle Vic, Is it a good idea to talk politics with friends or not? Thanks, Mrs May
  43. 1 point
    u.r.what.u.is

    My Friend Tom

    Dammit, dammit, dammit. YOTH, thank you for your post, and you have my thoughts right now.
  44. 1 point
    Daveuk

    Dear uncle Vic

    Dear uncle Vic. That is all. Just wanted to make this thread alive again.
  45. 1 point
    Helpless_loner

    My Friend Tom

    I'm speechles.....๐Ÿ˜ช
  46. 1 point
    LaLa

    My Friend Tom

    That's so terrible and so very sad ... And... they laughed at SPS??? SPS should be a part of the standard curriculum for all medicine students - how come it is not?? (A naive question, I know ...) Thank you for sharing the truth with us. I wish all people working at A&Es learn about this and never let something like that happen again. How do you feel, YOTH, how are you coping? Take care.
  47. 1 point
    I'm not against it perse, I've seen some pretty good results from surgery so I can't say unequivocally it doesn't work. But anything other that actual surgery is bollocks and even some surgery looks sketchy. This, injecting the cock with God knows what is quite frightening, but again, I don't know enough to dispute the results. Penis pumps are the 'biggest' swiz. Well, after penis pills that is, I wouldn't take anything like that, even for a big clock lol. We're not living in the greatest era for plastic surgery. Come back in 100 years and it'll probably be like going to the dentist.
  48. 1 point
    TimmyStan1967

    Small Penis AND Gay?

    Which leads me to wonder if gays with small dicks could at least form a support group and all get together and be as one and all understand each other where as hetrosexual dudes with small dicks are fucked.
  49. 1 point
    malign

    Christian perspective on shame

    But why, exactly, dvn? In a way, you're the only one that you can actually have faith in. You can't even be sure the rest of us actually exist ... But you know for sure that you do. To me, that would seem to give a person at least the faith that they deserve to exist. The problem, really, isn't the people "out there" who say you're worthless; it's that you give their opinion weight because you believe it yourself. Otherwise, it would be easy to say that they just don't know you well enough. But if you already feel you're worthless, then it seems as if they've discovered your deepest secret, and must be right. Personally, I don't think you're worthless, because I don't think anyone's worthless.
  50. 1 point
    dvnJ22

    Christian perspective on shame

    I'm entirely sure I'm a Christian, I was raised in a Christian fundamentalists religion. While I'm still technically a member, it's only because my family are members, and if leave I will be shunned. However I still really like the bible, especially the parts with Jesus. I wish I could find a decent church.
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