I have a small penis

[IrmaJean]

With that in mind, i both (you and irmajean) ask you this question: how would anything short of giving up hope to have a real relationship could ever help? You ask me about it, but I don't have an answer. Do you?

I'm not certain how giving up is helpful... It may keep you from further hurt, but it also prevents you from having any chance at joy. I don't have easy answers, but one choice is to continue to try.

dating is basically a crap shoot for us.

Isn't that true, at least to some extent, for any of us? Life is risk...

[lifeless existence]

Isn't that true, at least to some extent, for any of us? Life is risk...

Yes, that's true but you fail to appreciate how much more of a crap shoot it is for us......how much worse the odds are. Craps is played with two dice. For us, it's like walking up to the craps table and only being handed one. Do you think a horse with two broken legs has a chance of winning the Kentucky Derby?

[jk1964]

I know what your and other member's real problem is. It's called NEGATIVITY. Women aren't very fond of men with a negative personality all of the time.

Well that negativity is caused by constant rejection by females just because we have a small penis

How should we react when we are told by females that no female will ever have sex with us over something that we have no control over ?

You do understand that a lot of women prefer a warm and wet tongue over a penis or fingers.

On a side note, do any of you negative guys know the real place to touch on a woman to get her excited?

No female has ever allowed me to touch her after she found out I had a small penis

[IrmaJean]

I'm a female. I would never say anything like that to a man. I understand and respect that people all have their own preferences in choosing a partner. My personal feelings about this are very different.

Love and care is about sharing. What we share with another is a gift. I've been thinking a lot lately about vulnerability. This part of you is very private, and when you choose to share this with another person, you are opening yourself up to that person. This sharing is something I would always want to respect and cherish. Caring is also about recognizing another person for who they are. Differences make us all unique and beautiful. Come to see, recognize, and know your partner. Pieces of the puzzle. We are all different. We have different traits; strengths, vulnerabilities...None of us fit into a mold. The diversity, the differences are what makes us uniquely human...and that is something we all share. To me, it's a beautiful thing. I realize that everyone might not agree or even understand my views and feelings around this, but there are some who likely share my feelings.

Try to respect yourselves and understand that not everyone is the same. You deserve happiness and love and acceptance, as all of us do.

[AmericanPsycho]

No female has ever allowed me to touch her after she found out I had a small penis

The part of a woman's I'm talking about can't be touched physically. I'm talking about a woman's Heart which can be touched emotionally. Unlike guys, women don't have sex on their minds constantly.

[Recluse]

Americanpsycho, you have stated that you are still a virgin and that you are of average size. With no real life sexual experience, how can you comment about this situation with authority?

For people like myself who are small, the probability of finding a woman to accept one of us is unlikely. As I have stated a while back, I can handle being rejected for any reason but this one. This is what makes me a man and it is something I have no control over.

Luckily for me, I have no problem fucking escorts or prostitutes. I actually rather enjoy it. I am also lucky enough not to be influenced by foolish religions or social norms.

[lifeless existence]

Just thought I'd say that people here should lay off feelingbetter. I don't agree with everything he says but he's trying to help so give him a break. Because whether you agree with him or not. He's made a decent life for himself and he's seems to be a lot happier then many of the posters here.

He didn't "make" a decent life for himself. He hit the lottery. He found a very inexperienced Indonesian girl when he was 20. If only we all could have been so lucky.

[AmericanPsycho]

That's a sweeping generalization. Some women do have sex on their minds constantly and have a higher sex drive then some men. Women don't run out of juice like us men and not every woman is interested in connecting emotionally. If they were then they'd be no one night stands. Some women just want a fuck and often in that situation penis size may matter. There's no getting away from that and there's no point sugarcoating it. That doesn't mean that a man with a small penis should resign himself to being a recluse like some of the men here claim to be.

I agree, when they're selling it that is;)

[flander]

That's a sweeping generalization. Some women do have sex on their minds constantly and have a higher sex drive then some men. Women don't run out of juice like us men and not every woman is interested in connecting emotionally. If they were then they'd be no one night stands. Some women just want a fuck and often in that situation penis size may matter. There's no getting away from that and there's no point sugarcoating it. That doesn't mean that a man with a small penis should resign himself to being a recluse like some of the men here claim to be.

In some way, I guess many would like to think that it's a modern thing that's the result of the "sexual revolution". But then you run across a Bible quote that makes you realize there's nothing new under the Sun.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ezekiel+23%3A19-20&version=NIV

[Klingsor]

On 12/2/2011 at 6:21 PM, 2112_2112 said:

I've read an article about small penis syndrome by a certain doctor "schwarz" on the internet, I believe he's an admin/user of this forum. It would be really interesting to hear what he has to say about the matter.

@Victimorthecrime

@IrmaJean

@LaLa

I distinctly remember Victim replied to one of my posts a few years ago and provided a characteristically concise summary of how the SPS sub-forum came to be here. I am unable to find the post now, but can anyone can tell me exactly what motivated Allan Schwartz to create it? My understanding is that the community board had already been established, and this sub-forum was a later addition. I'm curious because 2/3 to 3/4 of the online users at any given time are browsing the SPS threads. That's how I found this place. So in the beginning, were there so many threads being created under the "Sexuality" category that it necessitated the creation of a new category? Or was it prompted by Schwartz's work as a psychologist? 

Apologies if this has already been covered; again, I am unable to locate Victim's old post. 

[Victimorthecrime]

I think he was already gone before I got here which is a shame because he was legit and pretty sharp judging from old posts.  
 

Back then the forum was lively about a variety of topics.  SPS was one of many.  
 

Not sure why but I think this type of chat room communication is not very popular because people love the bells & whistles that you get w Reddit or Twitter or whatever.  I don’t like the format of either of those.  
 

I remember when I first got on-line in 2001 chat rooms and bulletin boards were all the rage on Yahoo, MSN, etc.  I like the simplicity and privacy of it but not others do not I guess. 

[IrmaJean]

I found this that maybe explains a bit about how this forum started. 

 

[IrmaJean]

I should probably also note that this post was written by Dr. Domback when the forum had different ownership and a different name. The forum community existed as part of a different site that also featured articles. When that site sought to remove the community, some of the members got together and moved it here to mental support community.net. Dr. Schwartz and Dr. Domback didn't come with us to the new forum. I hope I am remembering everything accurately.