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I know something like this has been put up before but i just want to re ask in my own way I guess.

(Completely forget about the women's pleasure when answering)

what has the sex been like for you? I know being under average will mean more extravagent positions are out of the window but have the basic ones like 'missionary' and 'cowgirl' be doable and pleasurable for yourself?

I just want your opinion on it from a selfish point of view if anyone's willing to share:)

I'm just concerned that due to being slightly overweight (nothing major) and having my size might hinder me from doing basic positions such as me on top without slipping out or having major problems with it

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About popping out with cowgirl, I seem to remember you even see that happen quite a bit in porn if things get too energetic. So...?

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common positions are no problem. just be careful not to go too hard or if shes on top to bounce too far up and down or else itll pop out

I'm sure there are ways to get around things like that I.e grinding more than bouncing.

Missionary and doggy would be more of a concern for me popping out as we're the ones that have to do the thrusting. Any of those been a problem for you (or anyone reading this)?

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grinding prevented popping out but I tended to lose my erection doing that and my partners didnt like it much anyway…

i found using a cushion behind her ass helped a little bit- my 2nd GF taught me that trick- she read it in a book

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For what it's worth I think that a guy who is solidly hard will manage missionary & doggie just fine so long as the gal is somewhat cooperative. I mean there are things that you just can't do w 5" vs say 8".

Again, I really want to encourage guys to talk to real women in real life. They are not all like the attention seekers on you tube or the prostitutes on the internet.

Even that fake blonde Tara whatever said that for a lot of girls sex is emotional not physical and they are not at all concerned about "average size".

The life of a man involves taking a lot of punches and body shaming is one of them.

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For what it's worth I think that a guy who is solidly hard will manage missionary & doggie just fine so long as the gal is somewhat cooperative. I mean there are things that you just can't do w 5" vs say 8".

Again, I really want to encourage guys to talk to real women in real life. They are not all like the attention seekers on you tube or the prostitutes on the internet.

Even that fake blonde Tara whatever said that for a lot of girls sex is emotional not physical and they are not at all concerned about "average size".

The life of a man involves taking a lot of punches and body shaming is one of them.

Yeah I completely accept im not going to have advantage of being 8" and being able to do every position going but I am concerned that I won't be able to do basic ones. There's also a concern for inexperienced people such as myself of not being able to get it up or gain a strong erection but being in the presence of a naked women im sure would be more arousing than my own hand and imagination!

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I think most of my fears would be eradicated if I could maintain a rock hard erection. Which I do get every now and then but I sort of have to hold my hand on it to maintain that. My fears are possibly a factor but I masturbate a lot so I'm wondering if that effects erection quality? Also, maybe a silly question but do you guys think you get more hard when you're actually in the act of having sex as apposed to just using your imagination?

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Again, I really want to encourage guys to talk to real women in real life. They are not all like the attention seekers on you tube or the prostitutes on the internet.

Great point. I totally second that.

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I think most of my fears would be eradicated if I could maintain a rock hard erection. Which I do get every now and then but I sort of have to hold my hand on it to maintain that. My fears are possibly a factor but I masturbate a lot so I'm wondering if that effects erection quality? Also, maybe a silly question but do you guys think you get more hard when you're actually in the act of having sex as apposed to just using your imagination?

We've talked this before, I believe? There are meds out there which could really sort you, Darren.

Admittedly you shouldn't be needing em at your age. But still.

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We've talked this before, I believe? There are meds out there which could really sort you, Darren.

Admittedly you shouldn't be needing em at your age. But still.

Yeah we have dude. I'm just a bit embarrassed about going to the doctors about the sort of problem. Not sure how else to get hold of them apart from that.

Trust me to have that sort of problem at my age, like I don't have enough already lol

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Darren, I've discovered that the loss of erection and orgasm abilities are reversible if you can keep from masturbating frequently. I'm only able to do that based on being in a good relationship with good sex- something I waited over 40 years to experience. I was pretty much washed out about 3 years ago, and now I perform probably close to normal for my age. My gf and I have sex maybe twice a week on average and I masturbate maybe once a month. I used to fap daily starting in my early teens.

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Darren, I've discovered that the loss of erection and orgasm abilities are reversible if you can keep from masturbating frequently. I'm only able to do that based on being in a good relationship with good sex- something I waited over 40 years to experience. I was pretty much washed out about 3 years ago, and now I perform probably close to normal for my age. My gf and I have sex maybe twice a week on average and I masturbate maybe once a month. I used to fap daily starting in my early teens.

Your advice correlates to what I've researched online. I have masturbated daily for a while now and it's only recently I've realised that I don't actually gain a full and maintain erection unless I have my hand on it as it does nearly straight away after i remove my hand. Its got worse ever since I found out I'm not able to have frequent natural erections although I put that down to my stress (over size and day to day things) and being used to masturbation/fantasy. I used be able to get one of demand but I have recently been forcing myself to get an erection (using masturbation),even when I'm not aroused, just for the sake of it. Doing that has meant It would be almost impossible for me to get one and maintain it without my own stimulation! So I'm gonna try laying off it for a while and see if that helps *fingers crossed*

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I think we're similar. I know at least one friend who has no such issue from the same long term habit. I'm still not able to gain full erection without some amount of physical contact on my penis, but it is better than it used to be. One thing that has returned after many years is waking up with an erection. Now THAT reminds me of younger days! :)

Good luck; I hope this works for you.

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I think we're similar. I know at least one friend who has no such issue from the same long term habit. I'm still not able to gain full erection without some amount of physical contact on my penis, but it is better than it used to be. One thing that has returned after many years is waking up with an erection. Now THAT reminds me of younger days! :)

Good luck; I hope this works for you.

Yep It is pretty much impossible for me to gain any erection without physical contact on it. Not sure if it any different in the presence of a girl as im not aroused over fantasy or porn anymore.

Thank you, I hope it does or I'm basically doomed lol

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Wow, when porn and fantasy don't work, you know there's an issue. It was getting bad for me too...orgasm was very difficult. When things started improving with women (i.e. I got divorced and dated women who wanted me), I found that orgasm was still difficult in real sex and I needed to fantasize to get off even then. Well, that defeats the whole purpose of sex, so only then did I get serious about curbing the j/o. It isn't easy!

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Not an expert, but it sounds to me, Darren, like you could have some other big issues - like real severe depression maybe?

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Yeah we have dude. I'm just a bit embarrassed about going to the doctors about the sort of problem. Not sure how else to get hold of them apart from that.

Trust me to have that sort of problem at my age, like I don't have enough already lol

If you dont mind paying (a lot!!) there are legit online pharmacies in the UK where you can get an online consultation and prescription for Viagra, Cialis, etc.

But I'd just crack your nerve and talk to your doc. Maybe you could ask to see a male one, and older guy even? (You dont need to bring the whole SPS shit into it - just tell them your symptoms about erection function, etc.)

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I get aroused by them but only if I 'touch myself' whilst watching and fantasising. I rarely get full erections whilst just thinking about something if I don't act upon it (masturbate). The feeling is still as good when I do it but I'm not sure if im just bored of fantasising over the same old things, as I barely watch porn, or if there is a genuine problem.

Not really sure what to do at this moment, I've only really discovered the problem within the last couple of days

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If you dont mind paying (a lot!!) there are legit online pharmacies in the UK where you can get an online consultation and prescription for Viagra, Cialis, etc.

But I'd just crack your nerve and talk to your doc. Maybe you could ask to see a male one, and older guy even? (You dont need to bring the whole SPS shit into it - just tell them your symptoms about erection function, etc.)

I think if the problem carries on then I'll go to the doctors as I've been about other penis issues in the past which led to a circumcision.

In regards to depression, I have suffered with it in the past and it runs in the family. Anti-depressants helped but I hear the can cause erectile dysfunction which is something that's making me depressed lol.

I don't want to bore you guys which my issues and im not looking for sympathy, I just want to vent and maybe get some advice

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