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Symora

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Symora last won the day on August 13 2010

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    Human Resources professional
  1. Hi Loneone, I see my dreams as images, bubbles, that come up from the subconscious, but they are often so jumbled that that they have no concrete meaning and can't be untangled. I think they can represent fears, anxieties, just thinking events out by free association. Working through confused feelings often gives me confusing dreams. In my case they always include water in one way or the other if they are about feelings. The one thing that stands out in that dream for me is your concern for your kids, you sound worried about them... and then you spoke about your upcoming marriage and havi
  2. Hi Pseudonyme, You do indeed sound like things are difficult right now... Haven't been to the forum in a while so I don't know your past, but I do know those mood swings and feelings of despair. I was like that for a long time but finally found medication that has stabilized me and I can say that life if pretty normal now. There can be breakthroughs... mine took some 30 years but it happened... From what I hear you are a single parent. That's difficult, I know for having lived it myself. Dealing with mania or depression while trying to keep it together for kids is extremely challengin
  3. Hi Audbaul, Thank you for trusting us enough to share that with us. As Endlessnight said, children are so innocent and so used to being told what to think and do, so subject to the authority of those around them. You did what most 9 years do, they keep it to themselves not to get themselves or others in trouble. You were trying to protect your brother by being silent and that is a noble thing, although keeping it inside also does us a disservice since it becomes a secret that can haunt us. I hope that sharing it with us, and eventually perhaps a professional can help you get beyond the a
  4. I`m afraid I don`t know what other problems you mean... I'm just back to the forum and a bit out of touch. Am I missing something?
  5. Hi Es, There is no way that is normal behaviour for adults. It is immature and normal adults know that this is invasive, demeaning and crude. They would never have acted that way with your mother, and it was not any more proper to do it with you. You were an easy target as a child and they allowed themselves this stupid behaviour because you were powerless to do anything about it.... The question is how much has it bothered you? Is it just one of those memories that one wishes one did not have (like the guy that flashed me as I was walking down the street one day- I really would prefer that wa
  6. Hello Ilove music, welcome to the forum... I'm sorry to hear that you feel epressed and part of being depressed is being down on yourself, so know that the depression is what is making you feel so hopeless... I've suffered from depression and know that it can feel quite overwhelming, but it usually gets better, so have hope. I have also felt that people just ignore me when I tell them how bad I feel, but now I feel that it is mostly because they just don't know what to say or how to respond. They feel helpless and so it is often easier to just avoid it ... There are people out there who are k
  7. That's an interesting question. For me it is often that I just don't feel like talking, but rather I'm in listening mode. I get a lot out of what others post, it helps me get perspective on things, realise I'm not alone going through things. Sometimes I feel like I'm reading interesting short stories, I love hearing people open up about themselves and getting insight into other ways of seeing the world. Then at other times I feel I have something to contribute, or I just feel like interacting more. It also has to do with the subject for me, some things resonate with me more.... I guess
  8. I encourage you to look into Al-Anon as well, and even get you child babysat for a couple of hours once in awhile so that you can attend if they cannot provide daycare. The tough part is the isolation, feeling alone in dealing with the issues. There is a lot of comfort and strength in sharing with others who understand and that may even help you make some contacts that will help you explore other options.... My instinct was also to think that perhaps you could find someone else to work with you, someone who might even be more dependable and less stressful...
  9. Hi Danni, I'm so sorry to hear about your difficult situation. I work in HR and I see these types of situations often. I find upper management is generally conflict resolution adverse and middle management is caught in the squeeze. It's easier to hide one's head in the sand, pretend it's not that bad, and make believe that all is well, especially if he is getting them the results they are looking for. Eventually they usually can't keep the lid on the pot though, and often there is an exodus of people who leave the organization in search of better tomorrows.... It is difficult to get rid of a t
  10. I have also had issues with using the Internet at work, and I venture to say that it is rampant problem for people who work at a desk .... For me it has to do with being bored at work. When I have an interesting project I don't crave the internet so much, but if I'm bored or I don't really want to do the upcoming project, then I procrastinate and the internet is wonderful for that :cool: I remember when the Internet first became available in the workplace, somewhere around 1995. At the time only a few people had the privilege of having access to it, and there was concern about the workforce be
  11. My feeling is that you can't help him stop drinking, he has to do that for himself. At some point he may screw up so bad he will find himself on his ass, hitting bottom as it weres, and that may give him the incentive to get his act together. That's why you have to be concerned about yourself and your child most of all since it looks like he is dragging you all down with him.... If you own everything, why don't you get him to leave? Is that something that would be possible, or at least out of the house until he gets his act together? I know that living with an alcoholic is a very challenging s
  12. I hear you true hope. I've had sort of a life like that too... gave much more than I received in most of my relationships, been treated with lack of consideration and appreciation. I now think that I drew, and sometimes continue to draw, that to myself because I lack self esteem. I don't see myself as worthy of more. I've thought a lot about that during the last year and have been doing a lot of work in that area, and I now find that I am clearer with regards to my boundaries, which is really helpful.... You sound like a lovely person True, do you think that perhaps you lost track of your
  13. Symora

    Elder abuse

    Amen to that True-hope.... I just started volunteering in an old age home this week and got a taste of it right away.... The people working there are tired and look like they would like to be anywhere but there. The old people look discheveled, drugged, and to a large degree abandonned to themselves. I was asked to feed two ladies, which I did. But the person across table, a little lady of probably 90, was not eating. So one of the attendants came over and started feeding her heaping tablespoons that she could not take in. It was running down each side of her mouth, and the attendant was
  14. Perhaps for me it's more about the home than the place. I've travelled a lot, on 4 continents, and frankly I have never been to a place that called me to go live there. I've liked some places, but I prefer where I am because of the size of the city mostly, government town with little industry so the air is clean and the wilderness is less than an hour away. The only other place I thought I might to live is Vancouver, BC because of the proximity to wilderness but also the sea right there to explore... the weather is also more temperate than it is on the east coast... The house I would like thou
  15. Posting here is fine. Now you have your own thread I also find that getting it out of myself is helpful, it helps me clarify within myself what is going on. It sounds like you are doing all the right things...the hard part is waiting for things to move a little. Do you have a counsellor at the university where you are at, or a therapist you can consult when you are struggling. Another option is talking regularly to a wise elder, someone who is good at listening and offering comfort and support. It's hard to do things on our own, no doubt about it... But we can assist with getting perspe
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