creativegurl92 Posted October 6, 2015 Report Share Posted October 6, 2015 We have been together for a little over two years. We are generally really healthy and happy together, and love each other so much. Since we started dating, I had one episode and then have been in recovery for the past year. Recovery has mostly been pretty good, with a few lapses. I have gotten a lot better at not letting my depression and anxiety cause me to feel insecure. And if it does, I can believe that it's just the depression talking until it passes. I have also improved significantly at not lashing out at him. Anxiety is a rare occurrence, but has increased since I graduated college a month ago. I think the transition is stressing me out. We are also adjusting to being non-LDR after college. Sometimes I have panic attacks or crying fits before bed. It will keep both of us up late, although I try to leave the room or not disturb him. It has caused him distress and has caused him to lose some sleep, getting about 6 hours of sleep on those bad nights. I don't want to run him too thin. When we have thought of ways to alleviate this, here's what I came up with: 1) Go to sleep at 10 every night (that I am over)2) At the height of my anxiety fits, leave the room/get away from him. Come back to him for support when I calm down3) Not treat him like my therapist. Because he is not my therapist. We still have really wonderful, supportive, successful conversations and mostly great days together.We spend about 4-5 days a week together, I try to give both of us space (those 2-3 days). Maybe I should take a bit more space during the week? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted October 7, 2015 Report Share Posted October 7, 2015 Welcome to the community, creativegurl92. It sounds as though you are working hard to take care of yourself and to cope with your feelings of depression and anxiety. This is wonderful.Do you and your boyfriend talk openly about how you are feeling through this and what both of you need in the relationship? Do either or both of you have extra support, such as a therapist?Wishing you well. Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Generic Posted October 7, 2015 Report Share Posted October 7, 2015 I don't want to run him too thin. When we have thought of ways to alleviate this, here's what I came up with:1) Go to sleep at 10 every night (that I am over)2) At the height of my anxiety fits, leave the room/get away from him. Come back to him for support when I calm down3) Not treat him like my therapist. Because he is not my therapist.I like this. I hope you have a great day today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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