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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, My new place   
    Just a pic of my new living room
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to malign for a blog entry, Vocational Rehabilitation   
    "Vocation" originally meant the calling that priests were expected to feel when they chose to enter the priesthood.  It only later came to mean whatever career a person chose.
    I chose to make a right turn fairly late in my life, and go from a quarter century or so of computer programming to a new profession, psychological counseling.  The change required that I get at least a master's degree, which at my age is probably as far as I will go.
    What made me decide to make such a change?  Well, some of the events in my own life, which are largely detailed elsewhere in this blog, gave me some experience with psychology, from the user's perspective, you could say.  Verbal abuse, depression and suicidality, and a drawn-out divorce made me aware that there had to be more to life than programming.  And, coming to the site during that period, I learned a bit about helping and being helped.  Programming isn't much of a legacy compared to that.
    The path to the degree has been long:  four years and counting.  The subjects taught were not clear-cut like the ones in my biology undergrad schooling.  The classes had varying amounts of "experiential" learning, which seems to have meant that we taught each other.  I have failed courses (before this one), something that isn't like me.  I put off applying to the practicum several times, tiding myself over with an elective course so that my student loans wouldn't come due.
    Clearly, then, I have shown some resistance to finishing the program.  Now it will take at least another year to graduate, and then I have to get licensed.  Anxiety accounts for some of the resistance, at least.  The fact that, even when I'm licensed, I will have to be supervised throughout my career is another burden that slows me down.  The profession also won't be as lucrative as if I had continued programming, and hey, who doesn't like money?  My advisor, even before I was admitted into the program, remarked that I didn't have the same kind of enthusiasm that other students had coming in, mostly just having graduated with psychology degrees.  I pointed out, essentially, that I was twice their age and so could be expected to be roughly half as naive, I mean optimistic.  I used better words, because he let me in, but I haven't become less cynical.
    Interestingly, I chose counseling as the way to help because I had experience with (receiving) it over most of my life, and I assumed that was how people get helped.  I only realized, this last semester during one of my supervision sessions, that counseling was not, in fact, what helped me through the worst of my own time.  It was this site!  (The people really.)  That startling idea has at least opened my mind to consider other helping options, even if I finish the counseling degree.
    It probably plays no small part in my reasons for coming back.
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Lockdown blog entry Week 2   
    Sainsburys is getting back to normal now lot less Queues and more in stock 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Lockdown blog entries   
    Starting from Monday my form of exercise is walking in the morning prefer 6am for 30/20 mins 
    Then to Sainsbury's at 10am but today Thursday I be doing one form of exercise and that it will
    End of lockdown Quarantine day 4
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Andromeda for a blog entry, So stressed   
    When I think that maybe things are going fine everything have to turn bad. Im so tired of life. 😢
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Early entry   
    I.know I generally do.this on Friday but after tomorrow I might be in new place won't be able to do it 
     
    Monday - Out to Saintsburys 
    Tuesday - sign up 11:50am took things to new place at 3pm 
    Wednesday - staying in more packing 
    Thursday - probation 9:30am taken some bigger stuff to new place 2pm CR 7:30pm 
    Friday - might be moving in new place and getting paid 
    Hope to be pack soon
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Sorry for late entry   
    All this week been packing
     
    Monday - went out for a bit shopping and done some more packing up 
    Tuesday - Routestowork 9:30 packed more stuff up
    Wednesday - stayed in and packing 
    Thursday - 9;30am probation and 7:30 CR 
    Friday - routestowork 9:30am took some stuff to new place and back to packing
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Maybe last blog for a while   
    Monday - Humankind at 9am Routestowork - 10am 
    Tuesday - sign on at 9:25am
    Wednesday - stayed in rest 
    Thursday - probation at 9:30am tried to find new place at 4:00 CR 7:00pm 
    Friday - Routestowork 9:30 New place viewing 10:00am back there at 4:00pm 
     
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Coming to end of July   
    Monday - Went out to Sainburys for a bit of shopping
    Tuesday - meeting at Routestowork 11:30am 
    Wednesday - stayed in for a rest 
    Thursday - probation 9:30am life healing changes 7:30pm 
    Friday - staying In for rest 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Not so busy week   
    Monday 15th - Humankind 9am - sign onto compass shortly be moving
    Tuesday 16th - Routestowork 11am and signed on 4:15pm 
    Wednesday 17th - stayed in and rested
    Thursday 18th - Probation 9:30am Life healing choices 7:30pm 
    Friday 19th - Routestowork 10:30am and shopping, gas and electric
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Very busy week   
    12th - Friday probation at 9:30am and Routetowork at 2:00pm 
    11th - Thursday life healing choices at 7:30Pm 
    10th - Wednesday humankind at 3:00Pm 
    9th - Tuesday went out for a bit of shopping 
    8th - Monday Shopping and tea at drop in centre 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, July 1st - 5th   
    1st Monday - Went to probation to phone someone at humankind then 2pm at council housing options
    2nd Tuesday - signed on at 9:10am 
    3rd Wednesday - stayed in and rested 
    4th Thursday - probation at 9:30an and Life changing choices
    5th Friday - got paid put only electric on and went to Saintsburys 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Junes nearly over   
    24th Monday - went out for bit shopping
    25th Tuesday - went out for a tea and more shopping 
    26th Wednesday - stayed in for a rest 
    27th Thursday - went out for bit more shopping and life healing choices at 7:30pm 
    28th Friday - 9:30am probation 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, 17th - 21st of June   
    Monday - stayed in for a rest 
    Tuesday - signed on at 11:30am 
    Wednesday - humankind at 4:00PM 
    Thursday - probation at 9:30am, met with PPU officer at 2:00pm Life healing choices at 7:30pm 
    Friday went to get paid and shopping and put gas and electric on. 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Monday - Friday   
    Monday - went out to Saintsburys 
    Tuesday - went out for a bit and shopping
    Wednesday - Routestowork home visit 3:00pm human kind 4:00pm 
    Thursday probation 9:30am CR 7:30pm 
    Friday stayed in for a rest 
     
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, June month   
    Monday stayed in and rested 
    Tuesday signed on at 9:35am 
    Wednesday routes to work at 1pm 
    Thursday 9:30am probation 7:30 life healing choices 
    Friday gas and electric, shopping 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, This week :)   
    Monday: meeting at routes to work at 11:00am
    Tuesday: signed on at 11:00am and English assessment at 11:30am 
    Wednesday: stayed in for rest 
    Thursday: probation at 9:30am and CR at 7pm
    Friday Humankind at 1pm also at first stop went shopping this morning
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Late entry forgot yesterday   
    Monday went out shopping at Saintsbury's
    Tuesday went drop in for cup of tea 
    Wednesday Stopped in for tidy up
    Thursday. Probation at 9;30am 7;00pm CR 
    Friday stayed in and a rest 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Week starting 18th - 22nd   
    Monday 18th 
    Went out to buy a couple of DVDs and shopping
    Tuesday 19th
    Went out to buy cola and a few food
    Wednesday 20th 
    Stayed in and watched few DVDs 
     
    Thursday 21st 
    Had probation and CR came back at 10pm 
    Friday 22nd 
    Stayed in and s rest today. 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to malign for a blog entry, A Year Gap   
    I think this is the longest gap there's ever been in this blog, which has been running since 2008.
    I guess nothing too surprising happened this past year:  classes go on;  it will soon be time for practicum, where the rubber meets the ... forehead of the client;  I went back to work for the big-box grocery-slash-everything chain I worked for before ...  All the usual anniversaries went by:  my hospitalization, my ex filing a restraining order that began the end of our marriage, and so on, but they didn't carry very much weight this time.  More prominent was the two year anniversary of my second marriage, which is much happier.
    I continue to make progress in my own therapy.  And that might be part of the reason for the gap:  I would like to postpone writing until I'm "done", whatever that means, until I think I can sound smart describing the humbling process of coming to terms with coping "skills" that I would rather change.
    What I found, mostly, is that my childhood was, in fact, kind of difficult, despite everyone involved doing their best and no major evil.  My folks just had too much on their hands, having two baby boys in their 40's.  As the first child, I did my best to relieve them of some of the burden, which simply isn't a child's job ...  It made it very confusing about what I'm allowed to do, what I'm allowed to want, who I'm allowed to be.  The limits seemed a good idea at the time.
    Now I have to reconcile the part that resents all that I thought I should give up with the part that thought that giving those things up was a good idea.  And I do mean reconcile;  there's a desire to "replace" the old manager part, but all that does is change which part is exiled.  I have to find an argument to which they'll both agree for why they're stronger and better together.
    So.  Still here, still reading, still hoping that people benefit.  See y'all around.
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Week starting 11th - 15th   
    Monday stayed in and bit of rest 
    Tuesday went out to Saintsburys 
    Wednesday stayed in for tidying up
    Thursday went out to firststop at 9:30 then out again at 12 noon for probation meeting then out at 5pm for CR group
    Today went out got paid got shipping put gas and electric on 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Week after bday   
    1st March my birthday had a relaxing day. Brought new Halloween, Detroit 
    Monday went out and brought two DVDS Molly's game and clue 
    Tuesday went out to buy some cola 
    Wednesday stayed in and tidyed up 
    Thursday went to probation and CR 
    Today stayed in and having a rest 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Nearly end of month   
    Monday. Went out for some shopping.
    Tuesday. Stayed in to do house work 
    Wednesday. Went to Saintsburys had safeguarding come around at 12 noon .
    Thursday. Had Probation and CR group
    Today. Had a meeting at 11am then back home
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, New month   
    Monday went to the town brought Cloverfield paradox
    Tuesday stayed in and did some house work 
    Wednesday went out and brought another DVZ 
    Thursday had to stay in had gas safety check and home visit from probation officer then
    Went to CR at 5pm 
    Today stayed in and had a rest 
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    Victimorthecrime reacted to Daveuk for a blog entry, Cold new month   
    Well it has just snowed today so it is a cold February.
     
    Monday stayed in watched a few DVDs 
    Tuesday had to sign on so I can get money today 
    Wednesday had a probation meeting with my probation officer
    Thursday went to my CR meeting with double helpings of bangers and mash 
    Today put extra £20 on gas and £10 on electric
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