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I was just curious how many guys out there are married and embarrassed to be naked in front of your wife? I have been married for many years and my wife sees me naked quite frequently but when I am flaccid I catch myself "covering up" or turning away to hide myself when she is around. I do it discretely so she doesn't notice but I do my best, when I'm at my smallest, not to be seen by her.

 

In my mind this sounds ridiculous because she has seen me naked many many times and she knows how big (or small) I am. I keep saying that she's seen me flaccid before so quit worrying about it but I can't see to keep from minimizing the view of the "total package" when she is around.

 

I was just curious if anyone else did the same thing.

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I do the exact same thing. The only time I don't do it is after sex, then I just get in the shower after her and don't cover up. To be fair she's the same, she doesn't like to be naked either so it's both of us doing it. I told her when we first met that because we're so insecure and struggled to love ourselves, if she loved my body I'd love hers. It's weird, but I love being naked, it's so relaxing when nobody is around. 

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I'm the exact same way. I really do love being naked but I'm not brave enough to do it in front of others. I went to a clothing optional spa in Mexico about a year ago and made a conscious decision to go nude in an effort to overcome my fears. I bet my blood pressure was through the roof the entire time and I was probably shaking like a leaf. Fortunately there were very few people there so the only people who really saw me naked up close was the hostess and the masseuses. I force myself to stay naked the entire time but I definitely wondered what those ladies thought when they saw me on my back on the massage table. They were very professional but you know they had to be thinking something.

I also went partially nude (just a long t-shirt) around my house for a week this year. The kids were all gone and it was just my wife and I so I decided to give it a shot. It was very nice but I still found myself hiding full nudity from my wife. I don't mind her seeing me hard but soft is what I typically try and keep hidden.

Interesting to hear others do this as well.

 

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Well the other side of the coin isn't really any better, comparatively speaking, for me so maybe that's why I hide it. I really don't have a good excuse but I can't seem to stop. I think it's become a habit because after writing this thread I've purposely tried to not hide but I still catch myself doing it.

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I'm very impressed that you went to a nudist resort.  That takes, ahem, balls.  I feel like I could maybe do it (I love the feeling of being naked, too), but the first sight of a big swinging Johnson would be at least a little disheartening.  I had to disrobe in front of a beautiful female doctor once, and I was not nervous, but if it was a male doctor, I feel like I would have been more nervous.  

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Does your erect penis and sexual technique keep her satisfied? I assume it does since you're still married. But doesn't that communicate itself as a lack of confidence? I thought having no confidence was like sexual herbicide, killing every fragrant love bud pleasant to women. Guys are supposed to "let it all hang out" and exude, well, cockiness... Perhaps my observations are flawed. This post was addressed to lone star.

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It wasn't actually a nudist resort, just a clothing optional spa in the jungle (2 hours of nudity). My wife and I were there for a sauna, milk bath, and massage and you had to walk from one place to the other. I was determined that I was going to go nude (I didn't have to). I wanted to prove to myself that I could do it. I have to admit that it was the most nervous and self conscious that I have ever been. I know my heart was racing and my blood pressure had to be off the charts.

I prepped for it by taking tons of L-Arginine and other sexual supplements hoping that i could at least keep the little guy from going into hiding. I also tried to think sexual thoughts to maintain a semi -erection but I had to be very careful doing that because I was afraid that i would end up with a full on boner.

I honestly don't like to be nude in front of doctors either but I think that I would rather have a male doctor than a female. The last check-up I had, my male doctor sent in a female student to perform the hernia check. That was horrible.

 

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7 minutes ago, Klingsor said:

@u.r.what.u.is

I'm surprised you admit this. I've always felt that way, but was told by many experts and superiors that it was latent homosexuality making me blush, that straight men aren't interested in another male's organs.

I can't really account for it, but it just feels sort of pathetic(?)  to be in the presence of a dick that's >50% bigger than mine.  But if I'm with a woman, and my dick's the only one there, I'm not worried. The exam by the female doctor happened at a time when I'd just found some confidence in this area for the first time in my life.  I had just divorced and was starting to date and have sex.  I was not having any apparent issue with my size.  My only issue was difficulty cumming due to many years of daily porn consumption.

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@u.r.what.u.is

It's all good, bro. I'm just indulging in some minor acerbic stress relief, thought I'd see what was shakin' in the penis forum these days. I'm the same way...with a woman (at least in most cases), the predominant reaction may be pity, but with a guy, he's either getting an ego boost or the material for a joke at the gym or football game later. Besides, according to all the experts (i.e. those men with avg to large dicks) women don't care about cock size. 

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Omg this post. Everything you guys said i'm here nodding like yep, been there. My wife hasn't seen my dick in 6 months. I've had very uncomfortabke experiences with male and female doctors, though thank god none ever mentioned my size.

 

Public nudity has been easier for me, at least when it's around men. As a bisexual man, i've come to appreciate the attention i get from men for being small, particularly when they are much larger. But i had some disheartening experiences visiting co-ed nude spas in my 20s. Women there were clearly checking out men's junk. Some guys got these long mesmerized stares. And i felt like i wasn't even there.

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@Lodz It's definitely one of the curses of the small package. Even though it's likely not true, I feel like I will be judged if anyone sees me (including my wife).

I've only done public nudity once (and it wasn't really that public although several ladies were there and very close) and I felt like my heart was going to explode due to the anxiety. As long as I can remain anonymous I don't mind someone seeing "my goods" because I like to see their response (good or bad) but the thought of someone seeing me who knows me, personally, bothers me.

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Yeah, anonymity is key for me too. In college, my friends had a naked day at their house and i lied and said i had plans. Later, i heard all about who had the insanely huge dick, and he ended up screwing about 5 girls in our social circle once his reputation got out. Yeah that was a rough summer for me.

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On 9/30/2017 at 5:33 PM, lostboy1 said:

I'm the exact same way. I really do love being naked but I'm not brave enough to do it in front of others. I went to a clothing optional spa in Mexico about a year ago and made a conscious decision to go nude in an effort to overcome my fears. I bet my blood pressure was through the roof the entire time and I was probably shaking like a leaf. Fortunately there were very few people there so the only people who really saw me naked up close was the hostess and the masseuses. I force myself to stay naked the entire time but I definitely wondered what those ladies thought when they saw me on my back on the massage table. They were very professional but you know they had to be thinking something.

I also went partially nude (just a long t-shirt) around my house for a week this year. The kids were all gone and it was just my wife and I so I decided to give it a shot. It was very nice but I still found myself hiding full nudity from my wife. I don't mind her seeing me hard but soft is what I typically try and keep hidden.

Interesting to hear others do this as well.

 

Why did you wear just a long t-shirt around your house? What did your wife think of that? Does she do things like that as well?

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15 hours ago, Lodz said:

Omg this post. Everything you guys said i'm here nodding like yep, been there. My wife hasn't seen my dick in 6 months. I've had very uncomfortabke experiences with male and female doctors, though thank god none ever mentioned my size.

 

Public nudity has been easier for me, at least when it's around men. As a bisexual man, i've come to appreciate the attention i get from men for being small, particularly when they are much larger. But i had some disheartening experiences visiting co-ed nude spas in my 20s. Women there were clearly checking out men's junk. Some guys got these long mesmerized stares. And i felt like i wasn't even there.

Where are these "co-ed nude spas"? Not something I've ever heard of before.

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10 minutes ago, Powerhouse8000 said:

Where are these "co-ed nude spas"? Not something I've ever heard of before.

This surprises me...based on your sage advice to other SPS folks, I thought a guy having an "above average penis in length and girth" is terrifying and disheartening to women. Not sure why you'd want to show yours off. I thought "Big Dick Problems" were the worst. I'm generally confused why you post here. But I can only imagine the grin it must put on your face to read these posts about penis pumps, ball stretchers, anxious husbands and glee over 0.1" size gains. 

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3 minutes ago, Klingsor said:

This surprises me...based on your sage advice to other SPS folks, I thought a guy having an "above average penis in length and girth" is terrifying and disheartening to women. Not sure why you'd want to show yours off. I thought "Big Dick Problems" were the worst. I'm generally confused why you post here. But I can only imagine the grin it must put on your face to read these posts about penis pumps, ball stretchers, anxious husbands and glee over 0.1" size gains. 

Is there any need for sarcasm?

I can post where I like.

Having a larger than average penis is shit. Not only will it not get you laid, it will also make sex difficult to impossible. I have never had an orgasm from sexual intercourse in my entire life because of how difficult I find it to actually even get my penis inside a woman, and all you can do is be a sarcastic prick about it?

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Practically every guy posting here has a non-existent sex life and would sell their soul to feel comfortable and confident in their own fucking skin. 

Analogy:

"Hey kids with Cerebral Palsy, I'm a dude with no behavioral, motor, cognitive, or other unspecified neurological disorders. I'm here to tell you that quality of life is what you make it. Being able to feed, clothe, and shit yourself without help is not all it's cracked up to be. So many responsibilities! You have to deal with bills, a job, ex wives, step kids, angry girlfriends...drama, drama, drama. You guys have it so good! People take care of you 24/7, just think about that! Man I envy you guys...hey, sorry guys, but that hot nurse I met on the way in is giving me "the look", I gotta rush...*eye roll*...see what I mean about responsibility, normality never cuts you a break. You guys are so lucky!"

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My wife was married to a well endowed man before so she has seen her share of that kind.  She was surprised the first time she saw mine.  And it is a decent size when it's hard but when soft, it just barely sticks out from my abdomen at all.  I really resent that and as a result, I don't go naked too much around her when I'm soft.  She also has a son who is well endowed so I really feel inferior with my package.  In addition to my short penis, I only have one testicle, too.  And my sack really stays tucked up close to my body.  It's not much to look at either.  

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2 hours ago, Powerhouse8000 said:

Why did you wear just a long t-shirt around your house? What did your wife think of that? Does she do things like that as well?

@Powerhouse8000 1) I really wanted to be nude since we had the house to ourselves for an entire week but I felt too "exposed" in front of my wife, flaccid, so I attempted to get the best of both worlds. I didn't wear any pants/shorts/undies so I was "exposed" from that sense but the long t-shirt covered up a full frontal look at me as I walked around the house. The shirt just barely hung below my penis so it was perfect.

2) My wife thought that I had lost my mind but I do weird things all the time so it wasn't too much of a surprise because I had already told her, half jokingly, that it was going to be "nude week" at our house.

3) I think women are different than men in that regard. It's nothing for my wife to wear a long t-shirt through the house with only panties or maybe nothing.

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45 minutes ago, onenut said:

My wife was married to a well endowed man before so she has seen her share of that kind.

Hi @onenut This is similar to me as well. My wife was engaged to a guy before me and they were together for a long time and he is hung like a mule. I can't help but to think that my wife has made comparisons. She told me that he was "too big" but that didn't really make me feel any better.

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