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LaLa last won the day on April 5

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About LaLa

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    33 y.o., was in therapy for 2 years, but it ended too early (in 2011)


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  1. Hi, Jim, welcome! No need to apologize for your post; it's good that you have "let it all out"! BTW, when you have troubles to express yourself in front of a counsellor, you can take a text (this one or a similar one) with you and let them read it first. It can help a lot to open up and to start a better (more focused) conversation. I'm sorry your life has been so full of bullies and other mean, shallow, and stupid people . And then you had a long, difficult task to take care of someone close - that must have been very stressful and time-consuming, as it led you to neglect your own health and well-being... And after that, when you lost that 'task', how did you feel? I also wonder if you feel now motivated to change your life for better again. The shallow women you mentioned are not worth it (=don't do it for such people) , but you are (=do it for yourself). When you are in better shape, you can feel better in general, it seems. And you're then also in better health, so it's positive in any case. Good luck and take care!
  2. Then I'm even more glad to see you've chosen one as your avatar here! Thank you. The account that sent it is already flagged as spammer. Sorry about such spam, everyone. We can delete the spam-posts from the forum before anyone else sees them, but private messaging doesn't allow this kind of protection, unfortunately. And someone apparently realized that and took advantage...
  3. It reminds me that I've already had two dreams where I wore a face mask and there was a problem with it (so I was not just uncomfortable, but also scared of infection), despite me never having worn it yet πŸ˜„ . BTW, @Klingsor, I like your new avatar very much! πŸ™‚
  4. Well done, Vic! I'm sorry you're feeling unwell... 😞
  5. A good one, Dave! πŸ˜„ I've been rather humming to myself this one lately (and I've heard that its listening numbers increased a lot few weeks ago! ) : And I've now found a new version:
  6. Glad to hear you had at least a half-decent day and that you're appreciating it enough to mention it. (Oops, this risks to sound ironical, but I hope you believe it's not.) Enjoy your evening! πŸ™‚ Here's one of many nice home-made videos; perhaps it'll cheer you up a bit:
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    My belated congratulation, Dave! πŸ™‚
  8. As many members here are Americans... πŸ˜› And there are many great videos for 'everybody', of course. For instance (quite timely now):
  9. LaLa

    Jokes anybody ?

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    A YouTube channel for fun and more: https://www.youtube.com/user/davidmitchellsoapbox/videos Classical music - streaming made free during the pandemics: https://www.digitalconcerthall.com/en/info Museums and galeries online: https://www.boredpanda.com/famous-museums-offering-virtual-tours/
  11. Hello! Sorry for not posting here these days - it didn't occur to me that I might make some people worry! I live in Canada and I'm not worried much about Canada and myself here, while I'm quite worried about my home country and my family there. My husband works from home since the cases started appearing "around" (not far away from our town). I'm still doing volunteering at least once a week; we have special measures taken, so I hope it's relatively safe (certainly more that going shopping ...). Most of our volunteers are around 70, so... I hope the younger ones of us can replace them (so far, many of them still come). I have to go now, I hope I'll write more another time...
  12. Hello, Infinite, welcome! I hear you. And I'm sorry you're suffering like this; it sounds really dreadful . May I ask you some questions to understand better what's happened and what your current situation is? This is very unfortunate. But it mainly means that this psychologist wasn't the one to be able to help; you need another one, someone specialized in DID. Have you tried to find one? (Or, perhaps, a research team that studies this condition, so that you could take part in the study and the developed treatment.) (BTW, there are international guidelines for treatment of DID: https://web.archive.org/web/20180712183722/http://www.isst-d.org/downloads/GUIDELINES_REVISED2011.pdf) Does this mean you're currently not in therapy? Do you see at least a psychiatrist sometimes? Or social worker? Do you have some support from your family? I understand that you don't trust them, either, but do some of them, at least, seem to be caring, decent people? Do you live alone? (Do you have a job?) and Does this mean that your other part(s) remember the abuse and it's only you, the part that's written that post, that only recently learned about the abuse? It's natural to be shocked and having difficulties to process such information and / or memories. According to the theory, this is why people dissociate into two or more alters (/personalities) - because they cannot handle the trauma. Therapy is supposed to help with all this. There are also some (relatively) new approaches, as EMDR https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing - it helps to "rewrite" the traumatic experiences in the brain. I encourage you to seek help - a good professional - and then stay in therapy as long as needed. Also, keep posting here if you feel like it; we're here to 'listen'. Good luck and take care!
  13. https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/self-hatred-anxiety/
  14. Hello and welcome! It sounds very distressing . I'm sorry you're going through this... To me, it sounds like POCD and I also like your term β€œage dysphoria”! (BTW, few years ago, there was a member in this community whose teenage / adult son behaved like a baby, insisted on wearing diapers, ... and he definitely seemed to have some kind of "age dysphoria". There was also another member, a young man, who's been very unhappy about not being a boy anymore; he loved playing with children and couldn't make adult friends (he also worried about being a pedophile). I'm mentioning them to show you that there are indeed people with very similar issues and that these issues can have different forms.) You mention that you've been diagnosed, so you've met a mental health professional. Did you them him/her about these POCD-related issues? Are you still in his / her care or in psychotherapy? I'd say it's important to find a good therapist specialized on OCD and having experiences with POCD. It's a terrible illness you probably cannot fight alone . Good luck!
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