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  1. Hello all, Looking for feedback and help in supporting my adult son (43) who is suffering from delusional disorder. A little over a year ago I was away on business (he lives with me) for 1 day and he called me to tell me a car was sitting outside of the house watching him. It grew from there. 14 months later he does not leave the house. He is on long term disability because he cannot go to work. Will not use his cell phone because he believes it is hacked. Doesn't go on computer because it is hacked. Doesn't want family or friends over to the house because the people that are watching him will see this and the danger might be heightened. He has an 18 year old son whom he is very close to that he now only sees or speaks to occasionally. He doesn't want to put him harms way. What started as 1 car is now 30+ people driving past the house, walking dogs or children past the house to watch him. In the past month he started suspecting the neighbors all around us. He doesn't know why they are doing this or what they have in mind but he feels threatened. He's not violent (thank god) and not one to confront (again, thank god) but he's exhausted, depressed, frustrated. A no time during these 14 months has he ever considered that he is sick. He believes 100% that he is being watched. He has this elaborate story in his mind that all of these people are working together and communicating to watch him. He feels that the only reason something bad hasn't happened is because he doesn't leave the house. He's seeing a psychiatrist for meds and started therapy a month ago. Both he is doing for me. He doesn't see the benefit. The meds take the edge off of the anxiety but haven't helped with the delusions. Doctor prescribed new meds that require weekly bloodwork and he refuses. He won't leave the house for the draws and doesn't want anyone coming in. Our relationship is strained because I try to rationalize with him on the things he is feeling, suspecting. I tell him that yes, the cars the people are there but they have nothing to do with him. It's normal life. I sympathize for what he is feeling but he doesn't want to hear it. He doesn't understand why I don't believe him, why I'm in denial. He wants to hire a private detective to find out who all these people are. I've tried to explain that he'll never get the answers that he is seeking. He's heartbroken that no one believes him and that he has to go through this alone. I've been researching investigators but would they take this on? The cost? Will my son ever have enough information on people to satisfy his fears? I'm looking for suggestions on what to say to my son when he's struggling to show support without agreeing with his delusions. Also welcome feedback on the investigator idea. lsue Thanks in advance
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