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  1. 5 points
    I won’t go into detail but HR is working to get me moved to a position that requires minimal human interaction. If that doesn’t work out I’ve got some interviews coming up. Things are relatively ok and stable as long as all I have to do is go to work and come home. It’s when there’s traveling and meetings and non-routine bullshit that disequilibrium hits and all it takes is reading something like that Vice article to set me off. I found it at the worst possible time.
  2. 5 points
    Isn't that an opportunity to find a new job? If you think the "culture" there would be the same, perhaps you could come there, among people who don't know you, with a made-up back-story, like being a widower (who's not ready to date anyone because of grief). I know it doesn't sound ideal, but it's just one of possible options; the one that quickly came to my mind. And I would say that even that seems better to me than giving up on life as a whole... I know it's subjective (-what is "better"). I know it's terribly hard on you to be in this situation, with these experiences. But you've been living in a bubble of stupidly biased (in their vies of masculinity and relationships) people, so you're also biased (because of them) in your view of people and possible relationships (thinking it's impossible for you to have friends among colleagues, for instance). Could you ask for help a social worker who would help to manage your search for a new job as well as searching for help with your mental health? I know it doesn't sound "appealing", but it might help, so who cares about apparences, fears ... I hope you won't leave the forum; you'd be missed and... possibly, you'd also miss some people from here. Hang in there, you're more a important person than you can see now...
  3. 4 points
    Small

    whining thread

    It's 2 years tomorrow that we lost our friend Resolute. RIP We miss you.
  4. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    "It's big enough to be on your mind" would be my response.
  5. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    And just to expand on this a tiny bit - it's not our fault. It's important to realize that life is often hard and that is completely independent of anything we have done. There is only so much we can even impact much less control.
  6. 4 points
    YOTH

    “Finally, A New Emoji...”

    I know I have no right to be upset, it's your path, not mine. But we're friends, Kling. There's hope for you, we're the same size for Christ's sake. Please don't give up. But if you do, I get it and I'm not pissed off. It's just more fucking bullshit. I can't sleep, I'm thinking about you, then Tom, then you again. It's not your fault I feel that way, but it hurts anyway. Tell me what I can do and I'll do it. Come here and live with us, I'll put you up in the spare room for as long as you need (genuine offer, couldn't be more serious). Start a new life in the UK. Change your focus to something, anything until the cloud has passed. After that, if you're still wanting out, I'll kill you myself lol. Message me, mate. Or at least message someone.
  7. 4 points
    Thanks for responding Klingsor. I remember you hated that job. I wish I could quit mine. I guess things got unbearable there. Take a break. Get back to the job search as your able. Sometimes there are more possibilities than we at first see. I hear ya about being exhausted. Hope you catch a break. Keep us posted please.
  8. 4 points
    retr0john

    I wish you well

    I hope this holiday finds everyone well and content, at least for a little while. If you can please be with family or friends whom you love and care about. I've grown to like and care about many of you long time posters here, and while I know we have our troubles and on going problems know that I and others here do think about you and wish you well. Happy Holidays, and for those who celebrate Merry Christmas. John
  9. 4 points
    IrmaJean

    Ranting on about women

    I have never had such a conversation either; nor would I. I believe that when someone shares their vulnerability, this is something I would always want to respect and honor. I have shared my thoughts here many times over the years. My personal feelings about sex have little to do with the actual physical aspect and much more to do with the emotional connection. The act is a gift of sharing self with another. Physical intimacy would be about the gift of recognizing a person in this sense and the unfolding of that. My personal feelings, for whatever they are worth.. I have heard women make general type of rude jokes that I have found offensive. One time I told a co worker that they probably didn't realize how painful this could be for some men. Otherwise I would not associate with people who talked about others in this way.
  10. 4 points
    jazz

    Mental abuse and Human Rights violations

    Raisul, it seems like you may well need to consult a psychological professional about this. Just a couple of techniques that may help too - before you go to bed imagine having safe, comfortable, pleasant dreams, visualize nice scenes, listen to pleasant music you like, maybe light a candle for yourself and focus on it. If you wake up having had a nightmare repeat the above and keep repeating it. If you hear a 'voice' or 'voices' that threaten, mentally 'say' silence and imagine turning the volume down on it/them to zero and keep doing it anytime you may hear anything. You could use your IT thinking and mentally press a delete button on it/them. Do the same any time you hear anything. Adopt a zero tolerance approach. Distraction techniques may also help, like listening to soothing sounds of your choice. If you keep practising these techniques it may get easier. Just to add you could imagine a buzzer sound going off that blocks any threatening sound you may hear too, sound blocking the unwanted sound.
  11. 4 points
    Daveuk

    Day 6. New week

    Been a peaceful day in again. Did a bit of tidying up cleaning the flat and clear headness
  12. 3 points
    Totally Pointless Life

    whining thread

  13. 3 points
    Daveuk

    My attempt at homemade potato salad

    Behold my 3rd attempt
  14. 3 points
    Alex Allman is a sex and relationship expert. He has thousands of regular male and female readers and is very well-respected in his field. He has written books, regular newsletters, and made many videos on these subjects. Alex is very honest and is dedicated to delivering the truth to everyone. A few years ago, he conducted a massive survey study on women's thoughts and attitudes towards penis size. He wanted to know whether size really matters to women and how much. This is the best, most accurate, conclusive, definitive, survey that has ever been done on this subject. Alex has the best data you just can't find anywhere else. What makes this so? First, over 2,000 women were surveyed. Nobody else has ever used such a large sample size. Second, he didn't just ask a yes or no as to whether or not size matters. He asked many specific, thorough, in-depth questions that no other survey has ever done before. I would encourage all men that have some penis size insecurities and all women that are curious about this very sensitive topic to please watch Alex Allman's excellent presentation video of the results of his excellent researched survey. I will provide the link below. It's about 9 minutes long. In the meantime, I will reveal many of the highlights: Does penis size matter? 65% of the women answered yes. Only 5% of the women that answered yes said it was a critical factor. The rest said it didn't matter at all. 20% of the women said some time in the past they had broken up with a man because his penis was too small. 17% of the women said some time in the past they had broken up with a man because his penis was too big. From the 65% of the women that said yes to penis size mattering, Alex wanted to know how important penis size was to them when compared to other personality and physical traits. He listed a total of 15 different factors and asked those women to rank them in order of importance. The results were that penis size came in dead last and was the least important to women when compared to all other factors/attributes. 60% of the women said too small was anything under 4 inches while 10% said it didn't matter at all. 50% of the women said anything over 8 inches was too big while 15% said it didn't matter at all. Only 2% of the women said there is no such thing as too big. The most popular penis size preference for women is 6 inches. The majority of the women said width is more important than length. Half of the women said good oral and finger skills can make up for a small penis. 80% of the women said they don't care what a man's penis looks like when it's flaccid (soft). 95% of the women said that hardness of the penis is more important than any particular size. 90% of the women said that a man lasting longer is more important than any particular size. To find out more, here is the link: https://www.revolutionarysex.com/the-motion-in-the-ocean-women-tell-the-truth-about-penis-size
  15. 3 points
    Hi Beth. I'm ok. Dealing w some house issues and I know you know about that. Just taking one day at a time and doing my best. I guess what I have learned is that unless you are multi-millionaire rich life is endless endless problems and if you are going to let that get in the way of your enjoyment you might as well do yourself and everyone else a favor and go live in a monastery or something.
  16. 3 points
    It’s little joys like that I live for. Usually once a month I buy a large pizza on Friday night with breadsticks, salad full works and a dr. Pepper and then watch a movie. It’s a welcome indulgence
  17. 3 points
    One the way home from work yesterday I was so tired and in need of some boost that I stopped at the local bakery and bought a pig-out box! Eclair, brownie, cream puff. It was delicious 😋
  18. 3 points
    When faced w life's difficulties I have found that the only things that help at all are: 1) getting rest and generally taking care of myself 2) what I call "higher level thinking" meaning not being emotional but rather being analytical and taking concentrated look at the facts and the options clustered around those facts and 3) just plain old hard motherfucking work. Sorry to be blunt but nothing else expresses it the way I want. It will get there. It takes what it takes but it will get there. Talking about the house and the financial situation mostly, along w life in general.
  19. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry you're feeling so down, Obsolete. 🙁This life thing can be challenging, I hear you. I don't have any simple answers, but I am here listening and I care. Depression can make everything feel dark and not possible. I think one of the points of therapy is to have a safe space to openly share feelings. True that therapy isn't for everyone, though. I think we each need to find what works best or helps us most, however that looks for each individual. It's good that you reached out here. I hope that expressing yourself helps. Take care of you.
  20. 3 points
    malign

    A Year Gap

    I think this is the longest gap there's ever been in this blog, which has been running since 2008. I guess nothing too surprising happened this past year: classes go on; it will soon be time for practicum, where the rubber meets the ... forehead of the client; I went back to work for the big-box grocery-slash-everything chain I worked for before ... All the usual anniversaries went by: my hospitalization, my ex filing a restraining order that began the end of our marriage, and so on, but they didn't carry very much weight this time. More prominent was the two year anniversary of my second marriage, which is much happier. I continue to make progress in my own therapy. And that might be part of the reason for the gap: I would like to postpone writing until I'm "done", whatever that means, until I think I can sound smart describing the humbling process of coming to terms with coping "skills" that I would rather change. What I found, mostly, is that my childhood was, in fact, kind of difficult, despite everyone involved doing their best and no major evil. My folks just had too much on their hands, having two baby boys in their 40's. As the first child, I did my best to relieve them of some of the burden, which simply isn't a child's job ... It made it very confusing about what I'm allowed to do, what I'm allowed to want, who I'm allowed to be. The limits seemed a good idea at the time. Now I have to reconcile the part that resents all that I thought I should give up with the part that thought that giving those things up was a good idea. And I do mean reconcile; there's a desire to "replace" the old manager part, but all that does is change which part is exiled. I have to find an argument to which they'll both agree for why they're stronger and better together. So. Still here, still reading, still hoping that people benefit. See y'all around.
  21. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Sunday morning, after breakfast and having tea and just relaxing a tiny bit before getting to some chores and thought I would post. Having some chronic difficulties w this house that I don't even want to go into. These APPs like Home Advisor, Thumbtack, etc are a joke. Most of the repairman are far away and none call you back. Get better results out of the Yellow Pages! Anyway times like this I remind myself that there are people fighting stage 4 brain, lung, breast, and colon cancer along w any number of other painful, chronic, life-threatening diseases and those folks would give anything to have home repairs be their biggest problem. It's the only thing that gives me perspective & peace. All we can do is our best and take one thing at a time. Hope everyone is doing well or at least reasonablely well.
  22. 3 points
    Small

    My so called life

    Hi @retr0john I'm glad I saw this post, i very nearly missed it. All things considered i am doing okay. I've had a lot of ups & downs recently but have mostly been focusing on work. I've managed to find myself in a position where i do most from home & only got to the office for meetings, and that suits me just fine. I just got home from my sister's house where i spent the afternoon with my niece. We hung out, talked, debated & she put some fish & chips in the oven. I've been teaching my nephew a little more boxing. He's 8 years old - not completely coordinated yet but he's a big boy. Looks like he could have a heavyweight type build! So far he manages to stay in his stance with decent technique. He hits like a mule too. It's mittwork so far with very light sparring. (I don't hit him - he gets to beat me up & practices defending the occasional shot) I'm glad you're getting back in shape again! Were you terribly out of shape? Do you set KM targets or are you walking more casually? I haven't walked regularly since last summer & I'm hoping to get that going in the spring! I rollerskate too and that is a better workout than it looks What are you planning to do at the gym? I'm happy to see you had the kids over & got to cook again. I've been rooting for you these past few months & it's good news. Do you have any more plans to get together with them? And have you got the appetite back to cook again? I don't cook myself so I appreciate a well prepared meal. I mostly boil rice & make a veg & meat stir fry for both lunch & dinner. For breakfast it's toast & scrambled eggs. (No drinking raw eggs for me) Thanks for posting John. I'm happy to hear from you & hope you keep seeing positive developments.
  23. 3 points
    LaLa

    How are we all ?

    I'm OK, but don't often feel like writing 💭
  24. 3 points
    Bob16

    seeking advice

    I'll give it one last try
  25. 3 points
    malign

    seeking advice

    Hi Bob, I'm sorry to hear you're suffering so much. I hope you'll give yourself some time before going with an irreversible decision. I'm interested in your phobia of people; could you talk about that, more? It doesn't apply to your family, it seems. Did something happen to cause it? What are you afraid will happen? Since we're people, I assume that it would require us to meet in person? Recluse or homeless, or dead. Seems like there might be some other options -- treatment or self-help for your phobia comes to mind. You said that being homeless would be like dying only with more suffering. What if, though it might take even more effort/suffering, you could actually live?
  26. 3 points
    retr0john

    I wish you well

    It's good to hear from all of you! Small and I have PMed each other a little this past year. I've been through a tough time, but I'm starting to recover. I guess time heals all wounds. It's Christmas eve, I hope all of you are in good health and you're snug, warm and with folks you care about.
  27. 3 points
    Small

    My so called life

    Hey guys, I hope everyone is doing well. It's been a while since I have last posted - life has been getting in the way I guess. How is everyone? Feel free to post here and let me know how things have ben recently. I look a the sps sub forum now and then and it really does seem like a big problem. I do hope that everyone finds the resolve required to deal with their issues - no matter what they are. I had a moment of crisis last night and may very well still be in one. My life is not straightforward. I know that everyone here is lacking in some form or another otherwise we wouldn't be here- even for those who just want to connect with likeminded people. I remember when I first joined this forum and the months and years thereafter. I don't have any shame in admitting that it has brought me much in the way of excitement, drama, joy and a support group. I have met some cool guys here - some still with us and others not. I think sometimes perspective helps and though I have been in my fair share of bickering and spats, I wouldn't change that for the world. I think time either sterilises events or it gives them meaning. This place means so much to me. I hope you all are as well as can be. I do intend to post more!
  28. 3 points
    Daveuk

    The Christmas tree photo

  29. 3 points
    jazz

    Ranting on about women

    TheDane, I can honestly say that I have never had this sort of conversation with my girlfriends, nor would I. I cannot be the only one!
  30. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    Mental abuse and Human Rights violations

    Raisul, do you think it's possible the nightmares you have been experiencing could be a response to your daytime distress? You mentioned being bullied in the past. That kind of experience, especially if it was ongoing, can stay with a person and affect their mental health. It also sounds like you have been having difficulty getting restorative sleep. Sleep deprivation can wreak havoc on both physical and mental health. Have you considered seeing a medical doctor about your sleep difficulties? I also agree that seeing a psychologist might be helpful.
  31. 3 points
    @CNL Dude, write a book. I mean it. A real book talking about the real issues, real mental health and the barriers we and society place between ourselves and normality or peace or happiness or w/e. I've been wanting to put one together for a while, a selection of stories from different men, different sizes, different parts of the world. Just to bring attention to this accepted villainisation < (is that even a word?) of small men from all walks of life as if only small men would commit atrocities (or just because they're your enemy it's ok to body shame). Trump springs to mind, but he's just the tip of the iceberg as this has been going on for years in myriad forms. I think a book would be useful. My girlfriend didn't understand at all, and I'd sheilded her from a lot of my insecurities and anger. But after Tom died and she realised how much this affects men, not as a faceless group of freaks, but as a real guy, a real human, who she'd met and liked (he was such a cool guy to talk to). She's a lot more understanding nowadays, and she is many things, but shallow isn't one of them, even less so now. I think brushing off a whole subsection of men with the "motion in the ocean" speil is not only harmful, but irresponsible from health care 'professionals'. Something needs to change. The levy needs to break.
  32. 3 points
    I don't think I reacted so strongly out of disagreement or misunderstanding, but because I'm hypersensitive about the semantics of this issue. I was more trying to make sure my position was understood by you and any other women reading than I was trying to rebuke anyone. My point was simply that some aspects of human psychology are as fundamental and consistent as our anatomy, and are no more subject to change just because some prerequisite knowledge of the world, like how sex functions, is required to perceive them. A transgendered person who grew up in a vacuum unaware of the other sex they would prefer to be would not be able to categorize or label the dysphoria inside of them - but it would still be there, though dormant due to lack of information. My issue is that the hard, complicated, and long-lasting quality of therapeutic methods just indicates to me that a man is fighting against the current of his own nature when he tries to "accept" having a small penis. It has nothing to do with society, upbringing, personal experiences, and etc in the sense that the dislike of being small arises from instincts so foundational that none of those things could have possibly influenced it to any significant degree. You're up against the basic human affinity for beauty and pleasure, from which follows an enmity for the portions of it we've lost due to our size. The intensity with which these two express themselves in regard to penis size is something that was tuned by evolution itself and cannot be changed. A transgendered person experiencing dysphoria over their body is not battling anything more fundamental to themselves than our size anxiety is to us, and neither can be fixed except by altering the body itself because it's about how you feel about yourself, not about any external influences at all. I wasn't presenting this as a counter argument to anything, but as a statement of the way it just is. But no woman will ever be capable of understanding. Give them 60 seconds in a male body with a small penis and they would though, and that's the frustrating part. It's irrational to feel an ungodly spiritual dissonance between your body and mind because a bodypart is slightly too thin or short, and it's maddening to have such a mechanism hardwired into your brain, and to know that it's hardwired, and yet have everyone question this because it's irrational. I remember reading once about an experiment where the scientists could stimulate a certain part of the brain to immediately conjure the thought of a certain color in the participant. Zap, "red," and done. No steps in between. Trying to explain why I just inherently hate having a small penis is like that person trying to explain the steps in between that aren't there. There fucking isn't one. I just want someone out there to understand this.
  33. 3 points
    Daveuk

    Follow up

    Not going to do anything like that again. Once is enough
  34. 3 points
    LaLa

    Good luck :)

    Good luck!
  35. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Good luck :)

    Good luck 🍀👍 @Daveuk! You got this. Then you can celebrate 🎉
  36. 3 points
    jazz

    WhatsApp (Edit: Not Zoom)

    I hope you're not going to 'zoom' off and not use the forum anymore 🎌
  37. 2 points
    jazz

    Early entry

    Good Luck, Dave. Hope it's a friendly new place.
  38. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Early entry

    I.know I generally do.this on Friday but after tomorrow I might be in new place won't be able to do it Monday - Out to Saintsburys Tuesday - sign up 11:50am took things to new place at 3pm Wednesday - staying in more packing Thursday - probation 9:30am taken some bigger stuff to new place 2pm CR 7:30pm Friday - might be moving in new place and getting paid Hope to be pack soon
  39. 2 points
    IrmaJean

    The power of negative thinking?

    I think there is good information in that video. Positive thinking does help me at times, but I think Jazz is right about balance. I would call myself an optimistic realist. And that works for me, but might not work best for others. Situations are always evolving too, there are adjustments to make and that might also include adjustments to what helps and what doesn't. There is always more to learn, when we are open to it, I think. Open-mindedness, actually, may very well be what helps me personally the most. I am very interested in psychology as well and read whenever I can.
  40. 2 points
    Daveuk

    Dear uncle Vic

    There you go enjoy lol
  41. 2 points
    Monday - Humankind at 9am Routestowork - 10am Tuesday - sign on at 9:25am Wednesday - stayed in rest Thursday - probation at 9:30am tried to find new place at 4:00 CR 7:00pm Friday - Routestowork 9:30 New place viewing 10:00am back there at 4:00pm
  42. 2 points
    jazz

    Sad Birthday

    Sound advice from Uncle Vic 😎 Just thought you could invite them to K Pop or English karaoke, your favourites, make sure they know they will have to pay their share - everyone would probably enjoy that and who knows, they may get the message 😃 The thing about groups is that there is a group mentality - everyone ends up going along even if some of them secretly can't stand Vietnamese karaoke, just to fit in with the herd. You just drew the short straw because you really could not fully understand the language, Alvin. Upsettingly, it ruined your special day - don't let it ruin this special summer.
  43. 2 points
    LaLa

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry I don't have enough time these days, but I'd like to mention at least some things: There are as many women with relatively low intelligence as men, and it's improbable that they would seek a very intelligent man. So from the statistic point of view, intelligence shouldn't be a problem for finding a mate. Moreover, kindness is more important for a relationship - and much more precious for life in general... Sorry for mentioning Ricky Gervais's work again (it's only because I'm now in a "phase" when I watch many videos "with him", so it easily comes to my mind as a reference / example), but I also like this series as an explanation that kindness and friendliness are more important than intelligence, although it will never happen that everybody would agree (but intelligent people have "enemies", too!) : - BTW, also read some of the comments below the video - at least the first 3 (just below the description) I don't know what is your age (I'm curious but you don't have to mention it if you don't want to), but I suppose you should still have a chance to have a family: What do you think about finding a widow or a divorced woman with a child / children? Have you tried on-line dating sites (there you could search for women in such situations)...? Also, you mentioned not having friends. In my opinion, friends are more important than a partner / lover. And making new friends can be an important "intermediate step" between solitude and finding a partner. It necessitates efforts, but... so would both suffering in the status quo and planing a suicide - and the potential outcomes of the two kinds of efforts (living better / not changing or dying) would have such opposite values! Are there any opportunities to volunteer in the area where you live? That would be a great way to start, as it introduces you to new, kind, people as well as gives you a meaningful activity and shows you that you are able to be useful. In addition, you could (later?) try some other regular (free) activities where you could meet new people. BTW, it is very possible that your "academic" problems are mainly due to teaches that weren't competent enough to help you find your true abilities. It happens far too often. One nice example is Daniel Pennac, who'd been considered dumb and problematic by teachers but later was lucky and became a great teacher and writer - he resumes his views on schooling in this great book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12857101-school-blues?rating=2 I don't know if I "should" mention this , but I like this attitude. In general; why should one care about opinions of people who don't understand - and even don't try to understand...??? Even more if they are harsh, rude, make one's life even harder...!?! That's all from me for the moment. I hope very much that both of you will "stay with us" and gradually discover ways to feel much less miserable... Take care!
  44. 2 points
    retr0john

    My so called life

    Hi Small. I hope you are doing well and in a good place in your life right now. I'm walking again, trying to get back into shape and thinking I might join a local gym this spring. You'd asked me in a different thread if I had cooked anything lately. I finally had all three kids over for just a family evening. It's been well over a year since I've seen them in a lighter social setting. I made a stock pot full of chili, and a big pan of scratch made cornbread. It must have hit the spot, there wasn't any leftovers for lunch the next day. We enjoyed a fire outside. I was just a bit wistful, but it was nice to have the kids all together in a lighter atmosphere. I hope everyone's doing well here. I think about all here I've grown to know and think well of you.
  45. 2 points
    What's up guys, I'm gonna get straight to the point. Once upon a time I too languished in misery over this issue. But I got tired and came to the conclusion that I can either: 1. Continue to obsess over it and be miserable 2. Kill myself 3. Accept the situation and figure out how to make the best of these circumstances. I ended up choosing option #3. By this time I was so defeated that I was willing to try anything. I mean, what did I have to lose? And really, what do any of us have to lose? I approached it as an experiment, my new goal was to do whatever it takes to be as happy as possible. So I threw out everything that I thought I knew and was like "okay, I've got a small penis, now what?". Well, I had to accept it. What else is there? But of course by that point the misery was pretty much on auto-pilot -- the obcessing, comparing myself with others, worrying about the future/ grieving over the past, suffering over thwarted ambitions and desires, craving for what others have but I don't, feelings of inferiority and shame, etc,. that stuff had hijacked and completely taken over my mind. So I had to tame my mind. I did so via meditation and zen philosophy (living in the moment, realizing selflessness and impermanence, etc). Soon thereafter I discovered that even though my small penis had contributed to the creation of circumstances that suck, the true origin of most of my suffering lies completely within my head. Once I let go of what I cant have and sought harmony with "what is", my mind settled down and things started to get better. But now I had to adapt to the situation. As a human I need sex and love. So what did I do? Craigslist ads! By now I had adopted a shameless "it is what it is and I don't care" attitude, simply threw myself out there, was completely truthful in my ads, kinda like "look, by conventional standards I'm a loser and my dick is small but here's the pros...", and ya know what? It works! I promise you that no matter your position in life, there's somebody for everybody. Life's way too short and and amazing to spend it dwelling on this stuff. It's all a matter of surrendering to the situation and then figuring out what works. In 100 years we'll probably all be dead, might as well embrace the moment and enjoy whatever's possible. We cant change our dick size but can change how we respond to it. Today I simply do my best and leave the rest up to the universe. Good luck
  46. 2 points
    I’m an engineer. I work in heavy industry. It’s pointless to try and explain this to anyone who isn’t familiar with it. A guy my age who isn’t married or actively dating women is suspected of being homosexual or extremely strange. In either case it amounts to the same thing because you won’t make friends, get any respect or get promotions. That has been my experience. I work for a smaller company now which introduces its own brand of bullshit and drama. And there are cultural considerations too. I don’t have much to contribute to SPS anymore. There’s no point. All I know is it’s fucked my life up beyond recognition.
  47. 2 points
    jazz

    A poll or today

    I haven't seen many films this year - but did see 'I Feel Pretty', a comedy with Amy Schumer and Mamma Mia 2, both of which made me laugh ☺️
  48. 2 points
    IrmaJean

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    Ohh, that sounds very stressful. I always drive as slowly as I need to to make it safely home...5 hours, yikes. That's awful. :-( I have heard NY got 6 inches last night. This is somewhat early for this kind of snowfall.. I hope your day off is restful.
  49. 2 points
    2thin2win

    Here is my story.

    Fallen, I'm a little older than you and have been around the block a few times. I'm not going to lie and tell you that every encounter you have with a woman is going to be an awesome one but who knows, they may very well be. I will tell you that height trumps penis size all day long for most women. Do yourself a favor and do an internet search at what women look for in a man and you will not find one study that will place a dick preference over height. Woman just don't care about dick size as much as we guys do and they tend to place dick size very low on chart. Height and muscles is everything and if you have both, you have no worries. If you're dick is below 4", then maybe you might want to consult a doctor to see what could be done because my advice above will be misguided. If you are over 4", then get the fuck out there and start dating already and I will guarantee you the first girl you have sex with will be coming back for more. trust me on this one. The average is 5", so if you're 4", then you're not far off from average.
  50. 2 points
    LaLa

    Feel all alone

    But at the same time: Do you think most people go and look at them? (I've never did and even didn't know they exist.) Moreover, not many people have such a good memory for faces that if they see you on a photograph, they would also recognize you on the street. I understand that it may feel scary, but I wouldn't let the fear stop your normal / regular activities...
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