Benster You are amazing! .. out of all the difficulties that most people have this is definately one of the most stigmatised and emotionally charged issues that has to be resolved over the coming decades. You've just come out with it ... very admirable. Personally, my attitude on reorientation is one of stubborn support, I believe that anyone who has the capacity to develop a paraphilia inherently has the ability to get out of it. After all, if change wasn't possible, then how would a paraphilia develop in the first place? Thats one tree I'm not taking my eye off (read my post in belief in god for that to make sense)! Whilst I believe there may be a degree of 'imprinting' thats irriversable, I do believe that it can be disabled. Not 'cured' but grown out of. After all, it was grown into. Look at the very stuff were made of, we have within us an inheritance of evolution over 100's of millions of years, it's just that it doesn't get 'expressed' ... I think the same kinda stuff happens in the brain and mind. The mind is far more maleable than a genome, it has to be, otherwise we'd be extinct. NEVER listen to ANYONE who says you'll never change ... thats upto YOU. Anyone who trys to tell you you won't change, call them a "Phrenologist"! Responsibility isn't all about being inhibited, it's also about choosing who you want to be, it just takes time and effort. I think it was jennifer who siad that honesty is all important, I agree. If we are all honest with each other and with ourselves, then we can be in a far better position to be responsible and a force for good. Out of curiosity benster, do you often feel as though you have to act around adults so that you will be liked? ... I'm wondering how rewarding you find the company of other adults.