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Hello, This will be my second post and forum is full of great beautiful people. I hope someone can give me some advice. Im currently stuck in a situation. I moved to Japan and I needed a job so I hastely found a job at an Izakaya (Japanese Bar). It is a very high paced job and the co-workers all smoke, gamble, and play video games. I have little to no interest in those so I can't keep up with their conversation. The people are nice but I couldn't enjoy the job. After only one week of working, my ingrown fingernail got worst and I needed surgery. I've been off work ever since (over two months of not working). The manager is desperately in need of people, and there's no applications since myself. So they would rather wait for me to recover (which will take many more weeks to come), than to let me go. At the same time, a person I know owns a Jazz Club and he is also desperately in need of workers. He wants me to work there since I have a passion for Jazz, andhe tells me I should just quit my current job. I went to go talk to my manager today and explained the situation and he seemed very unpleased. I hate letting people down. I know I became a yes-man because growing up I wasn't very liked, even the people I would call friends would leave me to go with other friends, and I've always felt like a big tumor to everyone. So I started to cater to other peoples needs at my own expense. People love me now, but Im just exausted and I can't even quit my job because I dont want to be a burden on them. It even has been affecting my relationships negatively too. Does anyone have any clue on how I should change my mentality? or Does anyone have any past experiences similar to mine? Thank you so much for your time.