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bsmb77

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  1. The other thread is mine LOL. I can definitely relate and don't know what to do either.
  2. I don't have a lot of people in my life. My mom is the only parent still alive and I can't stand to be around her, (there is actually a separate post about my issues with her) and I don't trust many people, I had to let a lot of my so-called friends go because they weren't real friends. So I guess my answer would be: he is practically my only friend left, we know each other well, and he is really funny and we have some things in common, also had understands my anxiety and can help me through it. But the fact that I irritate him is really bothering me. I woke up today and don't even really care to speak to him. (He always texts me good morning, today I texted back... two and a half hours later... that I'll talk to him later.) I feel like maybe finally I'm just starting to see that if he feels that way, I should just bow out. We had a very tumultuous relationship and maybe we aren't meant to stay friends, it's really a struggle sometimes. I don't know.... :-(
  3. I was with someone for three years off and on. We both had our issues, me with my bad temper and the fact that I don't like kids, him with his inability to tell the truth and lack of respect, plus I doubt he had ever heard of give and take, but that got a little better as time went on. I finally ended it for good in June of this year but we still "hang out". My issue is, I seem to irritate him on a regular basis, and I don't even know why. I feel like I am nice most of the time, he is always welcome at my place, I offer him food and drink, I helped him out a lot when he didn't have a car... How is that irritating? I do know he hates to be questioned, which I do, when things don't add up, I call him out on it. I hate to be lied to, and as mentioned above, he has major problems with telling the truth. So yeah if I think he is lying, I flat out say so. So I can understand how that irritates him, but I also feel like if he could just be honest and stay honest, he would have a better life. Anyways, I asked him tonight, if I irritate him so much, why does he stay friends with me? He said it isn't that often but even with that being said, a lot of the time, I'm just being me. If that irritates him, maybe we should not be friends?? I can't walk on eggshells for the rest of our friendship.
  4. I never go to her place...3-4x a year, tops, but sometimes she comes here because she owns the place I live in, and sometimes I see her in public to get mail from her, etc. I can tell her again and again I don't want to be touched, it doesn't help. If anything, I get taunted by her about it.
  5. I have to take a Xanax before I see her. If that tells you how uncomfortable she makes me.
  6. She respects my boundaries in that she won't call for days but when we see each other face to face she will not respect my personal space. I need a couple feet of space from her, and it never happens. And I'm honestly afraid one day I'm going to flip out.
  7. I am 38 and hate that my mom won't respect the fact that I don't like to be touched by her. Sometimes it's all I can do not to scream at her. We have had off and on discussions for years about giving me personal physical space, and I mean really, is it such a big deal??? She acts like it is the worst thing in the world, yet SHE KNOWS why I feel uncomfortable. It's her doing, NOT mine. She literally has no shame in touching my bra if it's showing, and that's waaaaay over my personal space line, because it's basically the top of my breast, touches my leg, just everything. I feel almost violated, and I'm not one who cares if other people get close to me, it's only her, and like I said, she knows why, even if she's in denial. How can I make her understand she is invading my personal space?! Because I have mentioned it many times, even in therapy WITH HER THERE and she still continues to do it. I really have to restrain myself sometimes to to lash out when she does it.
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