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    Klingsor reacted to Victimorthecrime in I have a small penis   
    I think he was already gone before I got here which is a shame because he was legit and pretty sharp judging from old posts.  
     
    Back then the forum was lively about a variety of topics.  SPS was one of many.  
     
    Not sure why but I think this type of chat room communication is not very popular because people love the bells & whistles that you get w Reddit or Twitter or whatever.  I don’t like the format of either of those.  
     
    I remember when I first got on-line in 2001 chat rooms and bulletin boards were all the rage on Yahoo, MSN, etc.  I like the simplicity and privacy of it but not others do not I guess. 
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    Klingsor reacted to IrmaJean in I have a small penis   
    I found this that maybe explains a bit about how this forum started. 
     
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    Klingsor reacted to IrmaJean in I have a small penis   
    I should probably also note that this post was written by Dr. Domback when the forum had different ownership and a different name. The forum community existed as part of a different site that also featured articles. When that site sought to remove the community, some of the members got together and moved it here to mental support community.net. Dr. Schwartz and Dr. Domback didn't come with us to the new forum. I hope I am remembering everything accurately.
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    Klingsor reacted to YOTH in Films   
    Great TV show and movie called Gommorah. It's an Italian mafia show but made in Italy rather than the US. It's unbelievably gritty and real. I saw both seasons in a shop for £3 each but I'm so fucking poor I couldn't afford it. I hope one day I look back at that moment and think 'hey, remember that time I was 6 quid too poor to buy something for 6 quid?'
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    Klingsor reacted to LaLa in Films   
    I heard that people who like movies and series like that also like "Money Heist" very much.
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    Klingsor got a reaction from YOTH in Films   
    Anyone want to discuss favorite films or films in general? Can also be television shows, theater, anything related really. I watched Ingmar Bergman’s Magic Flute today; seen it before but it’s truly a great adaptation imo, worth watching again.
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    Klingsor got a reaction from LaLa in Films   
    Anyone want to discuss favorite films or films in general? Can also be television shows, theater, anything related really. I watched Ingmar Bergman’s Magic Flute today; seen it before but it’s truly a great adaptation imo, worth watching again.
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    Klingsor got a reaction from LaLa in I got a new phone today.   
    Thank you @Victimorthecrime good to hear from you. The reason I have the phone is because I worked out a better deal with my carrier, over $30 less a month! My next purchase is a bed...I’m sleeping on the bed I had since college, mattress is over 8 years old and is completely shot. Wish I could claim its due to massive amounts of Olympic sex ha ha. Murder on my back. It’s to the point I have to do something. I’m taking things one bite at a time. Otherwise I’m overwhelmed and defeated. 
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    Klingsor reacted to YOTH in Now divorcing after wife had multiple affairs over my SPS   
    Nurse, hurry up for Christ's sake! This woman needs a normal dose of penis, repeatedly...STAT!
    A normal dose of penis, repeatedly, twice a day after eating. Do not mix with alcohol or if using heavy machinery. 
    Of course, not to be mistaken with an abnormal dose of penises, repeatedly. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in I got a new phone today.   
    Thank you @Victimorthecrime good to hear from you. The reason I have the phone is because I worked out a better deal with my carrier, over $30 less a month! My next purchase is a bed...I’m sleeping on the bed I had since college, mattress is over 8 years old and is completely shot. Wish I could claim its due to massive amounts of Olympic sex ha ha. Murder on my back. It’s to the point I have to do something. I’m taking things one bite at a time. Otherwise I’m overwhelmed and defeated. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from Victimorthecrime in I got a new phone today.   
    First new phone I’ve had in 4 years and second smartphone in my life. How can people be so spoiled and entitled? I felt like a king, like I was a child again opening a present. It’s not even top of the line, just fresh and better for my eyes.
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    Klingsor reacted to LaLa in Now divorcing after wife had multiple affairs over my SPS   
    It seems to me that it is the lack of awareness caused by the reticence of most men to discuss this topic. I saw several men here mentioning something of the kind that they "couldn't" speak to a therapist about this problem because they "wouldn't be understood"; but how can the mental-health-care community learn about the issue when nobody talks about it (to them or somewhere where they could see / hear it)? Just imagine the world where nobody with some different kind of problem wouldn't speak openly about it, seek help for it etc. - would you expect there being awareness and available (specialized) help? 
    I don't blame the men suffering from SPS. I see that their issue itself prevents them from talking about the issue.
    At the same time, I feel partially responsible. Because it seems to me that probably the only people who could now create the awareness and advocate for change and better help would be women who, thanks to forums like this one, understand what a huge problem it is for quite many people. Yet, there's another problem: If the woman is married / in a relationship, then such 'advocacy' would lead people to believe she's doing it "for her partner", which would, in this horrible world, as you know, bring a lot of stigma to that partner (even if he wasn't 'small' at all). That's also my problem  . Yet, I could do it somehow anonymously. I just don't know how (yet?). I think I should find a way... Any ideas how to do it?
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    Klingsor got a reaction from YOTH in Now divorcing after wife had multiple affairs over my SPS   
    @Toosmallforcomfort
    Why do you think this problem is ignored or dismissed by the medical community? It affects the lives of many men to the extent that some have committed suicide. Here is how Wikipedia categorizes a disability due to mental illness (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mental_disorder#Signs_and_symptoms) -
    Personally, SPS has affected all three bullet points of my life (especially occupational functioning), and I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say that most men who post or visit this forum can claim impairment in at least one or two of these criteria. 
    Is it simply lack of awareness? I find this explanation difficult to accept. Or is it due to the reticence most men have discussing this topic openly? Or something else entirely? I'd like your thoughts. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from LaLa in FREE Chrome Extension to Hide YT Comments!!   
    Possibly the greatest thing I've found online since the introduction of YouTube itself: 
    https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/toggle youtube comments/ampjnmipdgicjjidohpkidhghakoidfm
    Please, all of you highly sensitive introverts like me, remember this monumentally positive contribution I made to your mental health. I hope this will atone for all of my negativity, cynicism, and pessimism. 
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    Klingsor reacted to Toosmallforcomfort in Now divorcing after wife had multiple affairs over my SPS   
    I'm 46 years old and have an erect penis under 5 for both length and girth.  Married for 15 years, but wife was really out of the marriage for the last 5 of them and told me to leave because she wanted to pursue another relationship.  About 5 years ago she told me that she was not being sexually satisfied and wanted an open marriage feeling her age setting in.  I thought that was a bad idea, jealously and all.  I suggested therapy, we went once, but she didn't want to go anymore.   4 years ago she had 2 affairs that i knew about and then one that lasted for 1.5 years that i did just recently find out about.  We have two kids and my older daughter now knows all about these.  Now I filed, she has a bf, and I'm very sad about it.  She has told me multiple times that I am a "little man".  I prolly shouldn't have stayed all these years, as it just hurt me to know she preferred others, but I did for the sake of the children.  Bad idea.
    I've seen a sex therapist and there is no doubt I have SPS.  My first sexual experience was my next door neighbor when i was 11, he was 14.  He was quite well endowed and made fun of my junk.  This had a lasting impression on me.  While I don't think im gay for many reasons,  this feeling of inadequacy prevented me from having heterosexual relations for much of high school and college, even when women were clearly interested in an intimate experience. My roomate in college was very well endowed and would bring multiple women to the room to have sex.  He was proud of his junk, and I would be too, it was quite large and he would have sex in ways in the room that I could only dream of.  I was jealous and I dont' know why I didn't leave the room.  I lost my virginity to a bigger girl in college who I could not make orgasm.   Had one dry hump experience with another girl when i was 29.  Then met my future wife at 29 where i wanted to wait 3 months to make sure the relationship would last, despite her wanting to have sex earlier.  Despite the fact that we got married, i was never an initiator of sex because of my feelings of inadequacy.  She was the initiator.  My wife had a difficult delivery with my daughter and her vagina changed to the point were I felt I was clearly too small for her.  This made my SPS even worse, I withdrew, became disinterested in sex, and our marriage went on as described in the first paragraph.
    My SPS and then learning of the multiple incidences of infidelity spiraled me downhill to the point where I'm not sure where to go, but here and therapy.  I've considered a celibate life.  I"m a successful physician and business owner who will be 1/2 less wealthy quite shortly.  
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    Klingsor reacted to Toosmallforcomfort in Now divorcing after wife had multiple affairs over my SPS   
    Question #1:  Good question, never really looked at it that way.  Just as a job.  But, I would honestly say, I'm in left side of the bell curve.
    Question #2:  Electrician
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    Klingsor reacted to Daveuk in Rocky horror   
    Any fans here of RHPS ? 
    One of my absolute favourite musicals
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    Klingsor got a reaction from grossberger in How small are you and how big would u like to be?   
    I would like 9x7, thick at the base uncircumcised. Really my ideal life would be as a gigolo. I saw a young homeless man a few weeks ago at an intersection holding a sign that read, "Seeking donations or a sugar mama". I thought how wonderful it must be to just literally live off the tit, servicing desperate suburban women and getting paid for it. Basically the opposite of a traditional harem. I suppose if I do have problems, it is that I really want to be objectified by women as a sex object. I have no interest in relationships. I just want to be in high demand sexually. 
    That's the answer to my existence: I want to be a man whore, but can't. I guess I need help. Or killed, exterminated like a rodent.
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    Klingsor got a reaction from william noname in Everyone of my supposed "friends" forgot my birthday   
    Hi William. I can't imagine how tough it is for someone your age today with all the social media. When I was in high school it was still limited to Myspace and crappy, single-page HTML websites. But kids still had ways to make you feel like you were worthless or didn't matter. Apps like snapchat transform ignoring people into a form of bullying. Society is a jungle. You have to bray like a jackass or screech like a monkey to be heard. 
    It's not much consolation, but the people you consider friends now are not really your friends. They're just people who are in your life...sometimes directly, sometimes peripherally. In a few years, they will literally disappear and new people will enter your life. Maybe some will be your friends. Most won't. That's just life. I never had "real" friends. I'm not even sure such a thing exists. Human relationships are contractually determined through mutual self-interest. Therefore, if you desire "friendship", you must bring something to the table, so to speak. As a quiet person (and I speak from experience), very few individuals will exert the effort to include you in anything. Especially males. 
    I haven't celebrated my birthday in over 15 years. I get a text message or a couple of phone calls from family, but that's it. I haven't had a "cake" birthday since I was younger than you are. You have your entire life ahead of you though. I would highly recommend if you suffer from social anxiety (I do) to ask your parents to take you to a doctor and get some medication for it. Social anxiety can cripple you. If you don't suffer from it, then I would advise you to figure out the things you enjoy doing most, and focus your social life around that. Again - mutual self-interest will provide the basis for friendship, at least in my experience. Many guys your age are into sports. I never was, but that might be an option. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from Sheepish in Wife needing advice   
    @Sheepish
    Attempting to talk to any man except a gay man about this will lead to a hamster wheel of comedic deflection, denials, and bullshit. Men are intrinsically resistant to discussing or admitting anything that may give the perception of weakness or inferiority. This itself is not unrelated to the phallus issue. This is why I can post the article above in size 500 font and it will be ignored or denied. But everyone knows it. Some argue locker room/sports culture and banter its more of a Western, Anglo-American thing. Perhaps so. But phallic symbolism is universal. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from Sheepish in Wife needing advice   
    @Sheepish
    This article will explain how SPS operates: 
    https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/penis-size-does-matter-in-the-locker-room-at-least-9202855.html
    Are you going to suggest that all these professional athletes are "gay"? The overwhelming majority of men would rather swallow bleach than ever admit this to anyone, but men crotch check and look at one another's equipment. A man's identity is wholly vested in his penis. It becomes the primary dominance trait in establishing a pecking order. Bigger is better. It is the symbol of male potency and vitality. 
    Women struggle to understand this because they fail to understand that this problem centers around other males. I personally know at least 2 members of this forum who have had sexually successful relationships with women - the women were satisfied, content, in love - yet who still are eaten alive by this insecurity. Other posts made by transient members also reflect this reality. How can this be if it is not a problem among MEN? 
    It also must be remembered that the majority of porn is generally claimed to be produced for men. If this is indeed true, then why is there so much "big cock"..."massive cock"...."huge cock" type tags, if this isn't something that men find arousing on some level? Are all of these men gay? 
    Even everyday language reflects the common perception of a man's penis as his "tool" or his "equipment". It's no different than two boys on the playground seeing who has the bigger toy. It seems nearly impossible to make women understand this. Men are competitive by nature. Only MGTOW cultists and other kumbaya nutjobs deny it. Homosexual relationships are defined on this principle...dick size is the only currency in the gay hookup world because it's basically the symbol of male potency which most gay men feel they lack in some way. 
    Just because your husband sent some pics online doesn't mean he's gay and wants to be in a relationship with another man. You have to realize that he feels insecure, ineffectual, and trouble identifying as a man. Because everything in our culture is phallo-centric. Everything. The pressure on men to conform to this ideal is overwhelming. 
    Speaking from experience, if this episode is going to remain on your mind, if you're constantly going to be asking yourself if he's gay/not gay, the two of you should consider splitting up. He will never get rid of this insecurity, and I have yet to find a woman who understands this problem deep enough to be able to live with it for extended periods of time. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from YOTH in Wife needing advice   
    @Sheepish
    This article will explain how SPS operates: 
    https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/penis-size-does-matter-in-the-locker-room-at-least-9202855.html
    Are you going to suggest that all these professional athletes are "gay"? The overwhelming majority of men would rather swallow bleach than ever admit this to anyone, but men crotch check and look at one another's equipment. A man's identity is wholly vested in his penis. It becomes the primary dominance trait in establishing a pecking order. Bigger is better. It is the symbol of male potency and vitality. 
    Women struggle to understand this because they fail to understand that this problem centers around other males. I personally know at least 2 members of this forum who have had sexually successful relationships with women - the women were satisfied, content, in love - yet who still are eaten alive by this insecurity. Other posts made by transient members also reflect this reality. How can this be if it is not a problem among MEN? 
    It also must be remembered that the majority of porn is generally claimed to be produced for men. If this is indeed true, then why is there so much "big cock"..."massive cock"...."huge cock" type tags, if this isn't something that men find arousing on some level? Are all of these men gay? 
    Even everyday language reflects the common perception of a man's penis as his "tool" or his "equipment". It's no different than two boys on the playground seeing who has the bigger toy. It seems nearly impossible to make women understand this. Men are competitive by nature. Only MGTOW cultists and other kumbaya nutjobs deny it. Homosexual relationships are defined on this principle...dick size is the only currency in the gay hookup world because it's basically the symbol of male potency which most gay men feel they lack in some way. 
    Just because your husband sent some pics online doesn't mean he's gay and wants to be in a relationship with another man. You have to realize that he feels insecure, ineffectual, and trouble identifying as a man. Because everything in our culture is phallo-centric. Everything. The pressure on men to conform to this ideal is overwhelming. 
    Speaking from experience, if this episode is going to remain on your mind, if you're constantly going to be asking yourself if he's gay/not gay, the two of you should consider splitting up. He will never get rid of this insecurity, and I have yet to find a woman who understands this problem deep enough to be able to live with it for extended periods of time. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from LaLa in Wife needing advice   
    https://www.outsports.com/2013/3/3/4061150/the-gay-side-of-hazing
    Outsports has a lot of good articles that make straight men furious because it rips open the lid on a bunch of this shit; my only reservation is that it's written from the perspective of gay men, who don't understand the difference between homoeroticism and homosexuality per se:
     
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    Klingsor got a reaction from LaLa in Wife needing advice   
    @Sheepish
    Attempting to talk to any man except a gay man about this will lead to a hamster wheel of comedic deflection, denials, and bullshit. Men are intrinsically resistant to discussing or admitting anything that may give the perception of weakness or inferiority. This itself is not unrelated to the phallus issue. This is why I can post the article above in size 500 font and it will be ignored or denied. But everyone knows it. Some argue locker room/sports culture and banter its more of a Western, Anglo-American thing. Perhaps so. But phallic symbolism is universal. 
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    Klingsor got a reaction from LaLa in Wife needing advice   
    @Sheepish
    This article will explain how SPS operates: 
    https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/penis-size-does-matter-in-the-locker-room-at-least-9202855.html
    Are you going to suggest that all these professional athletes are "gay"? The overwhelming majority of men would rather swallow bleach than ever admit this to anyone, but men crotch check and look at one another's equipment. A man's identity is wholly vested in his penis. It becomes the primary dominance trait in establishing a pecking order. Bigger is better. It is the symbol of male potency and vitality. 
    Women struggle to understand this because they fail to understand that this problem centers around other males. I personally know at least 2 members of this forum who have had sexually successful relationships with women - the women were satisfied, content, in love - yet who still are eaten alive by this insecurity. Other posts made by transient members also reflect this reality. How can this be if it is not a problem among MEN? 
    It also must be remembered that the majority of porn is generally claimed to be produced for men. If this is indeed true, then why is there so much "big cock"..."massive cock"...."huge cock" type tags, if this isn't something that men find arousing on some level? Are all of these men gay? 
    Even everyday language reflects the common perception of a man's penis as his "tool" or his "equipment". It's no different than two boys on the playground seeing who has the bigger toy. It seems nearly impossible to make women understand this. Men are competitive by nature. Only MGTOW cultists and other kumbaya nutjobs deny it. Homosexual relationships are defined on this principle...dick size is the only currency in the gay hookup world because it's basically the symbol of male potency which most gay men feel they lack in some way. 
    Just because your husband sent some pics online doesn't mean he's gay and wants to be in a relationship with another man. You have to realize that he feels insecure, ineffectual, and trouble identifying as a man. Because everything in our culture is phallo-centric. Everything. The pressure on men to conform to this ideal is overwhelming. 
    Speaking from experience, if this episode is going to remain on your mind, if you're constantly going to be asking yourself if he's gay/not gay, the two of you should consider splitting up. He will never get rid of this insecurity, and I have yet to find a woman who understands this problem deep enough to be able to live with it for extended periods of time. 
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