Is penis size a good enough reason to stay single?

[Loser84]

I turned 31 this month I've still never had sex and to make matters worse I have ED. I've recently come to accept that I probably have a small penis and so I should probably remain single, maybe I'll have the courage to end my life at somepoint. If I do get desperate to have sex I may just finally hire an escort and get it off my back. My mindset is why even bother women when I probably can't satisfy them anyway? The funny thing is when I was younger I remember thinking my penis was a decent size but after years of ED and weaker erections I;m convinced I've lost some size length and girth wise maybe not a huge amount but still noticable. I'm thinking maybe have sex with a few escorts get it out of my system then just try and forget about sex, I don't want to be one of these guys jerking off to porn for the rest of my life either.

[Loser84]

I don't have a 4 incher erect, last time I measured it was barely 6 inches it feels pretty small to me though and I don't get a full erection often so of course it's even smaller when I do get it up. As for compensating for lack of big cock I have nothing to offer either no skills or talents or even an interesting personally so yeah.

[notbad]

I don't have a 4 incher erect, last time I measured it was barely 6 inches it feels pretty small to me though and I don't get a full erection often so of course it's even smaller when I do get it up. As for compensating for lack of big cock I have nothing to offer either no skills or talents or even an interesting personally so yeah.

6inch is average. Its ok size if you also have decente girth. Maybe isn't a perfect penis, but should be enough to make girls have fun . Whats your girth ?

[sara89]

Well, I think there are almost no "conditions" which are reasons for not having a special someone.

-I read about a man with no penis who is in a relationship.

-There are bisexual people and transgender people who are in relationships with people without a penis.

-There are asexual/grey-sexual people who are not sex-repulsed, they don't fancy sex as much as other people do. In many cases

they are happy with compromising.

- There are open relationships.

-There are woman who just don't need much as a sensitive part of the "stuff" is outside (I think I read this in the female views thread).

-There are probably some other things I can't think of right now,which deviate from the so called "norm".

- In your case: I guess there are a lot of woman who would be totally happy with the size of your penis. (Not that I know somehing regarding inches but wikipedia told me that a 5.17 in is the average human penis size.)

Can there be done something about the ED? (I don't know much about ED.)

The challenge is to find someone fitting for you. Challenge accepted?^^

[u.r.what.u.is]

L., your penis size is enough, though ED could pose a real problem. If you do masturbate a lot, try your best to give your body a rest for several days between each time...that may mitigate the ED somewhat - it did for me, thought it took months to see improvement. Of course, it's easier to avoid masturbation if you're getting the real thing. Therefore, I say, go for it. My penis is shorter than yours, and size has not been an issue at all. I was afraid of goddamn nothing for so many years.

[u.r.what.u.is]

How old are/have been the women you're involved with? You are in your 40's, and you didn't really get "in the game" until you were that age, correct?

Right, I was married before, and never rejected over size by my ex, but never convinced she was a good judge (I was her only partner). There are other guys in this forum who are married but afraid that if they became single they'd never find another. I was sort of like that.

I don't want to give too much detail about my post-divorce relationships, but they have been with women my age and older. Experienced women, and taller women (something I once feared with SPS). I haven't had lots of partners, because a serious relationship has taken hold, but I have had lots of sex, and it has been a gift, I have to say.

[u.r.what.u.is]

I'll add that my SPS is gone...except that if my pants suddenly fell in public, I'd probavly be a little embarrassed by my little guy when its flaccid.

[Resolute]

I also see that you'd be embarrassed if you had to be nude in public. I'm glad you said that, because I want to explore that aspect of SPS at some point.

this could apply to most growers. perhaps most growers have sps of some sort.

[Loser84]

L., your penis size is enough, though ED could pose a real problem. If you do masturbate a lot, try your best to give your body a rest for several days between each time...that may mitigate the ED somewhat - it did for me, thought it took months to see improvement. Of course, it's easier to avoid masturbation if you're getting the real thing. Therefore, I say, go for it. My penis is shorter than yours, and size has not been an issue at all. I was afraid of goddamn nothing for so many years.

Well I was quite young at the time (in my early 20's) and tried jelqing and manual stretching which is basically penis enlargement, I'm totally against it and there's no good evidence it even works. Most of the so called"proof" men provide on PE forums are a joke. Anyway I'm confident I damaged my penis trying these methods as I can't get a full erection since, erection isn't as hard, I don't wake with an erection in the morning often if I do it's weak and I don't feel horny much anymore either probably due to nerve damage or something. I miss the feeling of being horny the most though If I didn't look at porn my penis would stay flacid most of the time. In fact part of me thinks I've lost some size due to long term impotence and weak erections, perhaps also due to lack of morning erections "use it or loose it" theory. Anyway I won't go too much into it but I have barely any confidence with women obviously due to this.

[u.r.what.u.is]

this could apply to most growers. perhaps most growers have sps of some sort.

I think so.

[u.r.what.u.is]

I do think SPS and the reactions and preferences among women is hugely age dependent.

Yeah, I have had the same theory. Now I'm in a great relationship that I wouldn't want to risk, so I'm not going to test it.

[u.r.what.u.is]

L84, your ED situation sounds worse than mine. In my case, age might explain part of it, but there was still an improvement with less masturbation. I can't just fantasize my way to an erection without touch or without visual stimulation the way I once could, but night time erections are back after probably 15-20 years without them. If you aren't masturbating now and the ED isn't improving then obviously something more is needed. I hope you can get some improvement.

[Loser84]

I hope you can get some improvement.

I'm sure I have some kind of nerve damage which explains the lack of sensitivity in the glans (I'm uncut and used to be super sensitive) and lack of morning/nightime erections. Honestly there's virtually no feeling in the end of penis whatsoever, I know it's kind of pathetic but I tried to get erect today and put my penis inside of a toilet roll tube to see how big my dick is, the glans only just came out of the end of the tube. So now I know my penis is indeed small whether I've actually lost some size or it's just because I can't get a full erection doesn't matter my penis is small now and that's the reality.

How about friends and family Loser? Do you have people you can talk to?

I don't have friends really I've told my dad about my situation but he doesn't care and why should he? He just thinks me having ED is all in my head when I know it isn't.

[u.r.what.u.is]

I tried to get erect today and put my penis inside of a toilet roll tube to see how big my dick is, the glans only just came out of the end of the tube.

If it's any consolation whatsoever, I've done that, and just the tip of the glans sticks out the other side when erect. That's maybe, what, 5 1/4"?. Like igiveup was saying, women my age may be less picky...or genuinely love small and average dicks as much as big ones. I'm just riding with my good luck as far as I can

[u.r.what.u.is]

Post deleted...I said nothing helpful here.

[Loser84]

If it's any consolation whatsoever, I've done that, and just the tip of the glans sticks out the other side when erect. That's maybe, what, 5 1/4"?. Like igiveup was saying, women my age may be less picky...or genuinely love small and average dicks as much as big ones. I'm just riding with my good luck as far as I can

I'm still pretty OCD about my penis size though I think I suffer from SPS like many here as I used a ruler again tonight to measure and I was just under 6 inches erect, now from what I've heard some women find it pretty small others find it big (I find that hard to believe) but anyway when I see my dick erect it looks so small to me and feels small when I masturbate.

I destroyed my cock in the same manner as you did (jelquing) and now I have absolutely no feel at the tip. Another thing that annoys me is when erect, the veins look really thin and they barely show.

The look of it erect is just bad honestly. It's not impressive at all and I spend every fucking day obsessing over how pathetic it looks. There are other things about me of course, that make me think eh, give up mate, you've lost in life and you never had a chance to begin with. But I'd much rather suffer here than do myself in.

Yeah In my opinion PE is dangerious you only have to go to injury section of PE forums to realize how easy it is to ruin your penis for life, I know some people worse than me that totally ruined their penis doing PE..

I know what you mean about a shitty looking erection when I get an erection the shaft is hard but the glans are small and deflated it looks ridiculous, i think I may of damaged a nerve or vein which is why the head of the penis doesn't engorge properly and lack of sensitivity.

[robert]

Please stop jelqing it destroys and burns your dick

[Victimorthecrime]

When you guys say jelqing do you mean some mild stretching or something much more traumatic?

I have done some mild stretching in the past but for a short duration and only when completely flaccid and I don't believe I suffered any ill effects.

If damage was being done to the penis would it not hurt and be painful? Would not the penis appear injured in some way?

Not trying to stick up for jelqing; I don't even do any more.

[Resolute]

Is penis size a good enough reason to stay single?

if this sounds too negative, so be it; everything is a good enough reason to stay single, whether penis related or not.