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Alright so I have a 4.3 inches penis. I just turned 17 and now I know that my chances of growing are gone. When I was 16 I was told that I was going to grow, but I haven't. That's not my point though. I have this amazing gf, but I'm to scared to have sex. I haven't even told her about my size problem. That's what I'm scared of mostly. I just can't tell her I get to embarrassed. I have no clue how she'd react. I really love her. It makes me really sad to be honest. I hate my size. I really hate it. I feel cheated in life. I don't feel like a man yet. I pray I'd grow, but that hope is lost. It doesn't help that I have no true talents. I'm honestly not much. I just work hard and I tell her so many things. I give her a million reasons why I love her every night. Yet I go to sleep crying. I feel so fucking pathetic. It's just unfair. For fuck sakes even 5inches is good enough...hell it's better then what I have now. My girth is 3.5 inches. I mean can she feel that? I just I'm sorry I'm just ranting, but I just need someone to give me hope. Tell me one damn good reason why it's okay. Or at least tell me I have a chance and why. Frankly I don't see any.. do you? 

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Hi, packer. Welcome to the forum. It's a tricky one for sure, because it's nerve-racking your first time anyway, but add size anxiety and it can be a bit of a nightmare (been there unfortunately). I don't wanna blow smoke up your arse, it's gonna take communication. With a bunch of 'no communication' failed sexual encounters behind me (I'm 5.5 and the grass ain't much greener over here especially when you're losing your hard-on during) the only thing I didn't do was talk about it. It's not exactly easy talking with one night stands, but when you're with someone you love, you have to be honest. But I know that it's the most embarrassing thing to do, I still get a bit embarrassed talking to my wife about it even now, but I feel better for it. Just sit down (have a few drinks if you drink to relax) and tell her what your worries are, chances are she'll understand. It's either that or fumble through the first encounter making it ten times more awkward. If you're worried that talking about it will turn her off, it's still better in the long run to have an understanding. And a word of advice, foreplay is our best friend, preheat the oven if you will :) Anyway, good luck with everything, I'm sure it'll be ok. ☮

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Having a very functional (no ED issues) 5x5 has been ok for me.  I'm not sure what to tell you since your size is smaller, but I'd say it's best to go for it and see what happens.  You will have to either do that it break up with her eventually.  But I understand the feeling of being gypped and left on the sidelines of life.  I felt that way at least somewhat for about 30 years.

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@packer My first reply read like shit, I've edited it slightly. I can't stress enough how important communication is. I talked to my wife about my anxieties and how much it impacts my life (they rarely understand how detrimental it is to us as men to be men). She understands so much more now and realises how much pressure we're under to be the alpha, or at the very least a beta wearing an alpha t-shirt. Once I got it all off my chest (Which took balls as I'm a proud guy) she was more relaxed herself. The first year of our marriage was good, but after our first kid we drifted apart sexually and I started to have performance problems. Until one day I just told her everything. I had so much baggage from a previous relationship that it was impossible not to drag it into this relationship. I wish I'd been honest with my first gf when I was your age, but instead I just distracted myself with drugs, booze and getting wasted as often as possible. She really loved me too and I rejected her because of how insecure I felt. Don't make the same mistake as me. Just open up now while you're both young and give yourself a fighting chance. By the sounds of it you both really love each other, I just hope you don't try to ignore it and muddle through, because it sounds worth the effort. Good luck.

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On 6/10/2017 at 4:45 AM, packer said:

Alright so I have a 4.3 inches penis. I just turned 17 and now I know that my chances of growing are gone. When I was 16 I was told that I was going to grow, but I haven't. That's not my point though. I have this amazing gf, but I'm to scared to have sex. I haven't even told her about my size problem. That's what I'm scared of mostly. I just can't tell her I get to embarrassed. I have no clue how she'd react. I really love her. It makes me really sad to be honest. I hate my size. I really hate it. I feel cheated in life. I don't feel like a man yet. I pray I'd grow, but that hope is lost. It doesn't help that I have no true talents. I'm honestly not much. I just work hard and I tell her so many things. I give her a million reasons why I love her every night. Yet I go to sleep crying. I feel so fucking pathetic. It's just unfair. For fuck sakes even 5inches is good enough...hell it's better then what I have now. My girth is 3.5 inches. I mean can she feel that? I just I'm sorry I'm just ranting, but I just need someone to give me hope. Tell me one damn good reason why it's okay. Or at least tell me I have a chance and why. Frankly I don't see any.. do you? 

As a man with roughly the same size I can tell you it's not as bad in reality as it is in your head. 

 

If you're in a loving relationship you are in a great position to get a handle on this. 

 

First, satisfying a woman with your penis is not something to focus on. Use all the tools in your toolbox. Your mouth and your fingers can provide far better orgasms than a big penis. 

Every relationship is different, but what I've done is give orgasms with my other tools before the reveal. It took a lot of pressure off because I knew she knew I could sexually satisfy her. Once you give her a few orgasms, then she is far more likely to enjoy your penis and even orgasm from it. For most women, it's far less physical. 

 

Considering your youth, and inexperience I know this probably sounds like pie in the sky, but I can tell you from personal experience that you can do this. 

Make her feel good, be a very generous lover, and make it all about satisfying her and you will find your way through. 

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I had a bunch of issues before the girlfriend I have now. I had a relationship and was married before and I didn't tell her my issues. As YOTH says, communication is key. I never felt like I could talk to my ex wife, but with the gf I have now, I can tell her anything. She dealt with my size issues the entire time that it was a problem. I still do have issues with it, and every once in a while I slip a bit with it and she's there to pick me up. If you're in a great relationship then she should help and take things in stride. 

I hope things go well for you!!

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Yoth you have exactly the average size consider yourself very lucky ,many men dream to be just average,and there is nothing we can change just swallow the knife with its blood and live what is waiting for you to live it, here we can't suicide ,in our religion suicide leads to hell , so small penis here and then i find my self in hell i better try or pretend to be happy with what god gave me . but thank god anyway we are bitching about penis size is nothing compared to the other goods ,we must thank god for the air we are breathing some people can't breath only under machines or have difficulties ,but that's the nature of the human always looking for perfection, and the perfection is only for god

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@bizzarecontact I agree with you completely. Not about the suicide hell stuff, hell is right here and now, we're living it, I personally believe the only way is up. But I agree with you on staying vigilant only for God. And you're right, I am statistically average, but for me it's the tip of the iceberg (no pun), as with most people in here our lives have been or still are turbulent and a small penis just makes the whole thing a tad more difficult. I'm an extreme grower so look tiny flaccid and I've often shared that that's the only reason I come to the forum. I'm here on Earth doing what I'm doing for reasons beyond my comprehension, so I leave that up to higher intervention. But I come here to share my daily struggles and hopefully if I'm lucky alleviate someone elses. Without sounding like a condescending arsehole, you're clearly in here looking for something yourself, if this wasn't an issue you'd dealt with personally you probably wouldn't visit this forum, I know from experience. But I try to embrace my flaws and feelings and grow spiritually despite what I perceive as hurdles, and sometimes this place and the people in here help me in ways I couldn't hope to find out in the world. But you're right, I'm blessed in many ways and sometimes forget to remember that, it never hurts to reassess and give thanks ☮

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To chip in to this post - I understand the stop in growing. Its horrible and I personally felt cheated because so many unpleasant guys (bullies etc) from school ended up with pretty girls and with friends and good jobs. I couldnt understand why my penis looks so short and skinny - its like a short thumb and doesnt create any sort of bulge soft. Its only just 5 inches hard so after seeing schoolboys at highschool after physical education..destroyed my confidence..they were becoming well built men and i still felt like a boy.

But I met someone early in my 20s and we had the talk after 3 months of being together. She has been with me for 10 years. Advice is to be honest, you say to her that you have anxiety and if she asks why just say you want to please her but you feel stressed about your body, I said to my other half that I wanted to have sex but I felt ashamed of my penis. Despite its small flaccid state she said I was the guy she loved.

Most likely she will reassure you and you will have an opportunity to explore your desires together. Just keep your chat light and show her its a part of you..if you are going steady she will accept you.

 

Best wishes

Paul

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now it is 4 inchs ,maximum erection maybe 4.5 ,  i remember when i measured it 10 or 11 years ago it was at least 6 inches , and i think because i gained alot weight 

at least 38 lbs after i stoped bodybuilding and i abused drinking soda every day and now i got big belly and my height is only 5'7", the problem is the fat pad of the penis is the hardedest part you can become thin and the fat pad will always still there only surgery can reduce it . i remember i was jerking with my cosin on porn 13 or 14 years  ago and my penis was bigger than him and he told me you have one like we see in porn movies ,6 years ago he came watching porn and he jerked on my desk i saw his penis becoming bigger than mine he didn't get fat like me that's why i bet his penis is bigger

whores on camsites always tell me whoaw big dick and bullshit i know they are lying for money one of them said waw how long is that 7 inch i lied like her i said yes it is, i spent at least 100 000 dollars on camsites believe it or not  and i showed my penis to more than 100 women for sure, i never show my face ,one day i had my erection sky rocked may be reached 4.75 inch so i had a bit of confidence and showed my face it is funny and sad at the same time

i told mom i wont marry and she already told me no girl or women will live with you, i never talked to girls only anonymously online , i only hack accounts ,play videogames , pray 5 times a day ,jog 30 mins do 120 push ups 70  of them consecutive,eat and sleep

yes i almost forgot to mention i look japanese but i'm not ,so it is normal asians have small dicks

 

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