True feelings about my tiny dick

[LittleMan4]

I have never been honest about my feelings about having a tiny dick. Since I was probably 11 or 12  I remember looking at my tiny dick and thinking that it would never grow bigger and would be tiny forever. I was right.

I'm only 3.2 inches fully erect. 

I feel so frustrated that I'm always going to be fucking tiny for my entire life. And on top of that literally every girl and guy i've tried to have sex with has told me that I'm fucking tiny and then they all just left me. i don't know how to deal with being this fucking tiny compared to every other guy. I don't know how to deal with being one of the tiniest guys probably ever ...3.2

I just fucking hate my pathetic little dick and i'm humiliated by how tiny my dick is. and i don't feel like a man at all  is anyone else my size? advice? how do you deal with it?

I've never been honest about these feelings before and  its hard to admit all of this. 

[LostBoy]

Hello @LittleMan4,

I'm not sure how you're measuring (boned pressed or non bone pressed) but I am around 3.5" bone pressed (actually a little less) and about 2.7" non bone pressed. I'm also only about 3.6" in girth at mid shaft.

it sounds like we may be close to the same size in length anyway. I would recommend reading some of my threads because I divulge a lot about my life and my personal struggles. I'm older than you and have been dealing with this for a long time.

The good news is there are women out there who don't care but these women are typically not "one night stands". You will never be a porn star nor will you ever be known as the "stud" in town but I can attest to the fact that if you're wanting a relationship built on love then there are women out there who do not care about your size as long as you're good to them outside the bedroom and put in the extra effort (tongue, fingers, toys, etc...) inside the bedroom to ensure they are satisfied.

Believe me, I get it. It sucks to be small but learn from my mistakes and just try and deal with it. Letting it consume you gets you nowhere. (trust me) so your best option is to find other things in which to focus.

If you want a relationship then put a priority on building love before you bring sex into the picture. You need to win her over before showing the skeletons on the closet (actually in the pants).

if all you are wanting is sex then I recommend masturbating instead because at your size there are very few women who will consider you a sex toy. I'm not saying there aren't any women but the ones wanting just sex typically either prefer a model, someone who is average or above in size, or both.

I know I haven't solved your problem but hopefully you now realize that you're not the smallest guy out there.

[GoingInsane]

I'm recovering from Erectile Dysfunction, Just measured last week with help of Viagra, bone press (70% erect) 9cm, non-press 5cm. I m still obese.

[GoingInsane]

I am following one of the local here, he is small (micro) and he's transgender lesbian, that's what he called himself. He transform himself into female about 15 years ago, at 1st we all thought he was gay but few years later we saw him dating lesbian and that puzzled me. Couple of years ago I met him on a project and got to know him better. He told me he is actually straight but because of his androgynous looks, he was bullied and laugh at for having micro penis. He also went in depression and one day he got the idea to cross dress and started dating lesbian. And ever since I hear that, I have been wanting to do the same. that's why I m on strict diet to slim down. I have been bullied too and sexually abused by pedophile when I was young. I was also depression (still am in someways) 

[Helpless_loner]

I hate every second of it.....

 

I feel like I was deprived of one the most basic, yet satisfying, experiences a person can have. I know I'm small within the "average" (5.5 length bone pressed and a rather pathetic 4.2 girth at its "best") but the truth is that I still feel inferior to even the average amateurs you see out there..

 

It has shattered my confidence and even my will to live which has caused me to just not care about anything anymore.

[Sea182018]

Reading some of these posts I just don’t get it,  I mean I know that we were all created different and that no one should be the same but to have issues like some have posted above that affect your whole life are very sad to read.  It almost seems like a punishment.  I have always subscribed to the everything happens for a reason thing but to make someone live a life where they are never confident in them selves and give them a huge uphill battle just seems harsh.  Maybe in a past life we were on the other side of the spectrum and we have to see what it’s like now?  Who knows.  My thoughts are with everyone.  

[YOTH]

@Sea182018 I don't think it's a punishment perse, as most people in this world seem to find their own version of a small cock and nail themselves to the metaphorical cross regardless. But it's definitely worth looking at what we can gain from it. From a physical point of view that doesn't really mean shit, but from a spiritual level it could be seen as a chance to disconnect from casual encounters entirely. I can't say what type of person I'd be if I was sporting a big cock, but there's a good chance I'd be flitting around aimlessly looking for the very thing I have right now. Who knows? It's all open to interpretation I guess. 

[LostBoy]

I would like to believe that my cock size does not define me as a person but I'm not entirely sure that is true. I know being small has made me much more self conscious and I even think that's it's likely driven me towards introversion.

Would I have been the life of the party with a big dick? Maybe.

@Sea182018 it's interesting that you relate it to punishment. For the longest time I felt like God was punishing me. When I was younger I figured it was punishment for excessive masturbation (true story) and as I got a little older I assumed it was punishment for a high sex drive, pornography, and cheating on girlfriends. I am a believer in God so I feel confident that he gave me a small penis for a reason. I may never truly understand the reasoning. 

[Sea182018]

For the record I don’t think god punishes anyone I should have used the word challenged instead like maybe we were challenged with this for some reason we never will know 

[1997Henry]

2 hours ago, lostboy1 said:

I would like to believe that my cock size does not define me as a person but I'm not entirely sure that is true. I know being small has made me much more self conscious and I even think that's it's likely driven me towards introversion.

Would I have been the life of the party with a big dick? Maybe.

@Sea182018 it's interesting that you relate it to punishment. For the longest time I felt like God was punishing me. When I was younger I figured it was punishment for excessive masturbation (true story) and as I got a little older I assumed it was punishment for a high sex drive, pornography, and cheating on girlfriends. I am a believer in God so I feel confident that he gave me a small penis for a reason. I may never truly understand the reasoning. 

To answer your "punishment reasoning ", I don't think it's a punishment . When I was an adolescent, I tried to  play my father's dick while he was asleep. It turned out his dick just a little bigger than mine (4 inches erect maybe ). If it's kinda punishment, then it is a punishment for  the whole lineage(According to Darwin's theory, the small penis could be inherited).

I am an atheist, therefore I don't believe in god. However, if there is god, I remember one thing he says "Everything is love". Then maybe small penis is a gift for us.

[LostBoy]

4 hours ago, 1997Henry said:

If it's kinda punishment, then it is a punishment for  the whole lineage(According to Darwin's theory, the small penis could be inherited).

This is an interesting concept and it's been discussed here before. From previous posts on the topic it doesn't appear that there is any real connection with inherited size. At least it is not clear that there is a connection.

6 hours ago, Sea182018 said:

don’t think god punishes anyone

Punishes may be a strong work but I believe His hand is in everything we do so while it may not be punishment I truly believe it was done for a reason.

[Joboo]

I remember being at a sporting event at an old stadium that had a trough for men, no dividers. I would alway wait to get on the end next to the wall to guard being seen. I was against the wall and had been drinking beer so I was a little looser and probably hanging at my best, about 2.5 to 3 inches. A kid wormed in next to me and I saw him looking at mine, when I looked down he was holding five or so thick inches, he couldn't have been 13. He kept looking at mine and back up at me. It began to excite me and by the time I left the bathroom I was half hard. He spoke to me outside and it scared the shit out of me. He was asking if I was there with anyone, and I was getting harder as he kept prodding me. Very strange feeling indeed. Had the situation been different and not in a stadium would I have responded to his advances? It was all I could thing about the rest of the game with my jacket in my lap trying to hide my erection that lasted near an hour.

what does this mean? Do I want to submit to someone with a larger penis? The older I get the more I think about that, you know, doing what they tell me to do.

[1997Henry]

On Wednesday, May 02, 2018 at 8:44 PM, Joboo said:

I remember being at a sporting event at an old stadium that had a trough for men, no dividers. I would alway wait to get on the end next to the wall to guard being seen. I was against the wall and had been drinking beer so I was a little looser and probably hanging at my best, about 2.5 to 3 inches. A kid wormed in next to me and I saw him looking at mine, when I looked down he was holding five or so thick inches, he couldn't have been 13. He kept looking at mine and back up at me. It began to excite me and by the time I left the bathroom I was half hard. He spoke to me outside and it scared the shit out of me. He was asking if I was there with anyone, and I was getting harder as he kept prodding me. Very strange feeling indeed. Had the situation been different and not in a stadium would I have responded to his advances? It was all I could thing about the rest of the game with my jacket in my lap trying to hide my erection that lasted near an hour.

what does this mean? Do I want to submit to someone with a larger penis? The older I get the more I think about that, you know, doing what they tell me to do.

I don't get your story. Well, what did exactly that kid do to you? 

And I am very curious of the question you ask too. I think bigger-penis persons pocess more confidence as they should be with what they have. And confidence usually makes people convincing in many situation. Like the poor sometimes believe any millionaire no matter what they say. And ugly people might be wusses before the beautiful. To be honest, I have this problem too.Feel like shit before those big guy. But I tell you what, don't be, because penis is not the only thing we live on, there are many a things we can be proud of.

[Joboo]

Well, he really didn't do anything but intimidate me, although unintentionally. It's just an experience I had in my 20's that was due to my lack of self esteem because of my small dick. Then it turned into something that would have been against the law. He could have been older than he looked but 16 or so at the most. The other point was he had me wanting to cooperate with what I thought he was doing so I could at least see it again. The only gay sex I've ever performed was due to the guys large penis, I was 18. At the game had I been alone I would have followed him if he suggested we find a private spot. It was just odd that that light went back on so fast, not that I saw his dick but that he seemed to know I was attracted to it, once he kept looking at mine and how he followed me out and was obviously trying to get to know me better really excited me. I found it powerful that he could have had me ready to go just like that. 

Hope that clears it up but it probably doesn't, it wasn't him that did anything it was his big penis.

[Joboo]

On February 15, 2018 at 7:18 PM, Helpless_loner said:

I hate every second of it.....

 

I feel like I was deprived of one the most basic, yet satisfying, experiences a person can have. I know I'm small within the "average" (5.5 length bone pressed and a rather pathetic 4.2 girth at its "best") but the truth is that I still feel inferior to even the average amateurs you see out there..

 

It has shattered my confidence and even my will to live which has caused me to just not care about anything anymore.

I also felt deprived being 6'4" and good looking and had a 5.5 x 5.2 penis. After years I think maybe it was a blessing. I had sex with 70-80 different women by 23. If I would have had a big penis my life would have probably been way different. I probably wouldn't have married, I would have just been a slut, which I was but a more confident slut. It's really not the most important thing and hey, you don't have a micro penis. Just an average dick. 

[Wayless]

On ‎5‎/‎2‎/‎2018 at 8:44 AM, Joboo said:

what does this mean? Do I want to submit to someone with a larger penis? The older I get the more I think about that, you know, doing what they tell me to do.

I just told my story about that in this forum.  I think your feeling is normal.  I decided to go through with it as an experiment.  I was shocked about how much I enjoyed submitting to a more virile aggressive guy with a much larger penis.   I decided not to make a lifestyle of it though.  I did learn about myself being damaged from the long term effects of dealing with "being small".  No need to be ashamed of the feeling.  I think it is inevitable for us small guys.  How you deal with the feeling though should be a rational decision.

[Wayless]

On 2/15/2018 at 8:18 PM, Helpless_loner said:

I hate every second of it.....

I feel like I was deprived of one the most basic, yet satisfying, experiences a person can have. I know I'm small within the "average" (5.5 length bone pressed and a rather pathetic 4.2 girth at its "best") but the truth is that I still feel inferior to even the average amateurs you see out there..

It has shattered my confidence and even my will to live which has caused me to just not care about anything anymore.

My theory is to look at small penis size as a relative handicap.  At 5.5 you are roughly at a competitive disadvantage to 40% of guys.  At 4.5 I'm at a much more severe competitive advantage.  Smaller guys than me begin to have really severe handicaps.  Do you inherently "deserve" to be at a competitive advantage to 90% of guys?  It is just random variability.  Compare it to handicaps in a Golf League.

[Joboo]

On May 13, 2018 at 4:16 AM, lloydbaker said:

My theory is to look at small penis size as a relative handicap.  At 5.5 you are roughly at a competitive disadvantage to 40% of guys.  At 4.5 I'm at a much more severe competitive advantage.  Smaller guys than me begin to have really severe handicaps.  Do you inherently "deserve" to be at a competitive advantage to 90% of guys?  It is just random variability.  Compare it to handicaps in a Golf League.

The total volume of a larger penis is a more realistic measurement. I found a site some time back that you could enter your size compared to another. The guy I shared her with was almost 8.5 and 6.75 around compared to my measurements he was seven times larger.

[Wayless]

Yeah, total volume is probably a better measure.  Handicap principle still applies, however.

[Helpless_loner]

On 5/4/2018 at 8:34 AM, Joboo said:

I also felt deprived being 6'4" and good looking and had a 5.5 x 5.2 penis. After years I think maybe it was a blessing. I had sex with 70-80 different women by 23. If I would have had a big penis my life would have probably been way different. I probably wouldn't have married, I would have just been a slut, which I was but a more confident slut. It's really not the most important thing and hey, you don't have a micro penis. Just an average dick. 

I wish I had that mindset.....

 

I hate my penis and I hate myself for allowing that hatred to ruin other areas of my life.

[therebetruth]

Yeah penis obssession is a scary thing, unlike every other part of your body there isn't really anything you can do to fix it so you're stuck there not being able to do anything, I'm not sure about your issue and if your size is caused by your weight because if so you may have a normal dick but it's just hidden by fat (apologies if you've mentioned it in your replies I'm tired and only read the main post) then losing weight will fix your problem, it's even possible to gain a bit more than your bone pressed size when you factor in curve and improved EQ but that's only with a substantial fat pad

If you're not obese and have a small bone pressed then I have nothing I can really say to comfort you honestly, all you can do at that point is make peace with who you are and your body and try not to see yourself as just a penis with legs but I know all too well how hard that can be but it's all you can do honestly

Also, in case you think it, if you want to become a woman or whatever make sure you actually want to do that and don't feel it's something you have to do as opposed to something you want to do, there are other ways to deal with the issue than changing who you are

[LittleMan4]

On 6/3/2018 at 12:07 PM, Joboo said:

The total volume of a larger penis is a more realistic measurement. I found a site some time back that you could enter your size compared to another. The guy I shared her with was almost 8.5 and 6.75 around compared to my measurements he was seven times larger.

Its totally true man it feels like a handicap I got called a micro dick the other day but i'm used to this from everyone at this point. I Get rejected daily.