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    jazz got a reaction from IrmaJean in Embarrased in Front of My Wife   
    I can't believe how many people there are who claim to be a friend but cannot/will not keep information they have been trusted with quiet.
    Sorry this happened to you.
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    jazz got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in Spazzing? Stress? Anxiety? Seasonal Depression? I don't know what's happening to me and it's scaring me...   
    How are you now, Choco? Have you talked to a doctor about all this?
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    jazz got a reaction from LaLa in Spazzing? Stress? Anxiety? Seasonal Depression? I don't know what's happening to me and it's scaring me...   
    How are you now, Choco? Have you talked to a doctor about all this?
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    jazz got a reaction from LaLa in Being male is so depressing   
    Life can be very tough for men - and for women. Plus there are things can happen, both happy and sad to people regardless of their gender.
    Hope things improve for you, Powerhouse 🌻
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    jazz got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in Being male is so depressing   
    Life can be very tough for men - and for women. Plus there are things can happen, both happy and sad to people regardless of their gender.
    Hope things improve for you, Powerhouse 🌻
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    jazz got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in Embarrased in Front of My Wife   
    I can't believe how many people there are who claim to be a friend but cannot/will not keep information they have been trusted with quiet.
    Sorry this happened to you.
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    jazz got a reaction from Totally Pointless Life in whining thread   
    That is a very lovely pic, Klingsor  🌈
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    jazz reacted to Daveuk in Hi All MSC pals :)   
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    jazz reacted to Totally Pointless Life in whining thread   
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    jazz reacted to Small in whining thread   
    It's 2 years tomorrow that we lost our friend Resolute.
    RIP
    We miss you. 
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    jazz reacted to Totally Pointless Life in "Hegemonic and Subordinated Masculinities..."   
    No @jazz, it distinguishes between two types of “subordinated” masculinities - a “dominant” type and “gigolo” type. 
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    jazz got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in Hi All MSC pals :)   
    Thought you wrote 'it would be more honey', Vic 😄
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    jazz reacted to Victimorthecrime in Hi All MSC pals :)   
    So glad things are cool at the new place. As you get settled it will be more homey.  
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    jazz reacted to Daveuk in Hi All MSC pals :)   
    Hi all really enjoying my new place have my old one for a lil while longer still have no internet there 
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    jazz got a reaction from LaLa in The power of negative thinking?   
    Yes, there is also the idea about decision making that Susan Jeffers wrote about in her book 'Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway' = "Don't protect, correct."  It's just knowing when to correct and getting on with it that can be difficult!
    http://greystoneglobal.com/dont-protect-correct-your-strategic-planning/
     
     
     
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    jazz got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in The power of negative thinking?   
    Yes, there is also the idea about decision making that Susan Jeffers wrote about in her book 'Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway' = "Don't protect, correct."  It's just knowing when to correct and getting on with it that can be difficult!
    http://greystoneglobal.com/dont-protect-correct-your-strategic-planning/
     
     
     
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    jazz reacted to IrmaJean in The power of negative thinking?   
    I think there is good information in that video. Positive thinking does help me at times, but I think Jazz is right about balance. I would call myself an optimistic realist. And that works for me, but might not work best for others. Situations are always evolving too, there are adjustments to make and that might also include adjustments to what helps and what doesn't. There is always more to learn, when we are open to it, I think. Open-mindedness, actually, may very well be what helps me personally the most.
    I am very interested in psychology as well and read whenever I can.
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    jazz reacted to Daveuk in Hi All MSC pals :)   
    Some photos of the new place





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    jazz reacted to Daveuk in Hi All MSC pals :)   
    Update: 
    Be moving the bigger stuff to new place this Thursday afternoon at 2pm
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    jazz reacted to Daveuk in Dear uncle Vic   
    Dear uncle Vic 
    Will those miss my Quirkiness comments and blogs and me ?
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    jazz reacted to Victimorthecrime in Hi All MSC pals :)   
    That's cool. Ask around to see if your phone can connect to Wifi because you won't need to use data minutes. That's what I do at Starbucks or the library or wherever I can switch to Wifi mode.  You can get to this site on a public computer at a library too. 
    Good luck keep us posted.  
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    jazz reacted to Victimorthecrime in Dear uncle Vic   
    Yes we will miss but hopefully not for long 
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    jazz reacted to LaLa in My MIL   
    Hello and welcome!  
    I'm sorry you've got to deal with such a terrible person . It's good you've finally started trying to get some help / support for yourself (by writing here), even though I would have recommended it much sooner; perhaps part of the troubles might have been avoided. But I'm not blaming you, I'm just sorry you had to live thought (mainly) those awful 5 weeks with her. 
    You haven't mentioned your husband's relationship to her, nor how he perceives this situation - her behaviour towards you and how it's been affecting you. How would you describe his perceptions, preferences, and opinions in this context?
    I just hope he's fully on your side and will help you with the changes you need. Although the so far worst experiences (those 5 weeks) are already a past, she's still hurting you too much and I would definitely suggest you to protect yourself from further harm and even, if possible, to get (professional) help for the damage already done.
    This is why I'd suggest psychotherapy (or counselling). You might be able to achieve it on your own, but good professional help would be very useful.
    My opinion is that you should cut any contacts with her to a minimum (or zero, if possible). Perhaps arrange, with your husband, his phone-calls (with her) to take place only when you're not home (/'around'). 
    And here are some articles that might help you with figuring out your own answers to your questions:
    https://turnerpsychologycalgary.com/toxic-relationships-with-family-members-when-to-quit-counselling-articles/
    https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/heres-how-to-deal-with-toxic-family-members
    https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/how-to-handle-a-toxic-family-member
    https://psychcentral.com/blog/whats-a-toxic-person-how-do-you-deal-with-one/
     
    Take care and good luck!
     
     
     
     
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    jazz got a reaction from LaLa in The power of negative thinking?   
    I quite like reading the latest research in positive psychology. Balance seems key to me - a lot of what gets worried about never happens.  Also doing stuff that is enjoyable can be v helpful rather than 'just' saying lots of cheerful mantras.
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    jazz got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in The power of negative thinking?   
    I have some books on psychology e.g. tips from happiness research, I like the wellbeing and psychology section in a bookshop. Also read Psychology Today, yes. Some interesting articles but some subjects do crop up on there over and over - like how to deal with narcissists (surely there can't be that many narcissists in the world!)
    There is a writer on there called Marty Nemko - I like his writing style and practical advice. He writes about careers but also life tips/observations from years helping clients.
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