LaLa Posted October 25, 2017 Report Share Posted October 25, 2017 https://www.thecut.com/2017/09/why-wont-my-therapist-just-tell-me-what-to-do.html an excerpt Quote But what might you do with this nugget, this actual therapist-given, expert-approved, and longed-for gift of concrete advice? Despite getting exactly what you asked for, you might not do it. You might procrastinate, coming up with all sorts of reasons why you haven’t gotten around to it yet. And then you’ll feel bad for not doing it. And you’ll start to think, I feel bad because my therapist made me feel bad by trying to tell me what to do. How dare she! I’m not doing this, dammit, just because she told me so. Who is she to boss me around? And you’ll sit on her couch every Friday at five, not telling her that you didn’t do the thing she suggested, because you resent her for intruding on your voice, for making you feel like your own opinion doesn’t matter; and on top of that you’ll be consumed by the shame you feel for displeasing her by not doing the thing she wants — which is what this whole interaction will have gotten twisted into in your mind, even though the ostensible point of her giving the advice was to please you, not her. In the end, nobody’s happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted October 25, 2017 Report Share Posted October 25, 2017 The therapist answered it reasonably well. It's a "teach a man to fish" story. A good therapist will listen in such a way that the patient finds their own answer. R▴SH▴▴N 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted October 26, 2017 Author Report Share Posted October 26, 2017 I'm glad you like it, too, Vic . Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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