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    I've got really embarrassing issues. If they disgust you, just know that they disgust me more.

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  1. Welcome to the forum, RG01. There are any number of reasons that your son may have these interests and is partaking in said behavior. It could be a case of infantilism (a paraphilia in which the individual likes to think of him/herself as a child), but I think that's not very likely. It sounds like simple age regression to me. I admittedly don't know much about the topic. I will say, though, that whatever his reasons are, be supportive and no matter what, do not shame him. I guarantee you that he already feels badly enough about these feelings and desires, and he'll only grow to resent you (an
  2. Hey, just checking up on you. As good as it is that your mom knows someone who can help you, you must not make any mention of the original reason you joined this site. More than likely, this person won't be understanding, and given that he/she has personal connections with your mother, it can cause problems. I imagine this was your plan, anyway, but just focus on feeling disconnected and stuff like that. You mentioned earlier that you have the same daily routine. Namely, wake up, go to school, come home, do homework, get on the computer for a bunch of hours, and go to bed. I can tell you that
  3. Well then, OP. It seems as if you answered your own question.
  4. I use to advise that all pedophiles receive professional help. However, after experiencing the negative possibilities first-hand and knowing many people who had it much worse than I did, I would only recommend doing so if this is an issue you honestly feel you can't live with or control.
  5. I don't know what country you're in or how pedophilia is typically dealt with there, but my absolute sincerest advice would be to NOT tell anyone at school. This is all very specialized, and they will not be able to understand or offer help. Rather, they will likely cause a lot more damage for you. I think there is a very high chance that it could come back to bite you in the ass.
  6. It is true that POCD can cause one to repeatedly question himself as to whether he's a pedophile or not. However, from what I've seen, most people who suffer with POCD related to pedophilia will insist that they're not actually attracted to children. The fact that you say that you know you're attracted to children makes me wonder if this is more than POCD. Here's the VirPed link. If you think the place is right for you, send them an email. Also, I invite you to chat with me here if you want.
  7. Senior penor, aside from the fact that I take major offense to your post, it's riddled with inaccuracies disguised as facts. According to the DSM, a person never needs to engage or attempt to engage in sexual activity with a child. A person doesn't need to have ever watched child pornography to be considered a pedophile. Pedophilia refers to an intense sexual attraction to prepubescent children. Nothing more and nothing less. You're equating attraction and thoughts to action. Since when are they synonymous? Furthermore, my understanding is that statistically speaking, the overwhelming majority
  8. Listen to what you're saying, though. You don't want to live because people are largely misinformed and ignorant about what pedophilia is and isn't, and you're (currently) not able to be close to any kids. I know that this will not be a popular opinion here, but honestly, pedophilia does not mean that you can never be close with any kids. It depends on the individual and how in control of his desires he is. I wouldn't simply recommend that you just go out and meet some kids, but there are some of us that can handle those sorts of situations (personally, I don't know if I can or can't, so I'm p
  9. I am also a virtuous pedophile. I imagine that because you used that specific term, you're a member of VirPed? I am. You've never hurt anyone, and you should feel proud of that. Why do you want to die so badly?
  10. PedophileNeedHelp, I am a pedophile who has been active online both giving and receiving support over the last few years. I know how hard it can be to deal with these attractions, and I would like to help. The problem is, at 14, I am really hesitant to call you a pedophile. Don't get me wrong; I'm not denying that you have these attractions. I've been attracted to girls since age 11 and boys since 14. It's just that, I think you're at a time in your life when your sexuality still can change. I feel like talking to you about this stuff could kind of "validate" your attractions, though frankly,
  11. Trucker, are you aware of the Virtuous Pedophiles support group? There are a lot of people there who find themselves in similar situations to yourself. When I used to frequent these forums (back then, this place was called Mental Help Net), I always wished more than anything that I could find other people who suffered with my attractions. I only ever met a couple, and they came and disappeared very quickly. I urge you to talk with me so we can try and figure things out for you.
  12. Trucker, you're clearly still upset about all of this. Why don't we talk?
  13. I've also got terrible self-control with some things. I'm 40lbs overweight, and have struggled to control it my entire life. I eat when I know I shouldn't, and I don't go to the gym when I know I should. Still, it's in a totally different league. If you could assign a numerical value of consequence to different acts A} eating when you shouldn't an B} molesting a child, surely, you could tell that one is a lot more dangerous and is far more important to avoid. It's not fair to yourself to compare your ability to control your sexual desires to your ability to control your food intake.
  14. Esruc, I know that you and I have had our share of negative confrontations in the past (both here and in another online community), but when I see someone who is struggling because of his attractions, I feel genuine empathy. Having been in a similar position to the one you describe, I have to ask why you think you'll step out of line and do something you'll regret. Have you done something before that really makes you question your ability to control yourself, or are you basing this all largely on "what if" scenarios? There have been two times in the past where I went to the beach, and upon arr
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