5'5" with a 4.25" erect penis

[toulouse_lautrec]

As time goes on I don't see any reason to really live on. I don't want to live as a 5'5" man. I don't want to live as a man with a 4.25" erect penis. 98% of men have a larger one. Most girls I sleep with will have had larger than I have, by an inch, two, or three inches. So what's the point? It's embarrassing. My last so called GF had like ten guys and I has the second smallest she's ever had. It sucks. Also I am tired of being short and seeing couples where the guy is 4 to 6 inches taller than the female. I see it everywhere. The girl is my height but the guy she's with is 4 to 6 inches taller, if not more. I am just sick of it all. Plus I am not attractive. I am ugly and I still have acne in my 30's, acne scars, and I'm still overweight after juice fasting for like 40 days. 5'5" and 180 lbs. I only lost 15 lbs. I hate my genetics. These things are enough to make me not want to live anymore. I don't know what else to say. My mom said don't let other people get you down, don't compare yourself to others, and all this other worthless advice. It is not other people getting me down. It is me. I honestly hate being my height and honestly hate my penis size. I wish she never had me. She should have been smart enough not to have me. She's 4'11" and my dad was like 5'7". She should have realized what could possibly happen. But I guess she had a terrible life too and the only way her life would be worth living would be to have a kid to take care of. Well thanks mom. Now I'm 35, single, and living a miserable life. I can't help but blame her and attack her verbally every time I talk to her.

I have nothing nice to say anymore to anybody. I even hate and cut off my niece because she met and had kids with some really stupid jock type guy who she thinks is "so hot" yet he's one of the dumbest people ever. Oh, but he's 6 foot tall and he's good looking so it doesn't matter if he's some idiot. It upset my mom that I cut my niece off, but I flat out told her that I hate all women who are the same... looking for the taller, attractive guys with big dicks. So family or not, I had to cut her off because she represents the kind of women who have made my life miserable. I don't even associate with her or her kids. I don't even care about them. I could work 10x as hard as someone else, but still be the single one with no success of any kind, passed over for dates because of my looks and height, and if I were lucky enough to convince a girl to go out with me (which is rare) if we would have sex I would be one of the smallest she's ever had, especially since women are more promiscuous today. It would last awhile, but then she'd move on because I'm no kind of catch at all. I'm like a man child. So I'm doomed on all counts. My mom says relationships and sex aren't everything. But she takes great pride in her grandkids and would have little else to do or contribute if not for having my brother and me, my brother having kids, and my niece having kids. So obviously she's just trying to make me feel better.

My mom says well be happy you can see or have two legs. But I told her it's ridiculous if in order to feel good about myself I have to compare myself to some crippled person. I'm tired of stupid people. I can't believe this is the life I get to live. I can't believe this was the hand I was dealt. I'll never be able to live the life I want to live. My dating pool is so much smaller than a normal person. Most people have a few issues. They're ugly but have a large penis. They're attractive but have a small penis. They're tall but they're ugly. Me, I have all these problems. Short. Small penis. Ugly. Acne. Overweight. Terrible family. It just goes on and on and on and on. Everyone I argue this to gets tired of hearing about it anyway. My mom is tired of it. People I talk to online get tired of it. People say they want the truth but when you hit them in the face with the truth or true feelings they don't want to hear it or deal with it. Just be confident! Just try harder! Just be happy with what you do have! Screw that. I tried it. I worked hard for a long time trying to fix my life, improve myself, and feel good. But you know what? Nothing ever really changed. I just worked 10x as hard to "almost" be a normal person. It makes me sick. My niece's dumb jock husband may be stupid, but at least he got married and had kids with little to no effort. You see, that's why I'm so angry. I worked hard and all those doors appear closed to me, but other people are accepted so easily. No woman has ever really been attracted to me. It didn't matter if I was confident or not. Now I'm just rambling, so I'll stop. I've said what I wanted to say and I'm prepared for Jean to just say "can you change the way you think about this". No, I can't.

[IrmaJean]

You can't if you believe you can't. TL, I do hear your pain and struggle with this.

There's more to a human being than numbers and measurements. They don't define you.

I can't believe this is the life I get to live. I can't believe this was the hand I was dealt. I'll never be able to live the life I want to live.

TL, I do suggest talking to a professional about your depression. You are in a continuous loop of negative and distorted thoughts and you're beating yourself down with them. You have some control in your life. Maybe the first way to take control back would be to ask for help.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

Dude, I relate to you, and you know that. I'm 5'7'' tall with a 4.875 inch penis. I'm basically in the same boat unless you feel that my 1/2 inch would make your life much better. Just like you, I always have to deal with this problem on a daily basis and I have a hard time accepting it. In fact, I've grown to see all women as whores, and I really am unhappy. However, when keeping busy and concentrating on other things life has to offer, I'm happy. As human beings, we're not even noticeable on the cosmic scale or calender. We are all essentially worthless. You and I are smarter than average and more socially aware than average. Penis size has a limited role if any when it come sto natural selection. I personally have skills and abilities that retarded jocks don't, and in the modern age, I feel that I'd be a more valuble member of society than just an ordinary man with a large penis. Consider this outlook for yourself.

[toulouse_lautrec]

We are essentially worthless, but it is still better and more enjoyable to have a larger penis, to be closer to average, to be taller, more handsome, etc. There are people out there enjoying things even though life is meaningless. To have to live my only life as a 5'5" man with 4.25" penis is too sad to be believed. I'd rather be dead, honestly.

[Notdoneyet]

Come on guys!! Since there's nothing you nor I can do to make our units larger or some of you become taller, it's no reason to give up on life.

Unless you think that the stated average isn't the alleged 5.1 inches, you really don't think a woman can tell you are missing less than an inch of that figure, do you? If your prospective date has spent all of her time rolling in the hay with guys six inches or even nearly twice that, then a date with her SHOULD be a one time occurrence and give a different gal a look-see.

Intercourse is not only for the pleasure of the woman, but for the guy as well.

My ex didn't appreciate a full stomach and a roof over her head, and now she has neither.

Me? Things are a lot better for me since I no longer have HER.

[IrmaJean]

We are essentially worthless, but it is still better and more enjoyable to have a larger penis, to be closer to average, to be taller, more handsome, etc. There are people out there enjoying things even though life is meaningless. To have to live my only life as a 5'5" man with 4.25" penis is too sad to be believed. I'd rather be dead, honestly.

TL, can you challenge these thoughts or at least give other thoughts a chance in your mind? What would a meaningful life look like to you? How did you feel about yourself during your childhood?

[toulouse_lautrec]

You're not helping Jean, please stop responding. Thank you.

[toulouse_lautrec]

Come on guys!! Since there's nothing you nor I can do to make our units larger or some of you become taller, it's no reason to give up on life.

Unless you think that the stated average isn't the alleged 5.1 inches, you really don't think a woman can tell you are missing less than an inch of that figure, do you? If your prospective date has spent all of her time rolling in the hay with guys six inches or even nearly twice that, then a date with her SHOULD be a one time occurrence and give a different gal a look-see.

Intercourse is not only for the pleasure of the woman, but for the guy as well.

My ex didn't appreciate a full stomach and a roof over her head, and now she has neither.

Me? Things are a lot better for me since I no longer have HER.

What I'm saying is that sex for the guy doesn't feel that good either if he's got a small penis. It's never felt that great to me. It's gotta feel better for a guy who is bigger because the vagina is tighter to him and there's more room to stroke. For a guy with a small penis, there isn't room to do much of anything and without girth it doesn't even feel that great anyway.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

Well you'ove mentioned before that your girth is 5.0, which is above average. So if the determining factor for "good" feeling sex is girth, then you can't complain. In terms of not having room, this is true and I am in the same boat. Howeve,r I also have 1/4 inch less girth than you, and in terms of volume that's a large difference of blood. You shoudl technically feel better than the average man seeing as your penis occupies more volume than the average which is (5.1 x 4.7) I believe. Also, on top of your length, you also have a gut, which I'm sure interferes with your thrusting ability. There are plenty of people your exact size in foreign countries having plenty of fun. The average is just higher in the US due to the cultural variety. If you've ever seen asian pornography of any kind, you will notice that the men are your size with a .25-.5 inch standard deviation. Unfortunately our basis for comparison is what we know from social experiences and the media. However, I feel that the world wide average is closer to our size. You're not enjoying sex because you are way too pessimistic about everything. I'm in the same boat as you and If I was consitently negative, i'd be contemplating suicide as well. There are people that have no use of their penises (size woudlnt matter in this case would it?) and they lead happy lives somehow. There are plenty of male celebraties your height doing quite well, and again the average height outisde the US for some males is 5'4. LIving in the US, you need to accept the fact that you can't compare yourself to the average.

I don't know why I bother seeing as you will always just be a very negative person. I hate negativity which is why I try to look at the positive aspects of any situation. It's one thing to be less than average, but to constantly dwell on the subject perpetually is a waste of time. I'm basically in the same boat as you. I usually become very negative out of boredom. When I have nothing else to do, I dwell on this subject and that is why I am here. You need to find other things to occupy your time. Sex will not happen the way that you would like, so what's the point of repeating the same thread multiple times? Lose some weight, stop being negative all the time. It's not like I'm an above average dude giving you this advice. I'm almost exactly the same way as you, yet I'm much less negative. Sure there are people taller than me with larger penises, that are also smarter than me and greater contributors to society. However, in all of my Physics and Math classes, I've always been the one that was at the far right of the bell curve, so I can take pride in that. I'm also half decent on the guitar. Do you have any hobbies, interests, skills? I'm sure there are plenty of sexless people in the world that are enjoying their existence.

[ThePetPerson]

I can't offer much in the way of support here, but I would like to point out that a woman doesn't feel ANYTHING past the first third of the vagina, so if you find a decent woman who wants a relationship with you and isn't obsessed as you seem to be with the length of your penis, 4.25" is more than enough to pleasure her and your 5.0 girth is above average, a good size and the main pleasure for the woman. As for your own pleasure, that's down to you, your constant worries over sex are ruining it for you and having a negative effect on your life, if you go in expecting the woman to not enjoy it, your mind won't be on the pleasure. Find some other hobbies, enjoy other aspects of life, sex isn't everything, it's far from it.

[toulouse_lautrec]

Maybe I'm not quite 5" in girth. Maybe a bit less. I can't measure properly because I have no sex drives and struggle to even maintain an erection. But when I lost 15 lbs my sex drive started to come back and I can stay harder a bit longer. I still have about 30 lbs to go. If that doesn't fix my problem I'm going to the doctor.

But anyway, 4.25" hard, maybe 4.5" when it's more erect is nothing to be proud of or happy about, even if I am close to 5" in girth, which is probably less because I'm probably not measuring properly.

And I don't agree that 4.25" is enough, because it's obvious women feel more with a larger and thicker penis, especially in different positions.

There is just no hope.

[toulouse_lautrec]

I haven't had sex with my gf in about 1.5 years. I started having erection/sex drive problems, bad depression about life, and I'm simply not attracted to her anymore. My sex drive has been almost nothing since I got overweight (5'5" 200 lbs, in shape I was 5'5" and 145) with a sedentary lifestyle. Stretch marks on my stomach. At some point my sex drive just "stopped". So I have more problems than just my small penis size. Even if my drive comes back after getting in shape, it's still embarrassing for me to have sex with such a small penis, smaller than 97%+ of men.

[Notdoneyet]

What I'm saying is that sex for the guy doesn't feel that good either if he's got a small penis. It's never felt that great to me. It's gotta feel better for a guy who is bigger because the vagina is tighter to him and there's more room to stroke. For a guy with a small penis, there isn't room to do much of anything and without girth it doesn't even feel that great anyway.

Can't speak for any other guy, but if sex felt any better for me, it would likely cause some sort of mental convulsion and, perhaps a stroke.

I fail to see how it would get any better FOR ME if I was twice as large.

[ThePetPerson]

You're telling yourself there is no hope, but if you got all of your other issues in order, you might just find that you're making this non-issue a big issue. Get active, lose weight! See your doctor if necessary, maybe even go to see them about your depression, they can help you. Sort out your relationship, is it worth saving? Would you two be happier separated? If you are truly depressed, then that is goung to have a huge impact on your motivation, your relationship, and certainly your sex drive. So instead of worrying about your height and penis size, concentrate on improving other aspects of your life that you CAN change, and the rest will come with it. Find some inspiration, get a hobby, see that doctor, lose some weight and work on looking at your life from a new perspective! There are so many things you can do, but you need to do them, don't give up before you've tried! I would certainly start with that depression, as that might hold you back from having the motivation to do the rest. This isn't about your penis size, this is about your self esteem.

[gone]

Can't speak for any other guy, but if sex felt any better for me, it would likely cause some sort of mental convulsion and, perhaps a stroke.

I fail to see how it would get any better FOR ME if I was twice as large.

Amen, brother. I agree completely.

John

[infrared_radiation]

Yeah, you may feel bad, but really, you could have cancer, or be an alcoholic, or be a heroin addict, or live in the Third World and not have access to adequate food, clean water, health care, etc.

Is being 5'5" with a 4.25" erect penis

...really worse than what I've just mentioned?

[Perseverance]

All those people have something we don't have for CHANGE. Hope.

[malign]

Lots of people with terminal cancer have no hope (for remission, at least), but still find a way to live the time remaining to them (we're all dying, btw.)

While I wouldn't be nonchalant about what y'all are going through (many people with terminal cancer don't find a way to live well in their remaining time), I do think it's possible to look at things differently.

[Bundy]

All those people have something we don't have for CHANGE. Hope.

1. Heroin addicts usually never make the jump, heroin is one of the few substances that becomes a necessity to be body, where stopping could mean dying, so no, not much hope there.

2. Most cancer patients still end up dying after the fifth year with enduring powerful chemotherapy that may just kill them, so again, hope seems like a stretch for most of them.

3. I don't even need to explain how insanely naive it is to say that people in the third world have "hope". Maybe after 200-300 years, but not in the near future. I'm sure some poor schmuck in the DR Congo doesn't see much hope after seeing his country in unrest after the 5 or 6 rebell uprising which ravages his country yet again.

Having a small penis is godawful, but let's not go to far here, saying we have it worse than someone stuck in friggin' Liberia is incredibly insolent.

On the other hand, the "other people have It worse" argument is garbage. Yeah, it's sad that these people have it this bad, but it's pointless to use this as a base for measuring your own lives worth, because thinking like that you only belittle your problems and needs, which is a lously way to live, because you are just ignoring your own problems with distracting yourself how bad others have it. It's unproductive and in general and extremely sad way of thinking; "my life is an never ending hell, but at least I'm not getting cornholed in prison!"

Your problems are still very real and damaging, and sugarcoating your own pitful existence is even more pathetic.

Also, not trying to be an ass here, but what's the deal with resurrecting these dead threads infrared? Toulouse doesn't even post here anymore, probably because he was sick of getting patronized.

[Perseverance]

Children have been adopted from these shitty countries before and how many guys woke up one day with a bigger penis. As rare as the cases my be at least there is some. Yea the cancer thing sucks but I'm sure it would suck worse to live with pain everyday of your life like some of these guys on here do. Totally normal guys becoming mentally warped for life. They also didn't choose to be born this way like the user chose to inject poison into their veins. Little ticked off some dude with a big dick comes in here and tries to let us know it could be worse.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

He hasn't been in this position and thus is not able to relate. A small penis seems really trivial to those that are large. Similarly, I think Asperger Syndrome is nothing to dwell on..because I do not relate. The general response from anyone that is unaffected by the problem in question is that life could be worse. Instead of telling people that their situation coudl be worse, I tell people to make their situation better. I really hate that general response..and it's always from a largely endowed man or someone that doesn't have this problem.

I acknowledge that there are far worse things in life, but simply being grateful that I'm not living in a third world countr, or that I have a properly functioning liver will not ultimately change my perspective.

[Perseverance]

Would not be depressed over here. But mind you I hate my girth more than anything. 6 inches would be fine with me. I'd give the other two inches to whoever else on here needs em.

[Bundy]

Same here, It would make my life worth living. I would finally be able to completely indulge in my hedonistic urges and wishes and just generally would attend to all kind of sexual adventures, from group sex to public sex.

I really hate that general response..and it's always from a largely endowed man or someone that doesn't have this problem.

I acknowledge that there are far worse things in life, but simply being grateful that I'm not living in a third world countr, or that I have a properly functioning liver will not ultimately change my perspective.

This so much

"It's worse somehwere else!" is about the most idiotic "advice" you can give.

[malign]

"He hasn't been in this position and thus is not able to relate."

I'm not sure that a person really has to have had the same experiences as another to be able to relate to them. I've talked to any number of people who were hearing things, for instance, and I could relate to how confused and bewildered they were, and how protective of what must have seemed to them like a magical experience.

I've never put a ruler to my penis, either, but I can hear how it feels to be convinced that you'll never be a good enough man. Not that I think that, but I can hear that you guys do. I agree that although life could always be worse, that's not much of a comfort when it feels bad enough. And it tends to add a "should" to the mix, that a person "should" be able to deal with their problems because others are dealing with worse. There are no "shoulds" ...

I'd say that the ability to relate to others varies from person to person, and difficulty putting yourself in someone else's shoes is one of the diagnostic traits of Aspberger's syndrome. So really, this is more a test of you guys' ability to put yourselves in his shoes ...

So I do think it's worth going back to 'skynight's question, and the answer "everything would be fine" if only it were bigger. How sure are you? What if, despite the size, someone still rejected you? What if you gave your girl one magnificent orgasm; wouldn't you immediately start to worry about the next one? To address Bundy's preferred sexual adventures, what if you were bigger but still couldn't get into the groups of adventurers (I don't know, body odor or zits or something)?

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

My point is, if this was an Asperegers syndrome forum, I would not be providing input consideirng that I am unable to understand what they are going through. I really would appreciate if the larger endowed would stop posting on these forums unless they have something truly constructive to say. For example, "I have a large penis and it is not all that it is cracked out to be: yada yada yada (list reasons). The "Get over it" or "It coudl be worse" only enrages me further and makes me regress to this problem. I've personally grown to accept myself but when someone who truly does not understand this issue gives advice, it bothers me.

I know he did not mean any harm and it was just a naive or ignorant way to approach the issue. However, this is my own problem and seeing posts like that are usually a negative trigger for me. I enjoy reading posts of those that are in this position that were able to overcome the issue (Notdoneyet), but when a larger endowed male comes here claiming to have the solution to this problem, it makes me furious. I agree that this is a really terrible and primitive way to approach a psychological problem of mine and I hope to get passed it. I normally am positive here, but I've had several larger endowed members on measurection message me and tell me that I do not have a small penis. (I'm at the bottom of the bell curve of average (5-7 inches). Maybe I'm not small statistically, but when people that are high or above average are compelled to chime in, it just makes me angrier.

Ultimately, a larger penis wouldn't solve all of my problems. However, it would be one less insecurity that would be plaguing my mind on a daily basis. It is one of my biggest insecurities and thus, I truly believe that my life would be much different and more positive. Perhaps I would not be successful with women, but at least I would know that I do not have a problem in this area. There have been times where I completely tried to remove myself from the sexual universe altogether. This would not be going on if i were born with a societal average or larger penis.