That'll make you visible!

A redheaded drummer!

Have you got drums?

ummmm no........ :O/

are drums expensive?

Well, _a_ drum might not be ...

I'm not sure what an entire drum set, like you'd see in a rock band, would be.

Shop online! :-) You're good at that.

ohhh..........

i need to stop shopping.... i went shopping again this morning (

Well, you really only need to stop buying, but if you have to stop shopping to do that, then yes. :-)

( but it's hard......really really hard....

hmmm....

Yup. I'm afraid life is like that, at times, sweet Blossomy.

But you can't spend more than you earn, unless you're a government. :-)

uh huh...no i never spend more more than i earn..... daddy says i'm not allowed....

will this work for you, blossomy?

OH WOW!!!!!!!!!!! yep that'll definitely work ) IT'S REDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD )

Funny: that's how I decide which sports cars I like, too. :-)

uh huh it has to be a nice colour.

are you getting yelled at, blossomy?

yeah something like that (

can you ease out and get to a safe place?

can't coz someone has made plans for me

well then retreat a bit into you to take care of yourself if you can. I'm sorry blossomy

i'm trying but i can't |

You can say, "that hurt my feelings." It may seem too difficult to do, but it is a very powerful thing to do.

then he'll just say "well, it's the truth!"

don't talk yourself out of it with that because that is a voice in your head. You need a new voice that is true to you, and that can speak up and say, that hurts me.

that really is what he will say. i've tried it before.

Well, I'm a little lost because I don't know what's being said ...

But one possible response is to point out that there are lots of different ways to say a "truth"; it's usually possible to make it constructive criticism rather than hurtful.

The most important thing is that you don't let the voice in your head say that. It is NOT the truth. If he feels he has to say that and be that kind of person, that is ultimately his problem. Do you see what I mean about taking care with what you are saying to yourself in the face of this treatment? It is very important. I'm sorry you are in this position, blossomy

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