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IrmaJean Posted September 9, 2013 Report Share Posted September 9, 2013 I have struggled with social anxiety in the past and things can get better. My eye contact, though much improved, still needs some work. I think you will find that as you feel more relaxed and okay with yourself, eye contact will come more naturally to you.I'm sorry no one replied sooner to your earlier response. It can be challenging talking about struggles and vulnerabilities. We all have them. I know I sure do. Part of being human. I hope you can be gentle with yourself.Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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IrmaJean Posted September 10, 2013 Report Share Posted September 10, 2013 How did you improve your eye contact? And when you say needs improvement; are you still often concious of it while talking then? How does it feel different now to before?I think some of the difficulty for me with maintaining eye contact was in being fully seen by others. In the past, there was some part of me unhappy with myself, lacking confidence, low self-esteem... So I started by working on myself and how I felt about me. I also practiced projecting confidence and then challenged myself to make more eye contact with others. I was surprised when others began responding more positively to me. It has been easier for me to do as I've felt more comfortable with myself and less needy of approval from others. Am I still conscious of my eye contact during conversations? Some. I think it's a learning process. One thing I want to work on is my instinct to look away when another initiates the eye contact. How does it feel different now? It's easier and more natural to do. I'm making much more eye contact with others now. My interactions have improved. I don't feel afraid. I know it's okay to be me and let myself be seen. I believe I'm capable. I know I'm still me even if I don't get a positive response. Lots of positive changes. You can do it too. Do you do anything to help yourself relax, such as meditation or deep breathing? It's great that you have a friend you feel comfortable with. I hope you continue to grow and make progress.Take care. LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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IrmaJean Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Good for you, MTS! :-) I have gotten so much better with eye contact over the past few years. Practice and self-confidence helps. Did the doctor give you any suggestions? mts 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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malign Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Well, too, whatever makes it hard for you to make eye contact may not be a general-practitioner kind of thing to treat. It doesn't mean that it's something more shameful or harder to treat.I'm glad you found the courage to take the step, MTS. There are probably more steps ahead, but the first one is usually the hardest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeep Posted November 8, 2013 Report Share Posted November 8, 2013 Good going MTS! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Jeep Posted November 9, 2013 Report Share Posted November 9, 2013 Could be better to be honest, a bit up and down, I am getting better slowly though. Thanks for asking MTS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted November 10, 2013 Report Share Posted November 10, 2013 Remind me to send you a copy of "HitchHiker's Guide to the Galaxy" ... ;-)Say Hi to the Vogons for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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