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Athena last won the day on November 30 2011

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  1. I can't handle yelling either. That includes when it's not even directed at me. I take it so personally. Sounds like your Mum has a lot on her plate. Maybe you could ask her to set up a night where you do certain chores and get paid a certain amount for them. She can do some at the same time so you are making the house look nice together. It might be motivating for you and reduce her stress (and possibly back pain) immensely. If you do this every week, you can probably get it down to an hour a week. Even that amount can be a huge help.
  2. Hi Whiterabbit and welcome to the community. There are a lot of nice people here so I know you will always have somebody to talk to here. It sounds like you have friends and yet you sound very lonely. Depression can do that. It's like you're in your own little world for fear of scaring people off. Maybe your friends and/or SO could handle 'some' of your issues. You don't have to go into great detail (I'd leave any mention of cutting to yourself, or to the professional mental health workers, or to sites like these - society in general just doesn't seem to be able to handle the idea). Thi
  3. Hi AshleyB, Sorry you're feeling so bad. It is unfortunate that your school's counsellors don't seem to be helping. Perhaps they are overloaded. The fact that Trump won simply means that there are a lot of angry and depressed people out there. Is there another support system you can turn to? (or you may find this site helpful). Keep in mind, the press focusses on colourful people. They are not going to turn their cameras on the many millions of people in your country who are tolerant. For some reason we seem to be drawn to things that will shock us. I think for your mental health
  4. Feferi, I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. Also sorry it took a while for you to get a reply. There are a few things that I'd like to say in response to your post: First of all, everybody does NOT hate you. There do seem to be an awful lot of bigots in the U.S. but that does NOT mean there are not a lot of unbiased people out there. I'm guessing you're in high school since you are still with your parents. Since they don't seem to be offering much kindness or support, you're going to have to look elsewhere for it...The gay community?...Your current friends?...Family of your current
  5. I hate the fact that I can't play with my kids without getting really sore - stiff, achy muscles and joints all over after about 10 minutes or less. and...and...and...I was about to go on and on...but I could probably say that the worst thing about getting old is that I am afraid to take on new challenges because of a huge fear of failure and the fact that I don't feel I have enough time to invest the effort in something new and then possibly fail at it. It literally causes me to freeze up. But I read something recently that I think may be quite helpful. If you're afraid of trying so
  6. Oh my goodness, I have not been here in...what...2 years?...and this is the post that I decide to go to. I choose to believe that I have improved somewhat...or perhaps only in this particular moment...that I decided to visit 'The Lounge', the 'not so serious' place. Anyway, back to your topic. I think why this bothers you so much Lala is that criticizing others for their beliefs is easy. Ignoring or belittling others' beliefs is easy. It also has been proven in studies that those who are 'critics' are perceived to be more intelligent. When in fact they may in reality be less intelli
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    So I'm not around here for - like forever - and this is what I miss? Wow Epp. Congratulations. I'm so happy for you.
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    Our New Forum

    Hi IJ, and thank you and the 2 Marks for keeping us up and running! The MHN site was getting too slow for me to use so I am happy for the transition. Perhaps I will visit more often now...No problems signing in for me.
  9. Somebody up there ^ suggested this might be cause for people behaving badly. I look at it as more of an excuse to 'clean up one's act', get happy, get fulfilled and live for the day. It certainly makes it easier since there will be no future to worry about.
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    Hi Ralph, That sounds like a rough situation you find yourself in. I don't think I could move for work where I didn't know anybody. Maybe you could reach out to your friends through e-mail or Skype and see what kind of reception you get. It would at least give you some kind of indication whether you still fit into their world.
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    Stressed but better

    Hi Ralph, Just checked in to say hello. Good for you with the volunteer stuff. How's the music coming? I met somebody who collaborates with a friend of his by using something called 'dropbox'. So they decide to work on a piece together and they can share music files over the net. Basically his friend is too busy with wife and family so this works for them. Just an FYI. Sorry you're still lonely. I think one needs a larger network of friends around when they are in a LD relationship. Failing that, something to keep them busy in the evenings and on weekends, preferably with others. Alt
  12. Hi Jim, Random and a few others who have checked in here. I just wanted to touch base and say Hello because I'm not here that often. Trying to meet people face to face for a change :eek:...and with a renewed effort not to make it such a rollercoaster ride. I've learned a fair bit over the last year...from my T, from people here and on another site, from failed relationships. I hope I have learned enough to be able to have more healthy relationships. We shall see... Hope all is well with you guys. Take Care, C
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    fractured images

    Too bad about your T. I'd be a complete mess if mine stopped right now. It seems that your problem at the moment then is indecision. And fear keeping you in that state. It probably takes effort to go track down the right T for this and any excuse to procrastinate is probably stopping you dead in your tracks. Maybe you could write down the required steps to get you moving on this and it would give you that little nudge that you need. Just a thought.
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    fractured images

    Sorry Ralph, that sounds rough. I suppose CBT could help you cope at some level until you are ready to deal with the tough memories. What do you think would have to happen for you to feel strong enough to handle them? What made you leave the PTSD therapist?
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