renewablecloud Posted October 16, 2015 Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 I recently made a big old screw up. Like the budgeting went all wrong sort of screw up. We had just finished moving and a lot of the numbers were changing and I got out of the habit of going to meetings and I would up assuming that everything was going to be okay with my numbers. In denial. Then I got secretive, ( which I wasn't able to identify that I was at the time). And eventually, everything came to a head. So my husband is a little more than a little livid. Which is totally understandable. I really messed up. ( and my roommate is also getting some of the flack from this). The house is very hot right now and my husband is mad and being antagonizing. I know this is my fault and I'm going to have to get back to meetings to get back to basics, but I didn't know about how to deal with stuff in the meantime? Like, if he makes a sarcastic comment, what is the best way to go about responding?Thanks everyone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted October 16, 2015 Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 hi, cloud. welcome back.i'm not sure i understand your post...what does "relapse without drinking" mean?if all you did is miss some aa meetings, then that can be easily remedied by trying to not miss anymore if possible, in the future.take care, good luck, and best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renewablecloud Posted October 16, 2015 Author Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 Yeah, what I meant was that I wasn't drinking, but everything else was there. Isolating myself, not going to meetings, not being rigorously honest with myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renewablecloud Posted October 16, 2015 Author Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted October 16, 2015 Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 don't mention it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smallstar Posted October 16, 2015 Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 Your husband was angry because you missed meetings and were isolating? Doesn't sound very supportive to me. Is he in the program too? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renewablecloud Posted October 16, 2015 Author Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 He isn't. He is a child of an alcoholic though. He was actually really supportive one night and then the next night he when through the budget again and started making sarcastic comments, not so much directed at me, but at my roommate. It's been feeling like he is trying to start an argument, a little, but no one is biting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renewablecloud Posted October 16, 2015 Author Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 I don't quite understand how one would be healthy angry in this situation ... Like I don't know how anger is supposed to be showed. My parents like never showed anger. Y'know. Everything made sense reading melody Beaty's codependent no more. I may have to got back to that. Hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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