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  1. 5 points
    Klingsor

    “Finally, A New Emoji...”

    I won’t go into detail but HR is working to get me moved to a position that requires minimal human interaction. If that doesn’t work out I’ve got some interviews coming up. Things are relatively ok and stable as long as all I have to do is go to work and come home. It’s when there’s traveling and meetings and non-routine bullshit that disequilibrium hits and all it takes is reading something like that Vice article to set me off. I found it at the worst possible time.
  2. 5 points
    LaLa

    “Finally, A New Emoji...”

    Isn't that an opportunity to find a new job? If you think the "culture" there would be the same, perhaps you could come there, among people who don't know you, with a made-up back-story, like being a widower (who's not ready to date anyone because of grief). I know it doesn't sound ideal, but it's just one of possible options; the one that quickly came to my mind. And I would say that even that seems better to me than giving up on life as a whole... I know it's subjective (-what is "better"). I know it's terribly hard on you to be in this situation, with these experiences. But you've been living in a bubble of stupidly biased (in their vies of masculinity and relationships) people, so you're also biased (because of them) in your view of people and possible relationships (thinking it's impossible for you to have friends among colleagues, for instance). Could you ask for help a social worker who would help to manage your search for a new job as well as searching for help with your mental health? I know it doesn't sound "appealing", but it might help, so who cares about apparences, fears ... I hope you won't leave the forum; you'd be missed and... possibly, you'd also miss some people from here. Hang in there, you're more a important person than you can see now...
  3. 5 points
    jazz

    WhatsApp (Edit: Not Zoom)

    I hope you're not going to 'zoom' off and not use the forum anymore 🎌
  4. 5 points
    Klingsor

    "Outed" at Work/School: Coping

    Due to my inability to keep my temper under control and my gigantic mouth shut, I think I may have semi-"outed" myself at work RE penis size. Recently, Yoth informed us of his friend Tom's suicide because of SPS, a significant contribution of which was the harassment he suffered at his job. Yoth I believe has his own work-related experiences as well. I thought I'd make this thread to discuss ways to cope with the consequences of SPS at the two places where I think it's probably most damaging - work and school - simply because they're both like prison. You can't get away in most cases, whereas we aren't forced to mingle at bars or clubs or voluntarily accept abuse in social or informal settings. Yet.
  5. 5 points
    Small

    whining thread

    Thanks for reopening the thread @IrmaJean. And thank you @Klingsorfor writing that. It brought a tear to my eye. It's been a year since Resolute has left us. And I didn't want to let this day go by without mentioning him. I miss him, and to put it selfishly, my life would be a happier place if he was still with us. I find it so difficult to think about him. In my thoughts, I have avoided him all that i could. But in the moments i am overcome with a recollection of him - I first find myself smiling, before being overcome with heartache & grief. I truly miss him. Klingsor has spoken perfectly on his character & there's nothing I can add to it. He is one of the few people that lifted my moods every time we spoke. He actually listened, and knew to how to say the right thing. I don't claim to know the wonders of the universe, or the cycle of life, death & perhaps life again. But I am a believer in God - and I am also a believer in justice. So I hope & pray with all my heart, that no matter where he is, our friend Resolute has found peace. Klingsor: In truth, our final conversations were the darkest we ever shared, and i often wondered if it were better that we didn't have them. I hope that in time you're able to see things as they were, and be at peace with the matter: He loved you and spoke about you up until the very end. Maybe when our lives are over we can see him again and if we do, I know full well that he would greet you with a smile. I don't know what else to say. I still miss him, and I haven't allowed myself to mourn him either. Though he would deny it, i think he would appreciate being remembered by his friends. I feel privileged to have known him, and honoured for him to have called me his friend. RIP.
  6. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    "It's big enough to be on your mind" would be my response.
  7. 4 points
    Victimorthecrime

    What's the point?

    And just to expand on this a tiny bit - it's not our fault. It's important to realize that life is often hard and that is completely independent of anything we have done. There is only so much we can even impact much less control.
  8. 4 points
    YOTH

    “Finally, A New Emoji...”

    I know I have no right to be upset, it's your path, not mine. But we're friends, Kling. There's hope for you, we're the same size for Christ's sake. Please don't give up. But if you do, I get it and I'm not pissed off. It's just more fucking bullshit. I can't sleep, I'm thinking about you, then Tom, then you again. It's not your fault I feel that way, but it hurts anyway. Tell me what I can do and I'll do it. Come here and live with us, I'll put you up in the spare room for as long as you need (genuine offer, couldn't be more serious). Start a new life in the UK. Change your focus to something, anything until the cloud has passed. After that, if you're still wanting out, I'll kill you myself lol. Message me, mate. Or at least message someone.
  9. 4 points
    Thanks for responding Klingsor. I remember you hated that job. I wish I could quit mine. I guess things got unbearable there. Take a break. Get back to the job search as your able. Sometimes there are more possibilities than we at first see. I hear ya about being exhausted. Hope you catch a break. Keep us posted please.
  10. 4 points
    retr0john

    I wish you well

    I hope this holiday finds everyone well and content, at least for a little while. If you can please be with family or friends whom you love and care about. I've grown to like and care about many of you long time posters here, and while I know we have our troubles and on going problems know that I and others here do think about you and wish you well. Happy Holidays, and for those who celebrate Merry Christmas. John
  11. 4 points
    IrmaJean

    Ranting on about women

    I have never had such a conversation either; nor would I. I believe that when someone shares their vulnerability, this is something I would always want to respect and honor. I have shared my thoughts here many times over the years. My personal feelings about sex have little to do with the actual physical aspect and much more to do with the emotional connection. The act is a gift of sharing self with another. Physical intimacy would be about the gift of recognizing a person in this sense and the unfolding of that. My personal feelings, for whatever they are worth.. I have heard women make general type of rude jokes that I have found offensive. One time I told a co worker that they probably didn't realize how painful this could be for some men. Otherwise I would not associate with people who talked about others in this way.
  12. 4 points
    jazz

    Mental abuse and Human Rights violations

    Raisul, it seems like you may well need to consult a psychological professional about this. Just a couple of techniques that may help too - before you go to bed imagine having safe, comfortable, pleasant dreams, visualize nice scenes, listen to pleasant music you like, maybe light a candle for yourself and focus on it. If you wake up having had a nightmare repeat the above and keep repeating it. If you hear a 'voice' or 'voices' that threaten, mentally 'say' silence and imagine turning the volume down on it/them to zero and keep doing it anytime you may hear anything. You could use your IT thinking and mentally press a delete button on it/them. Do the same any time you hear anything. Adopt a zero tolerance approach. Distraction techniques may also help, like listening to soothing sounds of your choice. If you keep practising these techniques it may get easier. Just to add you could imagine a buzzer sound going off that blocks any threatening sound you may hear too, sound blocking the unwanted sound.
  13. 4 points
    Daveuk

    Day 6. New week

    Been a peaceful day in again. Did a bit of tidying up cleaning the flat and clear headness
  14. 4 points
    Small

    whining thread

    Thanks for posting guys. Resolute would have appreciated us coming together to remember him. You guys meant the world to him - his on forum correspondence with us really gave him relief from his struggles.
  15. 4 points
    IrmaJean

    whining thread

    Your words are touching and I think they honor Res's memory. I didn't know Resolute very well on a personal level, but we did have interactions here on the forum. He was very witty and bright and he was supportive of members here. I think he taught me a lot, though I have only recently been able to fully realize this through conversations with my daughter. Thank you, Res. I'm not sure what follows death either, but I do believe a person's essence is always present to those who connected with them. I hope Res feels eternal peace. Resolute is missed and he is remembered.
  16. 4 points
    jazz

    whining thread

    I can't believe a year has passed already. Although I only knew Resolute through the forum and private messages, what did I learn about him? That he was witty, a deep thinker and supportive. He liked football, cars, jokes, discussions and fairness. I sometimes wonder, when various topics appear on the forum now, what his comments would have been - Res was not short of an opinion. If only we could have parachuted him away from his "unbearable circumstances" (his words.) A great loss.
  17. 4 points
    YOTH

    whining thread

    I didn't know Res well, but he was always nice to me. It was hard to understand how much losing a friend and confidant hurts, but they take a piece of you with them. It's a difficult thing to accept. I like to think, wherever he is, he's happy. 💙
  18. 4 points
    Klingsor

    whining thread

    Tomorrow August 20 will be one year since Resolute committed suicide. Small and I wanted to temporarily re-open his thread and say something. I hate sounding maudlin or saccharine so I'm just going to say what's on my mind. When I first joined the forum, I hated Resolute. I quarreled with him frequently and said some very stupid and embarrassing things to him. At some point, I'm not sure exactly when, we became friends. Although Resolute would joke and jibe, I never felt threatened by him or genuinely insulted. He always knew where to draw the line without being disrespectful. I frequently would bitch to him about other members privately (Roger, for instance), but Resolute never reciprocated. About anybody. He was truly one of the most honest people I've ever known, with no pretenses. He was intelligent and quick-witted, but not deceitful. He was also kind-hearted. He loved to debate me and also loved to discuss religion, philosophy, logic, etc. We had discussions on Skype that would last 6-8 hours that I really enjoyed. There are aspects of his life that he shared with me and Small and which I won't divulge here, but he truly had a shitty existence. Nothing he complained about was hyperbole or self-pity. The last 3 months or so, he turned me to the television program Fringe. Around this time, my grandmother died. I also finished my graduate program and started a new job. I was busy, depressed, and didn't get on Skype much. He loved voice chatting with Small and me, and I still very much regret that I did not make more time to talk with him. It still makes me feel like shit. I honestly don't consider myself a very good conversationalist on a voice call, and so I could never see how he could enjoy it. Thinking about it now, Small and I were probably the only human contact he had outside of his immediate family. I wish he was still here. But I understand the motivation. Not a day goes by that I don't want to cut my own throat. Resolute had his faults as we all do, but he was completely without pretense, deception, or hypocrisy. In a world of endless, walking contradictions, he was consistency, clarity, and logic. I don't know much else to say, other than that he showed me that good-natured companionship is possible with other people, something I had begun to doubt decades ago. Quote mining annoys me, but often you run across something that someone else has expressed superlatively well: “Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.” ― Muhammad Ali
  19. 3 points
    Alex Allman is a sex and relationship expert. He has thousands of regular male and female readers and is very well-respected in his field. He has written books, regular newsletters, and made many videos on these subjects. Alex is very honest and is dedicated to delivering the truth to everyone. A few years ago, he conducted a massive survey study on women's thoughts and attitudes towards penis size. He wanted to know whether size really matters to women and how much. This is the best, most accurate, conclusive, definitive, survey that has ever been done on this subject. Alex has the best data you just can't find anywhere else. What makes this so? First, over 2,000 women were surveyed. Nobody else has ever used such a large sample size. Second, he didn't just ask a yes or no as to whether or not size matters. He asked many specific, thorough, in-depth questions that no other survey has ever done before. I would encourage all men that have some penis size insecurities and all women that are curious about this very sensitive topic to please watch Alex Allman's excellent presentation video of the results of his excellent researched survey. I will provide the link below. It's about 9 minutes long. In the meantime, I will reveal many of the highlights: Does penis size matter? 65% of the women answered yes. Only 5% of the women that answered yes said it was a critical factor. The rest said it didn't matter at all. 20% of the women said some time in the past they had broken up with a man because his penis was too small. 17% of the women said some time in the past they had broken up with a man because his penis was too big. From the 65% of the women that said yes to penis size mattering, Alex wanted to know how important penis size was to them when compared to other personality and physical traits. He listed a total of 15 different factors and asked those women to rank them in order of importance. The results were that penis size came in dead last and was the least important to women when compared to all other factors/attributes. 60% of the women said too small was anything under 4 inches while 10% said it didn't matter at all. 50% of the women said anything over 8 inches was too big while 15% said it didn't matter at all. Only 2% of the women said there is no such thing as too big. The most popular penis size preference for women is 6 inches. The majority of the women said width is more important than length. Half of the women said good oral and finger skills can make up for a small penis. 80% of the women said they don't care what a man's penis looks like when it's flaccid (soft). 95% of the women said that hardness of the penis is more important than any particular size. 90% of the women said that a man lasting longer is more important than any particular size. To find out more, here is the link: https://www.revolutionarysex.com/the-motion-in-the-ocean-women-tell-the-truth-about-penis-size
  20. 3 points
    Hi Beth. I'm ok. Dealing w some house issues and I know you know about that. Just taking one day at a time and doing my best. I guess what I have learned is that unless you are multi-millionaire rich life is endless endless problems and if you are going to let that get in the way of your enjoyment you might as well do yourself and everyone else a favor and go live in a monastery or something.
  21. 3 points
    Klingsor

    Planning. I'm not good at it.

    It’s little joys like that I live for. Usually once a month I buy a large pizza on Friday night with breadsticks, salad full works and a dr. Pepper and then watch a movie. It’s a welcome indulgence
  22. 3 points
    One the way home from work yesterday I was so tired and in need of some boost that I stopped at the local bakery and bought a pig-out box! Eclair, brownie, cream puff. It was delicious 😋
  23. 3 points
    When faced w life's difficulties I have found that the only things that help at all are: 1) getting rest and generally taking care of myself 2) what I call "higher level thinking" meaning not being emotional but rather being analytical and taking concentrated look at the facts and the options clustered around those facts and 3) just plain old hard motherfucking work. Sorry to be blunt but nothing else expresses it the way I want. It will get there. It takes what it takes but it will get there. Talking about the house and the financial situation mostly, along w life in general.
  24. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    What's the point?

    I'm sorry you're feeling so down, Obsolete. 🙁This life thing can be challenging, I hear you. I don't have any simple answers, but I am here listening and I care. Depression can make everything feel dark and not possible. I think one of the points of therapy is to have a safe space to openly share feelings. True that therapy isn't for everyone, though. I think we each need to find what works best or helps us most, however that looks for each individual. It's good that you reached out here. I hope that expressing yourself helps. Take care of you.
  25. 3 points
    malign

    A Year Gap

    I think this is the longest gap there's ever been in this blog, which has been running since 2008. I guess nothing too surprising happened this past year: classes go on; it will soon be time for practicum, where the rubber meets the ... forehead of the client; I went back to work for the big-box grocery-slash-everything chain I worked for before ... All the usual anniversaries went by: my hospitalization, my ex filing a restraining order that began the end of our marriage, and so on, but they didn't carry very much weight this time. More prominent was the two year anniversary of my second marriage, which is much happier. I continue to make progress in my own therapy. And that might be part of the reason for the gap: I would like to postpone writing until I'm "done", whatever that means, until I think I can sound smart describing the humbling process of coming to terms with coping "skills" that I would rather change. What I found, mostly, is that my childhood was, in fact, kind of difficult, despite everyone involved doing their best and no major evil. My folks just had too much on their hands, having two baby boys in their 40's. As the first child, I did my best to relieve them of some of the burden, which simply isn't a child's job ... It made it very confusing about what I'm allowed to do, what I'm allowed to want, who I'm allowed to be. The limits seemed a good idea at the time. Now I have to reconcile the part that resents all that I thought I should give up with the part that thought that giving those things up was a good idea. And I do mean reconcile; there's a desire to "replace" the old manager part, but all that does is change which part is exiled. I have to find an argument to which they'll both agree for why they're stronger and better together. So. Still here, still reading, still hoping that people benefit. See y'all around.
  26. 3 points
    Small

    My so called life

    Hi @retr0john I'm glad I saw this post, i very nearly missed it. All things considered i am doing okay. I've had a lot of ups & downs recently but have mostly been focusing on work. I've managed to find myself in a position where i do most from home & only got to the office for meetings, and that suits me just fine. I just got home from my sister's house where i spent the afternoon with my niece. We hung out, talked, debated & she put some fish & chips in the oven. I've been teaching my nephew a little more boxing. He's 8 years old - not completely coordinated yet but he's a big boy. Looks like he could have a heavyweight type build! So far he manages to stay in his stance with decent technique. He hits like a mule too. It's mittwork so far with very light sparring. (I don't hit him - he gets to beat me up & practices defending the occasional shot) I'm glad you're getting back in shape again! Were you terribly out of shape? Do you set KM targets or are you walking more casually? I haven't walked regularly since last summer & I'm hoping to get that going in the spring! I rollerskate too and that is a better workout than it looks What are you planning to do at the gym? I'm happy to see you had the kids over & got to cook again. I've been rooting for you these past few months & it's good news. Do you have any more plans to get together with them? And have you got the appetite back to cook again? I don't cook myself so I appreciate a well prepared meal. I mostly boil rice & make a veg & meat stir fry for both lunch & dinner. For breakfast it's toast & scrambled eggs. (No drinking raw eggs for me) Thanks for posting John. I'm happy to hear from you & hope you keep seeing positive developments.
  27. 3 points
    LaLa

    How are we all ?

    I'm OK, but don't often feel like writing 💭
  28. 3 points
    Bob16

    seeking advice

    I'll give it one last try
  29. 3 points
    malign

    seeking advice

    Hi Bob, I'm sorry to hear you're suffering so much. I hope you'll give yourself some time before going with an irreversible decision. I'm interested in your phobia of people; could you talk about that, more? It doesn't apply to your family, it seems. Did something happen to cause it? What are you afraid will happen? Since we're people, I assume that it would require us to meet in person? Recluse or homeless, or dead. Seems like there might be some other options -- treatment or self-help for your phobia comes to mind. You said that being homeless would be like dying only with more suffering. What if, though it might take even more effort/suffering, you could actually live?
  30. 3 points
    retr0john

    I wish you well

    It's good to hear from all of you! Small and I have PMed each other a little this past year. I've been through a tough time, but I'm starting to recover. I guess time heals all wounds. It's Christmas eve, I hope all of you are in good health and you're snug, warm and with folks you care about.
  31. 3 points
    Small

    My so called life

    Hey guys, I hope everyone is doing well. It's been a while since I have last posted - life has been getting in the way I guess. How is everyone? Feel free to post here and let me know how things have ben recently. I look a the sps sub forum now and then and it really does seem like a big problem. I do hope that everyone finds the resolve required to deal with their issues - no matter what they are. I had a moment of crisis last night and may very well still be in one. My life is not straightforward. I know that everyone here is lacking in some form or another otherwise we wouldn't be here- even for those who just want to connect with likeminded people. I remember when I first joined this forum and the months and years thereafter. I don't have any shame in admitting that it has brought me much in the way of excitement, drama, joy and a support group. I have met some cool guys here - some still with us and others not. I think sometimes perspective helps and though I have been in my fair share of bickering and spats, I wouldn't change that for the world. I think time either sterilises events or it gives them meaning. This place means so much to me. I hope you all are as well as can be. I do intend to post more!
  32. 3 points
    Daveuk

    The Christmas tree photo

  33. 3 points
    jazz

    Ranting on about women

    TheDane, I can honestly say that I have never had this sort of conversation with my girlfriends, nor would I. I cannot be the only one!
  34. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    Mental abuse and Human Rights violations

    Raisul, do you think it's possible the nightmares you have been experiencing could be a response to your daytime distress? You mentioned being bullied in the past. That kind of experience, especially if it was ongoing, can stay with a person and affect their mental health. It also sounds like you have been having difficulty getting restorative sleep. Sleep deprivation can wreak havoc on both physical and mental health. Have you considered seeing a medical doctor about your sleep difficulties? I also agree that seeing a psychologist might be helpful.
  35. 3 points
    @CNL Dude, write a book. I mean it. A real book talking about the real issues, real mental health and the barriers we and society place between ourselves and normality or peace or happiness or w/e. I've been wanting to put one together for a while, a selection of stories from different men, different sizes, different parts of the world. Just to bring attention to this accepted villainisation < (is that even a word?) of small men from all walks of life as if only small men would commit atrocities (or just because they're your enemy it's ok to body shame). Trump springs to mind, but he's just the tip of the iceberg as this has been going on for years in myriad forms. I think a book would be useful. My girlfriend didn't understand at all, and I'd sheilded her from a lot of my insecurities and anger. But after Tom died and she realised how much this affects men, not as a faceless group of freaks, but as a real guy, a real human, who she'd met and liked (he was such a cool guy to talk to). She's a lot more understanding nowadays, and she is many things, but shallow isn't one of them, even less so now. I think brushing off a whole subsection of men with the "motion in the ocean" speil is not only harmful, but irresponsible from health care 'professionals'. Something needs to change. The levy needs to break.
  36. 3 points
    I don't think I reacted so strongly out of disagreement or misunderstanding, but because I'm hypersensitive about the semantics of this issue. I was more trying to make sure my position was understood by you and any other women reading than I was trying to rebuke anyone. My point was simply that some aspects of human psychology are as fundamental and consistent as our anatomy, and are no more subject to change just because some prerequisite knowledge of the world, like how sex functions, is required to perceive them. A transgendered person who grew up in a vacuum unaware of the other sex they would prefer to be would not be able to categorize or label the dysphoria inside of them - but it would still be there, though dormant due to lack of information. My issue is that the hard, complicated, and long-lasting quality of therapeutic methods just indicates to me that a man is fighting against the current of his own nature when he tries to "accept" having a small penis. It has nothing to do with society, upbringing, personal experiences, and etc in the sense that the dislike of being small arises from instincts so foundational that none of those things could have possibly influenced it to any significant degree. You're up against the basic human affinity for beauty and pleasure, from which follows an enmity for the portions of it we've lost due to our size. The intensity with which these two express themselves in regard to penis size is something that was tuned by evolution itself and cannot be changed. A transgendered person experiencing dysphoria over their body is not battling anything more fundamental to themselves than our size anxiety is to us, and neither can be fixed except by altering the body itself because it's about how you feel about yourself, not about any external influences at all. I wasn't presenting this as a counter argument to anything, but as a statement of the way it just is. But no woman will ever be capable of understanding. Give them 60 seconds in a male body with a small penis and they would though, and that's the frustrating part. It's irrational to feel an ungodly spiritual dissonance between your body and mind because a bodypart is slightly too thin or short, and it's maddening to have such a mechanism hardwired into your brain, and to know that it's hardwired, and yet have everyone question this because it's irrational. I remember reading once about an experiment where the scientists could stimulate a certain part of the brain to immediately conjure the thought of a certain color in the participant. Zap, "red," and done. No steps in between. Trying to explain why I just inherently hate having a small penis is like that person trying to explain the steps in between that aren't there. There fucking isn't one. I just want someone out there to understand this.
  37. 3 points
    Daveuk

    Follow up

    Not going to do anything like that again. Once is enough
  38. 3 points
    LaLa

    Good luck :)

    Good luck!
  39. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Good luck :)

    Good luck 🍀👍 @Daveuk! You got this. Then you can celebrate 🎉
  40. 3 points
    jazz

    I feel like I'm rattling cages

    You're being needlessly tough on yourself, @YOTH .
  41. 3 points
    Klingsor

    WhatsApp (Edit: Not Zoom)

    I ageee. Hearing a voice makes the dialogue more than an abstraction. I’m not a good conversationalist as Yoth will probably attest, especially 1 on 1, but I’m also available if anyone needs support. I listen well and don’t judge.
  42. 3 points
    I am a woman who stumbled upon this forum while looking for some info on sex positions for micropenis. I am in a newly intimate relationship with a guy who is maybe about 2.5 inches erect- and I cannot even begin to describe how hot I am for him. We’ve only had sex a couple of times so far, and it has been so. ****ing. Incredible. Like to the point where my entire body is tingling just talking about it. I’ve had a huge crush on him forever, so by the time we slept together, I probably wouldn't have batted an eye if he’d pulled out two penises! Haha. I won’t lie, we’ve had a few, uh, mechanical difficulties. Sometimes, he’ll slip out and we’ll end up just sort of bonking into each other until we get our rhythm back, lol. I don’t actually care, I figure lots of funny stuff can happen during sex, and this is just one more of those things. I have however been careful not to laugh, because I don’t want to embarrass him. Hope this isn’t too graphic, but here’s one thing that worked for us: me on my back with legs spread as far as possible, labia manually spread with fingers, and him on top rubbing his penis against my clit. I came very easily this way, and then was able to finish him off orally. Just thinking about it is making me crazy, and he’s away on a work trip for 2 more days:-/ So, take heart- not all of us are size queens. I’m 5’2 and just over 100 lbs- having too much of a good thing is a very real problem for petite women especially. I hope this encouraged some of you guys, and of course if anyone has more wisdom to share on positions or whatnot, I’m all ears. I would especially like to know how to best reassure him that I’m totally addicted to both him and his penis(lol), without seeming placating or rude.
  43. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    Vague thoughts

    Who says you have to make sense of it? I imagine most people would tell ya they've had an eventful life - can any of them make sense of it? Think about all the horrible stuff that happens to most of us growing up. How can we possibly understand these nasty vile adults & other children? And if we could, to what end? I say just forgive yourself, forgive others to the extent possible and move on w life. Enjoy each day w gratitude for all good things and good possible outcomes if we begin to embrace positive change, whatever that may mean for us. Just sharing my thoughts and what works for me. Best wishes OnlyHuman 🙂
  44. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

    whining thread

    I miss Resolute because he was here a lot, always brought a sharp point of view and was always up for interacting. He and I spent a lot of time on here just going back and forth about whatever. I only knew him from here and wrote everything I could think of to get him to change his mindset. That brain of his had so much to offer the world. I hope there is a spirit world and I hope Res found what he was looking for. And if/when I see him there I will start right up with him! Rest In Peace friend.
  45. 3 points
    Small

    ----

    A friend can make all the difference in the world.
  46. 3 points
    IrmaJean

    ----

    @YOTH, I wanted to add that if you ever want or need to talk and share about Tom, I will always listen.
  47. 3 points
    peter

    ----

    That is so sad I hate when we lose people and friends like this It happens so much and our hearts brake for them we always wish we could of been there for them. I just hope Tom now can Rest in peace.
  48. 3 points
    jazz

    ----

    Yeah YOTH, you were clearly a valuable friend to Tom through difficult times, even great friends can't always prevent tragedies, especially if depression is involved, no matter what happened you were a support to him, take care.
  49. 3 points
    Victimorthecrime

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    Wow YOTH sorry to hear this. I remember him but it's been a while. Don't blame yourself one bit YOTH there is nothing anyone can do about these things, we have seen this. Hope all is well w you YOTH and everyone here.
  50. 3 points
    jazz

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    Oh YOTH, so sorry to hear this, how incredibly sad.
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