dev18 Posted December 20, 2015 Report Share Posted December 20, 2015 Been browsing this forum for awhile after trying to find some help on dealing with what's going on in my head. 20 years old, and most of my life, since about puberty i've always wondered and worried about the adequacy of my penis, not sure why or what compelled me to think like this, maybe porn early on, but it's actually effected my life, to the point where i haven't lost my virginity on many many occasions where i could have, not saying that's a bad thing and that i NEED to not be a virgin, but i wish this didn't fog my brain to live life and not worry about things like this. Alot of it seems to be what i see on T.V., what society has said to be "normal" and as much as women are trashed in society , i think men are just as much effected by the standards of modern society as women. I have a pretty normal penis (5.5-6 inches length, 4.3-4.5 inches girth) but to me it's always been small, and it seems like that thought has always kept being confirmed again and again the more i lived my life. i'm rambling on but i hope you got a little idea of where i'm coming from, i realize that about half of guys are exactly like my size, but i can't help but think "i'm small, i'm small" and it's always lingered with me. Any ideas on how I could start working for a happier and healthier thought process and get this out of my head that it really matters, when it doesn't. thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted December 20, 2015 Report Share Posted December 20, 2015 I never fully realized what all this free porn has done to society until reading the posts on this forum. There was no internet when I was in my teens and twenties and I think it was better that way. It seems young guys watch so much porn they don't bother w real girls. Now porn might not be the only reason for that but it is one of them. dev put down the porn and find a girlfriend(s) is my advice. If you are fit and can perform well in bed you will be successful w the ladies. It's your call. ShameOnThem 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dev18 Posted December 20, 2015 Author Report Share Posted December 20, 2015 I appreciate the replies, I guess i can say i've heard this stuff before, the problem is , it's in my head. more in detail, i've been dating this girl for a month and some now and i can tell it's starting to get to the stage where we're going to have sex soon, i've already told her im a virgin, she is too, so i doubt she'll care about the size of my penis, as we have a really strong connection other than that, i can really tell i'm starting to have hard feelings for this girl, and she is for me as well. i know lots will say Your penis is fine, don't worry about it in a serious relationship because it doesn't matter, but i just want to make sure shes satisfied, it's not for my own gain or "Manliness", i could have a 3 inch penis and all i would care about is making sure her or my partner is satisfied, because i'm more giving than receiving. maybe that will be a good thing that'll pay off for me. i enjoy giving foreplay and oral, but when it comes down to the actual SEX part, it's always stopped me cause i know my penis isn't as adequate as other guys. but it's not like she's ever brought up the fact that she wants my penis to be bigger than average etc, and i'm pretty sure the penis is average for a reason, cause most girls prefer average. again, maybe this is all just in my head and i need to get over myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
themike Posted December 21, 2015 Report Share Posted December 21, 2015 Dev, I dont know how to say it...but really you are perfect in penis size. Probably porn has affected your mind.You can pleasure a woman and she can has orgasm only by penetration with you size. Furthermore you have the plus that you can enter with all your penis, many porn actors cant because the are monsters...And the main subject, I believe that others members can explain it better. But if the two of us are virgins...you must be patient. Probably your size will be too much for her (no joke).My advice: only if you dont know how to play before penetration...you can see some lesbians vids (lol). Only if you think you need it.But mate you have all the factors on your side. Really, she can be a little scare when she sees you naked for your penis size. Take time, kiss her body and hug her. Trust is the more important thing she need (and love). Try to excite her with you hands and tongue and the pain will be reduced during penetration.But there will be a little pain...always. So, dont get mad in SPS, it's not your problem.Really, my message is to support you. Im jealous about your luck. Probably, when your first experience is over you will laugh about this and enter here no more.Enjoy. (Sorry for grammar mistakes, Im not English and since my childhood I havent wroten in English). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara89 Posted December 21, 2015 Report Share Posted December 21, 2015 I agree with themike.Probably the girl is as exited and scared as you are.I am sure that you'll figure it out together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
themike Posted December 21, 2015 Report Share Posted December 21, 2015 Mmm, I dont have reed your second post properly. You know the foreplay and other skills yet. So use only the parts you need about my advice Dev18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dev18 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Report Share Posted December 21, 2015 Thank you guys for all the replies, you're right, i can do foreplay and oral but i never in my mind would've thought my penis size would be to much for a girl their first time (i've always assumed im really small compared to other guys) so this actually changes my perspective a bit, she's a really open minded, sweet girl so even if i brought it up that im nervous, she would ease my mind and i know this, i really just need to be communicative with my partner, you guys got it right thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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