jazz Posted November 26, 2016 Report Share Posted November 26, 2016 LaLa, how funny is that I am quite amused by his argument (from the Gnostics) that to create something is to unavoidably screw it up, so you may as well have a go Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted December 1, 2016 Report Share Posted December 1, 2016 Once again something In the contexte of the US elections: http://qz.com/846940/a-yale-history-professors-20-point-guide-to-defending-democracy-under-a-trump-presidency/ https://soundcloud.com/ intelligence2/the-rise-of- populism-and-the-backlash- against-the-elites Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted December 11, 2016 Report Share Posted December 11, 2016 https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/news/mental-health-foundation-launches-im-fine-campaign Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted January 31, 2017 Report Share Posted January 31, 2017 I haven't read it yet, just some bits, but perhaps someone will appreciate it: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/11/childhood-memory-amensia/508886/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted June 19, 2017 Report Share Posted June 19, 2017 An autobiographical book about depression and suicidality and an interview about it: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/thesundayedition/june-18-2017-the-sunday-edition-with-michael-enright-1.4161776/daphne-merkin-on-staying-alive-despite-her-near-constant-wish-to-die-1.4161821 Quote Merkin's new book is an inside look at what it is like to live with clinical depression, never knowing if it will ever go away. It is also an account of her difficult relationship with her Orthodox Jewish mother, and a deeply personal examination of the nature vs. nurture debate. Daphne Merkin is an essayist, critic and novelist based in New York City. Her new book is called This Close to Happy: A Reckoning with Depression. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted July 2, 2017 Report Share Posted July 2, 2017 Two potentially helpful websites: https://howtobeastoic.wordpress.com/category/stoic-advice/ http://viewonbuddhism.org/delusion_introduction.html Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted July 6, 2017 Report Share Posted July 6, 2017 about intrusive thoughts and OCD: http://moodsmith.com/intrusive-thoughts/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted August 21, 2017 Report Share Posted August 21, 2017 If someone is interested: Free eBook: Humanism: A Short Course eBook. https://humanism.org.uk/humanism-short-course-ebook/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted August 30, 2017 Report Share Posted August 30, 2017 Misconceptions about friendships: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/casual-close/201708/adult-friendships-the-lies-we-tell-ourselves Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted August 30, 2017 Report Share Posted August 30, 2017 I have found in my life that friends can be very situational. To put in bluntly they are there for the good times but not so much the bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted August 30, 2017 Report Share Posted August 30, 2017 1 hour ago, Victimorthecrime said: I have found in my life that friends can be very situational. To put in bluntly they are there for the good times but not so much the bad. Nicely put. My first reaction was laughter, although it's so sad . I really don't think it's generally true about friends, but... I cannot close my eyes before the fact that many people apparently behave like that. I suppose in many cases, it's because they don't know what to do; probably nobody had been there for them when they needed it, so they don't know how to be there for someone else. We sometimes fear we'll do more harm so we do nothing (like when people withdraw from someone bereaved) ... BTW, it reminded me of this part of the documentary I posted here yesterday: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/outintheopen/man-up-1.4205118/stoic-warrior-mentality-is-ill-suited-to-military-service-says-corporal-1.4205773 Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted December 2, 2017 Report Share Posted December 2, 2017 The Road Less Travelled by M.Scott Peck: http://www.whale.to/c/Peck,M.Scott,The road less traveled-1.pdf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted December 2, 2017 Report Share Posted December 2, 2017 A classic for sure in the new age / self help genre. Read it back in the 80s when I was in hot pursuit of higher consciousness. Check "Handbook to higher consciousness" by Ken Keyes. Very short but right to the point and excellent. LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted December 11, 2017 Report Share Posted December 11, 2017 Thanks, Vic, for the comment. I haven't read it, but one friend was 'over the moon' when reading it and recommended it very much. I've read some readers' comments and an excerpt plus the contents and I think I get it - it may be apparently very helpful to many people. But I seem impossible to be improved by any book, so... not sure I'll read more. ___________________ Some quotes some of you might also like: https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/42375710-a-little-life Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted January 27, 2018 Report Share Posted January 27, 2018 Beautiful about friendship: http://www.thebookoflife.org/what-would-an-ideal-friend-be-like/ Insightful for most of us: http://www.thebookoflife.org/criticism-when-youve-had-a-bad-childhood/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted February 9, 2018 Report Share Posted February 9, 2018 http://www.thebookoflife.org/twenty-key-concepts-from-psychotherapy/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted March 12, 2018 Report Share Posted March 12, 2018 http://www.sciencemag.org/news/2018/03/does-autism-arise-because-brain-continually-surprised Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted April 13, 2018 Report Share Posted April 13, 2018 Probably mainly for students: Fostering resilience among students: a little stress goes a long way (There is good evidence that exposure to some forms of stress leads to an individual sense of mastery and adaptability in the face of adversity.) https://www.universityaffairs.ca/opinion/in-my-opinion/fostering-resilience-among-students-little-stress-goes-long-way/ This might be a (funny) song to complement it : Or, "form a different point of view", this - but to fully appreciate the parody, you need to watch the original video (which already looks like an awkward parody but is meant seriously): Another article from the same magazine, written by a student: Dealing with mental health: a guide for professors: https://www.universityaffairs.ca/opinion/student-voices/dealing-with-mental-health-aguide-for-professors/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted April 13, 2018 Report Share Posted April 13, 2018 5 hours ago, LaLa said: (There is good evidence that exposure to some forms of stress leads to an individual sense of mastery and adaptability in the face of adversity.) I totally agree w that. Over the years I have know several guys that were from "good families" and they were so insulated them from any form of genuine trouble, difficulty or adversity that when it came time to live their own life they shut down. These guys felt that problems were a sign that something was horribly wrong; they had neither context nor coping skills to mount a response. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted June 12, 2018 Report Share Posted June 12, 2018 https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/talking-about-men/201806/it-s-time-stop-blaming-men-their-mental-health-woes https://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/how-to-really-help-someone-struggling-with-thoughts-of-suicide/ Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted June 12, 2018 Report Share Posted June 12, 2018 Yes regarding article about men its true we are often told to open up but WHO you open up to really matters. Some people will make you regret even bothering. Some people just don't have the maturity needed to handle the fact that life has problems. They're the ones that like to blame the victim so you certainly don't want to share your problems w them. LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted June 12, 2018 Report Share Posted June 12, 2018 I had a weird reaction while reading your post, Vic: Sadness about what you describe, but also some regret related to "(me) not really having close (IRL) friends": "Yes, and then there are people who'd like (some) men to open up to them but no one does." *sigh* But I don't want to make this about me, this was just a marginal comment. Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted June 13, 2018 Report Share Posted June 13, 2018 Yes I wish I had more close friends too. One thing at a time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted June 13, 2018 Report Share Posted June 13, 2018 By chance, I've just seen also this, complementing your comment; It's also too often hard to share good news and get an appropriate reaction! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted June 13, 2018 Report Share Posted June 13, 2018 I think everyone, regardless of gender, copes in their own personal way. Some may find healing from drawing inward or even pulling away. It may not be ideal in a perfect world to respond this way, but it's human. I have learned that I can't make another person share or reach out; it has to be their choice and they have to feel safe enough in order to do so. My hope would be that we don't push men (or anyone) to express themselves openly, but rather help create an environment where others know we are there for them if they want to share. I also agree that it's important to save sharing with another who is open, supportive, willing to listen, and who will respect and care for our vulnerability. Close friendships are invaluable, but I have also found them to be rare. I hope all of us find our way to what we need and want. Victimorthecrime and LaLa 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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