Small penis anxiety and depression

[Victimorthecrime]

The internet is often mean place. There is a somewhat full figured model I followed for a time on Instagram named Lexi Bell. Don't you know this guy had to go ahead and call her Taco Bell?  See what I mean? You have to take internet comments with a grain of salt. 

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On 9. Juli 2016 at 10:56 PM, LaLa said:

I know such preference exists. I think finding a partner like that should be easier on a dating-site where you disclose your size and then know that anybody who contacts you is OK with it.

In practise it couldn't work, as I'm sure we all understand. No guy is going to expose details about his penis size publicly in this way!!

But in theory it could be the answer to SPS. Seriously, a lot of guys might even be pleasantly surprised?!

 

On 9. Juli 2016 at 10:56 PM, LaLa said:

Second example: Do you know that there are many women who experience intensive pain during intercourse (and often also after as well as at unrelated times)?? (Those would prefer "a small size man", I'm quite sure...)

Part of the problem is that things like "small size"(or "big size" for that matter) come down to personal opinion at the end of the day.

Questions for LaLa, what is a completely average penis in your opinion? 4 inches? 5 inches? 6 inches? 7 inches?

And are we talking length or circumference? What is more important to a woman?

But (and here is the thing) whatever your answers are, how confident can you be that your sister or female friend or co-worker is going to have the exact same thoughts?

One girl might think 4.5 inches is too short and another might think it is okay. Who is right and who is wrong?

[LaLa]

Personally, I'm not interested in those statistics at all. All I know is from this website where I sometimes see people mentioning some "average size", but to be honest, I don't remember the numbers. Yes, I can only agree that the preferences of women differ, probably quite a lot. There's no "general right and wrong" in terms of "ideal/preferable size". Moreover, much is due to expectations, not to real experiences - if they would be willing to try, they would find ways to enjoy even smaller size.

I think it should be taught at school - about the fact that size doesn't matter so much as most girls suppose and about the terrible psychological effects this issue can have on many men.

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Hi LaLa,

Thanks for replying. I wasn't asking you for statistcs! I was asking what you consider regular size? But if you prefer to not say, that's okay (maybe you want to avoid hurting feelings? lol)

It comes down to what I said on the other thread. I think everyone has their own idea of average. Everyone has their own idea of big. Everyone has their own idea of small.

(It is plain daft to look at porn films and suppose those guys are average!!)

[LaLa]

I cannot have any idea of regular size unless I know a proper statistics  .

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This from "The Lover's Guide" website

http://www.loversguide.com/does-penis-size-matter.html

 

".....The truth of the matter is that most women don’t like very small penises, whatever is done with them. A small, thin penis is not very rewarding in itself and many women complain that they ‘can’t feel anything’, especially if their vagina has previously been stretched by having children. That does not mean the man cannot be a good lover, but that his penis alone probably is not going to do it.

Having said that, many women are also put off by very large penises. They may be a stimulating turn-on in fantasy but can be seen as extremely threatening in reality. As Katie, 25, put it: ‘It was a real shock when I saw this enormous willy advancing on me. I remember I said something like, “You’re not putting that thing anywhere near me!” Luckily he was a good friend and we were able to laugh about it a lot later.’

What women want

Research has shown that what most women want is a bigger-than-average penis, but what is really important is width rather than length. The ideal penis is one which is thick enough to stretch the opening to the vagina and which can be felt inside their body, each time they have sex.

As female orgasm is not dependent on deep penetration, most women would prefer a penis of average length to a very long one, which can cause pain if thrust too hard. The vagina is, on average, only 8cm long but during arousal it can stretch both widthways and lengthways to accommodate almost any size of penis. A penis is rarely ‘too big’ but it can be too long – a problem which can be overcome if the man doesn’t go in all the way.........."

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Btw, not saying I can 100% agree with this?! You can generalize about xyz, but I think some girls are into super long length and some aren't.

This thing about "very small penises".....like what is that? How small is very small? So again it comes down to each individual thoughts at the end of the day.

I'm pretty sure people in the Korean community, for example, would have different ideas as to what is "small" or "average" size??

[kindhearted]

On 7/9/2016 at 7:30 AM, TimmyStan1967 said:

Hi....Fellow 4.5" penis guy here.  I feel you pain at the work place.  I have worked in the same place for many years and the conversations get very sexual and some of the women I do and have worked with have no problems sharing their disappointing small penis dates or former lovers.   I have had more than one coworker loudly proclaim they have ended relationships because of a small penis and they all just laugh.  These insensitive cunts act as if we lined up one day and said "Yes I will take the small penis please," as if it were a choice.  I just wished these women knew the horrors they caused me just having to listen to them.  I wished women had an equivalent body part shaming experience.  I mean some women get self conscious with small boobs and there are guys who don't like them but there are plenty who do...but you never hear of a group of women who like small penises.

I'm a woman and I like small penises. Those women descibed sound a little slutty to me. Not all women are judgemental and looking for monster size dicks. I believe that the porn industry has created this unrealistic expectation that women like monster size penises.

I also have small breasts and I feel self conscious about them everyday and I have had other women comment on my small breasts. 

I know there are some women out there that wouldn't dump a guy because he had penis. A man can't control how his penis devlops so it would be unreasonable to be disappointed by a small one.

[Resolute]

3 hours ago, kindhearted said:

I'm a woman and I like small penises. Those women descibed sound a little slutty to me. Not all women are judgemental and looking for monster size dicks. I believe that the porn industry has created this unrealistic expectation that women like monster size penises.

I also have small breasts and I feel self conscious about them everyday and I have had other women comment on my small breasts. 

I know there are some women out there that wouldn't dump a guy because he had penis. A man can't control how his penis devlops so it would be unreasonable to be disappointed by a small one.

hello, kh, and welcome to the community. you honestly seem like a decent woman, but let me ask you this, how many "reasonable" people have you actually seen in your life?

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http://dinkyone.com

Searching for niche hookup sites tonight and noticed this. Don't know whether it is legit?? It could be help to some here, perhaps?

Oh yeah, and this one too lol

http://7orbetter.com

(Not so helpful to 99% of men!!)

[YOTH]

On 27/06/2016 at 7:23 PM, emed27 said:

Iam 23 and I've never had sex due to my lack of confidence regarding my penis. The thing is, I always thought I was 5" or at least 5 and a half, which is still on the smaller side, but I always thought to my self, "Eh, at least iam average". It wasn't until recently when I learned how to PROPERLY measure my penis and realize I've been doing it wrong all along. Iam actually 4 and a half inches! I'm mortified. I litterly feel sick to my stomach. I cant belive I have a 4 and a half inch penis. To make things worse, the other day I was at work and a friend of mine told me that her ex boy friend had a "small penis" She then used a pen that was near by to demonstrate how small it was. I then measured the pen and saw it was 5 and a half inches! Can u imagine what she would think of me! It just hit me that I can never hook up with anyone or have a one night stand or maybe even be in a relationship. The fact that i have a small penis just hit me like a ton of bricks. Im litterly waking up anxious with pain in my stomach. Im pacing back and forth at the verge of a panic atack. I don't know what to do. Thoughts of suicide have even crossed my mind. Im just really angry, upset and even a bit jelous at the fact the other guys my age or going around meeting new girls at bars and hooking up  and i cant because of the size of my penis. And I know alot of people say "One day u will find a girl who loves and accepts u for u", and to be honest, that hurts. The fact that the only time a person would be accepting of my penis Is if she loves me just sucks man. 

I really don't have any motivation to do anything anymore. My days are usually just filled with sorrow and anxiety. Every time I think about the fact that my penis Is less than average I just get extremely anxious and depressed. It's like, who can I tell about this? I've recently gained alot of weight and am currently about 50 lbs over weight. I really want to lose weight and get in shape but the thing is IF I do, I would probably become more attractive to people, which would open the door to girls approaching me and tying to date me, which will probably lead to them trying to bang me, and well, we all know where that would lead to.

I just really don't know what to do anymore. I just found this website the other day and noticed that alot of posts don't even get alot or responses. Please don't let that be the case with me. Please respond, give me some advise, a pep talk, SOMETHING. I really need it. Thanks in advance.

I feel you, man. Sounds like the same nightmare a lot of us go through, and God knows telling you all that 'size doesn't matter, motion in the ocean' polava would just be annoying as hell. I sometimes wonder where we all are, we could help eachother so much and yet we skulk around the shadows like lone ghosts when it's about as common as the cold.

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Just saw this.

On 27. Juni 2016 at 7:23 PM, emed27 said:

Iam 23 and I've never had sex due to my lack of confidence regarding my penis. The thing is, I always thought I was 5" or at least 5 and a half, which is still on the smaller side, but I always thought to my self, "Eh, at least iam average". It wasn't until recently when I learned how to PROPERLY measure my penis and realize I've been doing it wrong all along. Iam actually 4 and a half inches! I'm mortified. I litterly feel sick to my stomach. I cant belive I have a 4 and a half inch penis. To make things worse, the other day I was at work and a friend of mine told me that her ex boy friend had a "small penis" She then used a pen that was near by to demonstrate how small it was. I then measured the pen and saw it was 5 and a half inches! Can u imagine what she would think of me! It just hit me that I can never hook up with anyone or have a one night stand or maybe even be in a relationship. The fact that i have a small penis just hit me like a ton of bricks. Im litterly waking up anxious with pain in my stomach.

Don't understand how do you measure it wrong man?? How hard can it be to use a ruler?!

As for your friend, I'm sorry to say they are talking complete fucking crap!! Five and half inches isn't a porno dingo, but it isnt a very small one either. Don't be so easily swayed by bullshitters is my advice.

[Victimorthecrime]

13 hours ago, Redux said:

Just saw this.

Don't understand how do you measure it wrong man?? How hard can it be to use a ruler?!

I believe the proper technique is to place the ruler on top of the erect penis and measure toward the abdomen with a moderate bone press.  

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9 hours ago, Victimorthecrime said:

I believe the proper technique is to place the ruler on top of the erect penis and measure toward the abdomen with a moderate bone press.  

I see. It could make quite the difference in guys with a beer belly??

[Victimorthecrime]

Yes and not just beer belly, most guys have a fat pad there.  Some guys go so far as to have liposuction to remove it. I just read that somewhere, not recommending it.  Not sure how much of a difference it makes on average, about 3/4 inch on me.  

[Gunner71]

On 27/06/2016 at 3:23 PM, emed27 said:

I cant belive I have a 4 and a half inch penis.

Well, Emed, I'm 45 years old and have a 5 inch penis. When soft it's 2 inches long (or short, for that matter...) by 3 inches around. I row and wear tight shorts, which shows how much I don't pack down there. Obviously I would love to have a large bulge to display like most of my rowing mates, but mine is probably the smallest.

As for my sex life, I've been married for 18 years and my wife always has multiple orgasms when we have sex.