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    Changed in the Fall of '13; now in the snowy state of Michigan, US.
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    Bird photography, go, happiness, Demented Bunnies
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    Lifelong depressive with a dash of hope. My name is Mark, too.


  • Location
    Changed last Fall; now in the state of Michigan, US.
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    Bird photography, go, happiness, Demented Bunnies
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    Software Engineer, site moderator, but most importantly, human being.

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  1. Your diagnosis was correct, @uptight outasight. Our host upgraded their infrastructure a month or two ago to require a proper SSL certificate, without really notifying us of the change. I contacted them, finally, yesterday, and they installed the required certificate. If I had known it was that easy, I'dve done it some time ago. As for "ownership" of the site, Beth and I are administrators, and I pay the fees every month. I don't allow advertising on here, and I keep a low profile as "owner" even when I'm here more often. Given the low attendance overall, there have been times when I
  2. malign

    Why Are We Here?

    I'll be honest: I don't really know what people are using, these days. I'm fairly old-school, and neither knowledgeable about nor interested in social media. I would have thought that more people home idle would mean more traffic, no matter what ... I certainly don't plan anything sudden. I was mostly reflecting on my own feelings, in here. Whatever I do, it will be announced widely, with a comment period in case someone has a better idea than I do. (You'd be amazed at how often that happens. 🙂 ) Things often do things that weren't intended, but that's why we get to make cours
  3. Sheep don't wear masks. 🙂 They're not smart enough to recognize an idea that's in their own self-interest. This is why shepherds are needed.
  4. Okay, not in the huge sense, or we'd be here all day ... What I'm wondering is, what are we getting from the site, these days? Does it still provide what people need? I guess the answer would have to be different for the two major user groups we have, the SPS guys, and everyone else. The SPS forum continues to be active, particularly for a small number (fewer than a dozen, say) of regular contributors. The opinions differ somewhat, as in any conversation, but the forum itself at least appears to provide its participants with what they want. However, it's unclear whether t
  5. There once was a poet named Gorinj Who was seeking a rhyme for "orange," He struggled all day Then said, "What the hey," Gave up and became a grocer.
  6. "Vocation" originally meant the calling that priests were expected to feel when they chose to enter the priesthood. It only later came to mean whatever career a person chose. I chose to make a right turn fairly late in my life, and go from a quarter century or so of computer programming to a new profession, psychological counseling. The change required that I get at least a master's degree, which at my age is probably as far as I will go. What made me decide to make such a change? Well, some of the events in my own life, which are largely detailed elsewhere in this blog, gave me s
  7. LaLa, I'll probably get to some of your points in later blog posts, but ... I'm not trying to make myself feel bad about withdrawing from people to focus on myself. I don't know if I "needed" to, but I guess I thought I needed to, because I did. All I'm saying is that, having tried it, it seemed like throwing out the baby with the bathwater. It left me with just an empty washtub. 🙂 And, I'm hoping to be able to come back, because that's what I'm doing. "Does not meet expectations" is my cumulative grade for this course, which is pass/fail; the alternative is "Meets expectations
  8. Well, the licensing varies somewhat by state ... Here in Michigan, LPC (licensed psychological counselor) is for PhD's and LCSW (licensed clinical social worker) is for those with a master's in Social Work. Other master's level counselors (my program is technically a master's in Counseling Psychology), get an LLPC (limited LPC), which means we have to be supervised by an LPC wherever we work. Which restricts us somewhat to agencies, or private practices willing to provide supervision internally. It's a pain, but then, so is getting a PhD.
  9. malign

    A Year Gap

    It's good to hear from you, Jai. At a minimum, it inspired me to post again, about how I haven't been posting. 🙂 Here's to steadfast partners, and friends of all sorts. My wife and I are doing fine, both covid-ly (so far, anyway), and relationally. Learning to be together is constant, as learning to be oneself is. © 2020, Platitudes-R-Us. All rights reversed. We'd love to hear more from you, Jai, whether "out loud" here, or not. You take care, too. Care is what it's all about, after all. (That's it: I could do greeting cards!)
  10. I was surprised the last time I found I hadn't posted here in a year. Now it has happened again. I think part of the reason I turned away from the site is that I turned away from myself, a little. Not consciously, but perhaps I was trying to turn towards whatever the counseling profession was or is, or what I thought it was. It's four years later, and I still haven't finished. I put off the practicum last Fall, and though I took it this Spring, I received a "Does not meet expectations" result, which means I have to retake it in order to move forward. After I retake the practicum, I w
  11. malign

    A Year Gap

    I think this is the longest gap there's ever been in this blog, which has been running since 2008. I guess nothing too surprising happened this past year: classes go on; it will soon be time for practicum, where the rubber meets the ... forehead of the client; I went back to work for the big-box grocery-slash-everything chain I worked for before ... All the usual anniversaries went by: my hospitalization, my ex filing a restraining order that began the end of our marriage, and so on, but they didn't carry very much weight this time. More prominent was the two year anniversary of my
  12. In this particular context, the BBC is the British Broadcasting Company.
  13. Knowing people, they'll still make fun of a guy whose balls rattle. 😁
  14. Hi Bob, I'm sorry to hear you're suffering so much. I hope you'll give yourself some time before going with an irreversible decision. I'm interested in your phobia of people; could you talk about that, more? It doesn't apply to your family, it seems. Did something happen to cause it? What are you afraid will happen? Since we're people, I assume that it would require us to meet in person? Recluse or homeless, or dead. Seems like there might be some other options -- treatment or self-help for your phobia comes to mind. You said that being homeless would be like dying only with m
  15. So ... whatever happened ... was it about you or about them (whoever they might be)? It would be a shame to die because other people are idiots.
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