tmays Posted September 16, 2010 Report Share Posted September 16, 2010 I totally agree and it's hard not to compliment you because you are so kind and helpful. I really appreciate all your counsel:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted October 22, 2010 Report Share Posted October 22, 2010 I totally agree and it's hard not to compliment you because you are so kind and helpful. I really appreciate all your counsel:)You are far too kind... But I love it:p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted November 8, 2010 Report Share Posted November 8, 2010 Are these boards less active now? All of my reply notifications are from you today? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted January 24, 2011 Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 Good question? Maybe we need to ask alan? I sure hope they are not as they are one of my absolute favorite sites on the internet. This is about the third reply I got from you lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted February 23, 2011 Report Share Posted February 23, 2011 Maybe it was just the holiday/slash new year lull as they seem to be back to normal now:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 I hope so Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted March 24, 2011 Report Share Posted March 24, 2011 Me too. Seems like it is picking up slowly:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted March 25, 2011 Report Share Posted March 25, 2011 We are here and people are responding. I wonder if, in this forum or this thread, its been a while since a problem or issue has been brought up? I don't know, just asking??Allan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted April 16, 2011 Report Share Posted April 16, 2011 Hi Allan and good to hear from you:DI just posted about you being the one who makes topic's sticky notes. Someone pointed out that amazon.com charges exorbitant prices for the CBT book by Obitz and Craske that I always recommend and we wanted to make that thread a sticky to warn people. Amazon is charging more than five times the actual cost of the book for USED copies. I don't want people getting ripped off and mad at me or others so maybe I'll start a new warning thread about it and if you think it merits a sticky please make it one. Thanks and I hope all is well in your life:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted May 18, 2011 Report Share Posted May 18, 2011 Hi Alan,I posted on that thread Cynthia mentioned also about amazon ripping people off when buying the Obitz/Craske CBT book. I think it is an awesome book but not worth the exhorbitant prices Amazon charges though I notice they have come down a bit recently since someone commented on the amazon website about it being over priced there.Also you may be right about these threads getting diluted with checking in notes and time for some new ones. Hope this finds you well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted May 19, 2011 Report Share Posted May 19, 2011 Hi Tmays and Cynthia,I know, Amazon, which was know for selling at lower prices, has now become very expensive, outrageously so. There are diverse prices on those types of sites. You might take a look and Barnes and Noble: http://www.bn.com and see if they are any better? Anyone have ideas about this? Discout book websites?Allan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted June 21, 2011 Report Share Posted June 21, 2011 Thanks Allan and I am glad you also noticed that Amazon is all over the place now. I will check out www.bn.com from now on. I do not know any other discount sites but will post if I come across any. Also for the Obitz/Craske CBT book you can buy new copies for a reasonable price on the books website www.tao3.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted August 12, 2011 Report Share Posted August 12, 2011 Great suggestions Allan and Tmays. Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted September 25, 2011 Report Share Posted September 25, 2011 You're welcome Cynthia. I hope you and Allan and everyone else are doing great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 Everything is going swimmingly for me thanks for asking:p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted January 21, 2012 Report Share Posted January 21, 2012 Good to hear Cynthia... How were the holidays for you? AttemMamwathe, DrolalFereole, OpiliaOutfips and 10 others 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frazzled1 Posted January 30, 2012 Report Share Posted January 30, 2012 I think that coping is more a matter of desire than skill. Yes, you have to have strategies and you will learn new ones along your way. But if you don't really have the desire to get past whatever you are experiencing than no strategy is going to work. Instead of asking why you can't get through something, you should be asking why you won't. I think it's really the why that's important not the how. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lana73 Posted January 30, 2012 Report Share Posted January 30, 2012 I completely agree with Frazzled! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted February 10, 2012 Report Share Posted February 10, 2012 That's a really good point frazzled. I think coping skills are essential but without desire and determination you are not likely to succeed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
person1456 Posted February 10, 2012 Report Share Posted February 10, 2012 How do you balance coping mechanisms with life?For example, when I'm stressed, my usual coping mechanism is to spend time by myself. During this time I'll research things I'm interested in or maybe go window shopping.Yet, during this time, I find things like going to class and studying difficult. I simply can't focus and when I can focus it's usually like only one to two hours before I start to feel tired and can't.I also become more anxious around people when I'm stressed... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted February 13, 2012 Report Share Posted February 13, 2012 For me it is a habit now. I simply walk out of the situation and counter my thoughts in a TEA form and then once I get a handle on things (usually after about five minutes) I am able to get on with things. It took practice initially but not as long as you'd think (a few months). So thankful that I invested the time in myself:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted April 6, 2012 Report Share Posted April 6, 2012 I think that coping is more a matter of desire than skill. Yes, you have to have strategies and you will learn new ones along your way. But if you don't really have the desire to get past whatever you are experiencing than no strategy is going to work. Instead of asking why you can't get through something, you should be asking why you won't. I think it's really the why that's important not the how.Post of the year so far Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmays Posted April 6, 2012 Report Share Posted April 6, 2012 For me it is a habit now. I simply walk out of the situation and counter my thoughts in a TEA form and then once I get a handle on things (usually after about five minutes) I am able to get on with things. It took practice initially but not as long as you'd think (a few months). So thankful that I invested the time in myself:)I would echo Cynthia's sentiments and sometimes I don't even have to walk out as it is becoming my natural response. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frazzled1 Posted April 6, 2012 Report Share Posted April 6, 2012 It is not easy to cater to one's own desires, that's what the rest of us are here for I myself (contrary to how it may seem sometimes), do experience difficulties in coping but I make every effort to make my distress as short lived as possible. Sometimes this requires me to look at myself as someone else as I am better at solving other's problems than my own. However, when (not if) I get myself in the right frame of mind (required for all endeavors), I can treat myself like a (generic) person in need. A person who is separate from the emotional restrictions of the situation.It works for me:p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynthia Posted May 14, 2012 Report Share Posted May 14, 2012 Frazzled, I love your post and it brought back memories. Before I got a handle on dealing with my anxiety I was always amazing at helping others deal with things but horrible when it came to helping myself or heeding my own advice. I almost forgot how I used to be until I read your missive. thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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