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Joe08

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  1. Maybe it's good for her This is double standards
  2. I would like to add that she clearly mentioned to me, several times over the course of 2 years, that she doesn't accept any "intimate" interactions with the opposite sex (texting, flirting....etc), not to mention cheating, where she says she NEVER can forgive or forget.
  3. Hi IrmaJean, yes i have spoken to her about it, and as i mentioned she lied at the beginning about it, then when i saw the videos she said that she simply forgot and insisted on downplaying it, saying it was just one dance, where obviously there were multiple dances and there was flirting (it can be seen clearly). My problem is she isn't admitting what happened in order to discuss why it happened and what to do in order not to be repeated. It seems to me, after this incident, that her feelings about committed relationship are with double standards, meaning that she's offended and jealous if some girl gives me a "like" on a post on FB, or if a female friend/co-worker texts me just to say hi or to ask me something.
  4. I didn't say that I don't mind her flirting, of course I do! what I said is even if we end up flirting or even cheating (which I am not ok with any of those 2) it will make it worse lying, denying and downplaying what happened, that we can talk about it as long as everything is transparent. I do believe that if we don't admit what we did, and discuss it, chances are it will happen again in the future
  5. Hi Lala, and thank you for your insight. If I understood right, do you consider her flirting (grinding) with a young man in a club harmless?
  6. I will try to be brief. I am 46, my gf is a 37 single mom (2 kids)…few months ago she went to a club with some girls, i found out that she ended up flirting and dancing with some young guy of 21. Before i find out she told me that some guy came to her, talked to her while she was dancing, but she refused him and sent him away. I found out that she danced with him, i confronted her with this, and said “yeah, i forgot, we danced a little bit, few seconds, but that’s it”, and she swore that it was it. After a while i saw some videos made at that club, and i saw that she danced in an intimate way with him, several times, and spoke and laughed several times (flirting), and at some point she danced with him on the table, also in an intimate way (when i say intimate, i didn’t see any kissing, but intimate positions, grinding…etc). I confronted her again with this and she said that simply she forgot about that dancing on the table, because she drank too much that night, and the reason that she danced with him because we had a big fight that day and she just wanted to forget. The idea is, whatever happens we can talk about it, even if we end up cheating, we can discuss it, so i don’t understand why she still insists on lying. I am not sure if what i wrote makes any sense to you. But i appreciate your advice. Thanks in advance
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