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    retsuud got a reaction from Bjarne in How to accept yourself   
    Hi Branje,

    My experience is just not giving a fak about anyone or anything and drinking/taking drugs to forget everything, but that's not the best way to handle the situation I guess. I've told my girlfriend about my problems, which she couldn't really understand because she didn't feel that way about me. I think it's really important to talk about your problems with people you trust, they will most likely try to help you the best way they can and it will probably be a major relieve for you to not feel so 'alone with your thoughts' anymore. You're still quite young, so I guess the sooner you talk about it with somebody, the sooner you maybe come to a solution for, or a way to handle your problems. 

    Good luck mate!
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    retsuud got a reaction from YOTH in How to accept yourself   
    Hi Branje,

    My experience is just not giving a fak about anyone or anything and drinking/taking drugs to forget everything, but that's not the best way to handle the situation I guess. I've told my girlfriend about my problems, which she couldn't really understand because she didn't feel that way about me. I think it's really important to talk about your problems with people you trust, they will most likely try to help you the best way they can and it will probably be a major relieve for you to not feel so 'alone with your thoughts' anymore. You're still quite young, so I guess the sooner you talk about it with somebody, the sooner you maybe come to a solution for, or a way to handle your problems. 

    Good luck mate!
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    retsuud got a reaction from Resolute in whining thread   
    "We don't even ask happiness, just a little less pain."
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    retsuud reacted to ShameOnThem in Big Dude here   
    Ok, I will proceed as if you are not trolling(though I'm still not completely convinced) and were genuine in your sympathy and ignorance.
    So why did I take offense to your post?
    #1
    The fact that having a giant penis doesn't magically make life perfect and happy is not one that is particularly useful to sufferers of SPS. If you read the posts here, you'd see that most of us really long to just be average or acceptable sexually to a woman, and we fear most being laughed at for being inadequate sexually. The problems that you describe "..emotions..drama..playing you...chances are they know other big dudes too..." are not specific to your situation, we have these problems PLUS our problems. So please understand if this help you're offering does us absolutely no good, and if your suggesting that men with below average and above average penises are on even ground in looking for long term relationships despite the obvious self-confidence issues we face and women's well documented general preference towards above average size just comes off as a great insult. Thanks, though, for "keeping it real," I had no idea that I should avoid women who only want one night stands because they will react negatively to my body. I'm so glad you are here to save us.
    #2
    The problems that come with having a big dick (ie. having so many sexual partners that use you just for sex that it become problematic, having such a large bulge that isn't hidden by your clothes and makes women stare and lust over you, etc.) can actually be very damaging to, and maybe even root causes of, the anxiety and mental issues that we suffer from. Frankly, we don't really want to "read some funny shit." We are on this board to improve our mental health first, and be kind to and enjoy eachother second. Some of the posts on this board are about serious mental health issues caused by our bodies, including suicide, so it's not a laughing matter at all for some of the people here. This idea that a perfect dick =/= a perfect life is clearly not as valuable as you think to someone who hates their dick and hates their life because of it, so maybe googling fictional big dick problem memes isn't the best medicine for someone with actual small dick anxiety, doc.
    #3
    this is really irrelevant and when coupled with your general tone just sounds like you are mocking us. Since I'm pretty good at picking up on social queues, I'm going to guess that you included this as a way to imply that you believe you have autism, probably because you are socially awkward, in which case I hope that these reasoned out ways in which you have completely botched empathy are helpful in your personal and professional development.
    #4
    Just because guys have a small dick does not mean they are rich, smart, or successful. Just because guys have a big dick doesn't mean that they aren't rich smart or successful(although I have found that being a troll does mean you have a big dick). I gather that you're still in college, so you're already better off than most of the people in the world and, rationally, on this board (because penis size doesn't directly correlate with anything). You say you are broke and barely get by, but you know that if you complete your degree, that you are taking on massive debt to achieve, you are going to have to go through med school which costs a shitload. I'd guess that you're doing this all so that one day you can pay off that debt and then be very well off a medical professional? So maybe it's possible that you really aren't that broke and your struggle is maybe insignificant compared to those who worry about where their child's next meal is coming from, much less where they'll be in 10 years? And I'd be remiss if I didn't point out that "pre-med" is one of the top entries on the "List of Undergraduate Party Panty-Peelers" right in front of "my studio apartment" and right behind "my Dad's yacht." So maybe it's possible that you're not as disadvantaged in your current relationship environment among peers as you might be suggesting? Obviously a lot of this is based off of my assumptions, but this entire post is based off the assumption you are being genuine, so we both may have to take the bad with the good.
    #5
    Jesus, dude, I hope you're only writing like this because you are being informal, otherwise your pre-med education is completely failing your grammar. You gotta tone down the ellipsis marks and ratchet up your comma usage. Also, yes we could believe that your dick is quite girthy, but the question remains whether we should. 8.5" is in the ~99% of all men, according to the most recent scientific study on the matter, so you have to understand how your claims could raise skepticism. And I would guess that if you started your last post about how you have an 8.5" penis you were probably flagged and deleted. My first post here went up immediately and had no issues.
    #6
    You don't know us. From what I've read here, some of us are not "great dudes." Some of us are so full of self-hatred and misogyny that, going only by what we say here, we want nothing but pain and misery in the world. Obviously, most of the people here are awesome dudes, and the ones who aren't yet have the potential to be if they can find inner peace, but you gotta understand(if only for the sake of your future patients) that this kind of tone comes off as patronizing. Also, having a body image issue or anxiety like SPS isn't even homosexual because it's about your body, and your implication that homosexual = something bad or undesirable is homophobic and offensive. Homophobia isn't cool, and there are some gay men on this board so please don't bring that weak ass shit in our house. If you truly care about helping people, first start by caring about how your words can hurt people.
    Look, I could probably keep going but I've proven my point. I'm a dick and I THINK you were wrong in your posts. I really hope you are genuine in your care for others, because this is the most important and scarce renewable resource on the planet, IMHO. I was purposefully antagonizing in this response because either you're a troll and deserve it or because(and this is the one I'm hoping for) you are genuine in your desire to help others and you need to learn that helping others must come from a selfless position. If you try to help others only because you like doing it, you may not realize that they don't want your help, don't need your help, and/or wouldn't be helped by your help. I think I clearly described why I THINK what you posted was not helpful to any of us who struggle with SPS. I hope that you possess the maturity to take criticism in to your person but not personally. Certainly, you can never expect a certain reaction(like gratitude) when you decide to help someone, especially when they don't request it, so if you're going to be help people professionally you should unfortunately get used to this disdainful tone.
    And if you've made it this far without saying, "fuck these ungrateful small dicked faggots, I'm gonna go sext back those chicks from my writing study group and never come back here again" then I want you to know how much I love you. You are a gem of a person because you care about others and you are willing to learn from others when they tell you they think you are wrong, even if they may be wrong and are definitely being a total douche about it. I hope you stick around if you think you have something to gain from or add to this community, but if you think that is going to begin and end with your big dick and your big dick life experiences than this probably isn't for you. We need understanding and compassion badly, on this board and in society, but the big dick perspective has been hammered into our brains by our culture enough already, so trust me when I say that nobody here needs to google it.
    -Shame
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    retsuud reacted to Resolute in Welcome to Society   
    hey drk, long time no see buddy. i was wondering -a few weeks ago- where you were. i hope everything's ok...
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    retsuud reacted in Welcome to Society   
    Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. Hypocrisy and contradiction - the glue that holds it all together. And then this same society wonders with mouths agape why we have batman killers and school shooters. Glad you're back DRK, I've missed you. Sorry to hear you're going through rough times.
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    retsuud reacted in New around here and hating how world shames and hurts us   
    Jessie,
    Very poignantly put. I think of myself as a spectator in life in all aspects. Like a prisoner looking through the window of a prison cell at the drama of normal life unfolding outside of him, the people neither caring about nor noticing him, except for the brief, infrequent moments when they are forcibly reminded of his situation when they have to walk past his prison. Then they say a few pious, sage words about how shitty life is (if they are the type that feels guilt or a sense of injustice, or just laugh if they are like the majority of people) and quickly put this unpleasant reminder out of their heads and go on living life and earnestly avoid any stimulant that might force their mind to think about the prisoner's circumstances again.
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    retsuud reacted to ThePetPerson in My Words.   
    Mental illness is a disease. It starts with one cell, it goes unnoticed until it begins to multiply and then we experience symptoms. We try with all our might to treat it, we force bitter pills down our throats, we speak foul words we didn't know we had inside of us, we try therapy to return us to normality but it is often too late, our brain is decayed by suffering. It spreads further, it travels down the spine and takes over the nervous system, so that with each move we make we feel a burning pain that consumes every nerve in our body. It reaches the blood stream and it feeds into every cell, it passes through our veins and nourishes us with its evil. Sometimes we cut ourselves, deeper and deeper, trying to release the poison. We scream, trying to force the demons from our lungs. We cry, the pain overwhelms.
    I could sit here and tell you that when I stare into the flames of a lit candle, I find some peace as the wick burns down and the acrid smell of burning eases me as I know everything must come to an end. That I see stars overhead and that the knowledge of their existence comforts me because it is such a simple pleasure that we feel from their light. But I'd be lying.
    It's poetry, beautiful poetry. One day, it becomes lost on you. You can no longer relate to those meaningless words. You fall out of love with the monster inside of you, you no longer find comfort in your pain. You just exist in a world of lost souls, trying to find their way home, a home that never has been, never will be. The only knowledge you are left with is the certainty of death. Isn't your hope already dead? You don't crave it, you don't want it, but you feel that it's the only way out, when the world no longer holds promise, you are disenchanted with life and with all that you have learned, it will never enchant you again.
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    retsuud reacted in Prostitutes   
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    retsuud got a reaction from Jessie in Howdy-Doo   
    Again, that wasn't my intention for you to do! But apparently I'm not clear in what I'm saying so I'll try a bit harder with an example.
    There you are, drinking a a little beer with some friends. Everybody having a nice time, laughing all around when suddenly...KABLAM!! Penisjoke. Some girl had the nerves to say something humiliating about a small penis. Oooh, how could the witch do such a thing. Doesn't she have any respect?! Well, now she is gonna have it!! So you start raging against her, telling her you could make a double mega whopper from her beefflops, while playing timothy q with her ears. The bitch is gonna go through hell the next couple of minutes!!
    But what's that? Oh, you didn't notice that little girl standing nearby? She smiled so lovely when you entered the room that evening. Sure, she seemed a bit shy, but that made her even more loveable. What's the matter with her? She looks a bit sad now.. Is she even crying?
    Turns out, that lovely girl's name is Elisabeth. Elisabeth is a great girl, very clever and oh so friendly. Only thing is, Elisabeth has got a big pair of ears and is massively insecure about her loose vagina. She was doing well the last couple of weeks (in a life full of depressions), but you.. yes, you of all people.. you managed to destroy that little girl's life with just a few words that weren't even directed towards her.
    But yeah, well done! You really stood up for yourself! Be proud of that..
    Don't be the same as the ones you hate so much.
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    retsuud got a reaction from mts in Howdy-Doo   
    Again, that wasn't my intention for you to do! But apparently I'm not clear in what I'm saying so I'll try a bit harder with an example.
    There you are, drinking a a little beer with some friends. Everybody having a nice time, laughing all around when suddenly...KABLAM!! Penisjoke. Some girl had the nerves to say something humiliating about a small penis. Oooh, how could the witch do such a thing. Doesn't she have any respect?! Well, now she is gonna have it!! So you start raging against her, telling her you could make a double mega whopper from her beefflops, while playing timothy q with her ears. The bitch is gonna go through hell the next couple of minutes!!
    But what's that? Oh, you didn't notice that little girl standing nearby? She smiled so lovely when you entered the room that evening. Sure, she seemed a bit shy, but that made her even more loveable. What's the matter with her? She looks a bit sad now.. Is she even crying?
    Turns out, that lovely girl's name is Elisabeth. Elisabeth is a great girl, very clever and oh so friendly. Only thing is, Elisabeth has got a big pair of ears and is massively insecure about her loose vagina. She was doing well the last couple of weeks (in a life full of depressions), but you.. yes, you of all people.. you managed to destroy that little girl's life with just a few words that weren't even directed towards her.
    But yeah, well done! You really stood up for yourself! Be proud of that..
    Don't be the same as the ones you hate so much.
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    retsuud reacted in Phantom limb sensation   
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    retsuud reacted to Mat in New around here and hating how world shames and hurts us   
    Hey guys, thanks for replies!
    Yes I realise internet will come up and return any query that you typed in, I also mentioned in other section of forum for new members I also suffer from other maladies and I also used to ask Dr Google various things, and I ended up having Multiple Sclerosis, cancer and rare genetic disorders.
    But it still pisses me off how world is like "Be hung like horse at the stables or you can't breed because you are funny and mismatched".
    I just hope like others here mentioned, stem cells or whatever that makes new penis grow will come soon to augment our dicks.
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    retsuud reacted in "Lies, Damned Lies, and Medical Science (Statistics)"   
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    retsuud got a reaction from Jessie in Be honest, if science figured out a way to make your penis big, would you be happy?   
    It would also increase my overall happiness I think. That said, I've become the person I am now because of my small penis and that contains some parts to be proud of as well (I guess).
    Ah fuck it, ofcourse I would be happy. Could name a whole bunch of 'would give positive effects to my life' reasons and I couldn't name so many the other way around.
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    retsuud reacted in Kinsley Penis Size Stats   
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    retsuud got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in Billy Tipton   
    Yeah that's right! They also had an art group called Psychic TV. I found their whole look at life in general very interesting and it did help me in some ways I guess.
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    retsuud reacted to Resolute in Perspective from a guy with a huge penis.   
    to go through as much shit as possible.
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    retsuud reacted to Victimorthecrime in Billy Tipton   
    It don't mean a thing if it ain't got that swing
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    retsuud got a reaction from Jessie in Perspective from a guy with a huge penis.   
    Ofcourse it's defined by a lot more than that. But what I meant was, when a guy has a really small penis, isn't it logic that he takes that as a reference point to define his manhood?
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    retsuud reacted to Jessie in Encountered this when reading. Made me think of the forum.   
    jeez, thank goodness for the plain english society….
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    retsuud reacted to u.r.what.u.is in I think I will forever be stuck in the "SPS Cycle"   
    I'll PM you soon on this. I don't want to give more details than I already have in the public forum here.
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    retsuud reacted to nytaiji in I think I will forever be stuck in the "SPS Cycle"   
    That's true. Personally speaking though, there is nothing on the internet about this issue that I haven't searched already. I have all the validation I need. I think we all do, don't we? Isn't that what brought us here? Yet I continue to do exactly as Robert said, and search the internet for the same answers I've already gotten. It's almost like I need the comfort of being miserable.
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    retsuud reacted to Robert3011 in I think I will forever be stuck in the "SPS Cycle"   
    I find myself in an ongoing cycle that has me going from, "You know what, I think I am a decent size" or "F*ck it, who cares if I'm too small, I'm going to get my rocks off no matter what". I then end up Google searching, "Is x inches too small?" And I read a couple posts on a website of a woman saying my size is too small, or a guy saying something along the lines of "If you're not at least this big, you're in for it, because from what I've heard, that's way too small" and then I'm back to rock bottom. The worst part is, searching online for the approval of my size by others has become a habbit.
    Does anyone else go through something similar to this?
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    retsuud reacted in Never getting married   
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